If that dude responds ask him out to dinner and it's an easy smash.

???

Ask him to olive garden or something for an easy smash.

There's really no need for comments like this.

No woman in her 40s is in her prime. You're going for the absolute worst tier of chicks even average dude wouldn't think a second about dating.

Also it seems like you have no clue at all what is considered normal and what isn't. Walking at the mall for a few hours "for cardio" isn't considered a normal activity by any means. And why are you sending all these boring texts to these chicks as if you're friends with them or something. Yoo I'm cooking for meal prep, cool story bro. How is that gonna keep anybody engaged?

We can agree to disagree about the 43 y/o's SMV. To me, there hasn't been anyone I've encountered who's better thanK. The 43 y/o is not in the same league asK. I am putting in minimal effort (if any) into the 43 y/o. I don't think about her, tbh.

I guess the mall walking is a bit strange and she may piece together that I go there to try and get women's numbers. I figured I should tell the truth in case she was there and saw me. I asked her about where she's working (this is because I didn't see her where I met her yesterday). I can say other things as well, but she doesn't seem to be a quick texter. She seemed interested in the random stuff I was going on about yesterday. I don't see how my texts so far would make her disengage.

That looks like a fat tranny. If you aren't trolling then quit thinking it's hard to get a date with it and take it out to dinner and smash. No reason to be intimidated by that.

I'll probably ask her out after she replies to my previous text. I treated her like a regular human in person and I'll continue to do so. I'm not going to be heavily invested in her, as I hardly know her and I don't have an insane attraction to her. As I said, she could still be fun to hang out with.

Didn't write about the positive interactions I had at the mall today: 1. Couple came up to me and the guy wanted to know where I bought my shorts. Talked for a minute about my outfit and told him I got the shorts at Target. 2. Guy who works at the mall said he liked my style; he commented on the Boss shirt.

I learned that I should not put gel into my wet hair and pat it down because it looks a bit silly. The hairstyle below is damp hair after shampooing and conditioning my hair. I like this look. I'll experiment with this, as I believe it may not look as good if I let my hair dry. It may need some product and blowdrying, but I'm not sure.



I'm not going to hang out with the female friend anymore because she's rude and I spend too much of my time helping her by giving her advice. She also continually asks me for money in exchange for sex, which I'm not going to do especially since I'm not even attracted to her.

I think I should get a car soon that way I can go out more. I think my results will increase if I spend more time day gaming. It can be something like an event or just walking around different places downtown or at a mall.

I won't get back on any dating apps until I'm really lean, that way I have something visual to differentiate myself.

I'm thinking of getting this watch since it's only $110 but looks pretty good.

Awful messages, you really need to temper your autism.

Believe it or not, this is a different social situation vs. if your grandma text and asked how your day was.

You managed to put a vision in her mind of a weirdo pacing around his house.

I feel as if I'm losing some of them because of my texting. I prefer in-person meetings over text, and when I'm comfortable with the person I usually do fairly well face to face. I lol'd @ your last sentence. I wasn't trying to seem like a crazy person, but I even told someone today (in person) about how I pace around my house.

I wish I had a filter on that could detect garbage messages and ensure I don't send them. That's partly what you and others have helped me with. I'm working on it. As previously discussed in this thread, some of theautisticmessages will be acceptable to a woman, but not if they hardly know me.

I still can't believe I listened to myformerfemale friend and sent those selfies toK. However, I take full responsibility. I am working very hard to get lean and will continue to better myself. Obviously my text game is still a problem. I need to get to the point in my life and/or my mind where I am deemed to have value to women I like. I currently have no value to women likeK. I get the impression that they could not care less about me. I started this thread two months ago and I've yet to kiss a woman.

ChatGPT gives a better answer than you.

[QUOTE=Luc1fer post_id=1690242893]ChatGPT gives way better answer than you.

[img]https://i.imgur.com/xCSXpWj.png[img][/QUOTE]That is much better, even with the default 3.5 model. I pay for GPT-4. I have used it for workshopping reply ideas. I've only used it on my desktop computer, but I just downloaded it on my iPhone. I will resist the urge to text immediately. I'll think things through, perhaps using ChatGPT as an idea generator. I'm keeping in mind the requirement of[b]not sounding like a bot[/b].

post pic of hj girl you're not attractive to

Here you go.

Luc1fer/anyone else who cares to comment: I'm going to continue pursuing other women, but is there anything I can to do potentially get back to conversating withK? I took the advice and did NOT reply to the last text she sent me a few days ago, but I'm wondering what options I have. Below is the last message. Obviously I messed up, but can I send a message in a month or so that addresses (1) the good conversation we had in person and (2) the embarrassing, abysmal texts I sent her? At least it would show I have patience to wait a month. Is there anything I can do aside from waiting on the slim chance that she sends me another text? I know her IG, but I haven't sent her a request (it's a private profile) since I don't want to appear insane. I would keep any further communication (at least until we're on speaking terms again) to iMessage. I figure I could also state that I'm open to starting as friends with no expectations.

i was actually expecting far worse, is she fat?

Should change the thread title because you're definitely not respectful. From trying to get chicks to cheat on their boyfriends to outright lying to them.

I honestly think it might be time to specifically seek out some kind of place or online platform for dating that's for autistic people. It's going to be (nearly) impossible for you to find somebody normal. Not saying this to be mean but just being real.

I believe she is, yes. She's nearing obese, from what I can tell. I'm not talking to her anymore.Not respectful? You bolded "I figure I could also state that I'm open to starting as friends with no expectations." Why do you think that's a lie? A natural progression may happen from friends to more than friends OR one of us may realize we're better off as friends. I don't know her well enough yet, but I got the first impression that she's very attractive and fun to talk with. Building a connection with someone is a beautiful thing. I want that in my life. I want to see if that's somethingKand I could do, but the chance of it happening now is slim given the texts.

I'm not going toseverelylimit myself because you think I can't get a normal woman in my life. That sort of thinking would almost guarantee misery for the rest of my life.

I expect there are probably a few people here (on Misc) that grew up awkward like OP and eventually managed to be successful with women. If real, this is no doubt an extreme case but giving up is for pussies, so **** that.

OP, you have got to let K go. Everyone is telling you the same thing. You don't even know this girl, you're making up ideas about her to fill in the blanks. That's normal to a degree, people do that. But it's not good for you to obsess. It distracts you from your goals and other women. The whole idea of being friends and hoping she'll come around needs to be quashed immediately. Do not subject yourself to that beta-orbiter role, you'll lose any potential progress you've made.

You need to understand that a girl rejecting you sometimes doesn't have anything to do with you. K might be telling the truth, she doesn't want to date right now. Or 100 other reasons that she's not into you. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong (although in this case tbf, you did but you have to let it go regardless). You're probably fixated on her partly because of the lack of other prospects. IMO you need to practice dating. I know you want to get lean before the apps but it seems that's your only option. You're good looking enough to find some matches if you temper your expectations. Get on there and start practicing your text game, go on dates, figure out what works for you. You need practice and pacing the mall isn't it. Come on man, stop feeling sorry for yourself and try some new things. And buy or lease a car, so you can take a girl out and go back to her place or yours. None of this is rocket science. You're already mid-30s, time for action.

I agree that you offering to be friends with her "with no expectations" is dishonest. Making friends is clearly not your intent in this pursuit, nor does it seem to be a focus at all in your life. If you guys did start hanging out "platonically," she would be correctly aware of the fact that you'd be actively restraining yourself and/or looking for opportunities to flirt/move towards a relationship.

I think you could've salvaged a friendship if you had known her previously and hung out with her in a social context, but you didn't. You saw her and randomly approached her because she's hot and then randomly sent her a shirtless pic, so it's clear what your intent is, and there's no chance of there being "no expectations."


This dishonesty is the same thing as when you said you "weren't hoping for the taken girl to cheat." Yes you were. Maybe that wasn't the single most desirable situation for you, but you clearly would have been happy if it happened, given how you acted and what you told us.

For the 1000th time in this thread we can try to explain it to you.

-You’re texts are too formal. You’ve gotten a little better at this but still too formal.

- You think you are being “upfront and straightforward” by “making your intentions known” that you are attracted to them, but you’re actually cutting yourself off at the knees here. What you’re really doing is putting pressure and expectations on these girls. They are on the of the texts thinking that your offers of dates mean that you expect something in return. That’s why every girl cancels on you before the first date even happens. Girls cannot handle what THEY perceive as pressure situations or dates where the guy has an expectation of something in return. So they cancel and ghost.

- You are divulging too much information about yourself in these texts. You are constantly explaining to these girls what you are doing and why are doing it. This makes you look weird and calculating.


Do

-ask questions about them and continue to get them to talk about themselves in a meaningful way.

Don’t: ask how their day is going. Say good morning. Say have a wonderful Monday. No generic bullsht


Do: ask dates out in a casual way, I already gave you a very easily line to use, that you’ve never tried. “Idk if you’re around this week but how would you feel about grabbing a drink after work?” This a very low pressure way of asking a girl out that doesn’t make her feel like she owes you something for going out with you.

Don’t: ask a girl out in a concrete way “would you like to grab a meal with me this Saturday night at 7:30pm” no girl wants to be trapped eating dinner or even lunch with a stranger. It’s too much of a commitment for them. They feel like they trapped if the date isn’t going well so they’re never going to agree to dinner. Also by giving a specific time just makes it super easy to say “I’m busy that night” and now you have re ask over and over what day works and you look weak af



You just keep repeating the same mistakes over and over. These are very basic observations you should be able to pick up on

Thanks, not giving up as I still have cards to play. As I said, I don't know her well enough - I'm basing everything off of a several minute conversation and her looks. I'll try to not bring her up. You're right - myobsessionis partly related to my lack of options (realistically, I currently have zero options). I was thinking that there's some way of eloquently explaining to her how I goofed up via text.

This last go around with Tinder was a severe waste of time. It hurts my head to think about all the time I spent swiping to get essentially nothing. At least with in-person I feel more comfortable and I have a better chance since I can dress up and approach them with confidence (although I am not always confident). If you genuinely think I should start online dating again, give me an app name and I'll create the best profile I know how to and share my results here.

Yeah, I need a car soon. I am thinking a sedan or a coupe (e.g., Toyota Camry (even though they've still yet to redesign it for '24 models), Audi RS5, '24 Mustang GT (since it's a new generation), or something else). Any other car ideas are much appreciated.Of course I likeK, but I'm unsure if we're compatible. I figure meeting in person and talking for 60+ minutes would give me a better picture of what she and I could be. You're right about the woman with the boyfriend. I was being selfish. Having female friends (although not ideal) seems like a great way to practice, especially if they become interested in helping me get dates.
Thank you for clarifying. I am always thinking about ways to improve. I will be less of an open book to people I just met. It's an unattractive trait and it makes me seem desperate for attention and friendship/love. I'll tone down the beta male messages such as, "Good morning," when I hardly know them. Will be more casual and less concrete about the hang outs. I really appreciate this. I believe I would not have had the female interactions I've had if it weren't for support from users such as yourself. I will do better, I promise.

The autism levels are off the charts, op you should consider counseling with a therapist to help you cope with your autism and your interpersonal relationships in general before getting all out fixated on the mating part. Also walking around the mall for hours on end just trying to pickup women is giving off supreme rapey vibes, tone that down a bit too please.

Ho lee fuk. I left this thread when it was a couple pages in because I realise op was complete autismo and not listening to advice. 27 pages later of miscers bending over backward go help and op managed to become even worse, fking lol

Just send black Jesus op, at least black Jesus brings entertainment

This.

This is what I would say is almost enraging about OP: he has no shame and is willing to do things that are unintentionally LOLzy (fake tattoos), but he won't do any of the intentional LOLzy thinks miscers ask him to do.

It was suggested in this thread that I seek therapy, specifically in-person therapy. I am still open to it and can start it once I get a car. I am giving picking up women at the mall a rest for now. Won't be doing it, at least not anytime this week.I've been listening to advice and have improved in some areas (e.g., not texting back in scenarios I ordinarily would have and having better clothes). I know I made a mistake with the woman in the screenshot you quoted. It's been hard to come to terms with it, but I've learned from it. I just wish I would have learned BEFORE meeting her.I don't know what you mean.

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