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post 1556691211 07-19-2018, 04:51 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
It doesn't say that Boost will push you up in the queue, have you tried it?
On tinder I use it ritually (and it works). Never used it on bumble, though
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
I'm pretty sure I'm not bottom of the pile, but maybe I'm just delusional. I find it difficult to self-rate myself though.
- If I rate myself via the quality of women I've dated, it's 7/8 - but that sample size is small.
- If I rate myself viaongoinginterest and options with decent looking women, it's lower - ~6/7, unless I'm bad a picking up signals, I get IOI's occasionally.
- If I rate myself via the typical quality of women I match online, it's probably 6/7.
- If I rate myself via commentary from strangers, people I meet etc it's probably ~7 (various independent people have described me as 'good looking').

So I say 7 as an approximation. I'm aware alltrapbrah and some others have argued this is dissonance and I necessarily must be lower than that.

Aaaaannnd there I go overanalyzing again. Autist spectrum out
If I rate myself then I must be a 4-5 since most if not all of my past matches on CMB were lonely FA engineers. Even my ex was pretty FA-ish. If I see one more profile that has Video games (nothing wrong with it) as a hobby I may smash my phone!!
post 1556692281 07-19-2018, 05:09 PM
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Originally Posted By DanielleGreen⏩
If I rate myself then I must be a 4-5 since most if not all of my past matches on CMB were lonely FA engineers. Even my ex was pretty FA-ish. If I see one more profile that has Video games (nothing wrong with it) as a hobby I may smash my phone!!
Seriously, if that's my competition I should be doing better! I remember when Tinder had the group dating thing, and I saw a bunch of good looking guys (nohomo). Felt like I was pretty average against the competition.
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post 1556695951 07-19-2018, 06:06 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
When I first signed up to CMB, I was getting matches daily for ~ a week, now they're very rare even though I'm active.
When I first signed up to Bumble, I was getting a ton of matches within the first day, now they're already very rare.

So what is it:
a. I've exhausted my dating pool or the active users.
b. Their algorithms have pushed me back down the queue (initial engagement).
c. I've gotten worse looking with the same pics.
could be B. and you may want to change your pics.
post 1556695971 07-19-2018, 06:07 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Oh I think that's tinder gold. I haven't gotten that but I do pay for tinder plus so I can set it to different locations and to rewind accidental left swipes.
What the fck.....

I've never known a woman who needed to do that.

It's probably time for you to go outside and meet people from non-tinder type settings. You're a woman. Just go stand somewhere. Someone will come up to you. Or go to the gym with leggings on.
post 1556696031 07-19-2018, 06:07 PM
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Originally Posted By DanielleGreen⏩
If I rate myself then I must be a 4-5 since most if not all of my past matches on CMB were lonely FA engineers. Even my ex was pretty FA-ish. If I see one more profile that has Video games (nothing wrong with it) as a hobby I may smash my phone!!
And when I used online dating, if I saw one more female profile that said they were a "foodie" (who the fck DOES NOT like food?) then I was about to smash my phone.

People with no aspirations or hobbies in general are absolute crap to deal with.
post 1556696501 07-19-2018, 06:15 PM
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Originally Posted By US_Ranger⏩
And when I used online dating, if I saw one more female profile that said they were a "foodie" (who the fck DOES NOT like food?) then I was about to smash my phone.

People with no aspirations or hobbies in general are absolute crap to deal with.
I live in an "outdoorsy" state and apparently doing a 14er is not cool to guys I match with. I should probably go to a hiking meetup and see whats up.
Oh god the foodies, ughhh. "I'd give my left kidney for some tacos!' From a grown ass 30+ man, just lol.
post 1556696711 07-19-2018, 06:17 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Seriously, if that's my competition I should be doing better! I remember when Tinder had the group dating thing, and I saw a bunch of good looking guys (nohomo). Felt like I was pretty average against the competition.
We both should be doing better considering that we have decent jobs, responsible (I hope), in shape, and wants marriage.
post 1556696731 07-19-2018, 06:17 PM
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post 1556698661 07-19-2018, 06:39 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Doesn't work for me. I go out every day and I go to the gym 4 days a week but almost never get approached. Almost all my dates have been from online, except two that were set up by mutual acquaintances.
I thought you said you were a 7? And you don't get approached?

Either you're not as good looking as you say you are or you give off resting bitch face.
post 1556699441 07-19-2018, 06:51 PM
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post 1556700081 07-19-2018, 07:00 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
No maybe 6/10 misc standards idk.
Time for pics (srs)

This place is brutally honest with women (no Jaymz), you'll get a true rating.
post 1556700161 07-19-2018, 07:01 PM
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Originally Posted By DanielleGreen⏩
I live in an "outdoorsy" state and apparently doing a 14er is not cool to guys I match with. I should probably go to a hiking meetup and see whats up.
Oh god the foodies, ughhh. "I'd give my left kidney for some tacos!' From a grown ass 30+ man, just lol.
Sounds like you're from Colorado. There should be outdoor running groups everywhere.

Also, that line you quoted is pure cringe. If a 30 year old dude said that, I'd feel embarrassed for him.
post 1556703031 07-19-2018, 07:34 PM
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post 1556703921 07-19-2018, 07:48 PM
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why not use IG to talk to girls

use it just like tinder
post 1556705191 07-19-2018, 08:04 PM
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Why not just pick up women at the gym?

But to add to your post, matches always picked up for me after the first week to the point of frustration with how many messages received. It could be your location.
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post 1556707721 07-19-2018, 08:39 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yeah that's what I got, that's my misc rating.
Source?
post 1556711071 07-19-2018, 09:25 PM
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post 1556711711 07-19-2018, 09:34 PM
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Iโ€™ll chip in my two cents, definitely algorithm. First two weeks were good for me off of Tinder, gradually tapered off to zero by Week 3 and beyond with no boosts while using the same pics.

Matches were looking around 6-7/10 which is fine by me. If you gonna online date long term, boost, pay, do what you gotta do.
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post 1556713381 07-19-2018, 10:01 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Don't want to name names but two miscers gave that rating.
Strong sample size. Let's get a larger sample (10+ miscers) before you make a conclusion.
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Just realized my pics were cropped wrong in the app - was zoomed in on my face in the first pic - could've been worse. Fuk you Bumble lol
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post 1556724151 07-20-2018, 05:35 AM
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Originally Posted By DanielleGreen⏩
OP I am having the same issues on CMB and Hinge. I've only received 2 likes on CMB this entire week. Hinge seems to be full of picky guys too. I've only matched with 2 guys on it. 1 Guy lives 60+ miles away and doesn't have any hobbies. I asked him what are his hobbies and he said "Hanging out with friends," doesn't drink, doesn't like hiking, 2 word answers, just a waste of time. The other guy is a loner that goes to work and eats, nothing else. The guys that are interesting doesn't match with me, super frustrating. Plus on hinge you only get 10 likes per day, unless you pay for unlimited likes, fcuk that!
I think we are at the bottom of the pile or our pictures suck? I can't explain it. The plus to Hinge is adding political views which could hurt me in a way, but I do like on the conservative guys profiles and nothing.
Swear you had a boyfriend like a week ago?
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Doesn't work for me. I go out every day and I go to the gym 4 days a week but almost never get approached. Almost all my dates have been from online, except two that were set up by mutual acquaintances.
Are you open and warm toward men you find attractive when you "go out every day"? Aka make eye contact and smile? If not, then that's why you don't get approached.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Doesn't work for me. I go out every day and I go to the gym 4 days a week but almost never get approached. Almost all my dates have been from online, except two that were set up by mutual acquaintances.
Because 90% of the chicks at the gym hate being approached and "just want to workout".
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Has happened to me as well. Tinder starts off strong then slowly tapers down. Now by no means am I a chad and I haven't spent the time to make a great profile, but I've heard people mention this happen countless times. Something to do with the way they use the ELO score, its better to be selective when swiping as well.

I travel frequently for work and I definitely have had success deleting and re making my profile, using the same phone number as well.

It can get tiring if you take it seriously. I just use it as a supplement to socializing in person. Tons of women use the app, can't hurt to throw out some swipes when I'm taking a chit or bored somewhere and see what happens.

edit: I've had the same happen with Bumble, since you said you don't use tinder (why you insist its only for hookups IDK, if you dont want to do hookups just don't hookup). Bumble is very strange, I can have good weeks and terrible weeks without me changing a damn thing.
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It's probably B.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
No.



Gym is a great place to meet someone imo. Idk why people are so against it. I went out a couple of times with a guy from my old gym but he ghosted. And I asked a cute guy at my new gym for a spot and I see him there almost every day but he doesn't talk to me.
Might just be autist.
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Originally Posted By jacemano⏩
Swear you had a boyfriend like a week ago?
He dumped me a few weeks ago.
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