1 month no alcohol dear diary thread and observations

05-09-2026, 11:15 AM

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Get yourself one of those Yoga holistic gfs op then you can have fun with someone who isnt into drinking and chit. Plus those kind of girls are usually fit and healthy

05-09-2026, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted By suave2000⏩

Get yourself one of those Yoga holistic gfs op then you can have fun with someone who isnt into drinking and chit. Plus those kind of girls are usually fit and healthy

Agreed. If you're going full hermit life, it's a requirement that you have a girlfriend. Otherwise life is really fucking boring.

Basically the only way this works is if you're having great sex 2x per day.

05-09-2026, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted By piramparam⏩

Life without alcohol or drugs is pretty lame and uneventful.
You need a sober friend group and a girlfriend. Then its nice.
If youre alone and dont have sober friends it just sucks and it probably wont last long.
You need to accept sober life asap and work those things out.
Ive been sobe for over a yr

Same I had way more girls and fun when I was an alcoholic degenerate. Most hot or slooty girls are into bars & drinking so you're severely limited once you drop it. The only other place you'll find them is the gym which is significantly harder. You're cooked either way cause they'll either ignore you for looking to good or they'll ignore you for being creepy aka ugly. What sucks is that these are the same girls giving it up the same night while drunk.

The only real benefit I've found from sobriety is the weight loss and re-dedication to lifting. I have sober friends but they have families or gf's so we don't hang out much. I've accepted it since I never really drank or partied much in the first place before 2020...I still drink if I go to sporting events or something but that pales in comparison to the momentum you get by going out a few times a month.

Do not think that what is hard for you to master is humanly impossible; and if it is humanly possible, consider it to be within your reach.

05-09-2026, 12:00 PM

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What do you prefer alcohol, cocaine, or steroids?

05-09-2026, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted By imbored⏩

What do you prefer alcohol, cocaine, or steroids?

1) Alcohol + cocaine = goat combo
2) alcohol on its own
3) steroids

4) coke on its own doesn’t do much for me … just makes me feel like a hyper crack head

None of the above is worth it tho srs

Actually trt may be worth it… but I’ve only experimented with orals like d bol and far beyond trt levels of test

05-09-2026, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted By iamdetermined⏩

Same I had way more girls and fun when I was an alcoholic degenerate. Most hot or slooty girls are into bars & drinking so you're severely limited once you drop it. The only other place you'll find them is the gym which is significantly harder. You're cooked either way cause they'll either ignore you for looking to good or they'll ignore you for being creepy aka ugly. What sucks is that these are the same girls giving it up the same night while drunk.

The only real benefit I've found from sobriety is the weight loss and re-dedication to lifting. I have sober friends but they have families or gf's so we don't hang out much. I've accepted it since I never really drank or partied much in the first place before 2020...I still drink if I go to sporting events or something but that pales in comparison to the momentum you get by going out a few times a month.

Yep, right now my social life is pretty shit, but I basically go to the same spot every Friday for happy hour and gym 6-7x per week. However, with the current intensity of my work right now, I can't really go out drinking more often comfortably.

The good thing about the happy hour spot is that it's the exact same people working there every Friday and it's the type of bar that actually pulls in a decent number of single girls who are just sitting there by themselves drinking margaritas and secretly looking for dudes to start talking to them. Obviously waking up hungover 3-4x per week is very shitty, but happy hour is great because you can get pretty loaded and be finished drinking by like 8-9pm and still get a good nights sleep and have a 90% productive Saturday.

05-09-2026, 12:11 PM

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Originally Posted By iamdetermined⏩

Same I had way more girls and fun when I was an alcoholic degenerate. Most hot or slooty girls are into bars & drinking so you're severely limited once you drop it. The only other place you'll find them is the gym which is significantly harder. You're cooked either way cause they'll either ignore you for looking to good or they'll ignore you for being creepy aka ugly. What sucks is that these are the same girls giving it up the same night while drunk.

The only real benefit I've found from sobriety is the weight loss and re-dedication to lifting. I have sober friends but they have families or gf's so we don't hang out much. I've accepted it since I never really drank or partied much in the first place before 2020...I still drink if I go to sporting events or something but that pales in comparison to the momentum you get by going out a few times a month.

Hate to admit it because its a bitch, but for sobriety you really need to be a dance bro if you want to get your dick wet on the regular.
No way around it. You might get lucky and meet girls on other hobbies. Like ive been thinkin about theater.
But to maximize your sober enjoyment in life regarding women you need to dance

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05-09-2026, 12:12 PM

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Originally Posted By piramparam⏩

Hate to admit it because its a bitch, but for sobriety you really need to be a dance bro if you want to get your dick wet on the regular.
No way around it. You might get lucky and meet girls on other hobbies. Like ive been thinkin about theater.
But to maximize your sober enjoyment in life regarding women you need to dance

those hobbies sound gay as fuck man.

05-09-2026, 12:14 PM

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Originally Posted By imbored⏩

those hobbies sound gay as fuck man.

Its actually the opposite.
But yeah i dont enjoy dancing neither. I forced myself to try it a couple years back and told everyone i was game for it.
But deep down i hated that shit. Fuck dancing

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05-09-2026, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted By piramparam⏩

Its actually the opposite.
But yeah i dont enjoy dancing neither. I forced myself to try it a couple years back and told everyone i was game for it.
But deep down i hated that shit. Fuck dancing

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05-09-2026, 12:22 PM

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LOL @ phaggots who actually feel boredom. i cringe when lame people say that work is a necessary part of life because it provides purpose and meaning.

i wish i didn't have to work. there is an endless amount of entertainment out there, and i could easily fill up my time with various hobbies. video games, movies, TV shows, porn. i have about a dozen video games that i've purchased recently and i just don't have the time to play them all.

if you want to go out and mingle with people, join a recreational club like a squash league. that is a great way to make friends. sports like squash tend to attract wealthy people, so it is also a good networking opportunity. when i was in undergrad, i played in a squash league once a week and i met a guy who was an SVP at a big firm. he gave me his phone number and he would text me when he wanted to play.

05-09-2026, 12:36 PM

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@notbadnotbrad do u feel like u have developed great social skills from this i bet u have and although there are more sustainable and healthy ways to go about it having the ability to speak to anyone making good interesting conversation being funny getting girls to feel comfortable etc is something very very valuable and tricky to develop

I put effort in all my threads srs

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05-09-2026, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted By LAHipster1⏩

@notbadnotbrad do u feel like u have developed great social skills from this i bet u have and although there are more sustainable and healthy ways to go about it having the ability to speak to anyone making good interesting conversation being funny getting girls to feel comfortable etc is something very very valuable and tricky to develop

No I feel like it’s the opposite

I’m a fairly introverted and boring person without the alcohol which is why I rely on it so much in social settings… I’m actually kind of autistic and awkward sober srs but when I drink I’m very fun to be around

Also get super anxious when in large social gatherings so the alcohol numbs that

05-09-2026, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted By notbadnotbrad⏩

No I feel like it’s the opposite

I’m a fairly introverted and boring person without the alcohol which is why I rely on it so much in social settings… I’m actually kind of autistic and awkward sober srs but when I drink I’m very fun to be around

Also get super anxious when in large social gatherings so the alcohol numbs that

alcohol lowers your inhibition true but it's STILL YOU remember that son

u might have hit on something important here maybe u also drink because u feel nervous around people if that's is true then GREAT because that is 100% something u can work on and then u don't have to drink because of that

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05-09-2026, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted By LAHipster1⏩

alcohol lowers your inhibition true but it's STILL YOU remember that son

u might have hit on something important here maybe u also drink because u feel nervous around people if that's is true then GREAT because that is 100% something u can work on and then u don't have to drink because of that

That's the thing... it's a version of you that simply can't exist while you're sober. I've felt confident AF after having a good $8k+ month or closing deals but even then it's more subtle. Still not as entertaining or boisterous as I am when I go main character mode after a few drinks. The social skills developed while sober are completely different than anything you'll do while drunk for the most part, it is what it is. You'll be chasing dragons and end up disappointed trying to develop into the drunk version of yourself.