Thank you brah. Feels like Shizz because I feel a little slighted. She def didn’t skimp on ordering extra food drinks either, she acted on the date like she wanted to stay. It is possible I offended her bc I joked she’s such a blonde when she didn’t know what the term former and latter mean… I was just teasing. Other than that I was nice to her. More likely though she just wasn’t into me. Very surprised she didn’t at least reply because she seemed like a somewhat nice person on the app and the date. Guess she felt it was the best option.

I agree with the other poster that some girls don’t show strong initial interest and can like you later or all along. But I know what you mean, I definitely know when a girl is very into me, this one was more in the middle.. still worth reaching out because I thought she was worth a second date. So I figured I’d reach out but now I can tell she wasn’t into it. At least I barely wasted any time on this one..

Yea sometimes you can both hit it off and you know it..that’s the best. But sometimes there is a connection that takes time. But some girls will bail right away when there isn’t a spark. I feel I used to have better “game” and could establish connections easier before my last long relationship (when I was dating before that). Now I feel kind of bad about dating and it’s hard to get rejected, and the girls that do like me lately end up crazy. Maybe reading books with advice would help or something but it seems like most of those are douchey pickup types. I don’t know, I’m at a loss lately.

I've spent a few bucks doing something fun on a 2nd date but no legit sit-down dinner and drinks will be on me until much later on & we're already sleeping together/dating.

theySAYthey want love but I haveSEENthe opposite tbh

I have ~20 hinge girls i've talked to on instagram over the past year or so, guess how many have boyfriends?

notone

not even joking

I haven't been on apps in months, I have to put effort into jesterring and I hate it

I realized I pull waaaaaaaaay hotter ass irl with way less effort, so I am just gonna stick to that

I'm going on a double date with a friend and his gf next week though, should be fun

das it mane.


dating apps are fookt for good tbh. retiring from them for good

We just had a couple drinks and a couple apps. Nbd (however I should probably limit wasting money early, I agree for the most part) However in this case I really wanted to try this distillery anyway so it was my idea and I was looking forward to it. But I think it’s rude she wouldn’t even reply after that. I’m not upset about it anymore, she was attractive but we don’t really have similar goals and interests after thinking it over.

I FaceTimed another hinge girl tonight. We hit it off really well. She’s pretty cute and it was refreshing she seemed really sweet and high quality. We’re definitely going to meet up soon.

This ^^

Facetime has always been good to me. Your already comfortable with each other so flirting and physical escalation on the first date is far easier and natural. Hope this one goes better for you.

I think it's a good idea, especially for females so we don't have to waste our time doing makeup for the date and getting ready for it to end up with no chemistry.

The problem is that men over 50 aren't as comfortable with technology to use it correctly. Facepalm.

Thanks bro! Yea man FaceTime is actually awesome to vet someone and not waste time, see if there’s chemistry or good vibes.
Then if you clearly don’t hit it off then you don’t have to meet, and you’ll have a quick answer. Doesn’t even have to be a long call either.
Completely agree it helps once you meet too. If there was a good connection with each other on the FT it’s way easier to escalate things. And you already have a lot more to talk about, takes away some nerves too.

I'm still letting the last girl drive me insane. Last week she mentioned for the 11th and 12th times about coming to get her stuff and give me mine. She canceled last minute both days. I said fine lets just do lunch. Asked her Monday if she was good for Thursday and she said yeah but I can just come over to her place. Asked 8 hours ago what time tomorrow is good....no response. edit: heard back, apparently she actually has to go into the office today for the first time in a year. She did tell me last week the real reason she broke up with me was I always really upset her (she never told me any of this when seeing her)....and she did stuff this past weekend like snapchatting her and her knew guy. to me when she was the one who ended things Don't get this ****. Trying to be done with it.

So, for anyone who remembers there was a girl I mentioned a month back just briefly. We had a good FT convo and had met on hinge. But when I asked her out for an in-person date, she was cold at first and then said “yes for now) to a dinner date (keep in mind we had not discussed a specific date for meeting yet). Obviously I took that as it sure seems like she’s talking to me like a backup plan and not valuing me so I backed off and didn’t ask about any specific date from there, I stayed in touch a little but didn’t ask her out.

I hadn’t talked to her in a while and she randomly texted me tonight asking “ are you seeing someone?”. I told her I’m still single. Then I told her that I didn’t get the feeling she was receptive when I reached out to make plans.

She then said “l definitely want to meet up”

Then I basically said (because I want to be up front and clear the air) that I felt that she thought I was a backup plan the way things were written before, and I told her she can tell me if that’s not what she meant.

She apologized vehemently for how it came off, said it’s not what she intended etc. Sent me a long sweet text complimenting me and saying she really enjoyed our talk and thought I felt the same, and was surprised I stopped pursuing.

Anyways I think this girl is pretty great overall so I am going to schedule a date with her next week. I do like that she let me know and owned up to things, showed some maturity. We also have some really good things in common that I like. We’ll see how it goes but I think she earned another date tonight.

What to reply to this bird on tinder? Lets call her Amy
Me: i think its bad taste to brag about your your new bf on tinder Amy... (she had a vid of a goat licking her face)
Amy: you talking about the goat?
Me: I love when my jokes bomb 🥴 (sloots love the coom face emoji)
Amy: 😬

Should i book my ticket to NC?

Get her logistics and take her out

if she liked you im pretty sure it'd be obvious son

Sorry she didn't reply back. Her lost.Lol. Next time if the girl does not offer to pay at least her share, then just tell her you are going dutch. Once she starts ordering a lot of food then definitely go dutch. Sounds like she can't take a joke. Gotta have some humor. I have many blonde moments even though my hair is dark brown. haha...

From your past posts you sound like a gentlemen. I don't think you can be that mean.
That is awesome! Good luck! Keep us updated.

Thank you! Yea I’m kind of old fashioned and I always pay for the first date. To be fair she did reach for her purse. I’m not worried about the money I’m pretty good with it overall, sometimes spend too much on food though lol (as I mentioned I picked the distillery we went to bc I really wanted to try it anyway). I actually think she was interested in something casual and I misread the whole thing. But I’m glad to be moving on, not upset at all. You’re right about the sense of humor, while she was reasonably nice she was a bit stuck up.

And I appreciate the good luck. The one that reached back out has a lot of what I’m looking for (personality, brains, looks). In the back on my head I kind of hoped she would reach out but I didn’t really expect it. So I’ll definitely go out with her and see how it goes.

Update:

Never reconnected to the previous girl after she cancelled.

Matched with a girl on Saturday night. She responded right away and we exchanged a couple messages, exchanged numbers and set up a date for the next day Sunday after we matched 90 minutes before hand. Had a nice coffee and walk date around this cool small town near us. It went really well. We texted the following two days before she hit me with the classic "I only have 2 absolute deal breakers. You must be pro choice and you must be anti-trump". This totally caught me off guard as she didnt express any far left opinions or values on our date or on any of our previous discusses.

I simply responded with an "lol". She proceeded to triple text me trying to clean it up. To which I responded with "its best we both move on". She again double texted me and I left her on read.

I have opinions on both issues and have had nuanced discussions on both issues. But her being that closed minded to these two issues I know we would have many disagreements down the line.


Had a really nice FT with a girl last night and we set up a date for this upcoming Monday. This was a bit of a learning experience for me. She was a very spotty texter and took a couple days to get her on a FT call. Naturally I just assumed she wasn't that interested. Turns out she didnt think I was interested in texting because we didn't FT yet lol.

Way to stick to your guns bro. No point in wasting time with with someone you’re not aligned with.

Sounds like the FT one was promising. I’ve also been surprised recently when a girl is way more interested than I thought. Things come out really unclear sometimes in messages/texts. Let us know how it goes brah!

You could have messaged saying you are out of town next week, and to come over to fk right now. And that you going to do explicit sexually degenerative acts to her

Scarcity Principle

Lol, why would I do that?

Starting to think having a dog is a prerequisite for dating apps 🙄

people will only approach you outside if you have a dog lol

tbh i would try to filter out girls with cats/dogs. if they were a cat girl, instant ghost

Cat girls 1000 percent an instant ghost.

Awww I grew up with 9 cats in the house at once. I now have 2.

Went out with the girl who reached back out to me. She’s back in my good graces for now lol. She brought her A game Wednesday night to our date and we had an awesome time.

Lots in common. Similar future goals. We were cracking up a lot of the date. I was just relaxed and feeling good the whole time. She said at the end of the date what a great time she had and hopes to meet again, told me she hopes I don’t take so long to reach out (she’s the one I started ignoring after she said “yes for now” about planning something- since then she explained that and has been totally cool)
We’ll see if her actions can match her words. She’s a bit more outgoing than me (I often gravitate towards these types for whatever reason) really into style/travel and I’m not really but I do wear good fitting decent clothes and stuff and will travel onc in a while. She loves to workout and is very close to family, we have some similar values and interests.

She’s 28 and I’m mid thirties. She can definitely hold a good convo, have fun, seems smart.
I decided to text her today and suggested a date next Saturday since it’s hard to meet during the week right now and I had some ideas in mind. We’ll see what she comes back with.

That’s great to hear. Let us know how she responds. Sounds like you guys match well. It seems like many successful couples have a mix of a more out going person and a more reserved person and balance each other out a bit.Update.
Through some texts we were able to make a coffee date for this morning and it went really well. Really good conversations and we align on pretty much everything. Lotta flirting and escalation ended the date with some goodbye kisses and kept our date planned for Monday night. Might have her over for dinner

Side note. Went to the same coffee shop and little town I went to on Sunday. Fortunately the coffee shop was packed so neither of the baristas recognized me but the owner of the used book store recognized me right away and had a laugh and gave me a head nod lol.

damn everyone cleaning up in here except me.