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A woman's ultimate weapon: "I don't feel comfortable around you anymore"
09-03-2016, 06:38 AM
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I think you may as well resign, OP... lmao.
As a few others have said - she is going to make your life there difficult now.
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...
I've been through enough professional (and even a menial job) to know how this goes down. Either you call her out on it by going to the boss etc and having her being disciplined (could be done in extreme situations where you DO NOT want to talk to her first), approach her privately to discuss (works), or do this publicly and face a big fallout.
Everytime she thinks of you etc now, her blood pressure will go up. A way you could alleviate this situation is to quietly and calmly get her aside one day, and apologise for how you went about this and how it would have humiliated her etc.
Or you know, you could just let pride get in your way (like many misc'ers), and wait til things get really bad.
One thing you need to remember - the way MISC usually talks about women and dealing with them =/= real life!
As a few others have said - she is going to make your life there difficult now.
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...
I've been through enough professional (and even a menial job) to know how this goes down. Either you call her out on it by going to the boss etc and having her being disciplined (could be done in extreme situations where you DO NOT want to talk to her first), approach her privately to discuss (works), or do this publicly and face a big fallout.
Everytime she thinks of you etc now, her blood pressure will go up. A way you could alleviate this situation is to quietly and calmly get her aside one day, and apologise for how you went about this and how it would have humiliated her etc.
Or you know, you could just let pride get in your way (like many misc'ers), and wait til things get really bad.
One thing you need to remember - the way MISC usually talks about women and dealing with them =/= real life!
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09-03-2016, 06:41 AM
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Originally Posted By BieberFeverBrah⏩
why didnt you just tell her you dont care about her feelingsits quite embarrassing. I work with a team of 3 people, this person casually mentioned that my team "leans too heavily" on her team (asking questions).
I personally make a point to never bother them, and my team is even more vigilant about not bothering them. I was offended by her accusation, and asked her to give me an example. She couldn't do it. I pushed it further:
"Really? No example? Not a single one? Anything? Hello?"
She clammed up. For some reason, there is nothing I hate more than someone who clams up when they know they are wrong. It's not that hard to say "ok maybe I was wrong."
She snapped when I said:
"So you have no examples, this is a total fabrication right? Why are you so quiet now? Are you that afraid to admit you're wrong?
She exploded.
"AFRAID? AFRAID? OF YOU???LOL!"
Then asked me to go into a private office where she told me that I'm not a good person, I'm mean, and she doesn't feel comfortable around me anymore."
I got rekt.
I personally make a point to never bother them, and my team is even more vigilant about not bothering them. I was offended by her accusation, and asked her to give me an example. She couldn't do it. I pushed it further:
"Really? No example? Not a single one? Anything? Hello?"
She clammed up. For some reason, there is nothing I hate more than someone who clams up when they know they are wrong. It's not that hard to say "ok maybe I was wrong."
She snapped when I said:
"So you have no examples, this is a total fabrication right? Why are you so quiet now? Are you that afraid to admit you're wrong?
She exploded.
"AFRAID? AFRAID? OF YOU???LOL!"
Then asked me to go into a private office where she told me that I'm not a good person, I'm mean, and she doesn't feel comfortable around me anymore."
I got rekt.
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09-03-2016, 06:49 AM
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Originally Posted By ChristosC⏩
Good luck getting anywhere professionally, if you seriously think this advice is good."Then make like the tree and fuk off"
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09-03-2016, 06:54 AM
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Originally Posted By BieberFeverBrah⏩
You lost the high ground when you argued with her in the first place.That would have been funny, but I would have lost the high ground.
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09-03-2016, 06:56 AM
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OP you should have done this. Say am I scareing you? then just grab her hair and sniff real hard she wont **** with you again.
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09-03-2016, 07:05 AM
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Originally Posted By liftasaurus⏩
And you say to yourself - "They feel that I'm above theirs league genetically therefore they hate me. Even if I did approach some of them I get denied because xxx feel I'm above her league." - so you are back in business.she's telling your female coworkers that you're creepy now too and they've all labelled you. your life at that place is literally over.
09-03-2016, 07:06 AM
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a mans ultimate weapon
indifference and showing her actions/words have zero impact on you
however since this is work it's entirety different
I would suggest going to supervision and filing statements on this , SRS
if something really is going on you need to settle this if not she is lying and will be shown as such
coworkers will think twice about making harassment claims or other work related issues if you show that you are willing to bring it up for investigation
go to supervision and write statement about what happened and what was said
indifference and showing her actions/words have zero impact on you
however since this is work it's entirety different
I would suggest going to supervision and filing statements on this , SRS
if something really is going on you need to settle this if not she is lying and will be shown as such
coworkers will think twice about making harassment claims or other work related issues if you show that you are willing to bring it up for investigation
go to supervision and write statement about what happened and what was said
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09-03-2016, 07:12 AM
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Originally Posted By keels141⏩
Can you imagine what the exam would look likeWhat would the syllabus look like though? There would be absolutely no structure to it, everything is answered by "because I felt that way".
Question 1: There is a problem, but it doesn't matter... it's just that, nevermind forget about it
09-03-2016, 07:12 AM
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Originally Posted By AD117⏩
Professional language is really soft though, you don't need to scream at someone to apologize in front of others. You look like a nutjob.Depends on the situation brah. Losing credibility in-front of others needs to be corrected sometimes. Especially when it's attacking the credibility of your entire team to bolster someone elses team. She clearly started that chit, and thats bs
-Your team leans too heavily on mine
-Hmm, I haven't really seen that, can you give me an example?
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-Oh, um, well we'll have to watch for that...
^That's how OP should have handled it. Professionally, respectfully. Your coworkers aren't stupid, they can tell the accuser is full of chit. They don't need him to scream and flip over a table like he's in some courtroom drama.
09-03-2016, 07:15 AM
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Originally Posted By BieberFeverBrah⏩
should have responded with...its quite embarrassing. I work with a team of 3 people, this person casually mentioned that my team "leans too heavily" on her team (asking questions).
I personally make a point to never bother them, and my team is even more vigilant about not bothering them. I was offended by her accusation, and asked her to give me an example. She couldn't do it. I pushed it further:
"Really? No example? Not a single one? Anything? Hello?"
She clammed up. For some reason, there is nothing I hate more than someone who clams up when they know they are wrong. It's not that hard to say "ok maybe I was wrong."
She snapped when I said:
"So you have no examples, this is a total fabrication right? Why are you so quiet now? Are you that afraid to admit you're wrong?
She exploded.
"AFRAID? AFRAID? OF YOU???LOL!"
Then asked me to go into a private office where she told me that I'm not a good person, I'm mean, and she doesn't feel comfortable around me anymore."
I got rekt.
I personally make a point to never bother them, and my team is even more vigilant about not bothering them. I was offended by her accusation, and asked her to give me an example. She couldn't do it. I pushed it further:
"Really? No example? Not a single one? Anything? Hello?"
She clammed up. For some reason, there is nothing I hate more than someone who clams up when they know they are wrong. It's not that hard to say "ok maybe I was wrong."
She snapped when I said:
"So you have no examples, this is a total fabrication right? Why are you so quiet now? Are you that afraid to admit you're wrong?
She exploded.
"AFRAID? AFRAID? OF YOU???LOL!"
Then asked me to go into a private office where she told me that I'm not a good person, I'm mean, and she doesn't feel comfortable around me anymore."
I got rekt.
If you feel uncomfortable about lying at work, maybe you picked the wrong job. Should I let HR know about your derogatory verbal attacks against my team?
or since you were in private, you could've played her game & added, "or how you just threatened to make up a story to try to get me in trouble?"
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09-03-2016, 07:44 AM
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You're double fk'd if management likes her and/or aren't buddies with you.
They are going to think of you as the problem unless this girl has a history of doing this. They don't want to create a perception that their work area is a place where a powerless female is allowed to be bullied by a gym bro.
Like someone else said, you may be able to resolve this, but start looking for a new job. srs. It'll be this company's loss in the long run.
They are going to think of you as the problem unless this girl has a history of doing this. They don't want to create a perception that their work area is a place where a powerless female is allowed to be bullied by a gym bro.
Like someone else said, you may be able to resolve this, but start looking for a new job. srs. It'll be this company's loss in the long run.
09-03-2016, 07:46 AM
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This means they are seeing someone else. And by seeing I meant they are taking loads
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if she goes to HR with that, then its curtain's for you OP
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One thing i learned in the office is females are our overlords, be nice to them and nice things will happen to you. Most places I work females are either my bosses, or my bosses are whiteknighting any females that work there.
Thats why I always give money for those friday brunches, or birthday lunches etc.
I also bring in cakes and snacks for everyone in the team.
and am on good terms with all of them.
You tried to beat the system thinking you are equal or better than a female... Wrong you are not.
Let me leave you with a quote so you can better yourself for future jobs coz you will most likely be fired from this one.
"Beyonce ~ Who run the world? Girls! (Girls) Who run the world? Girls!!"
you dont like it, piss off to Mars mate
Thats why I always give money for those friday brunches, or birthday lunches etc.
I also bring in cakes and snacks for everyone in the team.
and am on good terms with all of them.
You tried to beat the system thinking you are equal or better than a female... Wrong you are not.
Let me leave you with a quote so you can better yourself for future jobs coz you will most likely be fired from this one.
"Beyonce ~ Who run the world? Girls! (Girls) Who run the world? Girls!!"
you dont like it, piss off to Mars mate
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It's never a good idea to argue directly with other people at work. If I'm in a meeting and want to **** all over someone, I usually address the entire room and explain very carefully why what was said is dumb as fuk. That way I'm not arguing with any one person in particular, but I'm still calling them out.
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Lol,it sounds like you're the kind of person who lacks social grace. Women aren't directly confrontational.
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Originally Posted By deltbrah⏩
This may rustle some Miscers. Until they realise that men are the ones who did this.One thing i learned in the office is females are our overlords, be nice to them and nice things will happen to you. Most places I work females are either my bosses, or my bosses are whiteknighting any females that work there.
Thats why I always give money for those friday brunches, or birthday lunches etc.
I also bring in cakes and snacks for everyone in the team.
and am on good terms with all of them.
You tried to beat the system thinking you are equal or better than a female... Wrong you are not.
Let me leave you with a quote so you can better yourself for future jobs coz you will most likely be fired from this one.
"Beyonce ~ Who run the world? Girls! (Girls) Who run the world? Girls!!"
you dont like it, piss off to Mars mate
Thats why I always give money for those friday brunches, or birthday lunches etc.
I also bring in cakes and snacks for everyone in the team.
and am on good terms with all of them.
You tried to beat the system thinking you are equal or better than a female... Wrong you are not.
Let me leave you with a quote so you can better yourself for future jobs coz you will most likely be fired from this one.
"Beyonce ~ Who run the world? Girls! (Girls) Who run the world? Girls!!"
you dont like it, piss off to Mars mate
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"fck off then"
or in this new age we live in:
"Fck off then, go sit in your safe space"
or in this new age we live in:
"Fck off then, go sit in your safe space"
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Shouldn't have been arguing to begin with but at that point I probably wouldn't have bent the knee and just accepted what she said. Would've probably laughed at her, rolled my eyes and said "REALLY? You're uncomfortable around me because YOU decided to call me out and then couldn't provide examples when I asked for one? That's pretty pathetic." then probably said some **** about how you found what she said to be offensive yadda yadda.
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Originally Posted By RC2008⏩
this 100xTHis LOL..
I literally avoid women like the plague at work. I talk to them, but in a strictly professional, but friendly manner. They have no idea how to deal with that situation in a manner that would require drama and it works just fine for me.
I literally avoid women like the plague at work. I talk to them, but in a strictly professional, but friendly manner. They have no idea how to deal with that situation in a manner that would require drama and it works just fine for me.
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I have worked with good and bad people of both sexes.
Guys cause less problems at work. Most are either neutral with you, leave you alone and or just want to bullchit about hobbies. The problem guys are the ones who get competitive and pride themselves on being smarter, stronger etc better than you. When I worked in product develpment some of the younger engineers were total b!tches to work with. Again, 2 out of 3 guys are easy to work with.
With women its mostly how they feel. Women like to talk on average something like 4 to 5 times? As much as men each day. At work they talk about the most stupid mundane chit and if you dont entertain them they write you off as an azzhole. Cakes. Birthdays. Snacks. Talking about their cats and watching netflix as a hobby. Its mind numbing. You cant turn and ignore them otherwise they see you as a cold/distant type which causes issues (seriously got flack for this once)-- its never to your face either. THIS IS THE DANGER they bring. They tell other women on the low behind your back and tell the manager and then its a real issue because good luck convincing 80% of people against you vs her. She already won the over that you arent a team player because you laughed at her for calling her pet cat her "boyfriend" or something equally insane
I find the best women to work with are those who you share a mutual attraction or respect with or those ones who act/feel slightly maternal towards you. They can be some of the best colleagues. Unfortunately I usually find 1 or 2 at most each place I work. Women who have actual feelings for you -- and if you dont like them -- thats a problem at work, too. I get people cant control who they are attracted to, but if you show zero interest in dating a coworker, they can become total c**ts.
Also women in senior roles -- I find they often look fown on you as a resource and not as much a person. Whereas women in other teams or below you in the hierachy are way easier to work with.
With men you can usually get away with a quick head nod and a joke.
With women you have to explain what you did over the weekend and think they get to evaluate you.
Just some anecdotal experience.
Guys cause less problems at work. Most are either neutral with you, leave you alone and or just want to bullchit about hobbies. The problem guys are the ones who get competitive and pride themselves on being smarter, stronger etc better than you. When I worked in product develpment some of the younger engineers were total b!tches to work with. Again, 2 out of 3 guys are easy to work with.
With women its mostly how they feel. Women like to talk on average something like 4 to 5 times? As much as men each day. At work they talk about the most stupid mundane chit and if you dont entertain them they write you off as an azzhole. Cakes. Birthdays. Snacks. Talking about their cats and watching netflix as a hobby. Its mind numbing. You cant turn and ignore them otherwise they see you as a cold/distant type which causes issues (seriously got flack for this once)-- its never to your face either. THIS IS THE DANGER they bring. They tell other women on the low behind your back and tell the manager and then its a real issue because good luck convincing 80% of people against you vs her. She already won the over that you arent a team player because you laughed at her for calling her pet cat her "boyfriend" or something equally insane
I find the best women to work with are those who you share a mutual attraction or respect with or those ones who act/feel slightly maternal towards you. They can be some of the best colleagues. Unfortunately I usually find 1 or 2 at most each place I work. Women who have actual feelings for you -- and if you dont like them -- thats a problem at work, too. I get people cant control who they are attracted to, but if you show zero interest in dating a coworker, they can become total c**ts.
Also women in senior roles -- I find they often look fown on you as a resource and not as much a person. Whereas women in other teams or below you in the hierachy are way easier to work with.
With men you can usually get away with a quick head nod and a joke.
With women you have to explain what you did over the weekend and think they get to evaluate you.
Just some anecdotal experience.
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