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post 1597577201 02-11-2020, 03:59 PM
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
id never leave him, id support him, I don’t take death to us part lightly. I stood by him through custody battles and cancer.... almost through his chemo now, last session is tomorrow, hence thinking about the future and I saw my gyno on Monday
Don't get your tubes tied then. Sounds like you are going to have a kid no matter what, and if you're going to have one and would regret it not being biological then it might as well be biological
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
hmmm harsh if I do, my husband will want to adopt and that would be really difficult to wrap my head around over having my own, still rewarding but I would need emotional support, I feel I would grieve in a way
Your answer is hidden in there.
Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
Any doubts you are in particular you are referring to? Did you have any reserve before kids? Or worries? Fears?
We don't have kids yet. If God wills it, we will.

I think the real question in your situation is what are the real reasons you don't want kids? What are your fears?

I'm the type of person that I would put myself at discomfort if it makes someone else happy. So my answer would be very different than yours.
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post 1597578271 02-11-2020, 04:14 PM
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
Your answer is hidden in there.



We don't have kids yet. If God wills it, we will.

I think the real question in your situation is what are the real reasons you don't want kids? What are your fears?

I'm the type of person that I would put myself at discomfort if it makes someone else happy. So my answer would be very different than yours.
I would and do put myself at discomfort to make others happy... idk why you would think differently

I am fearful I won’t be motherly enough, or I’ll make the mistakes my parents did
I am fearful his current children will get jealous or upset
I am fearful I am too old
I am fearful of 4 college tuitions
I am fearful I couldn’t bring in the same income for the family
I am fearful his health declines and something happens the child won’t have a father

If god wills it? Are you not on birth control
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post 1597579151 02-11-2020, 04:29 PM
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Originally Posted By janglingjack⏩
Imagine the hardships your ancestors overcame to give you the gift of life. Cavemen fought and killed dinosaurs with their bare hands to survive. Others fought in wars. Others survived disease and drought and starvation in unthinkably difficult times. And here you are OP in the most peaceful and comfortable era of all time and you are going to end the bloodline just because you've met some beta who's already continued his own bloodline with some other sloot.

Just fukin lol at all the cucks in the history of your family who went through hell just for a sloot to end it all for nothing.
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
hmmm harsh if I do, my husband will want to adopt and that would be really difficult to wrap my head around over having my own
Is this chit that's not discussed before getting married? Srs questions
Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
We don't have kids yet. If God wills it, we will.
Crazy seeing my strict catholic co-workers with like 5 kids and no sign of stopping. Is it against religion to pull out or something? Also srs question
post 1597579941 02-11-2020, 04:40 PM
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
I would and do put myself at discomfort to make others happy... idk why you would think differently

I am fearful I won’t be motherly enough, or I’ll make the mistakes my parents did
I am fearful his current children will get jealous or upset
I am fearful I am too old
I am fearful of 4 college tuitions
I am fearful I couldn’t bring in the same income for the family
I am fearful his health declines and something happens the child won’t have a father

If god wills it? Are you not on birth control
Those are valid fears that almost every person has. Except the last, your husband has some terminal illness?

You can always raise your kids to work hard and get a job to pay their own tuitions with little support from you guys.

No, we've never been. =)
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post 1597580751 02-11-2020, 04:53 PM
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
I would and do put myself at discomfort to make others happy... idk why you would think differently

I am fearful I won’t be motherly enough, or I’ll make the mistakes my parents did
I am fearful his current children will get jealous or upset
I am fearful I am too old
I am fearful of 4 college tuitions
I am fearful I couldn’t bring in the same income for the family
I am fearful his health declines and something happens the child won’t have a father

If god wills it? Are you not on birth control
All of that is going to be the same if you adopt
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I wouldn't bring a child into this fuked up world in 2020
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We had our kids at 35 and 37 after being in the no kids crew for years. There will be a point where mother nature gives you the go ahead and the force to have kids becomes almost overwhelming. Unless you nip it in the bud and have kids earlier.

Although I do think it's commendable for OP to consider his other kids' feelings about this, that makes the decision that more difficult, imo.
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
id never leave him, id support him, I don’t take death to us part lightly. I stood by him through custody battles and cancer.... almost through his chemo now, last session is tomorrow, hence thinking about the future and I saw my gyno on Monday
And yet you dont want his seed? I swear white women are fuqing bat**** crazy.
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Originally Posted By HoustonMiscer⏩
I wouldn't bring a child into this fuked up world in 2020
At no point in history has the world been less fuked up than it is now if you live in America lol
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
I am up for a new iud this fall, debating just getting my tubes tied. I am going to be 29 this summer and kids would be at least another couple years, hubby wants to try sooner rather than after I turn 30. He had three boys but by the time we would have a kid they’ll all be teens, like 13, 17, 19. I don’t know I want kids or would be good enough as a parent or ready for it. I am healthy, don’t smoke or drink, don’t party, eat well etc but thinking that maybe that’s a sign to nip the idea/hope of having kids/ a kid and get my tubes tied. Hubby says he’ll support what I decide, I see my gyno soon (this month) It seems selfish to even want a kid I feel in a way
You're still young, one of my female friends didn't want kids until she hit 34 and then really wanted them. Making a life long decision at 29 is pretty drastic. Maybe try to IUD first and if you're set on it by mid 30s go through with the tube tying.

I don't think anyone is truly ever ready for children. I had my first just before turning 32. I didn't really want children at the time, my wife did. Now my child is my world, everything I do is for him, it's a love and a bond that you can't get anywhere else. It's a lot of work and some days you struggle but then they will do something beautiful and you keep on going.
Wait a few years and then make a decision mate.
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Originally Posted By Muzzlrpress⏩
Damn woman let her sleep on it ffs. Kids are a new and scary thing that will completely change your life. It'll even make people who want kids nervous. Doubts are normal. Common even. For most people though, once the kid is out, you stop having those irrational fears and replace them with very real ones like kidnappers and grizzly bears.


Especially the last part. lol
Originally Posted By FemaleWarriorxo⏩
I’ve always wanted kids since I was a kid myself. One of the reasons why I always offered to watch my aunts kids as a preteen/teen. Some people know right away and others take the “mistake”. Everyone thinks they’ll be a bad parent srs. Even this year I had to message legz and have her reassure me about my future choice. (Thanks again mama legz)

But I do believe you are well off, right? Maybe look into freezing your eggs and partners sperm. However, you do need to decide if you want kids soon if he’s having chemo. That can mess with his fertility. So sit down with him and talk about freezing. While also make a pros /cons list about having one now. Don’t just jump to getting your tubs tied yet imo

Edit: just saw the list. It seems like you are terrified to be like your parents. Are you like them with your step children?
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
If you have doubts like that, then don't have one and go ahead with the tying.
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