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post 1517630801 08-28-2017, 02:57 AM
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Originally Posted By ArtCK⏩
I noticed that I am on Tinder as soon as I get out of bed, swiping for like 30 minutes. Through the day I often go to my phone just to swipe. When I found a good match, I lose interest quite fast - it is more about the hunt than the actual closing I would say. However, it also gives me my sugarwall action from time to time and I know I need to invest time but sometimes it get's crazy.
I understand what you're saying 100% and you're absolutely correct. It is the hunt. Tinder has made it almost too easy. I can't seriously use the app because it kills the hunt and almost feels like cheating. I will say though, "sliding in DMs" and "tinder game" is definitely something I'm bad at though. I'm way to direct, and don't like the bs small talk. Enjoy its convenience I suppose, but don't rely on it.
Originally Posted By ArtCK⏩
Oh, and as of September I will stop smoking the green icky for some time. I won't do this alone, with some other friends I almost see everyday in the evening just to smoke and chill/watch movies/failarmy/game. I need some new things to do but can't seem to find what I want to do. Recently graduated and busy with starting my own company. I know I could do this basically 24/7 but from time to time I need to do something else.

Repped and I might come up with some new questions.
I commend you. I'm just going to name things that I do, which are pretty generic & not unique at all:

Run
Hike
Surf
Gun Range
Climbing Gym
Read

You could always try putting that time to use such as taking up a new language to learn, or get into IT programming "self taught" classes. Wish I had more for you, but you just got to figure out what you like.
post 1517630821 08-28-2017, 02:58 AM
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Originally Posted By TrickHenry⏩
met a girl went to her place. didn't phuck cus i was too nervous couldn't get it up. she was fine. we spent all of sunday in bed.. now she asking me to watch new episode of GoT with her tonight..

too nervous what do.. and i already watched the episode.
Go over there. Life is too short man. You're not doing chit right now, you may as well put yourself out there and potentially walk out with a new positive experience. You're never going to get over that hump if you let nerves and doubt control your life.
post 1517631001 08-28-2017, 03:06 AM
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
I understand what you're saying 100% and you're absolutely correct. It is the hunt. Tinder has made it almost too easy. I can't seriously use the app because it kills the hunt and almost feels like cheating. I will say though, "sliding in DMs" and "tinder game" is definitely something I'm bad at though. I'm way to direct, and don't like the bs small talk. Enjoy its convenience I suppose, but don't rely on it.
I do rely on it, since I absolutely don't like going out and spend my days pretty much at home, at the gym or at my friends. As a matter of fact, being direct often helps so you might be lucky
I commend you. I'm just going to name things that I do, which are pretty generic & not unique at all:

Run
Hike
Surf
Gun Range
Climbing Gym
Read

You could always try putting that time to use such as taking up a new language to learn, or get into IT programming "self taught" classes. Wish I had more for you, but you just got to figure out what you like.
To be honest, all those things are kinda too generic and don't seem like too much fun. I kinda miss the social aspect when I spend my day at home. Being with people is fun but when you are in the place you have lived for your entire life, you get in a freakin' bubble.

Shiiiiiit, need to get my business running and move lol.
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
Go over there. Life is too short man. You're not doing chit right now, you may as well put yourself out there and potentially walk out with a new positive experience. You're never going to get over that hump if you let nerves and doubt control your life.
ok i'll do it.. never phucked a girl sober tho.. find it awkward

got any sex tips?
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post 1517631191 08-28-2017, 03:16 AM
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Originally Posted By TrickHenry⏩
got any sex tips?
-Take your time
-Foreplay
-Read how she reacts to what you do and how she's breathing. If it works, don't try something else.
- Not everyone is into hardcore porn style pounding, so that's why I'm putting an emphasis on reading and taking your time.
Originally Posted By ArtCK⏩
To be honest, all those things are kinda too generic and don't seem like too much fun. I kinda miss the social aspect when I spend my day at home. Being with people is fun but when you are in the place you have lived for your entire life, you get in a freakin' bubble.

Shiiiiiit, need to get my business running and move lol.
Yeah brah, your business will take over your life anyway
post 1517632391 08-28-2017, 04:01 AM
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deleted tinder despite a minimum of success bc it bothered me to always get flaked on, ignored etc. decided to give more effort in real life.
what dating strategy would you recommend to a tall, but mediocre looking brah? what helped you with gaming girls in real life (i volunteered for an organization for more confidence and started to attend more parties, putting myself out there). what can i learn to do better?

i feel i get insecure around girls, esp if i wanna attract them. but im not shy around regular people etc. how can i improve my abilities and overcome this obstacle?

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Originally Posted By TrinnieBuu⏩
I'm newly single, at 25, refuse to get tinder or any other online dating platform. Wut do?
Where do you live? I'll hook you up with Chad, Wang, or Tarzang
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post 1517632851 08-28-2017, 04:21 AM
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Originally Posted By Sternentreue⏩
deleted tinder despite a minimum of success bc it bothered me to always get flaked on, ignored etc. decided to give more effort in real life.
what dating strategy would you recommend to a tall, but mediocre looking brah? what helped you with gaming girls in real life (i volunteered for an organization for more confidence and started to attend more parties, putting myself out there). what can i learn to do better?

i feel i get insecure around girls, esp if i wanna attract them. but im not shy around regular people etc. how can i improve my abilities and overcome this obstacle?

thx brah
The bold is something that I want to commend you on. It's not easy putting yourself out there in uncomfortable environments, but it's definitely a necessary step.

I'd like to diagnose, why you get insecure around what you want to attract:
1. Because they are attractive, you put them on this pedastool. You're already giving them way too much value, when in reality they fart, pick their nose, and **** like the rest of us. They are the "regular people" that you aren't shy around.

2. We need to work on your self esteem. You have to believe that you are deserving of an attractive chick, but not only should you believe it, you need to put it into practice and actually be deserving. Make sure you are always putting your best foot forward. Lets focus on the positives: You're tall, you're in good shape, you're decent looking, and you have the desire to change your life for the better. That's a lot to work with already. And women usually settle for a lot less.

Since you've already had tinder with some success, I want to tell you to download it again, but have no expectations so that you don't get let down by flakes. It's a good tool to get you exposed to women. I think you just need to continue to talk to women, ugly or attractive. It can even be some old ass grandma. Even if it's just small talk, that exposure will set you up for success and diminish the unnecessary value you create in your head.

At the end of the day, you need to realize that nothing really matters in the grand scheme of things. You're not always going to be successful. Once you can accept that you're going to take the L sometimes, the easier it will be.
post 1517633361 08-28-2017, 04:36 AM
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will the knicks make the playoffs this year?
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Originally Posted By TrinnieBuu⏩
I'm newly single, at 25, refuse to get tinder or any other online dating platform. Wut do?
Chit trinnie ...wut happened? You seemed happy
post 1517633631 08-28-2017, 04:45 AM
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Top tips for building upper pecs?
Shreds > cheats
post 1517633771 08-28-2017, 04:48 AM
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Originally Posted By whiteIveySon⏩
will the knicks make the playoffs this year?
i've got some bad news
Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
Chit trinnie ...wut happened? You seemed happy
Unaware on that entire thing. I didn't even know she was in a relationship. Best of luck to her
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Top tips for building upper pecs?
Hit incline & hit incline hard. At least twice a week, and even three times if you can manage. I don't put a lot of stock in Over Training, so if you disagree, take my advice with a grain of salt
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why can I get hard for porn and masturbation but not sex
what should I do?
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I'm interested in getting back with a very recent ex, but am unsure how to restart talking to her/make it clear I'm still interested. We stopped seeing each other due to reasons mostly outside of my/her control (think crazy ex bf), although I did do some questionable things under pressure (think violent threats towards family if op didn't do X & Y).
I've no idea how she feels about me atm, but we've not spoken for around 1.5-2 months, even though things between us ended on semi-good terms

Should I just go at it and try my best to be genuine, but be prepared to take a huge L ? This broad is a 10 in so many ways, feel like I'll regret not trying again soon
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post 1517633941 08-28-2017, 04:52 AM
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Originally Posted By Nicklol⏩
why can I get hard for porn and masturbation but not sex
what should I do?
Your brain needs some reprogramming after years of depending on the fantasy of sex in porn to get off. No FAP time
post 1517634171 08-28-2017, 04:57 AM
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Originally Posted By FijiSotia⏩
I'm interested in getting back with a very recent ex, but am unsure how to restart talking to her/make it clear I'm still interested. We stopped seeing each other due to reasons mostly outside of my/her control (think crazy ex bf), although I did do some questionable things under pressure (think violent threats towards family if op didn't do X & Y).
I've no idea how she feels about me atm, but we've not spoken for around 1.5-2 months, even though things between us ended on semi-good terms

Should I just go at it and try my best to be genuine, but be prepared to take a huge L ? This broad is a 10 in so many ways, feel like I'll regret not trying again soon
always be prepared to take the L

Now that that's out of the way, I'm not quite sure why you think that she is a 10 under the circumstances that she put you in. She threatened you? Am I reading that right? Or was it her crazy ex bf? Regardless, these are pretty big red flags, and you have to be ready to walk. I'll ignore the part of me that wants to steer you away, and I'll answer your question, but I need more details.

What was said when things ended? & How long was the relationship?
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
always be prepared to take the L

Now that that's out of the way, I'm not quite sure why you think that she is a 10 under the circumstances that she put you in. She threatened you? Am I reading that right? Or was it her crazy ex bf? Regardless, these are pretty big red flags, and you have to be ready to walk. I'll ignore the part of me that wants to steer you away, and I'll answer your question, but I need more details.

What was said when things ended? & How long was the relationship?
Negative, ex-bf was the one making the threats not her. Definitely large red flags if I'm honest

Relationship was roughly two months long, and she said at the end of it that she's not ready to get back into another committed relationship so soon after her last, even considering how well I'd treated her
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post 1517635101 08-28-2017, 05:16 AM
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Originally Posted By FijiSotia⏩
Negative, ex-bf was the one making the threats not her. Definitely large red flags if I'm honest

Relationship was roughly two months long, and she said at the end of it that she's not ready to get back into another committed relationship so soon after her last, even considering how well I'd treated her
Sounds like a cop out. When someone tells you they aren't good enough, or aren't ready,alwaysbelieve them. I would highly suggest maintaining NC. You're definitely dodging a bullet. & if you ignore my advice, which I get & have been there, just expect an L. I don't see this situation going the way you'd like it to go.
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
Sounds like a cop out. When someone tells you they aren't good enough, or aren't ready,alwaysbelieve them. I would highly suggest maintaining NC. You're definitely dogging a bullet. & if you ignore my advice, which I get & have been there, just expect an L. I don't see this situation going the way you'd like it to go.
Will heed your warnings and maintain NC, Misc has been right too many times to go against advice given lmao
Cheers brah, would rep again if I could
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Originally Posted By FijiSotia⏩
Will heed your warnings and maintain NC, Misc has been right too many times to go against advice given lmao
Cheers brah, would rep again if I could
She'll have more respect for you since you didn't come crawling back. Best of luck
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
What do you mean final. Can't it be like an indefinite thread?
I just meant for now, I'll definitely keep this up as long as I can
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Originally Posted By TrinnieBuu⏩
I'm newly single, at 25, refuse to get tinder or any other online dating platform. Wut do?
Damn sorry it didn't workout, hope you are doing well.

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Drvillain yea it's a little too early to get back out there, we shall see though.
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
I'm sorry things didn't work out. Hope you are feeling ok.

If you change your mind later about online dating just let me know and I can give you some tips to navigate it.
I saw you in that tinder thread a lot, definitely an interesting read. I'm just gonna do me for a few months and see where that goes.
Originally Posted By atomicbbgum⏩
Damn sorry it didn't workout, hope you are doing well.

You guys are too sweet! I'm fine, in hindsight, it's for the best I think.
They said she's gone too far this time

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Originally Posted By TrinnieBuu⏩
Drvillain yea it's a little too early to get back out there, we shall see though.



I saw you in that tinder thread a lot, definitely an interesting read. I'm just gonna do me for a few months and see where that goes.



You guys are too sweet! I'm fine, in hindsight, it's for the best I think.
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Originally Posted By hoganrulz⏩
i have listened to many toni braxton songs today in your honour <3
We all know how you feel about T Swift, but her country albums have the best breakup songs.
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yes when I started online dating last year I was completely clueless and had trouble navigating it. So I started reading and posting in that thread and got a ton of good info and good advice. It's a redpill thread though and they don't mince words over there, so if you're sensitive and prefer gentler advice don't go in there. Only go in if you have thick skin and are ok with redpill type advice.

It's really good that you're just going to focus on yourself for a while, and hopefully after that you'll just meet someone naturally irl which is greatly preferable over online dating. For me I had to go online because I'm super introverted and don't enjoy socializing, so I rarely meet any guys irl. But lots of more social people do and that's really a much better way if that works for you.
I have pretty thick skin but redpillers can be very annoying. At least the ones in that thread are still trying to get out there. I'll hit you up in PM when I'm actually ready to date again. I don't foresee having too much trouble meeting men bc of my location. But meeting men I actually want will be pretty difficult.

Sorry for hijacking the thread Dr.
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Originally Posted By TrinnieBuu⏩
We all know how you feel about T Swift, but her country albums have the best breakup songs.
i bet she has skinny veiny feet tho. wait, wat?
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