I haven't been lucky to find a guy to date. I'm wondering where I can meet a guy outside the gym

What do you all think of this situation:
My 23 year-old brother is always secretive about who he dates and actually hates posting on social medias. We didn't know much about his romantic life until recently. His gf of 6 months is my same age, 19 years old. However she's none other than my former classmate I haven't seen since 6th grade. I had her in my classes for 5th and 6th grade. I never thought I would see her again until that awkward moment last month. I didn't know how to react to be honest and was speechless. I've greeted her as if it was our first time. In a quick flashback to the past, let's just say my female friends and I knew her by another name I would rather not say and many things happened. I had a hard time looking her in the eyes during the reunion. For instance during lunch at the table, my brother explained how it's such a coincidence we went to the same grade school and what a shame that we never met each other; I kept with the lie and she secretly smiled and winked at me. She remembers me alright.

I felt nothing but embarrassment and shame during that whole meeting. Should I mention about the past, make amends or continue with the normal, adult conversations? She's the same girl I picked on every day at school when we were kids. I guess it's a small world after all.

I (26F) know my girlfriend (28M) for more than a year now, and we've been together for 5 months now. We met in country A (a European country), where I'm studying and where she worked for 2 years before moving back home, she's from country B (a neighboring European country), we became exclusive right before she moved back. We did 2 months long distance (She visited me once and I visited her once). Then she came back to A to look for a job and stayed with me for 2 months in my place.


Both her and I didn't really believe in long distance relationships, but ended up in one. She then quickly decided that she didn't want to work in A, but want to go to country C (in Asia) for many reasons, mostly ancestral and spiritual, which has been her dream for a while.


She wants to do long distance for the 5 months period she will stay there (7months if we count November and December, where we'll do the long distance in Europe, country A-B). However, she doesn't know what she'll want to do afterwards. The possibilities are:

-She likes country C enough to want to extend her stay there (she already loves the country and the people)

-She likes country C enough to want to settle down there (she's been asking me if I would like to settle down there)

-She comes back after 5 months but to country B not A

-Maybe comes back to country A, where I am (she has been given indirect answers about this option)


The twist is, this program she wants to do, she can do now, or in a year, or in 2 or even in 5 years, but she absolutely wants to do it right now.


Am I wrong for asking her to postpone her program for another year for the sake or our relationship?

Am I wrong for not accepting the long distance, especially when there is a good chance she won't come back?

What should I do?

sht like the rest of us. high* How's it not hypocrisy that before saved, I was tindering / sloopy bar sloots / rotation of girls weekly, and every person on the misc that believes in religion would have condemned me and questioned if I said I was all about Church / God... yet like, up to SIXTY PERCENT OF CHRISTIANS now say LGTBQ+ is perfectly fine.

A friend from HS goes on these little trips / music festivals with like 3-12 guys every other weekend... like what do you think they're doing? Playing Magic the gathering, and setting up a LAN party??? No, everyone on ******** knows what a bunch of raging hormone bros are doing in Vegas.


My point: How is this ok if my old life clearly wasn't? huh? Get off that high horse and open the Romans chapter 1 (or 40 other places) and I mean, it's IMPOSSIBLE to confuse what Paul is saying.

Which clues do you guys look out for in a girl, that might indicate she is crazy or is likely to turn crazy further down the road.

Here are some that I picked up over the years and some from my current ex.

01. She was raised by a single mom & didn't have a masculine father figure in her life, who taught her how to respect boundaries & how to act right with a masculine man.

02. She tells you that she suffers from depression/anxiety and is taking or had been taking some type of medication

03. Her previous relationships where toxic and she blames her ex entirely

04. She seems to get angry quickly and easily

05. She tells you about her body count when you didn't even ask her about it

06. She has several Tattoos and piercings

07. She's quite masculine

08. She tells you about some Trauma she has experienced, like Sexual in nature

09. She has low quality female friends

10. She has lots of male friends

11. She doesn't have a stable job

12. She starts talking about a relationship, children etc within months of dating

Any more you want to add to this list, feel free to do so lol

Anyone have advice?

I think they banned my pics as well.

Is that a thing

Def shadow banned

Do I need a new number?

I remember stalking this section all the time around 2013. So many good threads. RedPill, PUA, girl tips all that **** ... Time flies too fast bros

What do you think guys?

Personally I think for a man, being the Dumper is very difficult too.

I really don't believe a man would dump his girlfriend, unless she was doing something really bad/toxic/deal breaker.

Men tend not to do the breaking up, as it's alot harder for us to find a replacement girl.

However being treated like crap, then getting dumped by a chick, must be the worst feeling.

Not sure if anyone else has been in this situation, but I recently broke up with a long term ex and I lost every form of friendship I had because most of my friends were wither her family members or her close friend's partners.

To give context I moved out of my hometown around a year ago and pretty much met this girl straight away, so it's not like I have any old friends to fall back on.

Most of the friendship apps and websites seem to be filled with mostly gay people, which I don't have anything against, I just don't want to be boned (no homo), or they are beta males that don't lift and aren't about making money and getting sloots.

Help me misc, being lonely sucks

She's got high-T levels and some issues with her body because of high T, but she's not a tranny, and she seems kind of bossy.

Should I settle for this, or should I keep looking?

She said she's from nc, but I can't tell if she was trolling or not. Was she really from no contact land, north carolina? lol

Man I've only been dating this girl for 4 months and she almost broke me. Thank god my self esteem and mental health is much better than it was 2-3 years ago. I still need therapy because of childhood issues but that's another story.

This girl denies all reality and makes EVERYTHING my fault. If I make the smallest mistake possible, I am a demon and she ghosts me for long periods. I even started questioning my own reality, maybe I am the reason we have issues, maybe I am evil, etc. (I am exactly opposite of that)

I had no idea she had BPD until I did research, she probably doesn't even know it either. Thankfully she's now been ghosting me for like 10 days and we haven't had any contact. I am praying to god that she doesn't come back.

Anyway, I just wanted to vent, you guys can comment, share your own BPD stories or offer some support. I can't imagine dealing with this insanity for YEARS, some people marry these.

So ever since I got back from Thailand this July, I've had nothing but terrible date after terrible date. This is when the dates even show up. I'm having trouble of keeping track of all of them since they've been so bad but I figure I'll make a sort of dating log. This is partly for me to record what absolutely horrible (when they show up) dates I've been on and also for you guys to add your own stories in of your terrible dates that you go on. Feel free to add to the list, try to make it easy to read. Also:

1) Try to be somewhat subjective. It's easy to say "This girl sucks" when in reality you were hammering shots of jack daniels and slobbering all over her.

2) Try to not omit pertinent facts that might also paint you in a bad light

3) Just be honest

^-----These are important if you're going to tell a whole story. If you just cliffs it, we can dissect after

Here we go, I'll cliff the last few months for some of the worst ones and then I'll add in the latest terrible ones:

August:

-Talking to a girl from a town 2 hours away
-We decide I'll drive down and we'll go out
-I drive 1 hour 50 minutes and text her I'm 10 minutes out
-She bails

August:

-Talking to a local girl
-Tell her I'll meet her at X location
-Go to X location
-She never shows

August:

-Talking to a local girl
-She says she'd like to meet at X location
-I arrive at X location to find it's been closed down
-Never hear from her again

September:

-Go out with woman who's interested in animals
-She's the most boring human being I've ever been on a date with
-I carry the conversation, make her laugh, do everything in my power to keep her entertained
-She tells me how she has 4 guys on rotation in love with her (wtf)
-At the end of the night she says "I have to work at noon tomorrow, I should get home"

September:

-Go out with a single mom
-She instantly starts asking me about how much money I make, etc etc
-At the end of the date, she tells me I'm a really nice guy, amazing, super cool, etc
-Never hear from her again

September:

-Go out with a single mom
-Have a good date, laughing, joking, lot in common (soccer, outdoor activities, etc)
-She tells me how she's going to set up this hot air balloon date for us
-She tells me I'm the most amazing guy she's met in years
-Never hear from her again

Two nights ago:

-Get told by this bartender chick that I can meet her at X place at Y time
-She never shows up

Tonight:

-Talk to this girl who does MMA
-I pick her up to take her to trivia night to meet a group
-We're joking the entire time, talking about snowboarding, mma, traveling (she's not from here originally)
-She gets on her phone and doesn't talk for the next 20 minutes
-I pay tab (like an idiot) and bail on trivia night and take her home
-She gives me a hug and says "See you again if you want to" (why do girls say this when they don't want to see you again?)
-Say FCK IT and text her asking her what exactly the deal was and if I was boring, she wasn't attracted to me, etc
-She says I touched her hair and it was too soon for that (seriously said that) and that I should never take a girl to a place with friends there on a first date
-I respond by saying I asked her yesterday if she wanted to go and she said yes (no answer)
-Text her again saying I'm signing up at her MMA gym so don't make it awkward when I'm there
-She finally texts back saying it won't be
-Delete number, etc



So yep, that's where I'm at right now. I touched this chick's hair and that means I'm a **** date. Meanwhile she's on her phone for 20+ minutes and that's ok. I didn't even have the energy to tell her how rude it is to do that. I honestly just said fck it and gave up at that point. I don't want to make it any worse if I see her at the gym.

I feel defeated. Not in the sense that I give up and I'll quit. Just in the sense that I'm so blown away that people can not realize their own behavior. I'm so hard on myself that I resort to asking women (when it doesn't work out) what I can do to improve myself, etc. I know a lot of beta guys in here (I say beta because you *******s think you're alpha by never admitting your own faults) would say you should never ask a woman about what you did wrong, how to improve, etc but I figure if I'm going to never see this person again, I might as well find out the little things I might be overlooking. Unfortunately, I get answers like "noooo, you're nice" or "you touched my hair" instead of anything real. I guess that's the point where I should unload back on them but that just comes off as bitter and, as we've discussed here before, no attractive woman is going to admit they fcked up. They're just going to text their next guy in line and get the "OMG, HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU" treatment. So round and round we go.

This is my evening rant. Prepping for a job interview now so on to better things. Just wondering when I'm going to meet someone who's not a sociopath, doesn't have a substance abuse problem, isn't a complete narcissist, doesn't have daddy issues or isn't bipolar. Not looking good so far. Cheers misc!

You letting her walk around like this



When she should be looking like this

I injured myself a few yrs back and have been searching for a good massage therapist. I tried like 30 different ppl, and in november 2020 i found this one thai chick that works at a thai massage place on the west coast, she's hella good. Whenever I'm in town I book weekly appointments with her cuz she's that good. It also helps that she's really fit and attractive lol

Ive had my fair share of massages and usually they are very business-transaction-y. But for this, I cant help but notice there's a bit of a flirty vibe whenever I do a session with her, she laughs at all my jokes and she kinda presses her whole body against me while she's massaging me. I never srsly entertained dating her cuz I didn't wanna make chit weird and ruin a good thing I have going.... the massages are phucking amazing and i dont wanna lose that

A couple weeks ago after the session we were talking about yoga and pilates and she was saying she used a certain app to help, and asked me for my number so she could refer me. And as of late, after our sessions she kinda talks about different restaurants she likes and the parks she likes to walk in and how she hasnt been to X restaurant in a while and I cant help but think she wants me to ask her out

wat do

I was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 2016 and I take meds to stop voices and visionary phenomena, like demons, etc.

I see demons, yeah, and I'm a Catholic baptized at age 1, and there's almost nothing any of them can say that makes me think that any of what I see isn't supernatural.

All I do is pray and go to church lately. I feel safe in the church.

Anyway, I've seen 3 trannies (not hallucinating because of the meds obviously), and it's really gross. The estrogen was oozing out of them, it seemed. One of them I had to acknowledge that I knew because we've been in therapy together (group therapy, he happened to be in the same therapy as me, which I had to do for 3 months due to legal involvement stuff, once that was over I was done).

It's not good, misc. It's pure evil what I see out of that treatment center when it comes to transexuals. Everything else, I legit don't know. They seem to help with meds other than that.

One of the transexuals stated that he had "a God complex," so I guess he believed he was God, and would often talk about his lack of religious faith.

I sort of sympathized with him, because I was an atheist for 10 years, but never let it get that bad to where I believed I was a God or something. He seemed like he was misled, not evil, but like the devil had gotten his teeth into him.

Anyway, I'm glad that I found God again two years ago. Going to church has been the best decision I've made for a long time. I was blessed right away after taking communion the first time I stepped foot into the church, which looked like a small cathedral.

Religion brings clarity, it seems. Everything worrisome is washed away, and there's strength with the church.

I'm not sure that I could handle seeing demons everywhere around me without these meds, but I don't have a choice in whether or not I take them, legally, anyway. I guess they took away some of my rights in doing this, it seems. Anyway, at least I don't see demons, but what if I'm supposed to overcome seeing them without medication? Idk.

There's holy places where I don't see demons too. At least, not yet. And the meds mostly keep them at bay.

Anyway, I guess I wanted to point out that this treatment center seems to be a good place, besides turning some of their clients into trannies. They shouldn't do that, so they must be evil, or they believe in this insane leftist ideology which I don't.

1.This isn't a place to bash women. To put it simple. This is a thread for guys to talk about what they are doing day to day lives while they arent really pursuing dating.
2.Be supportive and positive.
3.No trolling or harassment.

Current Situation
Talking to one girl. Things have been going well ish, but she recently tried to claim I was ignoring her. I told her straight up I wasnt able to respond at the time. She read that message and hasn't responded. Sent her a funny meme pic hours later and she still hasn't responded. So the ball is now in her court. If she falls off the map then I legit have zero options. In my home town and in my current city.

Currently about to invest in Advanced Micro Devices. They're about to drop a new video card and this could put the heat on Nvdia. AMD stock is going for around 11.30 a share while Nvidia is like 144.35. If AMDs new Vega series of cards is legit at a lower price than Nvidias? Their stock value should go up. Also I'm looking at crypto currency. I missed out on the bitcoin bandwagon. 1 bitcoin is worth 2200 bucks right now. They were less than a dollar years ago. So I missed out on literally hundreds of thousands if not millions of dollars. Definitely gonna keep an eye on this stuff.

Also I was at like 245lbs a few aback. Sitting at a smooth 230ish right now. Trying to get my gains back and join the National Guard. Did 5 years active duty and as crazy as I sounds I miss some of the nonsense. Cheaper health care, potential to deploy and randomly go on orders. Why not.


I just made this thread since all the naturals, chads, and etc are tired of us clogging up theirs.

So, I have an ex that lives in Philly and we had all kinds of issues due to her drug problems and recently she returned via ********.

Past:

We dated and she told me she was in recovery and that I was an angel, etc. In reality, she likes dating criminals, guys in jail, and so on. I found out that she had been a street prostitute in Kensington, a very bad part of town.

I get worried she's relapsing and she hates me for it.

1. She gets me fired from a job by making up bull**** about me.
2. I catch her with an ex, this tiny little creep who runs away from me when I challenge him. She then texts me pics of her giving him a blowjob.
3. Months later, she wants to talk to me again and so we meet up casually. My birthday is in October and she finds out where I work and their makes an anonymous call about what a terrible person I am. That leads to terrible trouble.
4. I actually move out of Philly to get away from her.

Now:

1. For the past two months on ********, she's been trying to explain to me that she's messed up and sorry. I know all about psychology and realize that's the truth she's probably a psychopath, as she doesn't take care of kids, was involved in crime, etc.
2. I have a very nice girl I'm now involved with.
3. It is my ex's birthday on Friday, June 15th.
4. I got her some stuff just to be nice and wanted to give it to her.
5. Suddenly on ********, she announces she's dating a new guy. He just got out of jail, etc.

I believe she did this to try to hurt my feelings once again.

Question:

1. Should I not give her the birthday stuff and just break all contact. I have closed my ******** for this reason.

2. She made porn that's on the net, which is gross. I have her boyfriend's info and his mom's. Should I act like her and send that to the boyfriend and his mom?

3. Should I be kind and give her the birthday stuff, act like a normal human, and then just end it on a good note.

This situation has been really bothering me for well over a year and the latest round of contact with her has been confusing. Should I forgive and be nice or be "savage" as she likes to say?

Thanks.

I'm 35 and last night I dreamed about a high school crush again. This happens all the time. It's like I'm trapped in high school and can't mature past that point because I never fulfilled my dreams when I had the chance. I was too shy to make a move. I will never again have a chance to make it with those particular women I crushed on back then. I ruined those days by not maturing enough to ask them out, and I will never get over it. It is far too late to ever correct the mistakes I made back then that determined the course of my life.

Nowadays I can't get attracted to new women very easily at all. I can't get motivated enough to even try to date women my age. My desire for them will always pale in comparison to the desire I had for my dream crushes. I will never have that daily exposure to the same people nearing their prime over and over again. That constantly reinforcing loop of seeing the object of my desire, going home to pine over them, then getting to see them again the next day. Now, if I see an attractive woman, I get exposed to her for maybe a minute tops before I never see her again. It's impossible to develop that desire that comes with repeated exposure.

Who knows this feel? How can one ever be fulfilled when it is far, far too late? The situation is hopeless.

She has no idea how much of a **** show the modern dating is....

If it was so EASY, Do you think I would CHOOSE to be Single?

So around 5-6 weeks ago I broke up with my ex. I was the one who told her to leave my house and initiated the breakup as she continusly argued with me.

The root cause of the problem is, that she is combative. She can be super loving & sweet, then over something minor, can suddenly switch to getting angry and combative.

In the 9 months we dated she also disrespected me twice, which lead to me walking away from her.

01. We had a date set up for 5pm Friday, she didn't turn up, because the night before, she went to a friends house, got very drunk and slept through the entire following day, missing our date. Later in the same night she messaged me to ask how I was? But absolutely no apology about the date or even mentioned the date that we had. This infuriated me.

I ignored her.

She then text me to ask if I will be meeting her later tonight? So I just ignored her text and went on my business. She then lost her mind and called me 18x, I didn't pick up, she then got her cousin to drive her 30 miles to my house and she turned up at my door.

After a conversation with her and letting her know that she didn't turn up for the date, she eventually apologized and started pleading for another chance, so I let it go because it was a first strike.

02. We had booked a holiday for 10 days to Turkey. The weekend before we was meant to fly out, me and her had a little disagreement over where we would stay for the weekend. Her house or my house. She suddenly raised her voice and told me to "Shut The Fack Up"

I told her straight up, don't even dream of talking to me like that. She didn't apologise, and started giving me the silent treatment. I told her that I will be leaving in the morning as I won't tolerate being spoke to in an abusive manner.
The following morning while she slept, I left her house and came straight to work.

When she woke up and realised I had left, she sent me the following text message.

"It's best to end things, seeing as you don't talk" I still want to go on this holiday, we can still go and do our own thing when we get there.

I replied back and told, her that I am good with the break up and will be cancelling the holiday and will send her half the money back.

Two days later? She starts blowing up my phone wanting to talk, said she doesn't want to lose me and I can't just ignore her.
Anyway after a couple of days of her pleading I caved in and gave her another chance.

So what do I like about her?

Well she is age 25, very attractive, solid 9 body and at times she is very loving and effectionate. When things are good, we are very good together. The sex was excellent and very compatible.

Now that I have had some time apart from her, the red flags have become much more apparent to me.

I would like your opinion on the red flags, as my brain tells me that I should walk away from her for good and remain NC it's even possible that she has some type of disorder.


01. She has an agressive/combative streak and once annoyed becomes argumentative and challenging. This doesn't happen constantly, but at least once every two weeks, she would become combative.

She was kinda combative from day one when I met her, it's not like something that developed later. She has this masculine energy about her sometimes. I always checked her on her bratty attitude, but after a while it becomes tiresome. She can be feminine too, but her masculine side makes an ugly appearance just too often.

It's not only with me, she has had some combative situations with some work colleagues too in the past, so my feeling is, that this angry side to her, is ingrained in her personality.

02. She is addicted to social media, Instagram, ********, Snapchat, Tik Tok, she is even in some group chats. She doesn't really post sexy/nude/bikini pictures, however she does post selfies posing etc in order to get attention & validation. And she uses her phone waaay too much!

03. She had lots of male friends.. More male friends than actually girls, this is what she told me herself. Once she got into an LTR with me, she cut out the males, because I told her it's not acceptable. (I am sure she still kept a few around though) girls are sneaky like that. Obviously her male friends want to Fuk her.

04. She has had depression for quite a good few years. Has been on anti depressants on/off. I am pretty sure it's effected her personality and there is some past trauma from her childhood.

05. Her father passed away when she was young due to alcoholism, so there is likely some daddy issues. She is now raised by a single mother. I can imagine living in an environment with an alcoholic was not easy.

06. Alcohol is a massive factor in her life, all her family & even most her freinds are big drinkers. They are Luthuainin & Russian and drinking is the norm for them on a regular basis.

07. Ex party girl. She did quite alot of clubs/bars before she met me. Once she got into an LTR with me she quit all that, however party girls can slide back into that lifestyle quite easily if there freinds are doing it especially when her interest level is lower over time or when she is bored of the relationship.

08. She has a friend that is a h0e. She admitted herself that she has a h0e past, and for a while she didn't hang around with her, but recently began seeing her again. However this friend has boyfriend now.

09. She doesn't know how to apologize. She will cause a drama, at best she will come over and give me a kiss, but she will be never apologize or accept she did anything wrong.

10. At the age of 25, her body count is 10 or possibly more. Seems a little high to me.

11. Date 4 she told me that "She has no filter and when someone annoys her, she will say whatever she wants" I should have listened to her lol

This ended a little nasty between us, as we both said some hurtful things to eachother, however, enough was enough and I told her to leave my house.

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I have a female coworker ( shes 23 beautiful 5'10 im 32 5'8 ) that im very attracted to , i dont know much about her personality but everytime i see her its like my heart starts racing , its never happened to me before . One night our shift ended later than usual and i ask her for a ride ( we live very close to eachother , 5 min of walking ) , she agreed and on our way home i was going to ask her out but she asked my why dont i drive , i told her that driving just isnt my thing , im an very active person , i walk 10km everyday + 2 hours of weighlifting , i took her question as a bad sign so i droped the ask her out plan .

I made up my mind that i should just mind my own business and not ask her out but another coworker that knows that i like her very much said that i shouldnt be discouraged about the driving thing and i should ask her out , i said no but said "dont worry i will do it for you" when she entered the room my coworker said "hey can you take JohnDoe with you on ur way home , hes too shy to ask" and she said "yes ofc , he can ask me anytime" , then my coworker said " see ? now you can ask her out for coffee " and she started giggling

On our way home we started talking about different things , she asked about my fasting program , how often do i eat , whats my schedule , stuff like that . I told her that the next day im gonna binge House of the Dragon and she said that game of thrones is her favorite tv show but she cant watch HoD because she doesnt have HBO go anymore . I was going to to tell her that i can give my account but in a couple of seconds we got at my place and i had to get out fast because there was alot of traffic

My cowoker said that i should ask her to come over at my place and watch HoD together because she most likely hinted that

Now here is the nitpicking part , im in a place in my life where im looking for a serious relationship and she has a couple minor things that i dont like , she vapes and when other cowokers ask her to share her vape she doesnt say no , she likes to rest her head on other guys's shoulder , she loves Temptation Island and i think its a show for idiots , some guys even slap her upper leg ( i think its called thigh i dont know english very much ) and it didnt bother her , very active on snapchat/instagram , like she can be hours on her phone

Are these valid red flags or minor things ?

got sent this video of her fuark

https://imgur.com/a/EKEITSe

Finally decided to call it quits! Had to rant get your thoughts yall...

She is/was my best friend but some major red flags kept us from taking the relationship to the next level:

- Major political differences... we could never agree on anything
- Comes from a poor family (I come from a rich family)
- I started to lose attraction towards her... just was not turning me on really and I was having sex with her maybe once every two weeks
- She takes her job very seriously and is always working which in turn made me less attracted to her / less connected to her overtime
- The final string was that she said she ultimately never wants kids and that is something that I want.

TBH I kinda feel I should have ended things way sooner but kept holding on to her because A) didn't have the balls to break it off and B) thought she would change

Going to be very hard to find someone else now at 37!! Fuuuark

ultra cliffs becuase the full story is pages long

before someone says dear diary - what i wanna know/understand from this is

a) why someone would do this
b) is this insane behavior or am i the crazy one/did i really wrong her that bad
c) what should i do now

any specific questions i can answer to give a better picture. ive omitted a lot of detail cos it'd be too long

CLIFFS

-gf of 10 months, now ex
-she works at same company as me, but is intending to leave (i.e. she has nothing to lose)
-we broke up last month because we argued all the time.
- she is incredibly insecure, jealous, controlling
-she wasn't willing to change and rather than accept this was her fault - she blamed her behavior on my actions which apparently caused her to be this way
-as mentioned this lead to repeated arguments about the same thing, we went round in circles all the time and it was incredibly draining
-she didn't trust me at all, went through my phone etc, accused me of cheating on her multiple times
-we decided to go on a break for 1 month to see how it goes
-after 2 weeks she starts blowing up my phone drunk, asking to talk - i say text if you want but i dont want to get drawn into another argument on the phone.
-she tries a few more times to meet up with me and get back but i dont give in cos i believe nothing has changed
-with that said, i said i care about her regardless and wish the best for her but i just cant do this right now
-eventually she says she needs to come over and use my printer to print something asap, as she doesn't have one
-she comes over, a bit awk at first but she warms up and we fuk
-after that given we somewhat rekindled a connection i try and hash out a few things that bothered me with her
-she seems fairly non chalant about it saying why does it matter we aren't together now blah blah,
-more insinuations that evening from her about how she wants to meet me but nothing direct, i dont agree to meet
-i do the same thing the next day trying to hash out the past (probably a mistake

then i get a message from her which is totally out of her writing style, i.e. obviously isn't written by her, telling me (paraphrasing)

-i dont want to talk about our relationship as its a waste of my time and energy
-you arent my boyfriend anymore and never will be
-im happy being single and to leave her alone

i ofc think wtf and call her a few times to no answer

her friend from another number then sends me a message threatening to get me fired by saying im harassing her friend (my ex)
somethig along the lines of

'are you going to stop harassing x or do i need to report you to [company] for harassment

friend doesn't work in the company, but did previously so maybe has some connection.
question is why didn't GF herself tell me this - by text or voice

she has never until this weird fabricated message told me to not speak to her, never blocked me from anywhere, was only up until a couple weeks back begging me to get back with her or at least for us to talk again

i obviously feel very sad, confused, and betrayed (and i told my ex that, she didn't reply).

not really sure how to play it - im sure she doesn't have a case against me as i never harassed her - but also why would someone do this?

did she feel rejected i didn't try and get her back? i reactivated my online dating accounts at a similar time, maybe a friend of hers saw me on there and shared it with her?
i honestly never in my wildest dreams thought that someone who i had sex with less than a week ago, would stop speaking to me and ask their friend to threaten my career. its horrific

i admit that me giving her grief about her past mistakes in our relationship wasn't very productive - but thats it ..
she could have just said just that - this isn't productive, i dont want to talk about this anymore

but she went nuclear and completely cut me out forever, and totally blew up my opinion of her