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Thread: How to make friends (End of loneliness threads) (GTFIH for life gainz)

post 1513158281 07-23-2017, 06:18 PM
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OP got blocked from actual real friens in life, posts walls of book on how to achieve success, I'll admit it's 350 times better than another FA thread where makes me feeling that personal communication is so hard for some of you, I think it's a lack of effort, fear of rejection, and lack of confidence...u must work on those as much as the big 3 lifts...good day sweet prince
post 1513158361 07-23-2017, 06:18 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yes I don't want more friends and don't like to socialize. I'm lonely but for someone whose company I really enjoy, not for the general socializing that most people like.
To meet one person whose company you really enjoy, you have to meet a whole lot of people whose company you don't enjoy much. It's like playing soccer, 90 minutes of running around so you can spend 3 seconds scoring a goal.

Months or years of socialising may be what's needed to meet that one person.

As well, maybe you don't like socialising for the same reason many people don't like doing this or that - you're not very good at it. But if you do it more you'll get better.

Again I point to the book about introverts,Quiet. In this the authour makes the point that an introvert becomes an extrovert when talking about their favourite hobby or work. So you may enjoy socialising more if you're doing it through something you like, like the OP and his Spanish language.
post 1513158981 07-23-2017, 06:24 PM
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Originally Posted By KyleAaron⏩
To meet one person whose company you really enjoy, you have to meet a whole lot of people whose company you don't enjoy much. It's like playing soccer, 90 minutes of running around so you can spend 3 seconds scoring a goal.

Months or years of socialising may be what's needed to meet that one person.

As well, maybe you don't like socialising for the same reason many people don't like doing this or that - you're not very good at it. But if you do it more you'll get better.

Again I point to the book about introverts,Quiet. In this the authour makes the point that an introvert becomes an extrovert when talking about their favourite hobby or work. So you may enjoy socialising more if you're doing it through something you like, like the OP and his Spanish language.
I've been meaning to read that book, Quiet. It keeps coming up. I tell my 13 yr old you have to throw it all out there and something will stick. But there will be some rejection. Just get over it and keep going and the rewards will come. I think working actors know all about persevering through rejection.
post 1513160081 07-23-2017, 06:35 PM
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Great pieces of advice repped, have friends already lol but nice to see interesting info like this
post 1513160671 07-23-2017, 06:43 PM
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Found something useful on the misc today
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post 1513267681 07-24-2017, 05:04 PM
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post 1513534891 07-26-2017, 11:38 PM
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Wow, this thread couldn't have come at a better time for me.

I actually did a lot of what you talked about in this thread my senior year of high school/first semester of college. I was already in really good shape from sports, but by taking better care of my appearance, and making an effort to go out more and make new friends outside of my little circles, I ended up with a great social life, talked to tons of girls, felt like I was on top of the world etc etc..

But then I went through so much **** through undergrad, I can honestly say I was just thinking today that it sucked the life out of me. Don't get me wrong life has definitely been great for a few periods of time since, but I have been getting down on myself lately about living at home, working all through school, doing a STEM degree, and only socializing with people from my home town for the past several years. I was at a bar the a couple months ago after finals where a lot of people I used to party and hang out with back in my first semester at the dorms were hanging out at and I remember it hitting me how much I missed out on the whole "college experience".

Now my friends from high school are slowly but surely starting to settle down, and it had me feeling really nervous about the future. Did I really just spend the last 4 years of my life busting my ass and being broke just for all my friends to start settling down right when I'm finally about to actually start life? Did I dun goof?

This thread is remind for me, especially having done it before, how much power we have to create the sort of life we want for ourselves, and the steps to get there. Right now I'm feeling extremely fortunate to still have a year of undergrad left. Gonna focus on making it a great one and setting myself up for the sort of lifestyle I want to have.

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post 1513535701 07-26-2017, 11:52 PM
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been lonely most of my life despite being introverted I do have strong extroverted tendencies finally decided to buckle down and start self improving getting to a pretty good point self improvement wise but i'm still pretty lonely. lately i've been trying to get better at interacting with people since I spent time becoming a better person. trying to come up with a strategy on how to start meeting more people. Obviously you meet people by introducing yourself but I don't run into to many people I would talk to. Hopefully in the future i'll be prospering with many "friends" untill then I got a lot of work ahead of me.
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post 1513727971 07-28-2017, 03:42 PM
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Originally Posted By Realclout⏩
been lonely most of my life despite being introverted I do have strong extroverted tendencies finally decided to buckle down and start self improving getting to a pretty good point self improvement wise but i'm still pretty lonely. lately i've been trying to get better at interacting with people since I spent time becoming a better person. trying to come up with a strategy on how to start meeting more people. Obviously you meet people by introducing yourself but I don't run into to many people I would talk to. Hopefully in the future i'll be prospering with many "friends" untill then I got a lot of work ahead of me.
That's what this thread is all about bro - creating those opportunities to have interactions, which then opens up the opportunities to make friends
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post 1516355921 08-20-2017, 10:53 AM
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post 1516357481 08-20-2017, 11:10 AM
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post 1516357891 08-20-2017, 11:14 AM
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It's a good thread, but making a conscious effort to make friends with strangers just because of your own loneliness is a ridiculous notion.
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yeah this. I do have a couple of friendships that I maintain but I don't want any more. Friendships cost resources like time, money, energy, calories etc. I'd much rather just do my own thing.But I am very lonely for a relationship.
Lol, I think 90% of women these days are single. And why? Because of social media and tinder generation. They are looking for a man that doesn't exist.

Funny as well because if they happened to meet the men they lust after on social media, the facade gets shattered and they realise they don't want him, but the guy that was in his pictures and video clips.
post 1516358951 08-20-2017, 11:25 AM
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post 1516366991 08-20-2017, 12:53 PM
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post 1516443791 08-21-2017, 05:09 AM
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Good thread OP, not breaking new ground per sé but still practical and well structured. I'm in the UK, London, and have given Meetup a good go recently wanting to meet new ppl, I have the problem now of meeting the kind of ppl I want to meet lol, those on the same wavelength with a good enough sense of humour, some depth etc.
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post 1517399181 08-25-2017, 06:47 PM
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Originally Posted By TugOfPeace⏩
I think 90% of women are in relationships that they settled for.

I live in the heart of a major US city downtown (chicago) and honestly, 99% of the couples I see I question how the fuk the guy even landed the girl he's with.

99% of dudes have a major flaw in their fashion sense, they have shiit haircuts, they have weak frame, they are double digit bodyfat, they don't have money, etc.. all they really have is personality, I'll give them that.

I honestly (100% srs) have only seen a handful of "Chads" with attractive women by their side. Misc is completely delusional.
I'm with you there man. There are certain elements of delusion on the Misc regarding this "requirement" to look like a chad in order to get an attractive girlfriend. I come from the south, where the "good ol' boy" stereotype is in full display, with the chubby but sweet-natured guy is with the near-model girl.
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post 1517399731 08-25-2017, 06:52 PM
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I just can't see myself trying to talk to random people to make friends. I have to work with them or something. I will never be the guy who randomly approaches people because it looks weird and reeks of loneliness
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Originally Posted By LurkoLantern⏩
I'm with you there man. There are certain elements of delusion on the Misc regarding this "requirement" to look like a chad in order to get an attractive girlfriend. I come from the south, where the "good ol' boy" stereotype is in full display, with the chubby but sweet-natured guy is with the near-model girl.
I have seriously thought about moving to the South just so I can wife up a girl with a southern accent, and is just absolutely beautiful.
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GOAT thread. Loved your skincare one too. Do you take requests? Would you be willing to do one of these on strictly dating and women? The way you broke this thread up step by step is absolutely perfect, and I think one similar on dating would be incredibly beneficial.
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Originally Posted By ScramFranklin⏩
GOAT thread. Loved your skincare one too. Do you take requests? Would you be willing to do one of these on strictly dating and women? The way you broke this thread up step by step is absolutely perfect, and I think one similar on dating would be incredibly beneficial.
A dating/women one isn't a bad idea. I'll have some more free time closer to Christmas. Hope ya'll had a great Thanksgiving!

I feel like my thread was tailor-made as a New Year's idea. If it needs a bump around then I'll try to add some more stuff
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post 1535718961 11-26-2017, 01:41 PM
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Originally Posted By LurkoLantern⏩
A dating/women one isn't a bad idea. I'll have some more free time closer to Christmas. Hope ya'll had a great Thanksgiving!

I feel like my thread was tailor-made as a New Year's idea. If it needs a bump around then I'll try to add some more stuff
There's already one on How to get women:http://forum.obnoxiousbrutes.com/showth...hp?t=124193391
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Excellent, quality thread. good job OP
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i tried, OP. but it doesn't seem to work out. i've been alone for too long. my brain can't make these connections anymore. i can't relate. it's like trying to make a feral child speak.

good luck to the rest of y'all though.

i'm going to try and focus on doing activities outside, and be active. but active and alone.

this way, i can still live some form of life
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Came in here looking for friends.. but not even I will read that bs.. Will continue to bang women who have boyfriends and learning everything about them and try to be there friend that way..
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I've read stuff like this 500 times before, but I know that this time is different, because things are gonna change, I can feel it ! I like myself, and, doggone it when I look in the mirror I see a Lioncel. Yes, a lioncel !! It's not hopeless ! I'M GONNA WIN

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