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post 1580177061 05-15-2019, 01:36 PM
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Originally Posted By trufflepigg
i just ghosted a woman who was truly awful, here are her traits:

-Single Mom
-Herpes
-Zero hobbies except smoking pot
-Spends all her free time napping, or watching Hulu/Netflix
-Huge back tattoo
-Says she is "guarded"
-Never once said a single compliment to me, or made a move on me, but sexted me all day, **** was annoying tbh
-Instead of asking to hang out she would text and say "bring me a coffee" or "wanna make me breakfast"...such a hoe
-Says she has sarcastic sense of humor, but really she's just a mean bitch. Sarcasm only works when it's funny. She wasn't funny.
-only 1 female friend, and guess what, she's exactly the same type of bitch
-Tells you about all her past sexual escapades like you want to hear about it on a 1st date

fyi she was kinda hot
These two things alone should have been enough gas to fuel your trip to NC
post 1580183271 05-15-2019, 03:06 PM
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- Chronically late when first dating her. I'm talking about 20 - 30 minutes late. I went on two dates with a woman like this the past year and I found she was habitual with this. This is the same type that is more inclined to cancel on you the last minute.
- Adrenaline junkie. NEEDS constant excitement to function. This evolves to some degree of high maintenance and unrealistic expectations of a relationship. Sure relationships should be exciting but not everyday pragmatically can be "Take me on an adventure!"
- Constant selfies. I think this is a subconscious thing I screen for.
- Gaslighting.
- Emotional manipulation and/or emotional blackmail.
- Physically assaults you in ANY manner.
- High anxiety. Maybe it's just me but I don't do well with that. I had an ex like that and she would take anti depressants for it but she was definitely moody. Cussed me out and I ignored it lol. Not someone long term.
- Extremely feminist. Easy enough.
- On top of the feminist thing is watch out for women who are close minded to discussing differing beliefs. You want someone you can work with in a relationship.


That's all I can think of now. I'd also say if a girl say she wants to "take things slow", guards herself, or puts walls up then you should definitely be pursuing other women. Either she is holding out for someone, or she likes you, but not high enough to see you as a strong romantic option. I guarantee it is NOT you at that point because if you run the same game on other girls you can get them to bed within 2-3 dates. Plus why take thing slow with a woman when there are women that would be crazy to have a man like you in their lives?!
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post 1580185171 05-15-2019, 03:42 PM
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10 years ago I would have said “has an online dating profile” bc that meant she was a quick pump and dump

Nowadays though I think it’s more mainstream
post 1580185441 05-15-2019, 03:48 PM
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Originally Posted By Noahbro
Not a Christian.


-Overly religious people too
post 1580186051 05-15-2019, 04:01 PM
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Rude to waiters

Can't take a joke

Lots of selfies

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post 1580187081 05-15-2019, 04:22 PM
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Originally Posted By faxanadu
I think "the mean/rude to bartenders/servers" is the best one on the list. People that take advantage/treat poorly of loved ones or people they think are beneath/subservient to them says countless things about their personal character.
Yep a lot of the other red flags can be outweighed but people who habitually manifest this behaviour are straight up scum.
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-revealing pics on ig
-snapchats/has many guy friends
-tattoos
-party girl / drug user/smoker/drinker
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks
Love bombing

Extremely charming and charismatic

Moving very fast at the start

Needs to be the center of attention at all times

Needy for constant stimulation at all times

Needs constant admiration and validation

Depressed when no attention or stimulation

Sense of superiority or grandiosity

Believes others are jealous

Lying

Gaslighting

Triangulation

Lack of empathy

Lack of remorse
Damn near spot on. Also


Mood swings

Drinking

No follow through
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I’ll boil it down to one.. bad family and/or bad relationship with family.

Doesn’t matter who’s fault it was
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Gaslighting isn’t a red flag. It isn’t even real


People that use the term gaslighting seriously is a red flag though.
post 1580189051 05-15-2019, 04:56 PM
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Originally Posted By wincel


-Overly religious people too
Fukn LOL I remember this. That little tirade made her semi famous for a bit.
post 1580189211 05-15-2019, 04:58 PM
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Originally Posted By 78novacaine
Right. Because mental illness is not a real thing that exists, and can be treated with medication...






Smdh...
Lol at having low standards


So mental illness isn’t a red flag now?

lmao
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Originally Posted By Comply_or_Die
'big foodie, love travelling, looking for a man that knows how to treat a woman right'

run boyos.
LMAO can not tell you how many times ive seen something similar on bumble.. btw whats up with all these girls that go on solo vacations nowadays? im guessing just to "find myself" aka get some strange and eat food/drink... when is eating and drinking a hobby or pastime its pretty funny
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-not willing to compromise
-always on her phone
-goes out partying and drinking way too often
-feminist
-different values than your own (know your values and know your self worth bros)
-doesn't want to spend time with you


just a few i can think of off the top of my head.
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Truth is most sloots will sloot given the chance, unless, in her eyes, you're chad/charismatic/bad boy etc etc

Ya can't change female nature so stop trying
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If they hate their mom because mom is crazy. You might as well just get back in your car and drive home and start miscing. 100% she will be crazy too.
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Just looking around IRL, I would say the lowest common denominator of the chitty woman I know is that they don't work. I don't mean that as in they don't have a job, I mean they will try and avoid anything they don't want to do.

For example, one relative of mine has a stay at home wife, he's a teacher and runs a smoothie shack in the summer as a side hustle. In the summers, guess who is up with him at 6 in the morning getting chit prepped. Now compare that to a relative of mine whose wife sat on her ass sipping a cocktail and watched me and her husband build a shed for her. Not coincidentially, the second woman is a 4x divorcee and general epic piece of chit.

Delaying gratification - sucking it up and doing chit you don't want to do now in return for a benefit later - is probably the #1 sign of maturity IMO. All but the most spoiled men understand this because men are basically conditioned to work their entire lives. But making an effort in life is basically optional for lower-middle class women or above, and a lot of them won't do it.
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Actually I’ll add one more I haven’t seen yet

Having a private argument in front of other people. Total social retardation and lack of respect for you and anyone else in earshot.
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Originally Posted By Noahbro
Thinks she's an influencer (social media celeb)
haha this is my favorite on of the thread... my gf has a girlfriends of her's with 12k IG followers, posting pictures in different outfits and eating at reseaturants, all with a million random tags in the picture (location, brand of clothing, etc.)

all this and my gf told me that deep down the chick is absolutely miserable and hates being single. gf stopped hanging out with her because her sole weekend objective was to go out to bars, takes IG pics, and hit on guys. what a horrible existence.
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Lots of good ones in this thread. I’ll give mine, some will be repeats/agreeing with some that were already given.

1. Crazy - someone already nailed it that if she takes pride in calling herself crazy or is willing to unleash that bomb on you early...believe her. And like someone else says, if they call their mom crazy...that’s the same or possibly even worse. Bonus points if she actually gives you examples of how crazy she is in story form. Been here, done that...do not let your dick get you in too deep with this kind of a chick.

2. Needy - this takes on many different forms. I think most guys consider a regular chick just being a chick as being “needy” but that doesn’t count. You know an extra needy chick when you see one. In this same label I can also call it “falls too quickly.” If you barely know eachother and she’s calling your voicemail “just to hear your voice,” ah fuk bye!

3. Attention whore - seems to constantly be on her phone and everything she does is “made for instagram/Snapchat” moments.

4. Broken - this kind of chick is so broken from past relationships that she dumps her garbage from past guys on your lap up front. If you are on an early date or smash session and she’s complaining about things other guys have done to her, huge red flag.

5. Lack of give a fuk - this is the girl who shows up “as she is” without much effort at all. She doesn’t too much care about trying to look good for you, and I have to qualify this by saying this is NOT one of those girls who’s naturally good looking without effort. She’ll say things like “if you can’t accept me at my worst, blah, blah, blah.” Might fart in front of you early on, and talk about “going to take a dump.” Way too “open” early. It all comes out later, but when they throw it on you at the beginning - red flag.
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Originally Posted By faxanadu
No makeupto me = body hair, bad hygiene,too much zero fks givento the point of alienation

All the women/men i met hiking/backpacking that were like that had some kind of issue. A common thing i saw was people that didn't try to be the least bit presentable attempting to get a little help from strangers ... only to get turned away. Often those shleppy looking people would then get angry when just brushing their hair a little bit would of went a long ways. Fuk... even animals groom themselves.

Cliffs: I associate no makeup with antisocial/antisociety behavior
IDK. I don't associate no makeup with poor hygiene.

Is makeup socially expected in X situation? I will probably wear it. If not? Meh.

So job interview > makeup, date > makeup, wedding/funeral > makeup. Running errands? Yard work? Gym? Hiking? Nah.

So I guess you could say that (as I don't wear makeup often) I don't socialize much.
Originally Posted By crupiea
If they hate their mom because mom is crazy.You might as well just get back in your car and drive home and start miscing. 100% she will be crazy too.
Want to point out that this is likely if both things are true...hate mom...also it is because "mom is crazy". Because we are often the most bothered by flaws in others that we have ourselves.

And I will add:

Too much me too. aka Mirroring

It is nice if you like the same things. Maybe even a lot of the same things. Mirroring can be that and more. Whatever your good qualities are they project the same. If you hate something they also hate it. You say "I'm feeling ill" and they say "I feel ill too" or "I feel even worse than you".

Watch out if this is a regular recurring pattern. It could be just a clumsy attempt to connect. Or it could be an act to hook you.
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Originally Posted By samsbolton
I’ll boil it down to one.. bad family and/or bad relationship with family.

Doesn’t matter who’s fault it was
that's unfair don't ya think? you can't help being born into a chitty family, if she cuts them off and comes out as a decent good woman what's wrong with that?
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Originally Posted By faxanadu
Compiled list of the ones I agree with so far (*** are ultra red flags):

- ******Mean/ rude to servers/ bartenders************
- Has a lot of luxury items
- Owns a small dog and refers to self as "mommy"
- Is overweight
- Does not wear makeup
- Talks down to parents. Specifically their dad
- Updates her instagram/********/ or snap story daily
- Doing drugs

This guy is legit Dr Phil...

- Does not tell you when something is bothering them, and expects you to "just know" and resolve it without telling you why it bothered them.
- Does not have a career/job
- ***Cannot independently support themselves, expects you to be the one to do it
- Goes out drinking whenever they can
- ***Does not have any hobbies or interests that are not food/travel related
- Does not know how to compromise
- Has cheated on somebody before you
- ***Shows no interest in self-growth
- ***Has no ambition

- Gossips about her other friends to her friends
- Social media is filled with selfies or selfies with a snapchat filter
- ***Brings up how chitty their exes were right away
- gets upset about pictures/posts you like
- ***terrible with finances and money (broke but has that $1000 iPhone)
- tatts (EDIT:EXCESSIVE TATS)
- Needy for constant stimulation at all times
- Needs constant admiration and validation


I think "the mean/rude to bartenders/servers" is the best one on the list. People that take advantage/treat poorly of loved ones or people they think are beneath/subservient to them says countless things about their personal character. IMO... this can be as subtle as someone looking right through a server/bartender and not acknowledging them as a person.
decent list, seems mostly reasonable. although i would say talking bad tobothyour parents, period. and what exactly do you mean 'does not wear makeup? like everyday? some girls don't have time for makeup everyday and it's not exactly great for your skin. need to look presentable and clean, doesn't have to necessarily include makeup.
and finally i'll never understand the hate for travelling either, i absolutely love it.
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Originally Posted By ****liGirl
that's unfair don't ya think? you can't help being born into a chitty family, if she cuts them off and comes out as a decent good woman what's wrong with that?
Yes, it’s true that no one can do anything about the family they have been born into. However, there’s is some truth about the relationship between family background/ culture and how people carry themselves. I recommend to level headed breaths to not be that guy who rescue a damsel in distress from her horrid family. She will come with all the same bells and whistles. Of course there are exceptions. But the key word is exception and most people don’t get exceptions.
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