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post 1566223991 11-14-2018, 01:35 PM
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post 1566224401 11-14-2018, 01:40 PM
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Originally Posted By sword_
I still make missteps. I'm 35 and wish I figured this stuff out when I was younger. I didn't start to 'get it' until my mid 20s but the majority of that up until my early 30s I was in serious relationships. I've been single the past year and a half and picked things back up again. Being in a city and trying to navigate through different social circles and find interested women is a skill you have to hone.

Also learning how to be cordial to a girl who has ghosted you, or you bumping into girls you previously dated/had sex with and being mellow.

Sounds like the girl would have given you a second shot if you were cool. I want test this out with some girls that have ghosted me and I had sex with. Two chicks that have ghosted me I feel like I'd be a dick towards but I would have a higher chance of sleeping with them if I was cordial with them considering I had sex with them before.
Yep, I briefly mentioned what I consider the strongest love I ever had.

Met her we had a fling and I fell in love but was too cool to let her know, she met another guy, I was all butthurt, no contact, blocked her social media. This was before what I outlined previously.

2 full years later (almost to the day) we have a run in, during those two years I had learned said lesson. I was still crazy in love with her, I was chill, hit her up after the fact.....she eventually asked me "what do you want from me" I was totally chill (heart pounding out of my chest) and just told her I wanted to just spend time with her. Had the most intense 3 months of my life with her. All from simply being fine with however it turned out. Laid all of my feelings out in a very matter of fact way....she wasn't into it, I moved on....she blocked me this time.

Chicks hate ego, they have a 6th sense for cocky versus confident. Confidently brushing over someone who ghosted you is a lesson in self control all men need to learn. These guys on this board can eat chicken and veggies for 5 years, be in complete control of their fitness and diet..... but have a melt down and zero self control when someone doesn't text them back.
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post 1566224481 11-14-2018, 01:40 PM
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Originally Posted By SwimToTheMoon
I did but I changed schools/country almost every year.. I just never socialized and had a permanent group of friends.. Wasn't bullied or anything but just did my own thing then went home, summer came and I never did chit, just played guitar/video games in all my free time.. I guess it was my fault but when you're a child you don't realize how to fix chit unless someone helps you...
i can't relate, but i don't believe you're doomed. i interact with so many people and see a wide range of personalities, but i rarely encounter someone who is totally fuarked

i have a buddy who is very very intelligent but basically autistic with some of the chit he says to people. watching him talk to women is crazy. he still has had GFs and is a social person. he's too stubborn to take advice, so i let him do whatever he wants
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post 1566224921 11-14-2018, 01:46 PM
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Originally Posted By Ratfish
saying something isn't possible makes it so. it's a self-fulfilling prophecy



what? you didn't go to school? if you were homeschooled, that hurdle is a bit higher
I was homeschooled until the 8th grade but the damage was already done by then. Kids had their clicks they carried on into highschool. You can imagine being shy and then being bullied for being shy. I remember this one day I was waiting on the bus alone and kids literally surrounded me like in the movies mocking me, biting every word I tried to utter. That chit scarred me until like 2 years ago.

But I’m over that. I don’t have anxiety with talking to people any more I’m just self conscious about what to say and my vocal tonality is all over the place.

This thread is golden btw will rep when I get off work
post 1566226131 11-14-2018, 02:01 PM
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Can confirm. I only get laid because of my personality
post 1566227891 11-14-2018, 02:21 PM
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Honestly, the guys who think women are all about looks are so ****ing delusional. You can tell that they have no ****ing flying ****ing idea about women and have no experience.

Almost every breakup is initiated by the woman. It isn't because the guy lost his looks.

I might make a MS paint comic about this srs.
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post 1566228221 11-14-2018, 02:24 PM
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Originally Posted By Chrysippus
Honestly, the guys who think women are all about looks are so ****ing delusional. You can tell that they have no ****ing flying ****ing idea about women and have no experience.

Almost every breakup is initiated by the woman. It isn't because the guy lost his looks.

I might make a MS paint comic about this srs.
you need simply to go outside to find endless counterarguments to it. it's a joke
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post 1566228281 11-14-2018, 02:25 PM
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True.

Guys cannot get any girl they want, but they can improve themselves to get more of a certain kind of girl, the girl they need, than they could ever date in one lifetime.
Originally Posted By LikeAMachine
The reason you aren't getting laid is because you are a weird fukker who hasn't done enough socially to figure out how to flirt properly. The other 10% are autistic or deformed.



Go outside, figure out how to be social even if it means you're an awkward embarrassed loser, trial, error and self reflection are important.

Also Indians looking to bang 10/10 women need to chill.


Fite me.
post 1566231371 11-14-2018, 02:55 PM
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good lord.

make u yourself f'n hot. take pro pics. use tinder. smash.

don't believe me, use nick bateman pics on tinder.

stop trying to get chicks with zero personality, average looks, average income, no social circle. Think about it. Why shoudl I a hbb sleep with u? Cuz you told a joke?

i work in it, use tinder, smash tons of girls who would never want to be seen with me in front of their friends. Be jacked, THEN, work on the other stuff which *just becomes much easier*
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post 1566231621 11-14-2018, 02:59 PM
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Originally Posted By Chrysippus
Honestly, the guys who think women are all about looks are so ****ing delusional. You can tell that they have no ****ing flying ****ing idea about women and have no experience.

Almost every breakup is initiated by the woman. It isn't because the guy lost his looks.

I might make a MS paint comic about this srs.
It's because he lost his hair

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post 1566231671 11-14-2018, 02:59 PM
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Facts though I do work in retail with the ladies and I’m great at it. Just haven’t figured out the flirting part.

Tried last weekend on a waitress and she said she had a bf. My friend asked for her number for me lol
post 1566231831 11-14-2018, 03:00 PM
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post 1566231931 11-14-2018, 03:01 PM
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Originally Posted By ryan0931
Facts though I do work in retail with the ladies and I’m great at it. Just haven’t figured out the flirting part.

Tried last weekend on a waitress and she said she had a bf. My friend asked for her number for me lol
i never flirt outwardly. i say ridiculous things and at the end of the conversation, if they were interesting, i say it was fun to talk to them and ask if they wanna stay in touch. if they say no, i dgaf at all. it's not a big deal.
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post 1566232031 11-14-2018, 03:02 PM
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Originally Posted By mgd24601
True.

Guys cannot get any girl they want, but they can improve themselves to get more of a certain kind of girl, the girl they need, than they could ever date in one lifetime.
this is a bullchit way of thinking

why cant a guy get any girl they want?
if you put enough effort in your looks and personality i dont see why not.
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post 1566273311 11-15-2018, 02:12 AM
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Originally Posted By Ratfish
i never flirt outwardly. i say ridiculous things and at the end of the conversation, if they were interesting, i say it was fun to talk to them and ask if they wanna stay in touch. if they say no, i dgaf at all. it's not a big deal.
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Originally Posted By LikeAMachine
The reason you aren't getting laid is because you are a weird fukker who hasn't done enough socially to figure out how to flirt properly. The other 10% are autistic or deformed.



Go outside, figure out how to be social even if it means you're an awkward embarrassed loser, trial, error and self reflection are important.

Also Indians looking to bang 10/10 women need to chill.


Fite me.
We don't care about getting " laid". We are all greek orthodox nuns now. Living that nun life.

Your whole post is a scam. You live on a nun planet. Nobody is doing anything.
post 1566273441 11-15-2018, 02:20 AM
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I can get laid if I talked to hella chicks and put on some effort, but I want something more and a lot of girls don’t wanna date me cuz I’m a manlet so it takes a hit on my self esteem
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Originally Posted By CaliSuperSport
thats too much work tho
This

Finding a quality girlfriend these days seems like too much goddamned effort.

Hot chicks can just sit back and wait for the thirsty beta orbiters to start orbitting them like the sun around the earth.

Getting a decent girlfriend seems like too much effort, might just climb Everest instead seems like much less effort
post 1566273541 11-15-2018, 02:26 AM
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Originally Posted By PiscesNinja
This

Finding a quality girlfriend these days seems like too much goddamned effort.

Hot chicks can just sit back and wait for the thirsty beta orbiters to start orbitting them like the sun around the earth.

Getting a decent girlfriend seems like too much effort, might just climb Everest instead seems like much less effort
Def not worth it. Save your time and money.

I mean if it was worth it then yeah I would say so. But it's not.

Just focus in on getting more PRs at the gym. At least that's worth it.
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Originally Posted By Kabamaro
I can get laid if I talked to hella chicks and put on some effort, but I want something more and a lot of girls don’t wanna date me cuz I’m a manlet so it takes a hit on my self esteem
The flaw is that you think you need to date. You don't need to date them. Once you realize that you're under no obligation to date anyone then you will feel relieved.

Get that thought out of your head.

Just look at it like this. They don't exist.
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Originally Posted By Matt413413
Def not worth it. Save your time and money.

I mean if it was worth it then yeah I would say so. But it's not.

Just focus in on getting more PRs at the gym. At least that's worth it.
The amount of time and money I've wasted on women is ridiculous. Such a waste of effort.

All women have gotten me is a bruised ego and a lighter wallet
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I have a very good and unique personality. Well, the very few people who like me think so.
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Originally Posted By JewSeeJohn
Looks are important, but you also have to have an alpha personality. It's even more important than your looks, by which I mean that, even a not-so-spectacular guy can get with realllllly hot girls if he has the swag.

The thing about alpha personality is that it translates into many aspects of your life, and it's attractive to women, and other men.

PS. Staring out other dudes, pretending to be busy when you're fapping, or getting friggen huge with cell-tech isn't 'alpha'
"A calm and modest life brings more happiness than the pursuit of success combined with constant restlessness"

Putting on an alpha facadé to gain other peoples' approval doesn't seem to support this sentiment. No hate brah, just my opinion.

I'm generally quiet and reserved and I like who I am. I certainly don't come across as "alpha" but that doesn't interest me. Inb4 cope, I think if everyone fit into the alpha stereotype life would be boring as fuk and I'm glad things aren't that way.
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Being alpha doesn't work if i act like that everyone would hate me. I act very humble at work and people still hate me. I don't get it. There is a certain way you HAVE to act these days. I hate men who try to act alpha honestly.
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Originally Posted By PiscesNinja
"A calm and modest life brings more happiness than the pursuit of success combined with constant restlessness"

Putting on an alpha facadé to gain other peoples' approval doesn't seem to support this sentiment. No hate brah, just my opinion.

I'm generally quiet and reserved and I like who I am. I certainly don't come across as "alpha" but that doesn't interest me. Inb4 cope, I think if everyone fit into the alpha stereotype life would be boring as fuk and I'm glad things aren't that way.
A calm and modest life will leave you ignored and passed over and you are strong coping dude.
I did this chit for ever thinking I was being a “good boy”.

Didn’t rebel in my teens even though my mom was a complete POS and tried to start fights with me almost daily

Didn’t pursue girls in HS because I was afraid of my sexuality and didn’t want my fam to know what type of girl I was into

Spent my whole teens and early 20s coasting along whereever my fckd up family took me with earbuds in my ears fantasizing about the day someone comes and saves me.

Srs wake tf up and go and get what you want out of life. Stop trying to convince yourself you’re doing the right thing. You’re not.
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The fuk happened ITT?

Lost count after about 50 or sum, stopped estimating after 100. Virgin till 17 (pretty late for the real world, all the 35yo virgins on the misc are extreme outliers), didn't really get into the swing of things until 20s. Did get a bit into reading that kinda chit on the misc, text game etc, never got into PUA chit, could see how retarded that chit is even in high school. I ended up saying fuk it, it's not worth stressing about, and from then on I just did whatever I wanted. Feels good man.


Probably helps being 6'4" and handsome with a juicy personality, though
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Originally Posted By Basiliskboy
A calm and modest life will leave you ignored and passed over and you are strong coping dude.
I did this chit for ever thinking I was being a “good boy”.

Didn’t rebel in my teens even though my mom was a complete POS and tried to start fights with me almost daily

Didn’t pursue girls in HS because I was afraid of my sexuality and didn’t want my fam to know what type of girl I was into

Spent my whole teens and early 20s coasting along whereever my fckd up family took me with earbuds in my ears fantasizing about the day someone comes and saves me.

Srs wake tf up and go and get what you want out of life. Stop trying to convince yourself you’re doing the right thing. You’re not.
Who said anything about "doing the right thing"? I'm acting in a way that's right for myself. In essence, I'm just being myself, and not trying to force myself to conform to having to act a certain way to get people to like me.

All I'm doing is not being fake. How is that "being a good boy"?

It is so goddamned cathartic to go through life not giving a chit about being "alpha" or "beta" and just fukking being yourself. And hey brah, you're welcome to your opinion but let's agree to disagree.
Originally Posted By JewSeeJohn
I don't claim to be alpha and never have, thanks for putting words in my mouth, though. Real 'alpha' of you.

People with an alpha personality know what they want in life, and they go after it. That's why they are alpha. By definition they are at the top, the 'leader' so to speak. Most people around you are completely lost and need someone to look at for guidance. That's what an alpha person is. Someone who is focused and confident in their abilities to survive in their environment.

Tl;Dr:
-Dealing with existence is alpha while being being unable to deal with existence is a beta male trait.
First of all you're putting words in my mouth, not the other way around. Don't get mad over something no-one said. Also, your post condones acting "alpha" regardless of whether or not that is your real, organic personality.

And I absolutely never tried to come across "alpha" in my reply, and have no idea how you could come to that conclusion from what I posted.

Tl;Dr:
-Never said what you're accusing me of

-I have zero interest in being "alpha". Call me a cope but that's okay, I feel content living the life I lead. I can't get anything resembling a girlfriend but that's really the only downfall in my life atm, life's good and I don't have to try to act "alpha" to get what I'm already experiencing
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when online dating is all you use and you get no matches, its a bit of a different situation.
Also when you dont drink, go to parties,bars or clubs.

I think the only way I can meet a girl and it would be natural would be if I was going to college with her for years (which il be going soon) and we just were basically forced to talk and she trusted me and was comfortable around me.
but the attraction still needs to be there physically and if my online dating numbers mean anything.. thats unlikely.
We will see.
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No spammy *******, but if brahs are interested I recently started a dating/self improvement channel for struggling brahs. Its pretty down to earth and straight to the point.



I agree with OP though.

If you come to NYC, all these skyscrapers are filled with thousands of bad chicks bored in an office all day. For the majority of the weekdays their clearlyboredout of their minds going through their regular schedule. These are some of the best times to talk to them, despite their miserable face. Come friday now they're bugging their coworkers with the "so where are WE going tonight gaiz?" (lazy b*tches can never come up with their own plan LOL) just for some kind of social release as thousands now pack the bars at night.

Truth is, if you actually tried you'd be doing what 90% of guys don't do. Especially in places where there isn't competition. Which is 90% of reality outside.
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