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post 1541257331 01-20-2018, 10:23 AM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yes I am. I've been single for too long and the loneliness is really getting to me mentally.

If I were more extraverted and enjoyed going out and having lots of friends and going to social events etc I would occupy myself with that but I really don't enjoy that at all.
Well you're on these forums a lot and you aren't shy on here.....probably best to use this platform where you're more comfortable to find someone.
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post 1541257371 01-20-2018, 10:24 AM
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
This. I struggle to even go into restaurants most of the time because I have to socialize. Unless I'm doing something thrilling or exercising I don't talk. You'll most likely find me talking after an intense workout or something but that's about it. Like to choose my times of being social very carefully
I feel you bro. How many times have you heard "just gotta put yourself out there" .

Then really thought to yourself, "why arent I putting myself out there?"

Then realized "cause I don't want to"

Sucks.
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post 1541258281 01-20-2018, 10:36 AM
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post 1541259371 01-20-2018, 10:49 AM
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Originally Posted By Bren1093⏩
I feel you bro. How many times have you heard "just gotta put yourself out there" .

Then really thought to yourself, "why arent I putting myself out there?"

Then realized "cause I don't want to"

Sucks.
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yes online works much better for me than irl. Almost all of my dates have been from online and only a couple from irl connections.



Yes a few years ago I started meeting up with new people to try to make new friends and also going out in groups a few times etc. Was totally miserable and just didn't want to be there. Realized that I didn't want new friends and had to force myself to go as a chore or obligation instead of looking forward to it and enjoying it.
Same here. I never enjoyed going to social gatherings and meeting new people. Just found it boring. I find comfort in knowing that i kind of chose to be this way, but there are other things that bother me. But at least i can say that i have tried.
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post 1541259541 01-20-2018, 10:51 AM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yes online works much better for me than irl. Almost all of my dates have been from online and only a couple from irl connections.
Yeah but dating apps obviously aren't working. You just need to take the plunge and start PMing dudes on here.
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post 1541261231 01-20-2018, 11:06 AM
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post 1541262321 01-20-2018, 11:18 AM
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Originally Posted By axiom15⏩
It's more depressing when you're not alone and surrounded by people that care about you, and you still feel that way.
Right. The thing about loneliness is that it ends up being something truly internal regardless of your personal circumstances, and that it takes some serious introspection to both understand and deal with.
post 1541265731 01-20-2018, 12:00 PM
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not a single person gives a crap about you except your mom, dad, and your kids.
post 1541265941 01-20-2018, 12:02 PM
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Originally Posted By AcetylCoA⏩
I guess its normal to feel this but I guess if you look deeper we all have someone who cares for us.
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post 1541293851 01-20-2018, 05:16 PM
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post 1541295951 01-20-2018, 05:39 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Hm I don't know, they are both married with kids and their marriages seem pretty stable. Even if they did get divorced they'd have tons of people to fall back on.

Their connections are hedged because they have so many of them so then it's not such a big deal to lose one compared to if all your affection is focused on one person.
This is not necessarily true in all cases. My ex and I had a pretty big social circle due to our son and his friends parents. Guess what? No one invites the divorced people to the couple get togethers. So I lost not only people I thought were my family for 17 years, but friends as well.
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post 1541300181 01-20-2018, 06:28 PM
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post 1541300361 01-20-2018, 06:31 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
I'm sorry, that sucks. In my divorce we really only had his friends and they picked his side of course which is normal but still felt weird.
It really did suck. Plus I lost my nieces and nephew. I was their aunt and loved them their whole lives and now, nothing.I haven't even been invited to their high school graduations. That's the hardest part.
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post 1541300511 01-20-2018, 06:34 PM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
It really did suck. Plus I lost my nieces and nephew. I was their aunt and loved them their whole lives and now, nothing.I haven't even been invited to their high school graduations. That's the hardest part.
Sloots gonna sloot = consequences
post 1541300611 01-20-2018, 06:35 PM
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Divorced brah, for the most part I like living alone...but I know the feels, and I get feelings of fear too. Feelings lie to us sometimes. So gotta deal in reason as best you can. My feelings can tell me I'm uncared for, but is that necessarily the truth? What does reason tell me? That hey some do care about you. Example My parents, my siblings, my relatives, my dogs (lol), a few true friends and even my ex-wife to some degree and I still GAF about her. Those feelings OP describes in the title do occur though, but I gotta TRY to see it for what it really is rather than what I am feeling it is cause feelings can sometimes lie to us. Not always but they can often. Even if it were true, you can do something about it. use the emotions as motivation to get out the situation.

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post 1541301061 01-20-2018, 06:39 PM
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Originally Posted By PoundMobb⏩
Sloots gonna sloot = consequences
STFU you stupid little punk! i didn't get divorced because I cheated!
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post 1541301161 01-20-2018, 06:40 PM
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Meh...when you lose so many people you care about in your life, you get used to it.
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post 1541301311 01-20-2018, 06:43 PM
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This just sucks because i know i don't have the empathy or social skills to have lasting friendships
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post 1541301761 01-20-2018, 06:48 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Disagree, romantic love can exist. It's just conditional vs family love being unconditional. But that doesn't mean romantic love can't be genuine.
yeah theres that. but theres divorce too
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Originally Posted By Bren1093⏩
I feel you bro. How many times have you heard "just gotta put yourself out there" .

Then really thought to yourself, "why arent I putting myself out there?"

Then realized "cause I don't want to"

Sucks.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
I'm so sorry. I got lucky with that because I was able to stay in touch with my inlaws and we both wanted to continue the relationship, especially for my niece. Still visit them and they have been super loving and supportive. But yeah I think usually you end up losing that side of your family.
His mom and dad invite me to Easter, but his sisters don't invite me to the kids things. That's nice that you get to continue seeing your niece.
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Its up to you to go do stuff.

sign up for a drawing class at a local college
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make friends.

BE A GOSH DARN LEADER. If you want friends GO GET THEM. Quit being a pussy - the world doesn't come to you.

If you want it - go get it period. Man the fck up
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