Good to see others on this forum have happy marriages. Sad how much negativity often surrounds marriage here.

Reps to my fellow happily married miscers!

Been married almost 6 years now and everything is great. If you find a good woman, don't see what is Beta about it. My wife makes good money and we both try and live similar financial lifestyle as we did in college. She likes to do all the things that I'm into, (Hunting, shooting, riding motorcycles, playing paintball, video games), but is there for "other" fun as well. We both had the day off yesterday and this was the the first part of my day

Woke up
Wife gave me a bj
took a shower together
We ate cinnamon toast crunch and watched home alone
Went to gym together

Enjoy you're random sloots miscers, I'm good with my lifestyle

Most seem to be living the DINK life though (dual income no kids). Things seem to go south when kids arrive.

There have been times when I've hated it, and times when i loved it.

I think timing is one of the biggest problems when i got married.

These things can work, but they take fukkin work men. Here's my advice if you want to get married one day.

-same core values
-together at least 5 years
-financially stable
-in your late twenties at least
-strong physical and mental attraction
-support each other's dreams and hobbies

There were several things missing in the beginning that took a toll on our marriage. Things got waaaay better, but it took more work than it should have. Every relationship is different though.

Things i would have changed

-gotten my degree and career in check
-whore around until i got tired of ****ing everything

Fellas in your early twenties, you will not be the same person when you are in your late twenties i assure you. If you think you found the right one, be patient.

Speaking from my own experience, from my core friend group of 10 from my youth, only 2 guys has divorced to this point.

It would be perfect if they took every law pertaining to marriage and family, and then went the complete opposite fuking direction. All this "no fault divorce" sh*t is just horrific. If it works out, I can imagine there's no better feeling, but it's nearly full risk on the male these days.

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This is a big issue. I don't gamble. When I go to Vegas, I don't spend a penny on rolling the dice. Yet marriage is betting 50% of everything you own that this person is never going to leave you. That's FCKING INSANE.

Also, talking to a firefighter the other day. After 10 years of marriage, their partner (if they get divorced) gets 50% of their pension for the rest of their life. How...in...the...fck...is...that...legal...

I've been blessed in that pretty much all of my family remains happily married, so I've had a lot of good examples growing up.

That being said... still not sure if it's for me. At this point I definitely don't want to get married, but I'm not sure if that's because I haven't met "the one" yet or because it's becoming increasingly harder to find a decent partner without a sketchy past who is cool

Serious post for you ****ers:

Got married then divorced about 8 months ago. It was probably the worst experience of my life towards the end. Going to really consider the points brought up in the misc before even contemplate doing it again. I'm a medical student, with -200,000$ to my name yet she still came out of it 10 grand richer somehow. Free rent, free food etc. Manipulation, fake love all of it was there. I think when you have a 50% chance of knowing if the girl really loves you or not then it's tough to justify marriage. I am happy for the brothers on the misc it worked out for. I'll compile a few things I learned from this massive failure and others:

(1) Never get into a relationship unless you are happy and comfortable with yourself. Do not seek a companion in hopes that you can rely on them to fill a void in your life. Too many people do this whether they want to admit it or not.

(2) She doesn't "love" you until you **** up and she forgives you and still has your back. You get into a huge fight and she still wants to **** that night cause she knows you need it. She doesn't use sex as ransom. She's there for you when you are at the lowest of low and the highest of high points in your life. No matter how successful, people have bad days and good days. If she's really into you, she'll be sucking you off when you are at the ****tiest and best versions of yourself.

(3) Don't get into a relationship with a woman you violates your unconditionals(i.e things you like to do). Sure, in a relationship you need to compromise but I'm taking about the absolute things that you can't live with out. It's up to you to know what that is.

(4) Keep yourself fit and healthy for you not her and secondly, always stay on your game. Just cause you are in a relationship doesn't mean you should stop spitting game, dressing well and keeping healthy. You don't want her to get fat and ugly, neither should you. Also, you don't want to get kicked to the curb and be 40 pounds heavier with fatceps and a beer belly to being starting the dating game with.

(5) Avoid women with too many guy friends, or a woman with who is way to engaging and free with the opposite sex. I'm sure many of you disagree or want to debate but it is what it is. Goes both ways too. You can't be ignorant to assume that she's the only girl for you and you are the only guy for her. If she's constantly opening up to guys and guy friends it'll be much easier for her to transition on if something happens between you. There's a multitude of reasons why two people should be professional in this matters in a relationship. Don't go flirt with the big titty co-worker and pretend you don't want to **** her. Avoid too much confrontation with the opposite sex while in a long-term relationship.

(6) Keep yourself clean and your surroundings clean. Don't date a slob or be the slob. That was me and it cost me. It's a turn off if you smell bad and you keep your place consistently dirty. Do laundry. Sure if for a few days your room is a little unorganized it's cool, but all the damn time - nope.

(7) Have you actually had a conversation with this chick? Or is it superficial bull****? You want this to be your girl yet you all can't even watch a movie you both like, music you both like or even anything to talk about that you are both interested. Hmmm. Girls aren't guys - don't expect her to be into all of your hobbies but you all have to be able to chill and truly enjoy your company. You gotta be able to let loose around her.

(8) If you find out she talks **** about you to her family behind your back. Move on.

Of course there are times when I'm unhappy, but that's life regardless of marital status. 99% of the time I'm glad that I got married.

If you talked to me when I was in my early 20's I would have emphatically told you that I never wanted to get married or have kids. Life changes, priorities change, interests/hobbies change. Then I met the right woman, and starting a family was what I wanted to do.

Now I've got an awesome family that I truly enjoy spending time with. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely still need some time by myself here and there, but that's normal. Raising kids isn't easy but it's the most rewarding thing I'll ever do. If teaching your son how to be a man doesn't bring you happiness, I don't think anything ever will.

I'm kinda like this but minus the arguments and with the feeling of wanting to sleep around still. Not sure my marriage is forever. Too many hot women around (that I could pull cos I'm sexy af).

I don't understand half of what you say. Maybe I had a stroke in my sleep or you just have poor grammatical skills. Either way your post is like reading a story written by a first grader.



To the OP

I don't know and why do you care, just don't get married if you don't think you'll be happy

Don't let the misc fool you or sway views towards women.


there a sloots all over the place, that's been American society since the beginning . It's just more in the public eye, all over the internet , etc.


About to have my 5th anniv. , and we're very happy together . I'm actually healthy and eat better since i've been with her, since I eat less fast food/ bull chit processed food.

but when you DO get married, top 3 pieces of advice I can give :

1. Pick someone you COMPLETELY trust. a healthy marriage IMO shares finances with each other, and you compromise on many things. if you are frugal, and she spends $$$ like crazy, chit ain't gonna work.

2. It's gotta be more than just attraction. Get a girl with SOME decent level intelligence. She doesn't have to be college educated, but boy it helps. Conversations with complete dumb asses ain't gonna work in the long run.

3. You better have some interests together. Sports, traveling, outdoor activities, movie genres , live concerts, a few things. If she wants 3 kids and to be a stay at home mom , and you want to travel the world every summer/ go to party together, something's gotta give.


GL boyos

In bold is the only drawback to being married IMO. Just such a natural thing to be attracted to new females, you get like 10x more into it when you are with a new person. Being around a new female is one of the best experiences in life: the endorphins, the hormones, it is truly a fantastic feeling.

The hormone release is your body telling you that this is a natural thing and it's what you should be doing.

It's a shame that married people just have to push down that urge constantly for the sake of fitting into society, it must slowly kill them inside and make them secretly despise their partner.

LOLOLLOLOLOL thank you for introducing me to the DINK lifestyle. that chit is hilarious. i'm gonna use this for the rest of my life. greatness and reps

Married
Piitb last night, the kind where she's in doggy position and I'm squatting down pounding it
That is all

Been married 34 years. i can say it has not been easy there was good and bad. But I can say it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I've had a great life and much if not most was from marrying this amazing, difficult, exstrodinary women.

Did you get married when you were 3? Strong avi bro

Just like lifting weights, most miscers probably can't cut the married life because it requires work and dedication. But for those of us that put in the time and effort it is immensely rewarding

I had that issue until I met my wife. I knew by the third date I would marry her. Four years later, we tied the knot. Best lesson I learned from that is that you shouldn't have to "work" to be into someone. You will honestly know when the right person is there once everything feels easy and flows well.

You're hanging out with the wrong kind of girl if that's the case.

most guys in here saying they are happy to be married are relatively young, mid thirties or earlier, haven't been married long at all in the scheme of things. Would love to see threads like this 20 or 30 years from now when there will hopefully be more middle aged and older miscers, see how many of them are still happy about getting married.

I think it displays an increased level of commitment, although we also plan to have children shortly and I feel being married is definitely a better set up for that because of the increased commitment. There are also some legal and taxation benefits, naturally, by making it official, although a lot of that could be gained through being "legally married" via cohabitation, as well.

With regard to how things feel, it does feel a lot the same. We were together for four years prior to marriage, so the routine is largely the same. Our wedding was wonderful though. I still get emotional thinking about certain aspects of that day. The first time I saw her wearing her wedding gown, standing up at the alter with her hands in mind, rubbing her hands gently. Her having difficulty not being overcome with emotion at the altar as she stumbled to get through the vows, tears of pure happiness streaming down her face. That made it worth it. Feels great to be able to introduce her as "my wife" today. I wouldn't ever go back to being single, personally.

Your latter statement is true, but that's why I believe people really need to vet their future wife/husband and make sure they're fully in alignment with one another on the major issues. I have to say, talking with friends who have been through divorce I've noticed that there's always a few common denominators between each case, typically involving ignoring early warning signs that there would be a problem, or too much focus on oneself and not the other. I think if you're in alignment on the essentials and each partner works to make the other happy, it's very enriching.

Happily married for 14 years now. Got married 3 days before my 30th birthday so a little later in life.

It's not all sunshine and roses, but it's worth it. As Podunks mentioned, she needs to not only be your lover, but your best friend.

Of my core friends of 8, only 1 has been divorced.

So much this! I sometimes shudder thinking back to women I dated prior to meeting my wife. This describes some of them, but I was going through what I think a lot of Miscers go through and trying to rationalize it because I was either otherwise lonely or, "well, I like this about her, so".

Take it from me brahs, NEVER take that attitude. The people who everyone here is saying that are all jaded about their marriage and want to divorce and move on are the kinds of folks who settled for the wrong reasons. The right person will be someone you don't have to hesitate about.

My wife is my best friend, and these days, there's no one else I'd rather spend my time with than her.

Then go to some old people forum and ask them

Love this thread, real stories from both sides. This is why I misc.

Thanks, I just turned 60 and feel a lifetime of lifting does a body good, i just uploaded a climbing pic taken the week of my birthday in April.

See that's enraging. 10 years could get you half of someone's whole pension fund? Fuking disgusting. What's worse is the laws reasoning behind it is a sitcom reading. How can they even read it and go: "Yeah, we're fuking dumb". I know the political reasons why it's in place, it would just be nice one day people got their balls back, and then redo all the family laws.

Happily married crew