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Thread: ****ty situation with the sale of my house, what would miscers do? (srs thread)

post 1694130683 11-29-2023, 07:12 PM
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Just knowing Mexicans I know him & his immediate family will likely talk chit about you.

I agree with saying the dude offered you more than $350, like $375 etc. Makes it more understandable
post 1694132273 11-29-2023, 07:41 PM
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I'd keep my word to the family member. You shook hands on a deal, that means a lot. Maybe you can explain the situation and ask for a cut of the investment or something.
post 1694133123 11-29-2023, 07:54 PM
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Originally Posted By bigcat3655⏩
I'd keep my word to the family member. You shook hands on a deal, that means a lot. Maybe you can explain the situation and ask for a cut of the investment or something.
I wouldn't offer less than what a family member is asking unless I am treating it like a business transaction, at which point I don't feel entitled to extra familial consideration.

I would rescind my offer if op came to me and informed me he could get what he truly wanted for his home.

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post 1694134273 11-29-2023, 08:15 PM
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Originally Posted By bigcat3655⏩
I'd keep my word to the family member. You shook hands on a deal, that means a lot. Maybe you can explain the situation and ask for a cut of the investment or something.
I would agree if the house would be for personal use. But since it's for business, business is business.
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post 1694134803 11-29-2023, 08:32 PM
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Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
I would agree if the house would be for personal use. But since it's for business, business is business.
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post 1694142043 11-30-2023, 01:10 AM
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The high-IQ play is to tell him that you got another offer for full price, but you'll sell it to him if he's still interested since you shook his hand.

At that point, no family member who isn't a douche bag is going to say, "Thanks!" and take it from you.
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post 1694142133 11-30-2023, 01:12 AM
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That's a tough one, but I might just flat out say to the family member, hey sorry a big offer came through significantly higher so I have to take it.


I don't think they could be upset at you.


But it's a lesson for future things. Business with friends or family is always risky. You should clarify from the beginning that if a better deal comes in, you'll have to take it.
post 1694144943 11-30-2023, 03:49 AM
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Originally Posted By NESBrah⏩
This entire thread was retarded, tbh.

There was never any real debate as to what should be done. Lmao at the clowns itt who said OP should voluntarily throw away $30k over a stupid handshake so that his relative could cuck him while using it strictly as an investment property for their fiancial gain
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post 1694147453 11-30-2023, 05:45 AM
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Originally Posted By Evolutionary1⏩
There's a big difference between a handshake and signing on the line....

Sounds like you could use the money more than them
It's a family member. Who cares? Just sell to the highest offer.
post 1694147833 11-30-2023, 05:58 AM
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Originally Posted By Ken-O⏩
But, i do work in the same field as he does, and we often do business together, share contracts etc, so yeah, its a bit trickier



May have to go with this one, not sure about the understanding part tho, but well see.
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post 1694147943 11-30-2023, 06:00 AM
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Originally Posted By weiss1967⏩
Deal is a deal, you don’t change it, family or a stranger doesn’t matter. You aren’t getting reach with lousy 30k, but reputation will stick.
Completely agree be a man of honour op.


Or at least pretend to be. Tell him you’ve had it surveyed and there is potentially disastrous subsidence in the foundations or the roof needs replacing
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post 1694148023 11-30-2023, 06:02 AM
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gotta be a palatial estate in mexico
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post 1694148163 11-30-2023, 06:08 AM
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Insane how many of you would be a complete kunt towards a close family member. The other way around you'd be a bunch of fuming lil retards. It shows how many of you are isolated ****s with no friends and loved ones. Very sad you'd fuk over a close family member before talking about it.

OP, it's a close family member. Tell them the situation and if 30k means that much to you, ask if they would understand you'd sell it to the family instead. Offer like 2.5-5k for the deal between you blowing up.
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post 1694155113 11-30-2023, 09:04 AM
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Originally Posted By wickedman⏩
The high-IQ play is to tell him that you got another offer for full price, but you'll sell it to him if he's still interested since you shook his hand.

At that point, no family member who isn't a douche bag is going to say, "Thanks!" and take it from you.
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post 1694155713 11-30-2023, 09:15 AM
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Originally Posted By weiss1967⏩
Deal is a deal, you don’t change it, family or a stranger doesn’t matter. You aren’t getting reach with lousy 30k, but reputation will stick.
30k is 30 fking grand anyway you look at it.


And ops house is in the 300-400k range

It's not like op has a 3 million dollar ~ home and got offered 30k less by a family member ..then the difference is less significant.


I would just be open to your fam and say yo I got offered 30k more

His fam doesn't even plan to live there, probably would understand.

Not like he lead him on for weeks and then changed up. It was over night
post 1694156233 11-30-2023, 09:21 AM
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Originally Posted By EdwardTheGreat⏩
Define "family member"
This. Are we talking long lost family or a direct family member you see daily?
post 1694156333 11-30-2023, 09:23 AM
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350k


handshake isnt a signed contract


would your dumb family member give you 30k free tomorrow if you asked for it? you are handing them 30k free opportunity ccost.
post 1694156943 11-30-2023, 09:35 AM
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All of these people telling you to lie about the offer amount or some trouble with inspection are not people you want to listen to. Who gives advice to LIE to their family for money? Jesus this world is going to hell.

You shook his hand. He made an offer to help you when you were sitting on NOTHING for 6 months. Yes, the timing sucks for you that you finally got an offer, but your family was there for you when you had ZERO. You call him and have the conversation. Maybe he didn't even want the property and was purely looking to help you and maybe make some money down the road. He may just say, "Thats a great offer, good for you. No hard feelings, go sell it for 350k". Worst case, he says "We had a deal, we shook, I was doing you a favor". You close the deal for 320K when you haven't had a deal for 6 months. You make the number you had in your head AND you do the right thing as a man. Oh, you also don't sh*t on your family and lie to them. This isn't a hard decision. If you think that 30K (minus taxes/gains/commissions) is going to change your life more than backstabbing a family member, than you have much bigger things to concern yourself with.
post 1694157023 11-30-2023, 09:37 AM
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Originally Posted By elterrible987⏩
350k


handshake isnt a signed contract


would your dumb family member give you 30k free tomorrow if you asked for it? you are handing them 30k free opportunity ccost.
If a handshake isn't a signed contract with a family member and you would back stab your family for 15K profit, you have an unfortunate family relationship.
post 1694157243 11-30-2023, 09:43 AM
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I love reading all the keyboard warrior statements in the morning...

this is why it's tough to mix family with business.

Too many emotional men itt
post 1694157353 11-30-2023, 09:45 AM
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You sell it for 350k.


Tell your family member, someone offered asking. They are your family and should certainly understand.

Also while you shook on it you really have no way of knowing if he was ever going to follow through.

Don’t look at it as your screwing him, look at it as you would have been giving him a screaming deal. He WAS going to get a solid family discount from you. But someone beat him. A good family member would not want you to lose out on that money.
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post 1694157773 11-30-2023, 09:55 AM
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I'd sell it to my family. It's only pesos anyway
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post 1694158823 11-30-2023, 10:20 AM
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Say someone just offered you $350k and ask if they can match it. If not then don’t sell it to them. Anyone would understand that. Until an actual contract has been signed handshakes don’t mean ****
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sell it to the other person for 350.

Your relative will understand. its not like its the deal of the century, its just another property in his portfolio.
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Does Judge Judy do handshakes, lol?
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Tell family member about the 350k, see if they’ll match it or see if they can do 345k.
If they don’t, take the 350k, and it’s up to you if you give them the 5k or not.
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Originally Posted By TheDude8734⏩
I know that I couldn't back out of an agreement that I accepted and shook hands upon.
Yeah i wouldnt.

Anyway small update, today is the day that we agreed for the payment. If i dont see half of the 320k in my account by the end of the day, then i have a bit more justification for going the other way lol.
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Originally Posted By Ken-O⏩
Yeah i wouldnt.

Anyway small update, today is the day that we agreed for the payment. If i dont see half of the 320k in my account by the end of the day, then i have a bit more justification for going the other way lol.
So you’re still thinking of selling to your family member?!
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Originally Posted By OliverHeldens⏩
So you’re still thinking of selling to your family member?!
Yes. I shook his hand. If he asks for more time then i have more room for backing out of it, but otherwise i am selling it to him
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