Yo Misc,

Some people don't want to, can't afford to, or are afraid to try to find a good therapist, so here is some self-therapy that you can do...


Recommended reading;

Opening Up by Writing It Down, Third Edition: How Expressive Writing Improves Health and Eases Emotional Pain by James W. Pennebaker and Joshua M. Smyth

The School of Life: An Emotional Education By Alain De Botton


Opening Up by Writing It Downpresents the replicated studies showing the benefit of writing about emotional difficulties, and gives details on the most effective way to do it. (I've read this book, and I highly recommend it. I now regularly use the advice in this book, and it has brought profound benefit.)





The School of Life: An Emotional Educationpresents the case for why we need to self-educate ourselves to develop our emotional intelligence, and the benefits that it brings to life. (I'm currently reading this book, and I highly recommend it.)







Basic free advice;









"But there is evidence that the nature of a person's writing is key to its health effects, notes health psychology researcher Susan Lutgendorf, PhD, of the University of Iowa. An intensive journaling study (in press, Annals of Behavioral Medicine) she conducted recently with her doctoral student Phil Ullrich suggests that people who relive upsetting events without focusing on meaning report poorer health than those who derive meaning from the writing. They even fare worse than people who write about neutral events. Also, those who focus on meaning develop greater awareness of positive aspects of a stressful event.

"You need focused thought as well as emotions," says Lutgendorf. "An individual needs to find meaning in a traumatic memory as well as to feel the related emotions to reap positive benefits from the writing exercise."

In explaining this phenomenon, Pennebaker draws a parallel with therapy. "People who talk about things over and over in the same ways aren't getting any better," he says. "There has to be growth or change in the way they view their experiences."

Evidence of a changed perspective can be found in the language people use, Pennebaker has found. For example, the more they use such cause-and-effect words as "because," "realize" and "understand," the more they appear to benefit."

https://www.apa.org/monitor/jun02/writing



4 days writing, 3 days rest.Is a basic routine. It helps avoid burnout, and allows time for the subconscious to integrate.

(Some people avoid burnout whilst writing daily... I would avoid doing it if you are a beginner though.)

Also, please remember to start with something that bothers you but is relatively 'small', and then work your way up to life long insecurities or traumatic memories.

Finding meaning and causality are keys.

thanks but i like the suffering

I hope you are suffering heroically.

Am curious to try this.

That’s a lot of words bro. Cliffs?