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post 1520744161 09-27-2017, 02:49 PM
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post 1520744311 09-27-2017, 02:50 PM
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Youre only 37.

Youre only born in 1980.

I thought you said you were an old guy?
post 1520744621 09-27-2017, 02:53 PM
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I'm 36 and like the noods
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post 1520744821 09-27-2017, 02:55 PM
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Originally Posted By PisseninMisc
Just because you were too arrogant and dense to take advice from your old man doesn't mean everyone does the same. I think the OP did take his assumptions a couple of steps too far but there is absolutely no problem with giving and receiving advice at any age.

I wish more older men were open to giving advice to young men instead of chitting on them. I also wish young guys listened more. It's partly genetic, being a man we're born with some of this macho bullchit, but as I'm got older I personally tried to get over it. You're 42 bro, I'm sure you can give some good advice to young people. Don't hold out on them just because some of it may fall on deaf ears.
I give and take advice all the time, but for relevant things. You need to know about basic finance, not looking like **** as you age, how to fix cars, raise kids, and how to treat people, I am your man, some things are universal and timeless. Talking about how I dated girls in a time before technology other than 14.4 modems.....not so much.
post 1520744841 09-27-2017, 02:56 PM
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Originally Posted By ImpressiveGainz
37 is old now? What is this, 3000 BC?
Forreal. Saw old in title, was expecting some 50y/o bitching how hard it was to see some ankle back in the day. Instead I got a guy who was a teen in the 90s claiming he's old.

Unfortunately, you can't just go up to a girl and chat her up as easily nowadays. It isn't a part of culture anymore and is just seen as weird. I'm only 26, but I'm lucky enough where I didn't have to take an interest to social media (I snatched up a girl 8 years ago so I gave up really early, heh). I'm taking some accounting classes in the nearby community college to learn payroll, and some of the younger bros now ask for your IG handle instead of your number. One of them looked at me like I was a serial killer when I told him I don't have an account, srs.

Your advice sadly won't work anymore in today's culture. A good amount girls prefer to filter dudes through tinder, and the rest meet guys through friends or work (which is the closest we'll get to the old days). The best advice that can be given to a young man during this day and age is to tell them to expand their social circle, go out to more social gatherings, and to meet girls that way instead of on a dating app.

cliffs:

-op not old
-regardless, times have changed
-expand social circle and go out more if you want to meet girls the old-school way
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post 1520744881 09-27-2017, 02:56 PM
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Originally Posted By Issobolic28
Youre only 37.

Youre only born in 1980.

I thought you said you were an old guy?
Well my kids think I'm old.

And I knew I'd be received as old-fashioned here in making this thread (I was right). So I thought I'd lean into that rather than get hit with it by others, thus facilitating an actual conversation.

I think it kinda worked?
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post 1520744991 09-27-2017, 02:57 PM
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Originally Posted By DrewDarden
Well my kids think I'm old.
Youre young to me....if it makes you feel better....
post 1520745231 09-27-2017, 03:00 PM
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Originally Posted By usera
I give and take advice all the time, but for relevant things. You need to know about basic finance, not looking like **** as you age, how to fix cars, raise kids, and how to treat people, I am your man, some things are universal and timeless. Talking about how I dated girls in a time before technology other than 14.4 modems.....not so much.
You think dating has been affected by technology but raising kids, basic finance, caring about appearance, caring about know-how of fixing cars/handyman skills and how people are treated has remained universal and timeless? That's not how I see things.
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post 1520746031 09-27-2017, 03:07 PM
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Originally Posted By Amino89
Hey man, gotta adapt with the times. I’m all for the traditional method of dating, but when 90% of my generation isn’t about that then what do you expect?
That 90% are the ones you want to avoid. At least as long term prospects.
Many people have zero social skills today. I blame social media and the Internet.
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i don't think online dating sites are any diff than real life , 95% of em are sloots , there is a good one somewhere , doesn't make it a bad method


i'm 51 ,oddly , before i read this post i was thinking , i keep looking and it keeps getting me more down at the quality and games


prob time to just get off those sites and face the fact i'll be alone for a while and just stop thinking about a partner all together
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Originally Posted By DrewDarden
Too bad. Maybe if he'd have raised you right, you wouldn't be such a flaming ******* today.
Says the guy trying to give love advice to FA's on the misc.

Fist yourself prick. I've got a great woman and would never let some 37 y/o tool who's probably getting cheated on tell me how to find a woman.

You kids must be embarrassed to have such a ******* for a father.
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post 1520748331 09-27-2017, 03:27 PM
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Serious anger issues being exhibited by the guy with the daddy issues. Everybody else is getting along fine.
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post 1520748491 09-27-2017, 03:29 PM
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post 1520748701 09-27-2017, 03:32 PM
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so you are 37 and married in 2002...married at 22.

Pops you must have many years of fine tuned dating experience with a large sample of woman.
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post 1520749061 09-27-2017, 03:36 PM
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Originally Posted By DrewDarden
Serious anger issues being exhibited by the guy with the daddy issues. Everybody else is getting along fine.
Have you told your kids that you're a one pump chump yet and can't please their mother? Or should I tell them?
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post 1520749371 09-27-2017, 03:38 PM
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Originally Posted By jedskeez
Forreal. Saw old in title, was expecting some 50y/o bitching how hard it was to see some ankle back in the day. Instead I got a guy who was a teen in the 90s claiming he's old.

Unfortunately, you can't just go up to a girl and chat her up as easily nowadays. It isn't a part of culture anymore and is just seen as weird. I'm only 26, but I'm lucky enough where I didn't have to take an interest to social media (I snatched up a girl 8 years ago so I gave up really early, heh). I'm taking some accounting classes in the nearby community college to learn payroll, and some of the younger bros now ask for your IG handle instead of your number. One of them looked at me like I was a serial killer when I told him I don't have an account, srs.

Your advice sadly won't work anymore in today's culture. A good amount girls prefer to filter dudes through tinder, and the rest meet guys through friends or work (which is the closest we'll get to the old days). The best advice that can be given to a young man during this day and age is to tell them to expand their social circle, go out to more social gatherings, and to meet girls that way instead of on a dating app.

cliffs:

-op not old
-regardless, times have changed
-expand social circle and go out more if you want to meet girls the old-school way
complete horsechit

op is 100% right.

i'm a 5/10 at best but i've smashed 8s and 9s purely from real life interactions - you would not find these sloots on dating apps, one sloot i'm smashing at the moment only now has a smartphone after i pushed her to get one.

i'm direct and can hold a decent conversation, this holds more weight than your ****go tinder or instagram account. could not imagine online dating, feels fake and gay.
Never take it personal, even when it is.

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post 1520749891 09-27-2017, 03:45 PM
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word.

I meet lots of girls and i'm just fun, bit silly and act like i really don't care (abundance). Women love a guy like that . STOP BEING CREEPY.

That means put down the youtube videos and start being normal. Be fun. Have something going on in your lives, don't be broke, lift and be a high value guy.

Never say anything to a girl you wouldn't dare say to a girl in person. Too many FA's are fa's cuz they're fukking creepy and weird. Just be normal. I'd like to see a NormalGuyPUA channel sometime.
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Originally Posted By DrewDarden
I'm 37 years old, and I married my wife in 2002. So for those of you who were still in elementary school during that time, let me explain what it was like to you: We met women in person. We had to be proficient with actually speaking to them and getting their attention through our words, actions, and actual appearance (not a filtered, angled photo on a dating site under perfect lighting).

We went out on a date, where we had to again make an impression. The other side of that coin is that so did she.

Why should you care? I just wanted to comment on this little dance that millennials often do where they meet on these dirty little dating/sex sites trying to get laid. Half the time you're just talking to a perverted dude, and that's a guarantee. You're sending a picture of your cock to a hairy dude whose pretending to be a girl. How does that make you feel?

Think about this: If you were a woman, would you want to be with/date somebody who texts out pictures of his dick? Likewise, why would you associate with a female so classless as to send nude pictures, whether through text or whatever messenger? I know it goes without saying, but if she'd send them to you online, she's sent them to a hundred dudes before, and no telling how many she's been with.

Why not show some class for yourself and expect some back. Be the kind of person who expects more from yourself and of your potential mate.

And don't tell me that all women are "sloots" or some other dumb coping mechanism you guys have come up with to explain your own inabilities to get with a proper woman. I promise you they exist and if you want one, you have to be the kind of person that she would want first. And a person skanking around on plenty of fish isn't that guy.

Cliffs-
-If she'll send nude photos to you, she;'s sent them to everybody else too
-Have some class if you expect to find a classy woman
-Don't do it online like a *******: Go out in the world and meet people.
-Ladies there's a message in here for you, too.

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1. you should only talk to someone online for like a week before you meet them in person. after that it doesnt matter how you met. you know them in person.

2. dont act like you werent sending cock pics out to every sloot on your AIM list in 2002. you arent fooling nobody. we know how chit went down in 2002, you had internet then. even welfare hoodrats had broadband in 2002.
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Originally Posted By elterrible987
1. you should only talk to someone online for like a week before you meet them in person. after that it doesnt matter how you met. you know them in person.

2. dont act like you werent sending cock pics out to every sloot on your AIM list in 2002. you arent fooling nobody. we know how chit went down in 2002, you had internet then. even welfare hoodrats had broadband in 2002.
Number 1 sounds reasonable.

Number 2 - LOL no I can honestly say I never sent anything remotely like that.
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post 1520751721 09-27-2017, 04:03 PM
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I know some dudes who date EXCLUSIVELY off of tinder, which i think is detrimental to their social life. What's wrong with doing both, OP?
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Social media has made dating so much easier. Follow a girl on IG, like her posts. If she likes yours you message her and Meetup. Way easier than going out and trying to spit game at them
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Originally Posted By Yero91
I know some dudes who date EXCLUSIVELY off of tinder, which i think is detrimental to their social life. What's wrong with doing both, OP?
Probably nothing. I don't have any real issue with online dating.
Originally Posted By DrewDarden
By the way, I'm not saying people shouldn't find dates online.

Actually I think it's probably a pretty useful thing for people to meet a wider variety of people.

My criticism is more about the people here who go to skanky dating sites asking skanks for nudes and then wonder why all women are "sloots."

I would still argue that there are decent people out there (especially in the real world, but probably online, too), but too many people now don't realize it because of where they are looking.
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Lol at thinking just because you married before social media that it will have any impact on spouse using social media to potentially cheat and send out vag pics to everyone.
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Originally Posted By Mercworx
Very well said. They don't understand a man looks for different qualities come serious gf or wife time. Seems like every girl puts half naked pics up now. Sure I hnnggg and I'd smash but you can forget about getting serious.

I also miss feminine qualities in women. I'm not trying to date a dude with teds and a poos. Please stop pretending you like football, beer and other stereotypical male activities. Put on a dress and be warm and soft.
I about roll my eyes out the back of my head at all the chicks that gush about how much they love football and beer. Sure there are some out there that do, but I'd bet it's less than 50%. According to the internets, all women love football and beer. just lolz.
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Originally Posted By DrewDarden
I'm 37 years old, and I married my wife in 2002. So for those of you who were still in elementary school during that time, let me explain what it was like to you: We met women in person. We had to be proficient with actually speaking to them and getting their attention through our words, actions, and actual appearance (not a filtered, angled photo on a dating site under perfect lighting).

We went out on a date, where we had to again make an impression. The other side of that coin is that so did she.

Why should you care? I just wanted to comment on this little dance that millennials often do where they meet on these dirty little dating/sex sites trying to get laid. Half the time you're just talking to a perverted dude, and that's a guarantee. You're sending a picture of your cock to a hairy dude whose pretending to be a girl. How does that make you feel?

Think about this: If you were a woman, would you want to be with/date somebody who texts out pictures of his dick? Likewise, why would you associate with a female so classless as to send nude pictures, whether through text or whatever messenger? I know it goes without saying, but if she'd send them to you online, she's sent them to a hundred dudes before, and no telling how many she's been with.

Why not show some class for yourself and expect some back. Be the kind of person who expects more from yourself and of your potential mate.

And don't tell me that all women are "sloots" or some other dumb coping mechanism you guys have come up with to explain your own inabilities to get with a proper woman. I promise you they exist and if you want one, you have to be the kind of person that she would want first. And a person skanking around on plenty of fish isn't that guy.

Cliffs-
-If she'll send nude photos to you, she;'s sent them to everybody else too
-Have some class if you expect to find a classy woman
-Don't do it online like a *******: Go out in the world and meet people.
-Ladies there's a message in here for you, too.

-inb4 thanksdad
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Yeah I remember dating in 2002. The difference is women had FAR less options in the early 2000's without social media and dating sites, meaning if you met someone and there was attraction + chemistry, there was a strong chance you'd smash (at minimum) and enter into some kind of courtship. Now attraction and chemistry mean very little because all the best looking men are just a swipe away on tinder. It was all downhill after MySpace..
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Well I'm an old ugly hag grandma, but 100% agree with OP.
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Not srs, OP speaks truth. But it will all be over soon anyways Boyo.


PS: OP also seems a bit salty
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Good advice sir. Deleted the apps and never went back. Had this nagging feeling that if I kept them, I was going to miss out on someone special from being distracted by whoever I met there. We'll see if the instinct was correct.
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