I met a chick off a dating app. We live about 1.5hours away. This is the top end of what I would ever go. She actually basically asked me if I wanted to hang out on saturday and I said sure. I made plans for us to meet up halfway. We went to a bar/restaurant near the ocean. I specified drinks for the date. I hate dinner dates. The chick herself is Cuban and from Miami. She is hot. By my standards, her face is a 7-8/10, and her body is a 9/10. She is a successful APRN who now works in medical device sales. She is hot.

Here is how the date went. I got there a few minutes late. She is sitting outside waiting for me. We lock eyes, and we know it is each other. I feel glad that she isn't a catfish/actually looks like who she said she was. I expected this anyway because she sent a video of herself, and I sent her several videos of myself. So, at this point, we should pretty much know how each other looks.

We hugged, and she gave me a soft kiss on the cheek. I make some random small talk and lead the way straight to the bar. We order drinks and make more small talk. Maybe a nervous energy, for sure. It was her first date since June. She took time off. I feel anxious but keep my composure. At this point, the drinks come. And I say let's go upstairs. It was loud downstairs with a live band and people dancing could hardly hear each other. We went upstairs, and it was an open rooftop bar, and it was a nice evening. We are there for the sunset. We pick a spot where we have a clear view of some of the parking lot but mostly the ocean. We make tons of small talk/job interview questions and have a few drinks. I felt bored and didn't think it was going well at all. I still thought she was hot, so I didn't give up. She did most of the talking about herself, and I just listened. I noticed she commented that she has food at home and wants to eat when she gets home. I said to myself I'm not buying this bitch dinner. It is against my morals to buy a chick anything more than just drinks on a first date. She also made several other comments about how she wanted to stay single or some chit like that, and it made me feel like she was directed to me that I wasn't the one. At the same time, I had my phone face up, and my dating apps kept going off cause I was in a new area. My phone keeps lighting up, and she definitely noticed and saw the Bumble icons coming, lol. At that point, I just manned up and showed her. I opened my app up, scrolled through my 100's of matches, and said my problem with dating apps is i have so many matches I don't know who to pick. I think this sucker punched her and made her feel jealous or defensive. It worked out to my advantage cause she was somewhat standoffish after seeing that.

So after sitting up there on the roof area for maybe an hour, with a debatably successful interview discussion, which sucked to me, it is now dark; I said I got a blanket in my car; let's go sit on the beach and chill. She initially declined. We made small talk for a bit more, and I offered to move to the beach one more time, and she agreed. We grab the blanket and sit on the beach. I instantly feel relief from getting out of that bar. I laid on the blanket and commanded her to lay with me. She instantly goes right in my arms, and we cuddle for a bit. I rub her hips, he ass a little, and her sides. She doesn't stop me. Her body is nice af. She has her hand on my chest and abdomen, and we eventually hold hands. We talk about some stuff like the stars, what comes after life, etc. The conversation was a little better, for sure. I admit to her that the conversation in the bar was bad. She said no it wasn't…. We were at the beach for maybe 45 minutes, and we both had to use the bathroom. I do feel energy from her about not wanting to stay out late or w/e. I say ok let's go and use the bathroom after she mentioned she needed to use it. We throw the blanket in the car and use the bathroom.

I finished using the bathroom first; this time, we were downstairs where the live band was. I lean against the wall and start to enjoy the music. Some people are dancing. She comes out of the bathroom, and I wave her over and say let's go after this song. She stands in front of me. I grab her and pull her in. She does push her booty/hips into me. We are making direct contact, and again, I just think, damn, she got a thick booty. We were enjoying the song, and I told her, didn't you say you like to dance? She said yeah and started to grind on me gently. I leaned into it a bit, and she did it for the whole song. The song was over, and I said ok, let's go. She stopped me and said something about listening to one more song. I again grab her into me, and she dances on me more. The music was pretty good. After that second song, I grab her hand and say, " ok, let's go. We leave. I was walking her to her car. I was going to go in for the kiss to see where she stood. I had no idea. But as we get to her car, there is a large group of fukin 10 older people standing right next to it chit-chatting. I thought to myself, fuk, it would be awkward AF to go in for the kiss with those people standing on top of us. We hug each other goodbye. She gives me a light kiss on the cheek and says she'll text me when she gets home. She gets home and says, "I'm home safe; thank you for the nice night." I return the same chit message.

Here I am the next morning, and I don't have a solid read on the chick. Yes, she did cuddle with me, hold my hand, and grind on me to music. The interview part of the date went smooth, but it was boring. Where do I go from here? Should I message her later today to make more plans? Should I just ghost her to protect my ego and see if she reaches out? Do you think she liked me based on what i tried to reflect from the date (i did have to initiate pretty much everything)? What would you do?

Cliffs:
Op went on a date last night
the chick is smoking hot
not sure how the date went

Bro Lmao no one is going to read all of that.

Do whatever you want with the communication thing

You'll be able to figure out how into you, or not into you she is within literally 1 or 2 texts message exchanges with her. If her texts back act like she's actually interested, that will show. If she's making you do all of the work and not being really receptive to your texts/suggestions to do stuff, brushing you off a lot/treating you like a 5th or 6th option, then she's not that into you.

Whatever you do, stop putting so much thought into it. Sloots you met off of dating apps are not worth overthinking like that. Remember, if she's even somewhat attractive, you're one of many dudes she's talking to lately, and she's 100% banging other men right now too. So stop sweating like she's future wife or something, srs lol

Can't believe I read all that, anyway sounds like it went well to me, I would hit her up again

If I have to guess based on the cliffs she probably filed for a restraining order

Age 37
Still asking highschool questions lol

go for it OP

Congrats and happy boning breh…Super DFS

read it, i just repp'd you

this is solid advice. So sounds like i should hit her up today.

Ok , so far judging my misc i have nothing to lose

give me feedback you phigit. I dont want to cock block myself. Believe me I do it all the time.

ty, i ll think of something to hit her up with later.

I love that gif

Need to see the vids she sent you for proper evaluation

it was just her talking to me about random chit. its easy to send quick videos if you both have iphones. Facetime interviews are gay. I ask sloots to send random videos instead if they ask to facetime before a date.

Read the op and give me feedback.

Seems like there wasn't any kind of spark between y'all which is fine because she's just a dating app sloot. It didn't go terrible so I think you can keep this one in rotation. Have fun and see where it goes

Eh. You're overthinking and putting waaaaaay too much thought into it

I probably wouldn't have shown the matches, I wouldn't have even had my phone out tbh.

Leave it a few days; she lives a distance away - hit her up after a few and tell her you should meet up for drinks again

If she says no, go back to the apps

Hit her up and set up a second date as soon as possible. That will gauge her interest instantly. If she's into you, she'll make the date and if she puts you off or says something like "I don't know how my next week is going to go" then there's your answer.

Sounds like you did everything right although she clearly wasn't super into you. And showing her your dating app was just dumb and cringe to be honest, she's probably got dozens more matches than you do. And you should have kissed her in the bar, not waited until later.

I'd give you about a 10% chance of a second date.

Ok I read it all…your huge mistake was showing her your matches on your phone lol.

I think it went well, although showing her your bumble matches might have been a mistake. Although she could've ended the date much sooner if she was disgust with you

You should go out with her again.

Okay. I sent her a small talk message with a picture of my garden. Last night, she asked for a picture of my garden. She just responded. I m now asking if she wants to go out again next weekend. I dont know about this one , but i we ll see how / if she responds to that

I would hit her up again I mean she showed affection, and was physical. Like others have said if she responds you're good to go if she ghosts you then its game over. Pretty easy to read really. Just don't have your phones out constantly next time lol.

Ok why do you sound so unsure of yourself tho? you keep saying you don't know yet keep hitting her up?

Respond back to what she says.

Go no contact

i took advice from this thread. Several posters said just hit her up and see.
So far, a delayed response. I think it's over. i ll update if she responds later.

to late

LOL'd at showing her your Bumble.

Otherwise, it went as well as it could, but who dafuq drives 1.5 hours for a date?

From my experience dating ,

If the girl isn't hitting your phone up later ( first )touching on a point of discussion in the date…or suggesting other plans = bad

A) You're frauding about how hot she is. I noticed you didn't mention her age, her body looks 30+
B) You brag about having so many great matches yet you have to settle for someone who lives far away because you're obviously not matching with women you consider attractive
C) Based on your post history you're incredibly insecure for a 40 year old man

Cliffs: I did not read your story

I don't even read this much for my officecel wagie job

lol at thinking I'm gonna do it for a misc post

The fact that you're typing out a story about a date on the misc tells me you're overthinking and putting pussy on a pedestal. Man the fukk up and stop chasing some girl, you are the prize, revert your mentality to that and you'll start doing better when dating. Think about it for a second…. of what value does a woman bring to you? No much, but you bring most of the value to them, hence why you're the prize, not them. Stop falling for feminism and stop being a pussy. (Super Ded fkn Srs)

is the ass fat?

I thought you were engaged or some ****. I thought you posted about it awhile back. Huh.

Either way I didn't read any of that and your **** is all retarded

OP why are you trying to over analyze it.

she texted you when she said she would ok. So next try to set up a second date. she will either agree or decline, that is your answer.


When i used to care about this chit i would have a second date idea planned in my head and you can ask her there in person especially if its going well and that way you can see her facial reactions, that will tell you more about how shes feeling, is she excited that you mentioned a second date ect.

dont ghost her, dont message her immediately. wait a day or two then call or text her and tell her you want to see her again next weekend.

it sounds like she likes you which means shes going to be testing you to see if you get too emotional or desperate.

*edit, i would have preferred if you had waited at least a little bit man. be very careful not to act too interested, she might interpret that as being desperate.

at the very least, dont immediately respond to her text messages