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post 1615051121 08-30-2020, 01:24 AM
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I’m not afraid of failure....

Like many of you, my initial gut response to “what are you afraid of?” is failure. But that isn’t the case.

I’m afraid of other people knowing I failed. And the shame and judgement that brings. Failing, and the imagined perception of people knowing I failed are two completely different and distinguishable things.

I can fail all day long. I only learn from it. That is easy.

But people knowing I failed, on the surface seems to be hard.

But they don’t give a **** man. No one gives a ****. I am worried about the image I give, and nothing more, and so are they. So we are not focused on each others failures. Only our own. I don’t give a **** about yours, and you don’t give a **** about mine.

I think I care about how you care about mine, but that is all bull****.

The only reason why someone would care about anyone else’s shortcomings, is because they are trying to deflect from their own.

Not counting the legitimate uncommon unhealthy behavior which needs to be addressed for the better of society as a whole, my inability to reach intended goals, within the intended ambiguous parameters I set for myself, is meaningless to you. Unless of course you want to point them out so you don’t have to focus on your own.

My biggest fear disappears within this mindset. I never was afraid of failing, and no one else cares if I do.

**** it man. I might even try to become a pilot in the military. What do I have to lose? Temporary self pity? Okay.

What is the second biggest fear you have, because failure literally isn’t an option. It is the essence of humanity.
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Stop caring about other people's opinions.

Go fix your low self esteem
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Didn’t read you sound like a ****
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Originally Posted By Fuqdatass⏩
Didn’t read you sound like a ****
This made me laugh
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I fapped while reading this because I wanted my brain to associate your philosophies with ecstasy.
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All the memories of your failures will be erased.

All those that you think may cast judgment upon you have lives as complex as yours, don't think of yourself as anything special.

Rise, and evolve.
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Originally Posted By Fuqdatass⏩
Didn’t read you sound like a ****
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Atleast you have a big dink
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I once read a book about fear of failure where the authors described FOF in a very similar fashion to Opie, i.e. fear of failure is in large part a social judgement thing.

The book talked about some interesting experiments they did on folks with a self-diagnosed high fear of failure. They found that these guys would shirk achievable but difficult challenges, but they would be quite happy to undertake nigh-on impossible challenges, which begs the question - why? Well, when a challenge is nigh-on impossible, you get respect whether you lose or you fail. There is no social judgement for failure in such a case.

For example, let’s say you’re at school and you get dared by your buddies to ask out the hottest girl in your year. If she says yes, you get mad respect, if she says no, your buddies still commend you for having the balls to try. It’s a win-win.
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Originally Posted By alltrapbrah⏩
I once read a book about fear of failure where the authors described FOF in a very similar fashion to Opie, i.e. fear of failure is in large part a social judgement thing.

The book talked about some interesting experiments they did on folks with a self-diagnosed high fear of failure. They found that these guys would shirk achievable but difficult challenges, but they would be quite happy to undertake nigh-on impossible challenges, which begs the question - why? Well, when a challenge is nigh-on impossible, you get respect whether you lose or you fail. There is no social judgement for failure in such a case.

For example, let’s say you’re at school and you get dared by your buddies to ask out the hottest girl in your year. If she says yes, you get mad respect, if she says no, your buddies still commend you for having the balls to try. It’s a win-win.
Very neat (srs), any clue what the book was called?
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Originally Posted By Toker095⏩
Atleast you have a big dink
And I’m white, and a male.

Life really doesn’t get easier.
“The stories and information posted here are artistic works of fiction and falsehood. Only a fool would take anything posted here as fact.“

PS: Don't eat poop, just don't let the idea of it stop you from living life to its fullest.
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Originally Posted By Ironmanlet⏩
Like many of you, my initial gut response to “what are you afraid of?” is failure. But that isn’t the case.

I’m afraid of other people knowing I failed. And the shame and judgement that brings. Failing, and the imagined perception of people knowing I failed are two completely different and distinguishable things. .
Yeah, I came to that conclusion too.

What didn't bother me was failing at things, the most difficult thing to deal with was being humiliated for trying and failing.

Some people want to hear a person's story even if they've failed because they find the experience of the endeavour itself interesting, but sometimes people express open contempt or mockery for people who don't succeed.

One of the best things I saw about the fear of failure was the series called Losers on Netflix;



It focused on the people (as you can guess by the title) who never reached the top of their sport, despite giving it their blood, sweat and tears. It focused on the experience of trying, and the growth that they got from it.
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post 1615064411 08-30-2020, 08:38 AM
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Nice thread srs

What are your views on stoicism OP?
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Originally Posted By backinthegymbro⏩
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Where is this from?
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I agree as long as you have nothing to lose because of trying. Sometimes, trying alone means lots of sacrifice, which may affect others too.
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Originally Posted By Jkm94⏩
Where is this from?
His book '' I can't accept not trying''.
A great little read.

Can read it for free here:https://archive.org/details/icantacceptnottr00jord
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It all depends on what you define as failure.



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Originally Posted By Ironmanlet⏩
Like many of you, my initial gut response to “what are you afraid of?” is failure. But that isn’t the case.

I’m afraid of other people knowing I failed. And the shame and judgement that brings. Failing, and the imagined perception of people knowing I failed are two completely different and distinguishable things.

I can fail all day long. I only learn from it. That is easy.

But people knowing I failed, on the surface seems to be hard.

But they don’t give a **** man. No one gives a ****. I am worried about the image I give, and nothing more, and so are they. So we are not focused on each others failures. Only our own. I don’t give a **** about yours, and you don’t give a **** about mine.

I think I care about how you care about mine, but that is all bull****.

The only reason why someone would care about anyone else’s shortcomings, is because they are trying to deflect from their own.

Not counting the legitimate uncommon unhealthy behavior which needs to be addressed for the better of society as a whole, my inability to reach intended goals, within the intended ambiguous parameters I set for myself, is meaningless to you. Unless of course you want to point them out so you don’t have to focus on your own.

My biggest fear disappears within this mindset. I never was afraid of failing, and no one else cares if I do.

**** it man. I might even try to become a pilot in the military. What do I have to lose? Temporary self pity? Okay.

What is the second biggest fear you have, because failure literally isn’t an option. It is the essence of humanity.
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I never had the fear of failure, I know my parents see me as a ''failure'' but idc
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Originally Posted By Toker095⏩
Atleast you have a big dink
Thats proudmanlet, not ironmanlet.
You would be surprised just how much time I have to waste.
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Originally Posted By Jkm94⏩
Nice thread srs

What are your views on stoicism OP?
I study it and try to apply it in all my affairs. I feel is is an appropriate mindset, and honestly the most satisfying way to live your life.

I have been participating in eastern philosophies and practices for over a decade. Meditation, seeking being neutrally content instead of positive happiness or the likes, etc.

Once I was introduced to stoicism, a lot of my thought processes and understandings have aligned with it. Of course, reading the popular stoics perspective on issues has provided new and inspiring sound bites that turn complex ideas into basic, easy to understand statements. I appreciate that for sure.
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Originally Posted By 400Lb
Thats proudmanlet, not ironmanlet.
Can’t it be both?
“The stories and information posted here are artistic works of fiction and falsehood. Only a fool would take anything posted here as fact.“

PS: Don't eat poop, just don't let the idea of it stop you from living life to its fullest.
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