Sad.

Do you have the means to take care of a drug addict child?

lol@biology

son, we're all related

you adopting your half sister's crack piss or whatever is just like adopting some stranger who is strung out on that crocodile drug stuff in Moscow

piss it boy

smack city

This is one thing you really need to think about. The baby will likely require some additional medical care, potentially for a long time.

I think it’s kind of a juvenile response to call someone a “retard” for contemplating giving a kid without a chance a home...but you do you playa

Yes, in this case it is. The path to hell is paved with good intentions.

If I told you that I am going to kill a random person you don't know unless you paid me money for the rest of your life, would you pay me money or let that random person die?

OP is not the one making the moral decision here, that's already been made by his crack head half-sister.

Let her abort it and keep your life together. The moment you let someone like that into your life in any meaningful way, they will take that opportunity to **** it up.

So new development lol

I guess my sister’s post prior to messaging us was “sweet I found a phone on the ground not password protected” she still hasn’t read our message back

We are leaning towards telling her that if she decides to go through with delivery to have CPS contact us when they need family to place the child with. Keeps her away from us until then and from stressing about what she’s up to while preggo

Updates when I have them

Update to this:

After not hearing from her again for this entire time my sister reached out yesterday saying she had a miscarriage. Probably the best possible outcome for all parties tbh

I appreciate everyone’s thoughtful replies and insight. Lots of good points and compelling points of view that helped me consider things I probably otherwise wouldn’t have

This is going to be long, apologizing in advance.

Background:

So my deadbeat biological father knocked up my mom when both were 18. He then went on to spend the better part of his 20s knocking up women around the country and not honoring his responsibilities. One of these women he knocked up was a drug addict in Detroit. She had a daughter(my bio half sister) and obviously if you grow up in that you also become it.

My sister, we’ll call her Jenna, is a mess. She is the embodiment of everything you see on intervention or drugs inc. Jenna is a prostitute and heroine addict, and homeless. She’s had three other children, all removed by CPS because CPS doesn’t like when you deliver a baby, come up positive for every drug on the panel, and have no home of record. A couple years ago when I googled her arrest record it was a mile long. In the last 6 months alone her ******** has had “I just came into a bottle of ********, who wants to buy some”, a picture of her and some dude in his 60s or 70s (obvious John or pimp) with a crack pipe visibly between them in the center console of the car, and a ******** live video of her driving her “stoley” (apparently that’s a stolen car) looking to score drugs. It’s madness.

Fast forward to this morning:

In the middle of the night Jenna sends me a ******** message. It says something to this effect: “ hi bill. I am pregnant. I want to know if you want the baby. Otherwise I am getting an abortion. I have no idea who the father is. All my other children were born healthy and without defects.” Obvious mindfuk. I am torn between what the right thing to do is and what the prudent thing to do is. Finances aren’t an issue other than I’d probably be better off to get a bigger house.

These are my concerns:

Safety - I only live about two hours from Detroit. Jenna or her pimp or crackhead friends could find out where I live. I have two young children and I worry about their safety. To people who live in trap houses or in the streets, a middle class family are warren buffet to them, and ripe for robbing.

I have no way to ensure she takes proper prenatal precautions. The baby will be born addicted to opiates and ******* most likely. Not sure I am equipped to handle that.

I am worried a high maintenance baby will take from the love I have to give to my own kids. Plus I live near no family and have minimal help now. This situation would only be exasperated.

Will she go typical prostitution MIA in a couple months leaving me worried where she is with my baby?

I also know what’s right, and this is family. I don’t feel some duty to save all the aborted fetuses of the world, but this does have a sense of “happening for a reason” to it. I feel extremely selfish bc other than safety of my kids as top reason not to do it, the other reasons center more on not blowing up my relatively comfortable life..

Apologies for the novel above. I hope it makes sense. What would you do?

Cliffs

- druggie whore sister I have no relationship with is preggo

- wants me to take the baby

- I could swing it financially but not sure I am equipped to handle it otherwise or if I am prepared for what I’m getting into

so killing someone is the better alternative? ok

Op, all i can tell you is what i would do personally. I would take the baby and raise it as your own; its still your blood. Do you really want to see it grow up to be abused and end up a crack head itself? You could give another person a meaningful life. Theres nothing more noble than that.

The issue i see is what happens when shes inevitable knocked up again because she sold her vagina for some dope? you cant just keep taking babies on

I mean I have a six figure income and medical insurance. Wife has a good job. We live within our means

So new development lol

I guess my sister’s post prior to messaging us was “sweet I found a phone on the ground not password protected” she still hasn’t read our message back

We are leaning towards telling her that if she decides to go through with delivery to have CPS contact us when they need family to place the child with. Keeps her away from us until then and from stressing about what she’s up to while preggo

Updates when I have them

Update to this:

After not hearing from her again for this entire time my sister reached out yesterday saying she had a miscarriage. Probably the best possible outcome for all parties tbh

I appreciate everyone’s thoughtful replies and insight. Lots of good points and compelling points of view that helped me consider things I probably otherwise wouldn’t have