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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
It's more about looking at the influential males in his upbringing and his lifeI think I am scared because sometimes I feel that deep down my current bf who I love is not my best match. We are doing good together, sometimes amazing, sometimes bad. I had an ex who was more of that ´ideal´ you wrote, but I wasn´t as motivated to succeed as I am with my current bf. He was ideal in many ways, but something felt off and I wasn´t as happy. However I will have to reflect on my current relationship because time is passing by fast and I´m only getting older.
It looks like we can´t fking win with this love life, I´m so pissed off at the thought of failing in my marriage and I´m not even married. I think it gets complicated with kids, kids as lovely as they are, are a huge huge huge responsability, I don´t think I would divorce if I´d have kids if the reason of divorce was my love life. my current bf had a good father but he passed away when he was a teenager, so idk what to say about his idea regarding being a husband
It looks like we can´t fking win with this love life, I´m so pissed off at the thought of failing in my marriage and I´m not even married. I think it gets complicated with kids, kids as lovely as they are, are a huge huge huge responsability, I don´t think I would divorce if I´d have kids if the reason of divorce was my love life. my current bf had a good father but he passed away when he was a teenager, so idk what to say about his idea regarding being a husband
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
This sounds like the kind of person that was already a criminal with all of these personality flaws before you met him and eventually married himDark triad personality
Antisocial personality disorder
Narcissistic personality disorder
Alcoholism
Drug addiction
Extremely promiscuous with hookers/strippers
Lying constantly
Extremely manipulative
Emotionally abusive and controlling
Financially abusive (hiding money, lying about money, compulsive spending, squandering all our money)
Crime / prison time
Reckless and impulsive
Reckless driving, DUI, street racing
Antisocial personality disorder
Narcissistic personality disorder
Alcoholism
Drug addiction
Extremely promiscuous with hookers/strippers
Lying constantly
Extremely manipulative
Emotionally abusive and controlling
Financially abusive (hiding money, lying about money, compulsive spending, squandering all our money)
Crime / prison time
Reckless and impulsive
Reckless driving, DUI, street racing
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Originally Posted By UnderwearBandit⏩
Can confirm I am 8/10 searching for 10’sIt's mostly 8's searching for 10's, but only getting approached by 6's
also: sloots gon sloot
also: sloots gon sloot
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Originally Posted By anonkunbrah⏩
appears to be real and not a meme. makes sense that a culture with the highest suicide rates and long working hours would make this. brb work long hours then come back to empty cage like apartment and turn on your hologram machine and talk to it as a substitute for human touch and interaction. and they wonder why they go to the forests to off themselvesOnce again GOAT Japan mogging the rest of the world in handling dating problems
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Originally Posted By elterrible987⏩
Anytime I go to supermarket I just see baby boomer men and women, srs.appears to be real and not a meme. makes sense that a culture with the highest suicide rates and long working hours would make this. brb work long hours then come back to empty cage like apartment and turn on your hologram machine and talk to it as a substitute for human touch and interaction. and they wonder why they go to the forests to off themselves
It's like people under 35 don't exist. They're at home glued to electonics.
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What were your favorites in Europe ? Ever visit Estonia ?
I’ve gone on vacation over the summer to Barcelona and thought it was unreal. I’m sure living there would be a completely different experience though.
I’ve gone on vacation over the summer to Barcelona and thought it was unreal. I’m sure living there would be a completely different experience though.
Originally Posted By DoYouEvenNEM⏩
Anytime I go to supermarket I just see baby boomer men and women, srs.
It's like people under 35 don't exist. They're at home glued to electonics.
It's like people under 35 don't exist. They're at home glued to electonics.
02-15-2021, 01:32 PM
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Originally Posted By LurkoLantern⏩
I am 25, not 45. I still can find someone and settle.Unfortunately this is something that women SHOULD have been told about when they were 18.
On one of the chans, there's a recurring thread where guys post bumble pics/profiles of women that are >40 who still have "want kids someday" tagged. The images and profile descriptions these broken spinstresses post are the strongest "don't end up like me" warning I can think of that a young woman should see.
Being afraid of marrying someone & starting a family with him, only for a better guy to come along IS NOTHING compared to the waking nightmare of mental gymnastics that middle-aged single women have to jump through.
Replace the X with a 4:
https://boards.Xchan.org/pol/thread/...798#p308209798
There's actually a bunch of these threads, but I'm not adept at search that site very well
On one of the chans, there's a recurring thread where guys post bumble pics/profiles of women that are >40 who still have "want kids someday" tagged. The images and profile descriptions these broken spinstresses post are the strongest "don't end up like me" warning I can think of that a young woman should see.
Being afraid of marrying someone & starting a family with him, only for a better guy to come along IS NOTHING compared to the waking nightmare of mental gymnastics that middle-aged single women have to jump through.
Replace the X with a 4:
https://boards.Xchan.org/pol/thread/...798#p308209798
There's actually a bunch of these threads, but I'm not adept at search that site very well
Originally Posted By DoYouEvenNEM⏩
Cope. I´m an eastern european living in a western country for soon to be 6 years. I can marry guys like you daily if I want to. Also lmao at comparing russians to asian women. brb you forgot about the face, even if the body looks like a stick. furthermore, you cope even harder.What you're writing is pure fiction. I've done 2 years in Eastern Europe and trips all over. They might be getting this spam online but in real life they're not. I never see fellow foreign men in 2nd tier Eastern Europe (I don't stick to capitals and prefer smaller cities in each of these countries). And the typical woman in Eastern Europe, unless she decides to become a prostitute, just can't pack her bags up and relocate to Oslo to date 6'6" millionaires.
Eastern European countries are losing population faster than Western Europe due to retarded women in a nutshell.
BTW I lived in a beach resort in the Black Sea. Typical Russian woman in real life barely has ass or breasts. No padded bras at the beach. They literally have Asian girl bodies. They all look like **** after age 28 too.
Eastern European countries are losing population faster than Western Europe due to retarded women in a nutshell.
BTW I lived in a beach resort in the Black Sea. Typical Russian woman in real life barely has ass or breasts. No padded bras at the beach. They literally have Asian girl bodies. They all look like **** after age 28 too.
Originally Posted By amenhotepv⏩
Do you have any red flags that I should pay attention to ? btw your insight on the topic is welcomedIt's more about looking at the influential males in his upbringing and his life
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02-15-2021, 01:51 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
So I should find a cougar?Yes the issue of women’s age in dating is usually avoided by the media etc because people like to pretend it doesn’t matter. It would be amazing if women didn’t have to worry about age and can wait until they are much older to find a good husband. That is what the media and modern culture pretends but it’s just not true.
It’s taboo to talk about but the reality is that good dating options vastly decrease with age. Age is literally the most important thing. Much more important than looks because even if you look good for your age you’re still below someone who also looks good AND is young.
As to freezing eggs idk how to feel about that. It would be scary to me and I think it’s much better to just get pg naturally when you are young. But I guess it works okay for some women.
It’s taboo to talk about but the reality is that good dating options vastly decrease with age. Age is literally the most important thing. Much more important than looks because even if you look good for your age you’re still below someone who also looks good AND is young.
As to freezing eggs idk how to feel about that. It would be scary to me and I think it’s much better to just get pg naturally when you are young. But I guess it works okay for some women.
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Originally Posted By Bluku⏩
wow, never thought about this, any source or what can i search to learn more about it? (srs)Men have been 'interviewing' to gain access to reproduction since the beginning of human history OP. Women have always held the keys to reproduction.Today's human population is descended from twice as many women as men.
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Originally Posted By ChillMiscer⏩
you mean in the sense of men raising kids that they weren't even were not theirs? thats fukd mayne... rip brahs who lived before paternity testscuckoldry
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Originally Posted By RoxyFoxy22⏩
Just what I said about looking at the male influences and role models to watch out for all these guys trying to do the whole pump and dump thing. Other than that, nobody's perfect and nobody is going to live up to someone else's expectations all of the time so I'd look at it from the perspective of making sure you can accept and live with the other persons flaws which also requires you both to be open and honest with each other about your flawsI am 25, not 45. I still can find someone and settle.
Cope. I´m an eastern european living in a western country for soon to be 6 years. I can marry guys like you daily if I want to. Also lmao at comparing russians to asian women. brb you forgot about the face, even if the body looks like a stick. furthermore, you cope even harder.
Do you have any red flags that I should pay attention to ? btw your insight on the topic is welcomed
Cope. I´m an eastern european living in a western country for soon to be 6 years. I can marry guys like you daily if I want to. Also lmao at comparing russians to asian women. brb you forgot about the face, even if the body looks like a stick. furthermore, you cope even harder.
Do you have any red flags that I should pay attention to ? btw your insight on the topic is welcomed
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Originally Posted By SoutheastBeast1⏩
It’s not that difficult dude. She just doesn’t wanna hear about Dansby Swanson when she’s looking for a dick appointment.Yep, that's how it really is.
I also had different expectations when I was younger so I empathize learning the truth. I think most men aren't aware when younger that it really is the equivalent of job searching.
You can be totally "qualified" (if not over qualified) for a girl you approach and not get accepted. Likewise, you also see others who have "connections" weasel into roles (aka relationships) they're under qualified for.
Job searching is the perfect analogy, dead srs. Then once you get the job they basically own you and will drop you for any reason leaving you in financial ruin... hahaha
I also had different expectations when I was younger so I empathize learning the truth. I think most men aren't aware when younger that it really is the equivalent of job searching.
You can be totally "qualified" (if not over qualified) for a girl you approach and not get accepted. Likewise, you also see others who have "connections" weasel into roles (aka relationships) they're under qualified for.
Job searching is the perfect analogy, dead srs. Then once you get the job they basically own you and will drop you for any reason leaving you in financial ruin... hahaha
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02-15-2021, 08:10 PM
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Originally Posted By IronFeta⏩
Too shy, maybe.Fuark. How is that possible bro?
Never had to create a scenario to go on a "date ".
The sexual tension was there right off the bat , so the text/phone calls were about meeting up and mine or her's to bang and then I'd ghost
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Originally Posted By Toker095⏩
same. not 25 though25 and never went on a date crew
banging hookers is no different and cheaper than chasing
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Originally Posted By YoungMetro24⏩
Who said difficult? I have multiple jobs too. All I said was it’s comparable to searching for jobs.It’s not that difficult dude. She just doesn’t wanna hear about Dansby Swanson when she’s looking for a dick appointment.
I can see why you’d interpret the jobs analogy as hard though since you still live in your moms basement.
Metro just in here exposing himself as a jobless loser
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Originally Posted By Ironface⏩
Uh... you’re wrong. I never go into a date or chat with a girl thinking I Hope she likes me, mindset should always be how can she add value to my life?When I was younger (before the age of 15) I thought the man’s role in dating was to seek out a woman and it was the woman’s job to hope to be picked and feel lucky if a guy picks her.
In reality it’s the complete opposite. Men put themselves out there like in a job interview and hope some woman will like him enough to go out with him. Most of the time (unless they’re Chad) they get turned down, cheated on, dumped etc and left to lick their wounds.
This hardly ever seems to happen to women. Most divorces are initiated by women and most breakups are initiated by women. Most of the time, they just get “bored”.
So many ways in which the world is different to how I thought it was when I was younger
In reality it’s the complete opposite. Men put themselves out there like in a job interview and hope some woman will like him enough to go out with him. Most of the time (unless they’re Chad) they get turned down, cheated on, dumped etc and left to lick their wounds.
This hardly ever seems to happen to women. Most divorces are initiated by women and most breakups are initiated by women. Most of the time, they just get “bored”.
So many ways in which the world is different to how I thought it was when I was younger
Things change in a positive way when taking this approach
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Originally Posted By Dirtymanjames⏩
You are literally insane if you believe this. It doesn’t matter what your “mindset” is - reality is reality.Uh... you’re wrong. I never go into a date or chat with a girl thinking I Hope she likes me, mindset should always be how can she add value to my life?
Things change in a positive way when taking this approach
Things change in a positive way when taking this approach
Do you go into jobs looking to see what it can do for you? Of course. You still need to impress the other party. And more often than not, it’s the employer (in this case, girl) that turns the employee (guy) down, not the other way around.
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Originally Posted By DoYouEvenNEM⏩
this, 18-22 year olds for this guy as well, gonna play the field and settle down after 50 with a 24 year old thenAnytime I tried to open up to a 30-something women they love their rants / rambles about how they're more mature, more responsible, etc than a 18 to 22 year old.
But yet the single and childless ones in their 30s are always
1. Dead end Job (below $40,000 salary)
2. No Degree or Bad Degree
3. Put less effort in the relationship and more likely to ghost / cancel (even though their responsibilities are less than a 21 year old doing school + work).
Then the things you also mentioned too like women look ugly as **** in their 30s and 40s. A firm set of perky tits somehow always become weird looking half filled saggy balloons by 30. Tight asses get replaced with saggy fat ones with cottage cheese.
No thanks Jeff / no thanks Jeffina.
I only stick to 18 to 22 year olds if they're an option. Moving to Philippines when coronavirus travel restrictions end. Already have a couple penpals waiting.
But yet the single and childless ones in their 30s are always
1. Dead end Job (below $40,000 salary)
2. No Degree or Bad Degree
3. Put less effort in the relationship and more likely to ghost / cancel (even though their responsibilities are less than a 21 year old doing school + work).
Then the things you also mentioned too like women look ugly as **** in their 30s and 40s. A firm set of perky tits somehow always become weird looking half filled saggy balloons by 30. Tight asses get replaced with saggy fat ones with cottage cheese.
No thanks Jeff / no thanks Jeffina.
I only stick to 18 to 22 year olds if they're an option. Moving to Philippines when coronavirus travel restrictions end. Already have a couple penpals waiting.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
You can’t have it all, nobody canIdeal husband imo would be:
1) goodlooking - not model looks but cute and subjective physical attraction
2) good money - already successful or ambitious and on his way to being successful
3) good character - honest, loyal, loving, kind, no addictions, not abusive
4) compatible lifestyle and life goals - wanting similar lifestyle as you, wanting kids or not, etc
1) goodlooking - not model looks but cute and subjective physical attraction
2) good money - already successful or ambitious and on his way to being successful
3) good character - honest, loyal, loving, kind, no addictions, not abusive
4) compatible lifestyle and life goals - wanting similar lifestyle as you, wanting kids or not, etc
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Originally Posted By S0Jack3d⏩
You got that backwards. More like 90% of the women are courting 10% of the males.The problem is 90% of males are courting 10% of women. Everyone wants a single white female aged 18-35 whose not fat and hasn’t had kids. They only represent a small % of the population. It’s simple supply amd demand
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actually feel bad for women
they were sold the biggest lie in history
have your fun and sleep around while young and single and then find the man of your dreams when you are approaching 30
jesus christ lmao
they were sold the biggest lie in history
have your fun and sleep around while young and single and then find the man of your dreams when you are approaching 30
jesus christ lmao
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Because they are worthless whores. F falling in love with a little slut
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Originally Posted By LurkoLantern⏩
Unfortunately this is something that women SHOULD have been told about when they were 18.
On one of the chans, there's a recurring thread where guys post bumble pics/profiles of women that are >40 who still have "want kids someday" tagged. The images and profile descriptions these broken spinstresses post are the strongest "don't end up like me" warning I can think of that a young woman should see.
Being afraid of marrying someone & starting a family with him, only for a better guy to come along IS NOTHING compared to the waking nightmare of mental gymnastics that middle-aged single women have to jump through.
Replace the X with a 4:
https://boards.Xchan.org/pol/thread/...798#p308209798
There's actually a bunch of these threads, but I'm not adept at search that site very well
On one of the chans, there's a recurring thread where guys post bumble pics/profiles of women that are >40 who still have "want kids someday" tagged. The images and profile descriptions these broken spinstresses post are the strongest "don't end up like me" warning I can think of that a young woman should see.
Being afraid of marrying someone & starting a family with him, only for a better guy to come along IS NOTHING compared to the waking nightmare of mental gymnastics that middle-aged single women have to jump through.
Replace the X with a 4:
https://boards.Xchan.org/pol/thread/...798#p308209798
There's actually a bunch of these threads, but I'm not adept at search that site very well


Holy fawwwk at those crazy eyes.
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I don't think most guys want 10's, most guys I know would be happy with pretty much anything at this point and mostly everyone I know completely simps once they get into a relationship.
The problem is everyone jumps so hard headfirst into relationships they set a standard that can not possibly be kept up and as it dies down so does the relationship. I always tell my friends to chill tf out when they first start seeing a girl and blow everything off to be with her and make all these grand gestures because it sets an unsustainable standard. All of the sudden when you want to go out with the boys for a few nights or not buy her something she wants it's a big deal because all she knows from you is this wild commitment. I see it happen in 9/10 relationships.
I set the bar as low as possible off the start so it's either easier to get out if you aren't feeling it or easy to go beyond what you've been doing if you are.
The problem is everyone jumps so hard headfirst into relationships they set a standard that can not possibly be kept up and as it dies down so does the relationship. I always tell my friends to chill tf out when they first start seeing a girl and blow everything off to be with her and make all these grand gestures because it sets an unsustainable standard. All of the sudden when you want to go out with the boys for a few nights or not buy her something she wants it's a big deal because all she knows from you is this wild commitment. I see it happen in 9/10 relationships.
I set the bar as low as possible off the start so it's either easier to get out if you aren't feeling it or easy to go beyond what you've been doing if you are.
One day scientists are going to kill us all.
02-16-2021, 01:46 AM
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Originally Posted By CptClean⏩
lol 100% thisI don't think most guys want 10's, most guys I know would be happy with pretty much anything at this point and mostly everyone I know completely simps once they get into a relationship.
The problem is everyone jumps so hard headfirst into relationships they set a standard that can not possibly be kept up and as it dies down so does the relationship. I always tell my friends to chill tf out when they first start seeing a girl and blow everything off to be with her and make all these grand gestures because it sets an unsustainable standard. All of the sudden when you want to go out with the boys for a few nights or not buy her something she wants it's a big deal because all she knows from you is this wild commitment. I see it happen in 9/10 relationships.
I set the bar as low as possible off the start so it's either easier to get out if you aren't feeling it or easy to go beyond what you've been doing if you are.
The problem is everyone jumps so hard headfirst into relationships they set a standard that can not possibly be kept up and as it dies down so does the relationship. I always tell my friends to chill tf out when they first start seeing a girl and blow everything off to be with her and make all these grand gestures because it sets an unsustainable standard. All of the sudden when you want to go out with the boys for a few nights or not buy her something she wants it's a big deal because all she knows from you is this wild commitment. I see it happen in 9/10 relationships.
I set the bar as low as possible off the start so it's either easier to get out if you aren't feeling it or easy to go beyond what you've been doing if you are.
I've made that mistake multiple times. You get into a girl and want to treat her right, but then when you start treating her like a 9/10 instead of a 11/10, chit falls apart.
Latest girl I've been with has been a FWB for the last 4 years. Have had 2 long term relationships in there (never cheated). But now after treating her like chit this whole time I'm like oh wow you're actually kinda cool, maybe we should do something sober together.
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02-16-2021, 02:00 AM
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Originally Posted By AgRyan⏩
My problem would be thinking "what's wrong with her that she's just been hanging around for 4 years and not figured something else out"lol 100% this
I've made that mistake multiple times. You get into a girl and want to treat her right, but then when you start treating her like a 9/10 instead of a 11/10, chit falls apart.
Latest girl I've been with has been a FWB for the last 4 years. Have had 2 long term relationships in there (never cheated). But now after treating her like chit this whole time I'm like oh wow you're actually kinda cool, maybe we should do something sober together.
I've made that mistake multiple times. You get into a girl and want to treat her right, but then when you start treating her like a 9/10 instead of a 11/10, chit falls apart.
Latest girl I've been with has been a FWB for the last 4 years. Have had 2 long term relationships in there (never cheated). But now after treating her like chit this whole time I'm like oh wow you're actually kinda cool, maybe we should do something sober together.
One day scientists are going to kill us all.
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