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post 1572576501 01-31-2019, 03:16 PM
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Originally Posted By Chloebabe⏩
Because these men think because of their treatment of certain women in their minds it must mean that they might have a chance. Then when the woman makes it known that she isn’t interested.The so called “nice” guy wants to blow a fuse because he felt like he was nice to her that there should be some kind of pay off for him being nice. In reality no one is entitled to anyone’s affection period.
Yes this happens a lot.

I had s friend where Everytime we woukd go to a bar wheb those ppl came in selling flowers he woukd be then flowers and buy them drinks all night and then get skipped out on.

I've never bought s chic in a bar a drink in my life and i never will. Now if I asked then out and we went to s bar then I of course paid but I am refering to the ones that come up to you and try and flirt and want drinks.

I wouldn't buy them a pint of bath water
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post 1572576641 01-31-2019, 03:18 PM
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Typically “nice” guys are polite and agreeable. Neither not desirable traits that women look for. Usually in their sexual prime womem want strong competent men which helps ensure the continuation of their dna.



Technically speaking.
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Originally Posted By latverian41⏩
When I was young like 18 19 20 I was one of those nice romantic idiots. I'd buy flowers and open car doors and walk my date to the front porch at the end of the night when dropping the. Off and I always got played or dumped in the end.

Finally a friend told me to knock that chit off and to be respectful but also be an ass hole and I haven't looked back since then. The scene is completely flipped.

When I did that it was my dates doing the calling all the time it was my dates asking to come spend the night and just watch movies instead of me doing the asking

You have to be yourself and I'm generally a nice guy but your have to know when and when not to pull the ass hole card
This. feels bad. I feel like I have to intentionally out of my way to be a d!ick otherwise I get just get betazoned.
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I believe they find them boring. Had a ******* in college who used to give seats too sloots in a bus lol; he never scored.
post 1572577741 01-31-2019, 03:31 PM
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From what I know about females there are no pros to nice guys.

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post 1572578081 01-31-2019, 03:37 PM
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Originally Posted By Slurgie⏩
From what I know about females there are no pros to nice guys.

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post 1572578211 01-31-2019, 03:39 PM
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Originally Posted By Slurgie⏩
From what I know about females there are no pros to nice guys.

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I could write a book abiut all the things you don't know about females
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post 1572578361 01-31-2019, 03:41 PM
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Originally Posted By Slurgie⏩
From what I know about females there are no pros to nice guys.

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Why not? What have females that you hang out with have said?
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post 1572578511 01-31-2019, 03:43 PM
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post 1572578611 01-31-2019, 03:44 PM
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Why would a nice guy neglect me? Am confuse
Why would they be passive aggressive that's not a nice trait?
I want a nice guy (I think I have one but early days so idk) I've dated bad boys in the past and I'm so over them now. What you want is a reformed bad boy. At my age that's doable. After all I'm a reformed bad girl.
Cons of nice guy don't even compare to cons of bad guy
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post 1572578981 01-31-2019, 03:48 PM
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Originally Posted By melDorado⏩
Why would a nice guy neglect me? Am confuse
Why would they be passive aggressive that's not a nice trait?
I want a nice guy (I think I have one but early days so idk) I've dated bad boys in the past and I'm so over them now. What you want is a reformed bad boy. At my age that's doable. After all I'm a reformed bad girl.
Cons of nice guy don't even compare to cons of bad guy
What do you feel justified yiu to look back and think of yourself as a bad girl?

Come on spill the beans?
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post 1572579031 01-31-2019, 03:49 PM
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Originally Posted By melDorado⏩
Why would a nice guy neglect me? Am confuse
Why would they be passive aggressive that's not a nice trait?
I want a nice guy (I think I have one but early days so idk) I've dated bad boys in the past and I'm so over them now. What you want is a reformed bad boy. At my age that's doable. After all I'm a reformed bad girl.
Cons of nice guy don't even compare to cons of bad guy
Cons of bad guy?
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post 1572579081 01-31-2019, 03:49 PM
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People often mean meek and weak when talking about "the nice guy".

Some weak mean simp and placate. Others use bravado. They're just strategies.

An assertive, confident and humble man that is also kind and patient doesn't worry about securing a worthwhile woman. They're rare and women know it.
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Originally Posted By latverian41⏩
What do you feel justified yiu to look back and think of yourself as a bad girl?

Come on spill the beans?
It's quite a long story lol
Lets just say I had untreated bipolar for years and that gives a lot of scope

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Cons they will completely fuk your life up and then leave your ass
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post 1572579181 01-31-2019, 03:50 PM
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Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩
I think romantically "nice" guys are ideal

But sexually they are not

And sometimes the sexual aspect wins out or is the catalyst for a relationship
I think that there is this "misconception" that "nice" guys (or girls, for that matter) can't be aggressive or sexually desirable in bed (or in the kitchen..lol)....Don't people have many different sides/shades/layers to themselves? True, some people are more complex than others, though.
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Originally Posted By iloveus⏩
How are they not really "nice"
Wait until they get rejected, then you'll see their true selves. They are manipulative.
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post 1572579621 01-31-2019, 03:55 PM
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"nice guys" typically do anything and everything to please a sloot. going the extra mile to be nice. are always agreeable and don't want to offend/upset said sloot. they don't be themselves which makes them cookie cutter porn addicts.

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Nice guys have to make up for their lack of dink prowess, hence why they are nice. If you are giving them the dink the right way they are gonna stick around, so no point in being nice.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Orbiter situations are the fault of both sides. The woman can’t act innocent and say oh teehee I was just enjoying his attention and drinks/gifts/favors/whatever and thought he was just being “nice.” That is bs. Women know what is truly going on and they shouldn’t keep guys around that they’re not interested in.
Apply this to literally any other situation.

If you overpay for a car, the salesman reallycanact innocent and simply mark you as a "nice" person who gave them a bunch of money for no reason because it was too hard for you to be a dick about it and insist on what you want. There's an underlying reality that nobody owes you chit.

If he keeps buying drinks but isn't getting his dink sucked, he needs to move on. Building up resentment without taking action is exactly what the "passive-aggressive" remark earlier in the thread was about.
Nah, fukk that. I’m not doing that.
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Originally Posted By etet1919⏩
I think that there is this "misconception" that "nice" guys (or girls, for that matter) can't be aggressive or sexually desirable in bed (or in the kitchen..lol)....Don't people have many different sides/shades/layers to themselves? True, some people are more complex than others, though.
I'm nice and I've never had any complaints
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Its simple: women are biologically drawn to masculine energy, which means that they ultimately desire a man who can make them "submit". They want a man that can put her in her place, literally, because they want to be LED in the relationship (as they are drawn to partners who they can feel comfortable can protect them and their offspring). These are all masculine traits. "Nice guys" by definition are almost always operating in a feminine state of energy. They are needy, insecure, lack confidence, and their overt "niceness" comes off as nothing more than a bribe for sex. Women instinctively don't trust them and they lose respect for them, which is an automatic turn-off. In a relationship with a "nice guy", the woman is forced into tapping into her own masculine energy, which she naturally does not want to do. Women also instinctively crave "challenging" men that they themselves WANT to chase because their sexuality is led by emotions. With "nice guys", there is nothing to chase because they act feminine and are in fact submitting to the female by placing them above themselves. What this triggers in females is the following sense: "if he can't even stand up to me/make me submit, then how can he possibly protect me if something goes wrong?"

This is all based off of evolutionary biology, seriously. Women are not logical like men. "Nice guys" don't understand this so they take the (male) logical stance that if you treat her like a princess and shower her with attention, that it will make her like you. It actually accomplishes the complete opposite as it makes the guy act in a feminine energy state, which turns the female off entirely. This is why *******s and "bad boys" get all the girls: they put themselves above the female in the relationship, they give very little validation, and they project a masculine energy. These are all in fact extremely attractive attributes to females.
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Originally Posted By AWillis⏩
"nice guys" typically do anything and everything to please a sloot. going the extra mile to be nice. are always agreeable and don't want to offend/upset said sloot. they don't be themselves which makes them cookie cutter porn addicts.

be yourself. you might be remembered and get laid
Not true of everyone .

Im a nice guy but I've never been no ass kisser
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They’re nice to everyone... so you spend a lot of time waiting on them to finish up favors for everyone else... in an effort to please everyone they also let everyone down... I wouldn’t date a guy like that
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Originally Posted By CementPizza⏩
STFU.
You are not female and Never will be.
Is it my girly guns that intimidate you? JK........Actually, I wasn't kidding. I was being NICE.
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Originally Posted By Sinan09400⏩
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My bad, thought we were talking about serious relationships here, not gold diggers.
Originally Posted By iloveus⏩
Why not? What have females that you hang out with have said?
Not really what they said per se, but from dating a lot you just come to realize eventually that women really want a tough guy who has a gentle side. The term 'nice guy' (in reality) typically refers to someone who's a push over. Most 'nice guys' don't think they're a push over, but they are. Women want to be in a relationship with someone who's going somewhere and taking them along for the journey, and 'nice guys' have trouble being leaders. There are no pros to 'nice guys' because a relationship without a man who's capable of leading a woman is destined to fail. Women know this, even if they will never admit it, and so in the end no woman actually wants a 'nice guy'. What they want is a tough guy with a gentle side who can lead them by the hand. And that has nothing to do with being 'nice'.
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Originally Posted By latverian41⏩
Not true of everyone .

Im a nice guy but I've never been no ass kisser
yes. there is a difference between being a good guy, and being a nice guy.

good guys aren't fake. when a woman describes a guy as a nice guy usually it is because his behavior is fake

he isn't being himself and goes the extra mile to kiss ass. that is the "nice guy". but he won't act like that are a fat/ugly sloot
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i won't say that i am a nice guy because i don't fake any of that nice bullchit to get women, never have. maybe that's why i am still a virgin (lol). i am not stooping to that level just for some hole. Also never bought a girl a drink ever in my life and never will. if a girl wants to have a conversation or whatever then that's cool but i ain't playing that little stupid game of let me buy you this so i can hopefully get affection and more from you, nope not doing that ****. by doing this you get a good idea of who wants to take advantage of you and who is actually real with it
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Originally Posted By Chloebabe⏩
Dark black women are beautiful and we don’t need pasty white men to determine that for us.We age better. Who cares about the opinions of white males.There are a lot of ugly white women walking around soooo.
You sound like a real peach, and racist to boot.

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Originally Posted By DrWilliam⏩
Nice guys have to make up for their lack of dink prowess, hence why they are nice. If you are giving them the dink the right way they are gonna stick around, so no point in being nice.
The nicest guy I was ever with was also the best sex I’ve ever had... even the second best I’ve had can’t reach how good that sex was.. his niceness irl translated to him being super nice in the bedroom lol. Super considerate and giving lmao
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