After everything we preach to you, you go and say something stupid to her like that which is a well known no no around here. WTF are you thinking bro? You are setting yourself up for failure so you shouldn't be surprised at the result whatsoever. When you want it bad enough, you won't. Yeah, drinking your sorrows away is the answer, uh huh. Not srs.Cheeeeah......get with it shnukums, being an OG is where its at, shieeeet

Admittedly at 32 I am a tad embarrassed that rap is my fave music genre but its my roots and I see myself bobbin my head even into old age and IDGF lol. Yes women always roll their eyes at me when I break it to them, but who are they to talk listening to country.

I used to teach hip-hop and I listen to Drake, lol Wayne, 2Chainz, ASAP Rocky etc. I can't stand Country. It's just blasting it by the pool at a nice resort or an upscale beach is kind of disrespectful IMO.

Idk maybd km an old fussy-dud. But then again I love 69 on the beach.

And where exactly does this fit in the topic of discussion? So "DUTTY"!

semi right.
You told pondo women want to be chased when fabi did a passive comeback.
while you told him to do what felt right it seemed like you were pointing him towards chasing.


however Nedo did tell him to pursue her.

a chick disappears on me she has to do all the work when she comes back.
I'm not playing games with her i'm moving on and turned off by how she acted.
I'm not a dic about it but i cut all the BS and get straight to the point with them because at that point i've got nothing to lose and i've shown myself that despite liking them there are always other women i can also like so i don't need them.

It can if you don't know when to execute it. You need to get her interested then start getting into her head. We know you ain't bout dat games life though so we won't go there. But to put it into perspective for you: with your way, the fish just bites the bait at the tip of its mouth, whereas they inhale my bait into their stomach which makes it very hard for them to spit it back out. INB4 i'm a chitty person, etc. Just maximizing my odds during courtship boyo, as there is many fisherman competing with me.

we are talking about two different scenereo's though I think.

One with a woman who potentially put you on the back burner you and one you just met and are wooing.

If it was a Bible-based marriage as one person on here PMs me, then you wouldn't be divorced now.

We were married in the Catholic church, but I stopped practicing then, and he just went along with it as I was raised Catholic.

I do firmly believe that the couple who prays together, stays together. Otherwise there is no place to turn do during marital discord that most couples face, like temptation to cheat, ignoring your spouse, belittling your spouse,

I have to visit a priest alone for marital advice, even though we went through 6 months of Engagement Encounter to ensure we were ready for marriage.

I have grounds to annul the marriage due to not trying to procreate (i.e no sex), but that doesn't mean that it's easy for the children. We all know the research shows that children of divorce have higher rates of dropping out of school, and time in jail.

Darn mods......smh

I know that, and agree that's the right strategy if you want a maximize attraction. A lot of guys go full on clingy/persistent with women, and I'm always a bit surprised when it works. Being persistent does actually work for some guys, I've seen it. Maybe your strategy is to be persistent at the beginning and then back off a bit?

Um no, children of divorced parents that are ****ty parents have a higher rates of dropping out of school and jail time.

Same goes for ****ty parents that are not divorced, catch my drift?

Update:

Date with E1 went really well. She is super cute. I could tell she was really attracted to me, which is always a plus.

I did play it cool but I cannot fake it until I make it lol.. She is going to find out one way or another that I have no clue wtf I am doing. I would rather be honest then be in a argument because of a stupid lie. Surprisingly she is cool and still talking to me. I bailed today not feeling good in general work about killed me.I was just being honest, I am not setting myself up for failure, I am trying to find people who are cool with me like I am now. I do not think it is right to lie your way into getting a girl.

It's so easy to rustle pondus' jimmies lol.

How do you have all this time to date as a single father with full custody of the kids and work full-time and lift 5 to 6 times a week. Do you sleep?

if it's a woman i know from my social circle i will ask her every once in a while until i meet someone new then forget her.
but got-dabbit, every time i find someone new the one who didn't want me all of a sudden literally wants to fuk the first chance they have to get me alone.

Are you a virgin?
If not then you tell them you were seeing someone about a month ago and it didn't workout.

get girl naked, insert penis and pound it out.
you are young so you should be able to keep going or at least have a short refractory period.
FYI most men DO NOT know how to properly screw a woman anyways. They just get their nut and are done.

Deadliftbrah, if there were a god, it would reject your ass so hard lmao

Sorry basement dweller troll. You can't outwit me with the Bible, young Jedi. The Bible will always refute whatever evil words you spew. Just like Satan tries to tempt me with sexual sin, because he knows that is my weakest point.

“This, then, is how you should pray: “ ‘Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name,your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation,but deliver us from the evil one.’

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others for their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:9-15

honestly yea it just never went my way when I was younger and the one time it do go my way an insane amount of nerves kept me from it. I never had many chances. I don't think it would be to hard to figure out but I would be scared af.


I can sleep over tomorrow night after I get off work. I am sure I will find a way to fuk up before then lol.

Sorry but you can manipulate verses all you want, the bible never said it was cool to have sex while married. You're going to hell with the rest of us. Get over it

Continue to play it cool and don't act insecure about your lack of experience. Avoid talking about it altogether, only if she asks and even then try to be vague. Post regular updates and we'll help you out. Do some reading, rub out 2 prior and pop a Viag. Life = changed

I can't even take you seriously anymore.

2 And early in the morning he came again into the temple, and all the people came unto him; and he sat down, and taught them.

3 And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst,

4 They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.

5 Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou?

6 This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not.

7 So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.

8 And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.

9 And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst.

10 When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?

11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.

John 8 2-11

And I doubt her husband refused to have sex with her, which in the Catholic Church in which I was married, is grounds for annulment.

Why should I file papers against the state when the state has nothing to do with religion? Yes my therapist wants me to end this before pursuing something new like with the 48 year old, and I agree with her there.

Of course he wants to chase women 15 years younger and end up with a wife who brings 3-4 different guys a day on his boat to have sex with, and tells him via text that they are on a "break" so she doesn't feel guilty about that.

You lose.

When did you take me seriously? You keep saying I don't follow whatever advice you've given, then I PM you and you don't reply. LOL.


On another note, just was "Followed" by some dude into femdom and a money piggy. I see our friends in common and know exactly who is doing this, as I suspected.

Yes, no sex is exchanged, but it still seems extremely creepy to order some guy around as a slave over webcam.

Has anyone experienced this type of fetish? This is really odd. I don't understand it at all.

Why would you allow a strange woman online access your credit cards and bank accounts?

It has this article on his FB:

https://www.dailydot.com/irl/findom-...ion-blackmail/

Incase you haven't noticed, I've given you the benefit of the doubt, don't attack/be mean to you like the others and tried on many occasions to give you advice on your situation with your husband and dating life. It seems you are already at a low point/fragile so I will not dig into you and criticize. All I will say is, you paint your own picture on here.

Do you ever shut up? Honestly, you're my mother's age. I can't imagine her behaving like you. You need professional help

Thank you. I appreciate you being supportive.

Criticizing won't help me. I told my therapist I just gained weight so I would be too embarrassed to have sex with men, vs. standing up to them and saying no. So now that I am losing weight, I am losing my shield.

It seems like any will to stand up to someone is completely broken at this point, I just feel like I have zero energy and completely broken and fragile. All I feel is a 13 year old being alone by the pool and **** by Navy men in my apartment complex, to now. Maybe that was the appeal of the Navy men.

My therapist is very frustrated with me. Therapy doesn't work very well if you don't listen and lie/withhold facts.

I can only imagine. Get your chit together, you are an adult and clearly don't want to help yourself bad enough.

Because what she wants me to do puts me in a deep depression where I can't even function why would I want to be on disability and completely dependent on other people.

I have an accountability card so I don't self medicate through substance abuse but my gosh this is just pure hell I can only imagine what people do when they are full on addicted to a substance she won't let me take any substances I stay accountable with her that way

she's right though I'm so desperate for love I will listen to anything a good looking guy says she says I need to end my current relationship before I go monkey branching I just fear ending up homeless on the street if I divorce, and losing my baby.

Those fears are worse than living in a tough situation. Therapist won't be available if I'm homeless and unemployed.

You either a. have zero discipline or b. don't really give a fcuk about your new religion. And don't say you aren't a hedonist.

It's not a new religion, I was raised Catholic and we were taught to not divorce.

I just use men to make me work. Without men messaging me and giving me attention, I fall into deep despair and make mistakes at work. I'm a perfectionist, so me making a mistake is horrid.

Maybe I should just go into rehab so I'm not worried about losing my job in order to get all men out of my life, idk. I made it 5 months but that was because I turned to food for comfort and I was too embarrassed to get undressed to have sex.

I don't think anyone can understand the fear of losing your job for making mistakes unless you were sitting there feeling the depression, the brain fog, The disassociation that happens when I cut off all men.

The same thing happened four years ago I started making mistakes so I slip back that man back into my life and then told the therapist I'm wasting her time and money and quit

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to pondus_levo again.