I asked this chick i've been seeing for 2.5 months "so what are we?"

12-30-2021, 10:57 PM

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I always let girls ask that question. Always. If you're the one asking it, it's over for you.

12-30-2021, 10:58 PM

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Originally Posted By BlackHeart.au⏩

I bet she doesn't have any photos of you on her social media, nor invites you to meet her friends

nah, not even once. never even took a photo together. but then again, she comes from a conservative family, she said none of her older sister who are like 30-32 have ever dated anyone or talk about dating/guys.

12-30-2021, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted By johnnyboi123⏩

damn bro. rough. bishes are ruthless. i think she was just using you, just like i suspect this chick is using me. they decided a while back she didn't see you/me as relationship worthy. just hanging around until they find something better (monkey branching).

Fuken end it right now. If you think so

Yall don't realize how much you're letting women dictate your lives. It's low self esteem srs

Grab control and dictate your life mane. Sounds like she has you by the balls and it should be the other way around

I know you're worried about keeping the chick but I personally think you need the boost of feeling like you're in control. Disregarding however she acts/ reacts.

12-30-2021, 11:03 PM

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Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩

Fuken end it right now. If you think so

Yall don't realize how much you're letting women dictate your lives. It's low self esteem srs

Grab control and dictate your life mane. Sounds like she has you by the balls and it should be the other way around

my self esteem is ****ed beyond repair m8, not going to suddenly get better at 34. The general rule is if you ever have to ask yourself if a chick is really into you, then she's probably not or she would have made it very clear that she was. I might be a bit autistic but not dumb,but i don't have another option at the moment. it's either her or being alone. maybe being alone is better for my mental health at least.

12-30-2021, 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted By johnnyboi123⏩

maybe being alone is better for my mental health at least.

Better than feeling like you're being used?

Better than feeling like she has the better of you?

And you're "wasting" time because of it?

Yes

Or forget about anything serious and hit up other chicks

12-30-2021, 11:09 PM

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Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩

Better than feeling like you're being used?

Better than feeling like she has the better of you?

And you're "wasting" time because of it?

Yes

Or forget about anything serious and hit up other chicks

honestly, i wanted to break things off right before i went to see her on christmas day because the whole situation was giving me more anxiety than anything else, but wasn't going to do that on christmas of course. But then i had a great time with her, awesome sex, and she pulled me right back in. i'm weak and don't have much will power. pussywhipped i suppose.

12-30-2021, 11:12 PM

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lmao, that's rough.

Is this not the chick you posted about who explicitly said she just wants sex from you?

12-30-2021, 11:15 PM

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Originally Posted By johnnyboi123⏩

i'm weak and don't have much will power. pussywhipped i suppose.

Of course if you tell yourself that. It's a self fulfilling prophecy

It's all in you brah

You can tell yourself the opposite of that and it will be true

12-30-2021, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted By legbroke⏩

lmao, that's rough.

Is this not the chick you posted about who explicitly said she just wants sex from you?

i don't remember her saying that but she's told me a while back that she wasn't as physically attracted to me as much as i was to her. but then i've seen her like 5 times since then and we've ****ed like rabbits every time.

Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩

Of course if you tell yourself that. It's a self fulfilling prophecy

It's all in you brah

You can tell yourself the opposite of that and it will be true

sometimes i feel like she does have feelings for me and maybe she's just a little hesitant to show them just yet and i don't wanna blow it off too early and regret it later. she does seem like a decent chick. just too many mixed thoughts which leads to a lot of mental anguish on my end.

12-30-2021, 11:36 PM

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Originally Posted By johnnyboi123⏩

just too many mixed thoughts which leads to a lot of mental anguish on my end.

yes, i know. that's why im telling you you need to clear it up.

who do you think decides that? you think she will? grab your balls. it's part of being a man

if this girl likes you clearing it up won't affect things srs. if she likes you you're not on egg shells. if this does break chit off then congrats you're not wasting your time anymore

12-30-2021, 11:38 PM

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Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩

yes, i know. that's why im telling you you need to clear it up.

who do you think decides that? you think she will? grab your balls. it's part of being a man

if this girl likes you clearing it up won't affect things srs. if she likes you you're not on egg shells. if this does break chit off then congrats you're not wasting your time anymore

how would you word it to her? obvious i would say this in person.

12-30-2021, 11:46 PM

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Originally Posted By johnnyboi123⏩

i don't remember her saying that but she's told me a while back that she wasn't as physically attracted to me as much as i was to her. but then i've seen her like 5 times since then and we've ****ed like rabbits every time.

Whatever it was, it sounded like a relationship was completely out of the question. Even if you think she might have secret feelings, I'd tone yours down to protect yourself. Willingly continuing to attempt a relationship with this chick sounds self-destructive.

12-30-2021, 11:47 PM

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Originally Posted By johnnyboi123⏩

how would you word it to her? obvious i would say this in person.

i'm trying to get you to think on your own. i remember in the last thread you were mad at what she said and it seemed more like you didn't want her. but that she was what was left

and then this thread is kind of a continuation on this.

it seems more like you don't like her but like more of the opportunity she brings you - easy access to poosy

i dont know if you've articulated the situation exactly, because you made it seem like she insulted you pretty hard but then you just said she sent a text saying "i want you"

but i feel like in your shoes i prob would have ghosted her after she said "humans"

my gut tells me she likes you you're just not used to control.. which is why i said i feel like she's pushing you. and i think she'd hit you up

and after you ghost her for a bit you're gonna know where you stand more.

and if you wanted to continue it you can and tell her you didn't like her "human" response. i'd be a little manipulative cause i think she's being manipulative

but i feel like this is a way for her to show her true colors without you continuing down the "what are we" road

the other alternative is you can stay in haphazard land continuing with her and just hit up other women

12-30-2021, 11:52 PM

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Originally Posted By legbroke⏩

Whatever it was, it sounded like a relationship was completely out of the question. Even if you think she might have secret feelings, I'd tone yours down to protect yourself. Willingly continuing to attempt a relationship with this chick sounds self-destructive.

Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩

i'm trying to get you to think on your own. i remember in the last thread you were mad at what she said and it seemed more like you didn't want her. but that she was what was left

and then this thread is kind of a continuation on this.

it seems more like you don't like her but like more of the opportunity she brings you - easy access to poosy

i dont know if you've articulated the situation exactly, because you made it seem like she insulted you pretty hard but then you just said she sent a text saying "i want you"

but i feel like in your shoes i prob would have ghosted her after she said "humans"

my gut tells me she likes you you're just not used to control.. which is why i said i feel like she's pushing you. and i think she'd hit you up

and after you ghost her for a bit you're gonna know where you stand more.

and if you wanted to continue it you can and tell her you didn't like her "human" response. i'd be a little manipulative cause i think she's being manipulative

but i feel like this is a way for her to show her true colors without you continuing down the "what are we" road

the other alternative is you can stay in haphazard land continuing with her and just hit up other women

makes sense. i don't have a lot of experience with dating so appreciate all the non troll responses. I think im just gonna tone down my enthusiasm a bit and not try to pursue her so hard. if she loses interest, so be it.

12-30-2021, 11:52 PM

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Well OP it could be that the chick isn't letting you off the hook by bringing up a subject like that in that way.

Maybe she thinks if you want to be exclusive and call her your girlfriend that you should be a man and ask her as such.

What's next if you propose to a girl are you going to say in casual convo all Seinfeld style "Have you heard about this marriage stuff? What is the deal with that?" and expect her to just say "Yes" to you.

If you want a relationship then ask her, don't expect her to volunteer.

Look, you're my best friend, so don't take this the wrong way but, in 20 years if you're still here postin' in hhhnnnggg threads, beggin' for mod reps, and braggin' about whales you harpooned from POF, I'll f'in kill ya. That's not a threat, that's a fact, I'll f'in kill ya. You got somethin' none of us have, and you don't owe it to yourself man, you owe it to me. Cuz tomorrow I'm gonna wake up and I'll be red, and I'll still be a socially awkward/FA. And that's all right.

12-31-2021, 12:29 AM

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Originally Posted By johnnyboi123⏩

my self esteem is ****ed beyond repair m8, not going to suddenly get better at 34. The general rule is if you ever have to ask yourself if a chick is really into you, then she's probably not or she would have made it very clear that she was. I might be a bit autistic but not dumb,but i don't have another option at the moment. it's either her or being alone. maybe being alone is better for my mental health at least.

You're going to get hurt bad bro. You're justifying her sisters actions? come on!!! You need to do a swift change or it's GG

12-31-2021, 06:26 AM

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Shocked, absolutely blown away that a guy this bets, is in to Asian women.

Couldn't get more cliche beta than OP.

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12-31-2021, 06:28 AM

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Brutal.

12-31-2021, 06:39 AM

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Above posters are fake Chads.

A true Chad tells a girl how he feels and doesn't care how she reacts. You were true to yourself.

Just keep plowing and start looking for other options.

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12-31-2021, 06:43 AM

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JFL if you aren't kicking her to the curb every week and having her grovel back to you.

If you don't set yourself up as the prize and make her do everything she can to win your affection you dun goofed.

Make it easy and she'll just get bored and take you for granted.

Never go all in with your feelings. Never be the one to chase. Once that dynamic changes you can't get it back. Better to cut bait and move on.

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12-31-2021, 06:46 AM

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After reading just the title I already knew you were a beta **** and were about to get rektd.

Fuking lulz at the response.

You got a lot of learning to do boyo.

There is but one path....we kill them all.

12-31-2021, 06:51 AM

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Her being 24 explains her response.

But don't be too hard on yourself, OP. Enjoy what you have.

12-31-2021, 06:53 AM

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Sounds like you're just around until she comes across someone more interesting, better keep that in mind before you play yourself like a fool

Uncontrollable behavior with some psychopathic tendencies

12-31-2021, 06:55 AM

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Originally Posted By Immichaelski⏩

This happened to me once. Chick was staying at my place every weekend and even Christmas. It was 6 months and still didn’t want to put me on ********. I asked her what are we and she ghosted me 🤷🏼‍♂️

Have banged women for almost a yr before they said anything to me wondering where it was going.
Made the mistake of asking a chick if she wanted to be exclusive after banging a few times long time ago and yeah i got ghosted also. LMFAO!
so I stopped doing that, just sexed and let them figure it out.

12-31-2021, 09:17 AM

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Damn bro

At least she didn’t hit you with the “ We are Farmers! Bum ba-dum bum bum bum”

12-31-2021, 09:36 AM

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Don’t ever take a 24 year old “woman” seriously. They are full on retards at 24, will use you, dump you for something different and then try to crawl back after they realize their fuk up. Don’t ever love a woman brah

12-31-2021, 09:41 AM

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12-31-2021, 09:57 AM

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As others have said, don't get overly attach bro. Look for other options, become less emotionally responsive and be confident in yourself. Use this as a learning experience and don't get burned here. Your self pride/worth is more valuable than her poosy srs. I'd rather be alone than be used by some sloot.