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post 1546582801 03-16-2018, 08:43 AM
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Originally Posted By RaphaelDeLaGhetto⏩
What about a case where you have a group 10 close friends even mixture of gender and "relationship" is loosely defined? Does "feels" = "possessiveness"?

Is it physically impossible to love more than one person?
No. But we are hardwired to feel possessive of our mates.

There might be a few who can do this but it will eventually catch up. Either that or these people are doing other things behind their partners back to be okay with their relationship.

These relationships seem like they are always dominant and submissive. One partner bangs around. The other is "fine" with it.

No thanks Jeff.
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post 1546582871 03-16-2018, 08:44 AM
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Originally Posted By Jayl12345⏩
Nope. I guarantee I'll get feels, then it's all downhill. Then in a couple months when I'm over it, she'll have feels. Vicious cycle.
you are allowed to have multiple gfs.. that is the point
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post 1546582991 03-16-2018, 08:46 AM
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I wouldn't care if my girlfriend was banging other people if I could freely bang others as well, if we lived in a world where there were no funky diseases to be had. No thnx due to herpes, HSV, and HIV. Plus the thought of my girl's vagoo having some residual semen from other dudes floating around in it is repulsive.
post 1546583161 03-16-2018, 08:49 AM
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Originally Posted By RaphaelDeLaGhetto⏩
It looks like there exists a whole countercultural community of swingers.
Have you seen what most of these people look like?
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post 1546583201 03-16-2018, 08:49 AM
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Originally Posted By DesiredUser****⏩
My girls give me all the loving/sex I need while also knowing that I see other girls. Keeps them on their toes because they don't want to get replaced. They are of course free to see whoever they want as long as they don't talk about it around me. No beta they meet will be able to keep them happy like I do so no need to worry. SRS
How long you've been doing this? So you don't know who they fuking?
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post 1546583241 03-16-2018, 08:50 AM
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post 1546583321 03-16-2018, 08:51 AM
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Originally Posted By mp83⏩
Most swingers are gross looking
This^
post 1546583421 03-16-2018, 08:52 AM
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Originally Posted By YUL⏩
But it goes both ways. Your gf/wife knows you’re banging other women but you have to be honest about it
No lol. Men can easily bang slooots and have a wife, but good luck with having a gf or wife who is cucking you daily
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post 1546583481 03-16-2018, 08:53 AM
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Originally Posted By ssg10587⏩
No. But we are hardwired to feel possessive of our mates.

There might be a few who can do this but it will eventually catch up. Either that or these people are doing other things behind their partners back to be okay with their relationship.

These relationships seem like they are always dominant and submissive. One partner bangs around. The other is "fine" with it.

No thanks Jeff.
Is this driven from societal ethics developed from religion and other related evolutionary traits (such as principles of mating)? Any creditable source where it shows direct physical correlation between possessiveness and attraction?
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post 1546583601 03-16-2018, 08:54 AM
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Open relationships can be great if both parties have mutual agreements. All the fun and sex without the drama. However 90% of the time, someone in that open relationship will get jealous and develop feelings. It always happens.

I prefer open relationships because I don't have time for petty drama and "wifey stuff." However, like I stated above, other person got jealous and we ended it for a while. Sometimes I reconnect with a fling, other times I'll just let them be.

Whatever works for you OP, everyones wired a bit different.
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post 1546583701 03-16-2018, 08:55 AM
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Originally Posted By RaphaelDeLaGhetto⏩
How long you've been doing this? So you don't know who they fuking?
I've been seeing my 2 main chicks weekly for over 4 years each. They're honestly too caught up in their careers to even search for other guys but they feel good knowing they have the freedom to do it if they want. Feeling/Being tied down is the last thing most people want in life. 3 of my other girls have been around for 3+ years but I see them less frequently because of distance. Other girls come and go then come back again when other relationships inevitably don't work out for them. You just have to tell them what's what and be in control of your emotions to make this lifestyle work. I travel a lot and the last thing I want is a girl from home giving me grief when I'm away or not being able to smash local girls in other countries. Stopped "dating" in 2012 to answer your question though.
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post 1546583871 03-16-2018, 08:57 AM
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Originally Posted By DesiredUser****⏩
I've been seeing my 2 main chicks weekly for over 4 years each. They're honestly too caught up in their careers to even search for other guys but they feel good knowing they have the freedom to do it if they want. Feeling/Being tied down is the last thing most people want in life. 3 of my other girls have been around for 3+ years but I see them less frequently because of distance. Other girls come and go then come back again when other relationships inevitably don't work out for them. You just have to tell them what's what and be in control of your emotions to make this lifestyle work. I travel a lot and the last thing I want is a girl from home giving me grief when I'm away or not being able to smash local girls in other countries. Stopped "dating" in 2012 to answer your question though.
Humans are the most adaptable creatures on earth. Lifestyles and habits build a person. I am not surprised about this at all. Kudos to you m8
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post 1546583931 03-16-2018, 08:58 AM
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Originally Posted By RaphaelDeLaGhetto⏩
Is this driven from societal ethics developed from religion and other related evolutionary traits (such as principles of mating)? Any creditable source where it shows direct physical correlation between possessiveness and attraction?
Not sure man, I'd say a mix of both. The religious ethics may be derived from the latter so it may be all just our innate instincts.

I'm not aware of any source because, I think, "possessiveness" and "attraction" can be a bit subjective, hard to measure and would need to be observed over large amounts of times for relationships. Would be a difficult study.
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post 1546584471 03-16-2018, 09:04 AM
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Originally Posted By ssg10587⏩
Not sure man, I'd say a mix of both. The religious ethics may be derived from the latter so it may be all just our innate instincts.

I'm not aware of any source because, I think, "possessiveness" and "attraction" can be a bit subjective, hard to measure and would need to be observed over large amounts of times for relationships. Would be a difficult study.
I think it's interesting. We are consistently developing away from our evolutionary principles. Especially with recently arousing power trip from women around the world. Subjectivity is highly driven from social standards
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post 1546584601 03-16-2018, 09:06 AM
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post 1546584681 03-16-2018, 09:07 AM
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Originally Posted By RaphaelDeLaGhetto⏩
I think it's interesting. We are consistently developing away from our evolutionary principles. Especially with recently arousing power trip from women around the world.Subjectivity is highly driven from social standards
Yes and no. Would argue that certain characteristics in attraction haven't changed, while some may have. But I do agree that some characteristics are heavily driven by society.

I also think that we may "try" to get away from our evolutionary principles, they are still there at the core and shape our decisions.

Very interesting thread man.
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post 1546585011 03-16-2018, 09:11 AM
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If I joined a swingers group, all of the dudes would be lined up to f'ck my girl since she's hot. Why would I want that?
post 1546585291 03-16-2018, 09:15 AM
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Originally Posted By zknarc⏩
Have you seen what most of these people look like?
While I do agree most of them are not aesthetically pleasing, the essence of counterculture is that they go against the grain. Naturally this implies many characteristics that are perceived "odd" and "weird". But they are important part of a society and often times change the society as a whole
Originally Posted By ssg10587⏩
Yes and no. Would argue that certain characteristics in attraction haven't changed, while some may have. But I do agree that some characteristics are heavily driven by society.

I also think that we may "try" to get away from our evolutionary principles, they are still there at the core and shape our decisions.

Very interesting thread man.
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Originally Posted By RaphaelDeLaGhetto⏩
Humans are the most adaptable creatures on earth. Lifestyles and habits build a person. I am not surprised about this at all. Kudos to you m8
Thanks brah. Reps on r/c. I've never labeled my relationships though. I never liked calling them open relationships or poly or anything like that. I like to think I do things differently than most of the people who are in those kind of situations. I'm on one-on-one relationships that tend to be better than most people's relationships but I have to have more than one at a time because of who I am. It's complex.

I also never liked the titles of "boyfriend/girlfriend" because of the ownership vibe it gives off. Being owned/tied down is something I'll never be.
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The only way I can see an open relationship working for most people is if it's only open on the man's side, like in those cases where the couple brings in a girl for a threesome. The problem though is that the type of woman who would agree to that generally isn't relationship material.

Anyways, throughout history it's usually been allowed for men to have multiple wives and/or mistresses, although only the rich and powerful normally had the means to do this. Even in Western cultures where you were only allowed one wife, having a mistress or several was considered normal as long as you kept it discreet. But the opposite, in which it was considered acceptable for a woman to have multiple men, was almost never true. As far as anyone is aware, there has only been one minor culture in which it was normal for a woman to have more than one husband, and that's one in which a woman would marry two brothers (and therefore the man's genes get spread no matter who the father is).
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They are usually ugly and it is always cuck type males and “strong, independent” females.
In actual practice, I see this more often then not. I've seen it on Tinder several times--some ugly feminist pictured with her nu-male boyfriend who is literally a cuck.
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Originally Posted By Sarevoke75⏩
Open relationships can be great if both parties have mutual agreements. All the fun and sex without the drama. However 90% of the time, someone in that open relationship will get jealous and develop feelings. It always happens.

I prefer open relationships because I don't have time for petty drama and "wifey stuff." However, like I stated above, other person got jealous and we ended it for a while. Sometimes I reconnect with a fling, other times I'll just let them be.

Whatever works for you OP, everyones wired a bit different.
You're essentially dating. I don't think that's beyond the "norm." I think when people get to the point of doing "wifey" stuff then it's time to be serious and commit. Also if you're looking for someone to do wifey stuff then it's hard to take them seriously if they're not already practicing monogamy.
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Originally Posted By RaphaelDeLaGhetto⏩
. Being a physically strong provider (hunter) is becoming more obsolete as we speak
All it takes is a brief glitch in the system -- maybe a famine, or world war -- and it goes right back to reset: strong men rule, always will.

Open relationships? Done it. Hella lot of fun. Highly recommend. But you can only do it if your'e independent (financially, emotionally), so you won't be stunned by loss or distressed by the coming and going of females in your life. If you're clingy, NO WAY.
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Originally Posted By rectifryer⏩
You're essentially dating. I don't think that's beyond the "norm." I think when people get to the point of doing "wifey" stuff then it's time to be serious and commit. Also if you're looking for someone to do wifey stuff then it's hard to take them seriously if they're not already practicing monogamy.
Right, at that point any standard monogamy acts should be thoroughly out the window
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All of this "sexual revolution" stuff that the left is trying to "normalize" in Western society originates with the work of a homosexual ****phile named Kinsey.

The left considers him a hero. They even made a movie about him. He was actually a sick degenerate and nothing he published was in any way scientific.

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Originally Posted By Nicklol⏩
its going to become more common because women are realizing how much power they have in the dating world and dont want to just stay with one guy
this..


with so many options, women will just expect to have sex with many guys as possible
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Originally Posted By Bo_Flecks⏩
If I joined a swingers group, all of the dudes would be lined up to f'ck my girl since she's hot. Why would I want that?
Because lifestyle stuff is founded on what the woman wants

Some people can separate sex from emotional intimacy/attachment
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Originally Posted By MiscInformed⏩
All of this "sexual revolution" stuff that the left is trying to "normalize" in Western society originates with the work of a homosexual ****phile named Kinsey.

The left considers him a hero. They even made a movie about him. He was actually a sick degenerate and nothing he published was in any way scientific.

https://www.crisismagazine.com/2004/...l-revolution-2
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I would never consider being a part of one and find it extremely weird when I hear about people being in one. How can you let some other dude **** a chick you care about?
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