Context:

So, ive been living with my girl for TWO WEEKS and I'm about to get the fuk out to go to work (another country) for the next 6 months.

Yesterday, I noticed she was cold. I tried to understand why and she came to me with the "ooh... but you gonna be out for months, I dunno what you are going to be doing"... all the insecurities popped suddenly. Thats fine, I would probably be insecure if I was in her position aswell. She said some fuked up **** but I dodged it.


What happened:

Today... I was getting ready to lift some weights and she came to our room and started the bull**** again "you gonna leave tomorrow and you can't even spend the morning with me!?" "bla bla bla bla". Again... I can control myself well so I was just letting it go. Suddenly she got out of the room and I closed the door. However... the window was open, so the door slammed. I was calm and I didn't do it on purpose.

To my surprise, as soon as the door slammed she started yelling like she was the devil. She came back, opened the door, started yelling that I did it on purpose and the **** went south pretty fast. If there is something that I hate is to have someone yelling at me, specially if the person is blaming me for something that I didn't do.

That moment was the moment I undestood that I am a fuked up person. I had to make a huge effort not to beat the **** out of her. The adrenaline kicked in and all I was thinking is "I'm gonna punch this bitch as hard as I can and I will only stop when she passed out or away". Glad the only thing I did was pushing her a little bit (cuz I controlled my arm at the end of the extension, otherwise she would still be flying).

I got out of the house and went to the gym. Now... that I am calm, I am thinking about ending everything as soon as I get home. She texted me a couple times saying she is sorry and she wants to talk to me about it.


Yesterday (and today) were the only days she wasn't "perfect", but I think it is a huge red flag. What would you do?






^^Forget the grammar...I wrote is really fast.

Don’t worry about the thoughts.

However, alot of people would be pissed if their partner up and left them for 6 months

negged.


obviously.

bitches love attention and sex, and you are depriving your significant other of those for long periods of time

recipe for disaster

No problem.

We fine.

Doesn't seem like a great scenario. If you knew you were leaving for 6 months, why move in together rather than wait until you get back?

I know. But she accepted the rules so she gotta behave like an adult girl.

She could move w/ me. I would pay for everything... but she doesn't want it. Absolutely fine, she doesn't need to.


This being said, she can either:

1. Move with me;
2. Stay and accept the rules of the game (I will me 3 to 6 months out);
3. Fuk off.

She chose the option number 2
Well, I spent the last 3 months out, so the idea was to spend a lot of time together for 2 weeks, knowing I have to leave as soon as my vacations end.

Sounds like you can have some freaky sex tbh

That’s what fights like that are for broski

Now gonna lie... sex has been great.

Also the reasons the emotions run so high is because you guys care about each other. If you were apathetic I would say move on. Just make up afterwards and good job on getting out of there before it got ugly.

I would say just turn around and walk away sooner next time.

I don't get how people can have sex with their partner when they're pissed off and arguing.

When me and my gf argue, the last thing I wanna do is have sex with her. Actually takes some time to want to be near her again lol

Obviously it comes when you makeup…

The bigger the threat the argument was of breaking things off the better the sex is.

Not sure if srs.

Me and my gf live together and don't plan on marrying anytime soon, if at all.

I'd rather live with her than be one of those losers who lives with their mates till their 40, been there done that.

Let her move on???? She can leave if she wants. She doesn't even need to talk to me if she doesn't want to. A text message saying "Its Over" would be more than enough.
Just imagine marrying... moving together and find out that the other person is fuked up to live with.

The rule is:

1. Move together;
2. Spend months living together;
3. Marry if you wat to.

I don't see one fight as a red flag brah. It's all good. Just try your best to make it all work while doing what you've got to do and if it works out it works out.

That’s how you end up In a terrible marriage that ends in divorce.

There’s a reason me and my wife dated for 5 years before getting married. You should know what it’s like living with a person before taking the “forever” step. We did wait a year or so before moving in together. But it’s pretty easy for people to hide their true nature living separate. Wouldn’t want to end up being married to a manipulative psychopath…

I didn't start knowing I was going to leave. I started knowing that POSSIBLY i would need to leave.

She knew it and accepted it, refusing to come with me (totally legit).



It is working for me. If it is not working for her, she should end it.
If she doesn't, she has to behave like a grown adult (just like I behave myself).


Me breaking up because it is not working for her? I would have to be arrogant af to pretend I know what is or isn't working for her. She never said it wasn't working. If she said it, I would end.




And I would never marry anyone after being with her for less than 5 years. It is the bare minimum for me to even start to think seriously about proposing.

put on a sleeveless vest & grab a can of stella srs

this bitch needs to learn the hard way srs

ded fkn srS

Sounds toxic. She will probably love you even more now srs

The house is mine... it gonna be weird to get home now.

I refuse to sleep on the couch (wtf... lol) and I refuse to sleep on the same bed if she acts pissed off.

Im to proud to approach her first in order to talk about it.




Gonna be good...

First of all fake and ghey. But on the .0001% chance this is real shes going to fukk other dudes while youre away. Its not that shes afraid you will cheat, its that she knows SHE will while youre gone.

Well, thats one of the things pushing me to end everything.

Did not read a single fukkin word

No problem brah.

I am sure your wouldn't be able to.





Did you ask your boyfriend to write that post for you?

I'd try to connect with your spiritual life, exercising or whatever, and then professional life, then see how she or whoever fits in this.


Listening to what she says first is the wrong idea.

Lol

When living apart you are not your true self. My gf would be all smiles and positive when we'd meet up or go to each others place. You don't see what they are like to live with or how their personality changes throughout the day.

When you live together you can see if they are a scruffy kunt as they no longer tidy the house for when you come round, you see how they are day to day, you see if they have any annoying deal-breaker habits etc.

Not living with someone before committing to marry is retarded