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Thread: How to handle (like an adult) dude from gym making my wife uncomfortable SRS

post 1657559503 03-08-2022, 11:20 AM
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Originally Posted By bsmit107⏩
Some douche has recently starting just shooting the chit with her and now she's telling me its making her uncomfortable.

-He talks to her only when I'm not there and has approached her in Kroger every time I'm not there.
-He wont talk to her when I'm at the gym and he doesn't even say hi when WE see him at the store.
-Culminated yesterday when he asked for her Instagram. She said "I didn't know what to do so I told him what is was" she showed me and said she's not going to accept the request....which he sent to her literally as he was walking away from her as I was walking in.

I'm to a level of maturity that I wont handle this like I would have 10 years ago, but it's starting to piss me off just at the level of disrespect. I am in no way threatened or worried by this, but the fact that she says it makes her uncomfortable makes me know it's time to intervene. We're both mostly extraverts and the social type and neither of us like confrontation so we are pretty "go with the flow" and can talk to anybody but again this dude is creeping her out.

In b4 all the typical misc bs.....but looking for a legit mature way of handling this.
WTF!
Why is your wife even entertaining any notion or attention from this guy?
She is putting out signals if he is repeatedly approaching.

My wife gets lots of looks and guys will approach her when I'm not around but she never engages with them.
She shuts them down and it ends there.
post 1657559563 03-08-2022, 11:21 AM
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Dunno that I'm on the side of you talking to him OP, but if you go that route, I'd mention something about how she's complained to you about feeling uncomfortable/not being interested/thinking that creep dude is looking for something more.

He obviously is kind of weasel-y, so I wouldn't put it past him to keep on pushing, especially if he thinks there's at least a chance that only you don't want him talking to her.
post 1657559613 03-08-2022, 11:21 AM
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100% your wifes fault. LOL

im macking on bishes with BF's all the time and they reciprocate, I'm sure they tell their BF the same story kek
Originally Posted By truthhurts⏩
you gotta wonder if part of her likes the attention..

or she'd of shot him down way earlier
if OP wasn't braindead he wouldve figured this out
post 1657559653 03-08-2022, 11:22 AM
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Originally Posted By Paul
WTF!
Why is your wife even entertaining any notion or attention from this guy?
She is putting out signals if he is repeatedly approaching.

My wife gets lots of looks and guys will approach her when I'm not around but she never engages with them.
She shuts them down and it ends there.
Imagine her not doing this and coming home and telling you how she can't do it, and you'd be like "okay, lemme go and ask misc.".
post 1657559673 03-08-2022, 11:23 AM
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Originally Posted By Lucas5814⏩
flattered tbh. never had a gif made about me....misc first in however many years here.

repped ph-ggit.

btw; its true...im' more vocel than incel. going out with conventionally attractive women (srs btw) makes it very difficult to entertain less thans. That said would still smash uggos with HTC bodies #notproudofit
post 1657559693 03-08-2022, 11:23 AM
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Fire your wife.

He probably just wants to lick her puss so he can taste your dink.
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post 1657559783 03-08-2022, 11:24 AM
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Today OP met his wife's bull and learned he was a cuck.
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post 1657560053 03-08-2022, 11:29 AM
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I understand not wanting to be confrontational but there are ways to shoot someone down without being rude. All she really had to do was say she's married and then not make eye contact with him. She could also say she's in a hurry to finish her workout and blow him off that way. In response to someone asking for an ig/social media I'd say I'm sorry, I'm married and I don't give that out. Basically she should bring up the I'm married/my husband stuff often and not give him the time of day. I'm sure that would deter him.
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post 1657560093 03-08-2022, 11:29 AM
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your wife doesnt respect you

she should tell the guy to piss off not you


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post 1657560173 03-08-2022, 11:30 AM
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Guarantee she's accepted his IG follow and is right now furiously rubbing her clit looking at his pics while OP complains online.
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post 1657560233 03-08-2022, 11:31 AM
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Make him uncomfortable you pussy. That isn't illegal. You can use your WORDS. You're overthinking this based on some idea of what you think mature is. Your brain has you cut off from your BALLS.
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post 1657560253 03-08-2022, 11:31 AM
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Tell him to leave her alone. Don't ask. Don't demand. Simply "my wife doesn't want your attention, leave her alone. Thank you" or something along those lines. No need to be a prick.

I had a similar situation a few years ago when I brought my wife to my gym with a guest pass.

One of the employees that sells memberships approached her about joining.

Started bugging her for the next few weeks and was unprofessional.

Called him at his work, helped him remember my wife and told him to leave her alone.

It was awkward because he was a butthurt ph@ggot that wouldn't make eye contact from that point on or talk to me but he stopped and I still went everyday and got my workouts done.
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post 1657560263 03-08-2022, 11:31 AM
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Wait for him to leave the gym and run him over with your car

That’ll send a message
post 1657560473 03-08-2022, 11:34 AM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
I understand not wanting to be confrontational but there are ways to shoot someone down without being rude. All she really had to do was say she's married and then not make eye contact with him. She could also say she's in a hurry to finish her workout and blow him off that way. In response to someone asking for an ig/social media I'd say I'm sorry, I'm married and I don't give that out. Basically she should bring up the I'm married/my husband stuff often and not give him the time of day. I'm sure that would deter him.
Saying you're married just makes them say I just want to hang out as friends. Better to just say no so there are no follow up questions and it is not mean but just awkward.
post 1657560493 03-08-2022, 11:34 AM
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Shoot him with your pistol
Plant a knife on him to make it look like self defense
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post 1657560613 03-08-2022, 11:35 AM
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The guy seems like an Ahole but your wife has let it get way too far. If she can't put an end to a guy flirting with her, what will happen if she really finds herself in a dangerous situation? Seriously... talk to her about this.

Now on how to deal with the guy... I'm gonna guess your wife is unwilling/unable to at this point (hence why she brought it up to you).

Your options are:

A) Just tell the guy straight up, one-on-one that your wife feels uncomfortable around him and you're asking him to stop talking to her. If you go this option, it wouldn't hurt to let the front desk at the gym know everything that happened and they might keep an eye on the guy when he's on their property.

B) You stick with your wife at the gym and Kroger for a while and anytime you see that guy, GO OUT OF YOUR WAY to wave, say "hi" or even start small talking him. Make him feel uncomfortable. Put him on the spot. And make sure you squeeze your wife's ass right in front of him as you guys walk away.

C) Ask him if he and his wife would like to do XYZ one day (lunch)? Maybe he will realize it ain't happening with your wife. Gauge how he responds to that. You can always bail on the plans later.
post 1657560633 03-08-2022, 11:36 AM
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Whats her IG?
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post 1657560673 03-08-2022, 11:37 AM
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Originally Posted By Donny2Yucky⏩
dude the guy is a professional salesperson, it's normal for salespeople to follow up and try to convert leads into clients. i doubt he was trying to get into her pants.
Given Op's context I thought it went without saying that the guy was crossing the line but I guess I have to say it anyway: he was out of line.
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post 1657560873 03-08-2022, 11:39 AM
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Originally Posted By Donny2Yucky⏩
or just be a grown adult and be direct. all she has to do is say "i'm married and i'm not interested in you".

OP should not have to intervene. it is 100% the woman's responsibility to deal with these situations.
Lol Where did I say she shouldn't be direct? That's basically what I said she should do.
Originally Posted By Cass40⏩
Saying you're married just makes them say I just want to hang out as friends. Better to just say no so there are no follow up questions and it is not mean but just awkward.
Yeah I think not making eye contact and generally not being talkative and looking busy when he tries to approach as well would most likely nip it in the bud. Basically don't converse with the dude.
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post 1657560963 03-08-2022, 11:40 AM
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Originally Posted By Donny2Yucky⏩
dude the guy is a professional salesperson, it's normal for salespeople to follow up and try to convert leads into clients. i doubt he was trying to get into her pants.
Or maybe he was using his job as leverage to try and get his dick in. Obviously crossed a line for him to step in and tell the guy to **** off. Not to mention if the sales**** was only trying to make a sale he would have approached him and apologized for the misunderstanding. But he didn't and you are obese
post 1657561323 03-08-2022, 11:46 AM
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Lol NGL her giving her IG is pretty fkin stupid, she could have said anything to not give it
Think about your future kids IQ brah (if you don't have kids with her yet)

If she ain't stupid, maybe she thinks you are (to consider it a possible scenario)
post 1657561353 03-08-2022, 11:46 AM
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Originally Posted By Donny2Yucky⏩
it's an overreaction to get angry and tell the guy to fukk off for doing his job.
I didn't say to get angry. In fact, I said there is no need to be a prick about it.

What do you have against context?
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post 1657561623 03-08-2022, 11:50 AM
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If she isn’t brushing him off you’ve already lost I’m afraid. Going to confront him will make your defeat all the more brutal when he takes her.
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Originally Posted By Donny2Yucky⏩
it's an overreaction to get angry and tell the guy to fukk off for doing his job.
No it isn't. Anger isn't something we can choose to get or not. It's an emotional, a physiological sensation in the body. It' a real thing that doesn't need to be hidden. Human beings are capable of working through emotions instead of hiding them. To deny them is to deny reality.

There's a difference between letting your anger be known being productive instead of being a dick and not being productive.
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fuk her in the ass in front of the other guy
post 1657561723 03-08-2022, 11:51 AM
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Originally Posted By terrorgunt⏩
Today OP met his wife's bull and learned he was a cuck.
brutal
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Originally Posted By userO1ROTHKVUIA⏩
If she isn’t brushing him off you’ve already lost I’m afraid. Going to confront him will make your defeat all the more brutal when he takes her.
That's a phucking vantablackpill right there OP.
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She could wear headphones and ignore but no…she gives out her insta…now he thinks he can be the best two minutes of her life…

And still she doesn’t use headphones at the gym???
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Originally Posted By onelifterguy⏩
fuk her in the ass in front of the other guy
Or fuk him in the ass in front of her
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Next up:

OP's wife "loses" her wedding ring at the gym. It's subsequently found in the sauna with a crusty substance on it.
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