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post 1546832901 03-19-2018, 12:16 PM
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Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩
I think after 30 is most significant difference? (Question mark because im not positive but i think so)

Think it mostly depends on lifestyle

But:
It also prob decreases because a lot of people get comfortable in relationships. I have always stayed the same after getting into a relationship but a lot of my friends go downhill physically once they get into one. Basically their diet turns to chit because they eat whatever the gf wants and they stop working out as much or altogether because the girl wants to hangout more. Seen numerous relationships were they both go in looking decent and end up both looking bored and bloated after a year.
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post 1546832981 03-19-2018, 12:16 PM
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Originally Posted By devin45k⏩
It also prob decreases because a lot of people get comfortable in relationships. I have always stayed the same after getting into a relationship but a lot of my friends go downhill physically once they get into one. Basically their diet turns to chit because they eat whatever the gf wants and they stop working out as much or altogether because the girl wants to hangout more. Seen numerous relationships were they both go in looking decent and end up both looking bored and bloated after a year.
Yea i agree quite a bit
post 1546833401 03-19-2018, 12:21 PM
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4 years seems pretty early for it to drop off massively, but a lot of that would depend on the people and a huge range of factors
post 1546833601 03-19-2018, 12:24 PM
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Varies on the couple Im sure. Im ok with less sex as long as the sex we do have is amazing. Quality over quantity. I have a pretty high libido but honestly during the week we have both been working all day, then the gym, then cooking and clean up, and by that time Im exhausted and I just want to watch some TV and hit the hay. Would rather save for the weekend and have energy and time to do it right. GF is fine with this too, as long as your libidos are compatible ”normal” is whatever works for you as a couple.
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post 1546833661 03-19-2018, 12:25 PM
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post 1546833871 03-19-2018, 12:28 PM
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if his sloot is declining his advances she is not into him anymore and he also doesn't know how to lay down the pipe properly or she would at least want to feel a good fking once a week
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post 1546833881 03-19-2018, 12:28 PM
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Originally Posted By Tanerian⏩
Why you personally thought the post was incorrect.
1. Of the people that have experience so far ITT (including you), every one of them contradicts you.

2. The numbers you have posted so far don't really support your claim either

Your claim is that its definitely a small small minority. Nothing we've found so far has proven that to be accurate.

I'm not disputing that sex decreases as relationship age increases. You're sensationalizing it based on a joke
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post 1546833921 03-19-2018, 12:29 PM
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Op look up the “Coolidge effect”
post 1546834031 03-19-2018, 12:29 PM
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My sex drive dropped a bit. I enjoy spending time with my girlfriend just as much as I do having sex with her. Used to be big on the snort lines finger nines game. Not anymore.


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post 1546834121 03-19-2018, 12:31 PM
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post 1546834291 03-19-2018, 12:33 PM
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Ive been with my gf for 5 years and we do it 3-5 times a week. once a month sounds miserable - does she deny him sex or does he not initiate?
post 1546834351 03-19-2018, 12:34 PM
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Novelty might wear off, but if you still got the feelz for the old sloot after several years, you'll still find coitus appealing with her.


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post 1546834361 03-19-2018, 12:34 PM
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post 1546834381 03-19-2018, 12:35 PM
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post 1546834401 03-19-2018, 12:35 PM
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Originally Posted By rollerball⏩
shrug, it's true.
men get tired of f*cking the same woman. you'd have to be a complete moron to not understand this.
Originally Posted By MonyChekz⏩
Op look up the “Coolidge effect”
Some men never get over banging the same woman. They settle and then realize 20 years later how they should've waited and kept enjoying the field.

Once you get over needing/wanting a partner for happiness or comfort, the idea of marriage sort of goes out the window. Only exception for me personally would be a woman with a career or set goals. Of course she has to lift lulz.
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post 1546834561 03-19-2018, 12:37 PM
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Men and women don't take care of themselves in long-term relationships like single people generally do, that's the problem. Both in physical shape and general aesthetics. More repsonsibilites(spouse, kids) means less time for going to gym, cardio, etc.,, and also means there's less effort to attract the opposite sex(primping, flirting, nights out).

This is always why people cheat. When Timothy is at work and comes across Stacey the co-worker who goes to the gym/yoga class 4x a week, has glow from daily primping, and who's flirty since she's single....he's going to be attracted to her. It's no diss to his wife Jan, it's just that she's probably had 2 kids and never really gotten back into shape post pregnancies. She probably doesn't flirt or use seduction at all anymore which gets boring for Timothy. Jan the wife also gets frustrated since she doesn't feel wanted, and spend her days working and taking care of whiny gen Z kids once she gets home.
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post 1546834651 03-19-2018, 12:37 PM
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Originally Posted By DASBUNKER⏩
Novelty might wear off, but if you still got the feelz for the old sloot after several years, you'll still find coitus appealing with her.


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post 1546834761 03-19-2018, 12:39 PM
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post 1546834861 03-19-2018, 12:40 PM
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Originally Posted By rollerball⏩
shrug, it's true.
men get tired of f*cking the same woman. you'd have to be a complete moron to not understand this.
Moron checking in.. Was with my ex for 5 years, we trained together, went home and routinely watched each other fap. No I joke, we did the naughty.. Even near the end we was still humping like rabbits.

I'm not sure if every individual has a timeframe of when they " get bored ' but 5 years for me and I was still 4 times a week without fail, plus a naughty fap here or there.

I'm not buying the whole people get bored story until I experience it my self, if you've experienced it.. sucks but, don't project your experiences as facts of life onto others.
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post 1546835051 03-19-2018, 12:42 PM
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Originally Posted By TaeBoNinja⏩
Men and women don't take care of themselves in long-term relationships like single people generally do, that's the problem. Both in physical shape and general aesthetics. More repsonsibilites(spouse, kids) means less time for going to gym, cardio, etc.,, and also means there's less effort to attract the opposite sex(primping, flirting, nights out).

This is always why people cheat. When Timothy is at work and comes across Stacey the co-worker who goes to the gym/yoga class 4x a week, has glow from daily primping, and who's flirty since she's single....he's going to be attracted to her. It's no diss to his wife Jan, it's just that she's probably had 2 kids and never really gotten back into shape post pregnancies. She probably doesn't flirt or use seduction at all anymore which gets boring for Timothy. Jan the wife also gets frustrated since she doesn't feel wanted, and spend her days working and taking care of whiny gen Z kids once she gets home.
this pretty much. i always wonder what the younger/single girl/guy is seeing in the married person who's been banging the same thing for years lmao.
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post 1546835501 03-19-2018, 12:46 PM
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post 1546835591 03-19-2018, 12:47 PM
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
My life experience says differently

Anecdotal but still

¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Mine does too. I know a few other couples in the same boat
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post 1546835761 03-19-2018, 12:49 PM
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Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩
I think after 30 is most significant difference? (Question mark because im not positive but i think so)

Think it mostly depends on lifestyle

But:



Also, to the same study
That is a BS study, since they cannot say that those in LTRs weren't already low in test.


anyways, 4.5 years and still go at it like animals. also been on no fap for a month before we got together. Maybe that has something to do with it?
Originally Posted By DrunkenMoron⏩
Moron checking in.. Was with my ex for 5 years, we trained together, went home and routinely watched each other fap. No I joke, we did the naughty.. Even near the end we was still humping like rabbits.

I'm not sure if every individual has a timeframe of when they " get bored ' but 5 years for me and I was still 4 times a week without fail, plus a naughty fap here or there.

I'm not buying the whole people get bored story until I experience it my self, if you've experienced it.. sucks but, don't project your experiences as facts of life onto others.
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Seems like single people want those who are in relationships even more. It's a weird phenomenon
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Originally Posted By rollerball⏩
I believe that this is an uncommon result and you are either lucky to have found someone deeply compatible, or you are cut from some special type of cloth.
Either way I envy you I suppose.
Rabbit stays in shape, that's likely the big difference. Physical fitness is major influence on libido, whether you're young/old, single,married. It's just rare for people in long-term relationship to stay fit, most let themselves go.
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Originally Posted By ChristianMR⏩
It's always sad when people in long term relationships give up on their sex life. There's really no reason why anyone -- no matter how long they've been together -- shouldn't be having sex at least multiple times a week (unless both of them have low libidos, in which case I guess it doesn't matter).
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Originally Posted By chino3⏩
That is a BS study, since they cannot say that those in LTRs weren't already low in test.


anyways, 4.5 years and still go at it like animals. also been on no fap for a month before we got together. Maybe that has something to do with it?
True, i guess even within that study you could then say men with lower testosterone are inclined toward relationships

There are tons of studies on this, its pretty widely supported. Just google "mens test drops in relationships"

https://www.sciencedirect.com/scienc...18506X03001259
http://www.psypost.org/2015/05/study...osterone-34506
Reduced testosterone is thought to promote relationship building and caring for children instead of pursuing mates. From an evolutionary perspective, this behavioral shift is important to ensure that after a man secures a mate and produces offspring, his offspring are provided with adequate care. The researchers point out that, “men in new relationships are still in a physiological state that aids competition with other men for access to potential mates.”
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Originally Posted By TaeBoNinja⏩
Rabbit stays in shape, that's likely the big difference. Physical fitness is major influence on libido, whether you're young/old, single,married. It's just rare for people in long-term relationship to stay fit, most let themselves go.
He’s not wrong, my libido took a nose dive when I was overweight and uncomfortable in my own skin, and I suppose my relationship did too

Fixed it though

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