Still trying to figure out who "Pam" and "Jim" are lol.

LOL an Irish Goodbye is when you ghost someone in the middle of the date, basically. I'd only recently heard the phrase myself.

I'm surprised by the Love Languages thing. That used to mostly be popular in Evangelical / married ministries and now much like the enneagram it seems to have taken off into mainstream culture. Not a bad thing, but it's disorienting to see it on a freaking dating app.

Welcome to online dating, OP, where unless you check off 10/10 boxes for a woman physically, she won't give you the time of day and has unlimited options to not think twice about turning you down/ghosting you. That's just how it goes nowadays, mate. I was there online during the glory days of Tinder/Bumble where above average dudes still had a puncher's chance and even before Hinge became THE app where, again, normal dudes had a chance. Now, unless you're extremely handsome or 6 feet + 6 figures, you don't really have a shot anymore.

The advice is the same as it is for everyone who isn't one of the select few that pulls on the apps: let OLD supplement, but not be the source of, your dating life.

EDIT: No offense brah but you also need to get out more if you don't know what an Irish Goodbye is.

OMG another online dating thread.

Ok guys, listen, and listen well.

The vast majority of you ain't chit. I'm not saying that to rip on you, but you guys are just as unrealistic as the single moms who feel entitled to a millionaire.

For the guys complaining in this thread - give an honest accounting of what you actually bring to the table? Why would a cute young girl want you? Do you have your life 100% sorted out? Do you have a good stable profession? Are you ambitious? Are you growing in your career? What's your realistic career ceiling? How much money are you making now, and how much will you realistically make on your career path? Do you have your own home, own apartment, have roommates, or live with parents? Are you fit and in shape? Have you spent a minimum of 2 years in the gym consistently & eating right? Do you dress well, and is it appropriate for your age? Are you in control of your OWN life?

These are the most basic questions and basic building blocks, and I'd bet serious money the majority of you guys that are complaining about your online dating results are BELOW AVERAGE, certainly not anywhere near top 20%. Did you notice I didn't even include looks / height / weight / body? I'll tell you why.....cuz you'd fail before we even got there.

Here's another uncomfortable truth - most of you are using dating apps because deep down you KNOW you aint chit - you are using the app because you can't attract girls in "real life" either, it's total cope. If you can't pull girls in real life, what makes you think you can pull girls on the apps when it's even HARDER on the apps? I'll tell you why, because you're desperate and you're STILL swiping right on the fatties, the chubbies, the single moms, etc because you're below average and have no dignity or respect for yourself....most of ya'll will sleep with literally anything because you don't get laid.

So get off the stupid apps, stop wasting your time, and improve yourself into the MAN who would actually be attractive to a young physically / mentally healthy women.


So if you're going to complain - lets seriously have this conversation then - tell us the truth about yourselves so we can give you an honest evaluation of where you rank, and what you need to work on.


*edit*
And holy chit OP, if you can't get girls in Chicago there is no helping you. Anytime I visit Chicago my phone literally explodes from an endless stream of seriously cute and downright pretty girls, they are all friendly, warm, bubbly, it's one of the best places for girls I've been to. If you struggle there you need to take a realistic assessment of yourself.

It's hilarious how there are universal similarities on women's Hinge profiles, like the travel, food, caption about taking forever to textback or right away etc. Then there are the location dependent generic Hinge messages. Over here in the UK it's something about 'dad jokes'.

I've defo gotten the most out of Hinge than any other dating app. I will say tho OP, it might take a bit of time/swiping before you get through the garbage. When I started my profile, I KEPT getting fat, trans, non-binary, physically disabled etc etc. I even got dwarfs srs. Literally every swipe was something like this. Obviously it is a woke app but even I was baffled at the app's approach - like it was trying to convince me that everything that's far from the norm is the norm. It did pass tho, idk if it'll be the same for you but this was my experience.

350% spot fuking on.

I thought I was losing my mind until I noticed how they would mostly have identical profile prompts and answers.

Some of them don't even fill it out and will just put emojis or still find a way to sneak in their social media handles. Others will put the most nonsensical or basic low effort answers in their prompt.

Dating me is like "Adventure"

What I order for the table "Shots!"

This year I want to: "Travel More"

Change my mind about: "Men" <---- Now this is the most retarded. They want you to change their mind on something about men, while they haven't even stated their personal opinion on men. SO HOW COULD YOU CHANGE THEIR MIND? Oh wait you can't because they have no intention of seriously interacting with you in the first place.

It gets infuritating because it's like interacting with toddlers. It got to the point where I didn't even use all of my daily likes or I'd go days at a time without using them. So I deleted Hinge and BLK earlier this week. It's not even worth the effort to interact with such frivolous individuals.



But you are getting likes yourself right? I'd find it hard to believe that you wouldn't be getting any likes at least.

It's the game now and we just have to work a lot harder to compete.

perfect first date: building legos together
i'm probably more sarcastic than u
scorpio
tacos and tequila is my love language
quality time physical touch is my love language
fluent in sarcasm
want to travel
no hookups
swipe left if you're not wearing a shirt
just a pam looking for her jim
ladyy in the streets hentai in the sheets
foodie


etc...

I love Hinge but I’m banned again. : (

Hinge is the best dating app rn

You young boyos have no idea how easy you have it.

Back in my day you were limited to the chicks you ran across IRL. Who also needed to be attractivewith no boyfriend. Plus you had to have enough personality and looks to get them interested in you and you had to ask them out either in person or over the phone.

Stop complaining.

Lmao

Didn’t matter then and doesn’t matter now

Also you can’t use insta filters or MySpace angles IRL

Back then girls went with guys that were their looks/status match

I don’t even think they’re real profiles. There’s no way there’s that many smoking hot single women near me.

You young boyos have no idea how easy you have it.

Back in my day you were limited to the chicks you ran across IRL.