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post 1597534551 02-11-2020, 02:38 AM
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20s is best to prevent birth defects.
30s is okay but you have less chance of getting pregnant especially with past iud use
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post 1597534901 02-11-2020, 03:02 AM
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If you’re going to hold off much longer you need to get your eggs frozen. After 32 conception rate drops and an increase in birth defects occurs. Not saying you’re old as **** but at 32+ **** gets real for eggs. Better off freezing now and using your 28yo egg later. Ideally you would have done this at 24.
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Provided you and your partner are responsible people, and you yourself are not horribly opposed to the idea of having children, I think you should go for it.

I would bet that your fence sitting attitude is primarily the result of having time on your side.
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I didn't. Lol@having kids.
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Originally Posted By FrankCostanza⏩
20s is best to prevent birth[color=#660000]d*****s[color].
30s is okay but you have less chance of getting pregnant especially with past iud use
Originally Posted By FrankCostanza⏩
If you’re going to hold off much longer you need to get your eggs frozen. After 32 conception rate drops and an increase in birth[color=#660000]d*****s[color]occurs. Not saying you’re old as **** but at 32+ **** gets real for eggs. Better off freezing now and using your 28yo egg later. Ideally you would have done this at 24.
Our lady is asking for the advice from real life and similar experiences or ones from the bottom of our hearts. That's why she has shared the details of her life with us and the difficulties she and her beloved ones (might) have to face.

Non-professional medical advice is the last thing she needs right now unless it is really necessary and is from true professionals, like doctors.

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Given theres 7.5 billion people on the planet and were estimated to hit ~9-10 billion by 2050 when we are already reaching over population...
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Your husband wants a daughter??? Ayyyy.
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Originally Posted By LinuxJon⏩
If you're responsible just for for it. I was worried but if was silly since I had my chit together.
You should've been more worried. And your dumb ass is thinking about another at the same time as thinking about breaking up
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Originally Posted By Fang2⏩
Don't have kids yet. My family keeps pressing me that I have to get kids since I am not that young anymore lulz
Just adopt a kid when ur like 50 and rich. If I was ever to have a kid, that is how.

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Never had the urge to be a parent/want kids but I have a 4 yr old son. Love him to death but I still don't have that urge, if I go go back in time I would slap myself for the stupidity and not have him.. I do it because its the right thing to do and I want him to have a good life.
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Originally Posted By DizzySmalls⏩
If you have to ask...
This.

If you have any reservations, you 100% aren't ready for kids. There are outliners however, like myself. I didn't think I'd ever have kids, but my daughter was a surprise, and I love her to death and can't imagine life without her now, but that is not always the case.
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Always wanted em. Boy was an accident, but I was in my late 20's already, so it was like "Meh, it's about that time.".
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post 1597571801 02-11-2020, 02:36 PM
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Originally Posted By JUGGERNAUT1333⏩
This.

If you have any reservations, you 100% aren't ready for kids. There are outliners however, like myself. I didn't think I'd ever have kids, but my daughter was a surprise, and I love her to death and can't imagine life without her now, but that is not always the case.
most the people Ive talked never knew they were 100% ready unless they were very young and dumb and just wanted a baby without thinking through the 18-25 year commitment
Originally Posted By Samraiwise⏩
Our lady is asking for the advice from real life and similar experiences or ones from the bottom of our hearts. That's why she has shared the details of her life with us and the difficulties she and her beloved ones (might) have to face.

Non-professional medical advice is the last thing she needs right now unless it is really necessary and is from true professionals, like doctors.

And choose your words carefully,[color=#660000]there are the certain words which we, all parents don't want to hear and really hate[color].
lol yes thank you, very true. 25 year old males with no kids wouldn’t really or experienced parenthood or fertility information nor be a good thing to go off for female gyno, which yesterday I was at mine, and he seemed to think I have time
Originally Posted By Tanerian⏩
I never wanted children. It's not that I was vehemently against it, it just felt living that non parent life was a superior path.

When I got with my wife, I knew she was the type of woman that would want kids, so I told myself I'd give the relationship a solid year. If after that year I did not see in her what I would want from a partner/potential mother of my child, or see the possibility of us being together forever etc, I told myself I would break it off with her, even if the relationship was still "Good", because I think trying to force a woman who wants children into not having them is going to end poorly 99% of the time.

Year went by and she was a fantastic partner, and I felt she'd be a great mother. So I accepted the fact that one day I would give her a kid. Though i was smart enough to know that I'd never do it before age 30. I had too much partying/drugs/drinking type of chit to do and Knew damn well I wasn't ready to be a father, or at least a good one.

She patiently waited 10 years for me to propose, never once doing any of that cliche **** you hear about chicks doing, like wedding magazines, or having friends mention chit around me. We considered each other husband and wife well before I proposed, we already referred to each other as such, and we still do. Our wedding isn't until March 15th of this year, so yeah.

A year after I prorposed, she went off birth control and was preggers within 3 months. (as a side note, she was on the daily pill for the entire 10 years, and I never pulled out a single time. She took that pill like clock work every day for 10 years).



I raised my dog from a small puppy with it's eyes closed. Love my pupper so much, so I had no doubt that I'd love my child even more. But my god have I fallen in love with my kid. It's a love like nothing I'veeverfelt and this little **** is absolutely my world.
He's turning three next month, and he's legit the greatest thing to ever happen to me, and I don't care how cliche that chit sounds it's the truth. I am SO fuking happy I have him. Walking into my house after work, and hearing "DAAADDYYYYY" followed by the stomping of feet against tile as he rushes from the living room to greet me... holy fuk it's better than cooming.

Seriously the best thing in my life, nothing is even close. And I loved my life before I had him.













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youre son is so stinking cute awe, little model face

I can always wait another year, I do already know he’d be an amazing father cause how much he cares about his boys and how good of a dad he already is. I definitely think one kid would be good, even if he ended up with a 4th boy
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When will it be mine turn to find a 28 yo hottie that doesn't want kids?


To answer your question: I was always ready for kids, I just didn't expect to find the love of my life(at the time... okay maybe she still is technically, since I have yet to find another) and start a family so young. I was 26, she was 28.

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post 1597572331 02-11-2020, 02:45 PM
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I told my wife I was going to tie her tubes and she told me she was going to cut my balls off. Only way to break the stalemate was to have a kid.
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I was messing with you about the phisting thing....

I was never ready, and I think it's because I was tainted by baby momma drama...... so I'd always make an excuse to not want any kids..... still use them to this day.

I dont think youll ever feel "ready" but like everything else in life, when it happens... you'll be able to handle it and enjoy it. Hate baby mommas but love the chit outta my kids
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Our son wasn't an on purpose pregnancy but I can't imagine life without him. Being a parent is the most rewarding and meaningful thing I've ever done and wouldn't change it for all the money in the world. I say go for it
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If you have doubts like that, then don't have one and go ahead with the tying.
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Imagine the hardships your ancestors overcame to give you the gift of life. Cavemen fought and killed dinosaurs with their bare hands to survive. Others fought in wars. Others survived disease and drought and starvation in unthinkably difficult times. And here you are OP in the most peaceful and comfortable era of all time and you are going to end the bloodline just because you've met some beta who's already continued his own bloodline with some other sloot.

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Originally Posted By Samraiwise⏩
Our lady is asking for the advice from real life and similar experiences or ones from the bottom of our hearts. That's why she has shared the details of her life with us and the difficulties she and her beloved ones (might) have to face.

Non-professional medical advice is the last thing she needs right now unless it is really necessary and is from true professionals, like doctors.

And choose your words carefully,[color=#660000]there are the certain words which we, all parents don't want to hear and really hate[color].
freezibg eggs has shown to prevent the occurrence in olderwomen having kids. Her indecision at this point lead me to bring that up. In life things change on a dime. What we think we want today may not be what we want tomorrow.

Op if you’re a good step mom then there’s no reason to believe you won’t be a good mom. It’s not selfish provided that you can afford another one.
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
If you have doubts like that, then don't have one and go ahead with the tying.
hmmm harsh if I do, my husband will want to adopt and that would be really difficult to wrap my head around over having my own, still rewarding but I would need emotional support, I feel I would grieve in a way

Any doubts you are in particular you are referring to? Did you have any reserve before kids? Or worries? Fears?
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
If you have doubts like that, then don't have one and go ahead with the tying.
Damn woman let her sleep on it ffs. Kids are a new and scary thing that will completely change your life. It'll even make people who want kids nervous. Doubts are normal. Common even. For most people though, once the kid is out, you stop having those irrational fears and replace them with very real ones like kidnappers and grizzly bears.
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
hmmm harsh if I do, my husband will want to adopt and that would be really difficult to wrap my head around over having my own, still rewarding but I would need emotional support, I feel I would grieve in a way

Any doubts you are in particular you are referring to? Did you have any reserve before kids? Or worries? Fears?
If your husband adopts will you do it with him or leave?
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Originally Posted By cookiefiend⏩
If you're husband adopts will you do it with him or leave?
Well damn, that question kinda wraps chit up nicely.
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Originally Posted By Muzzlrpress⏩
Well damn, that question kinda wraps chit up nicely.
I kinda touched on it yesterday, but by phrasing it as a question now I think the answer to ops dilemma will be more clear
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Originally Posted By snailsrus⏩
hmmm harsh if I do, my husband will want to adopt and that would be really difficult to wrap my head around over having my own, still rewarding but I would need emotional support, I feel I would grieve in a way

Any doubts you are in particular you are referring to? Did you have any reserve before kids? Or worries? Fears?
if he would adopt anyway why not just have kid? Are you worried that it’ll wreck your body?
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i always wanted to have kids and a family of my own even when i was like 14 15 years old but i made a promise to my self even then that i would be married first and not have a kid out of wed lock or be a single parent home like i grew up in but i never met anyone that was wife material and i always said when i got married it would be forever not just words that we spoke and i wasent going to get a chic pregnant or just marry anyone for the sake of forcing cause i was getting older . a good family woman is almost impossible to find in todays world.

i have known too many people that have rushed it and ended up divorced and pay child support and having a kid raised in a broken home. fuc that.
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
If you have doubts like that, then don't have one and go ahead with the tying.
Can’t help but feel like this is insincere advice based on the fact that your people have like 13 babies per woman.
Originally Posted By janglingjack⏩
Imagine the hardships your ancestors overcame to give you the gift of life. Cavemen fought and killed dinosaurs with their bare hands to survive. Others fought in wars. Others survived disease and drought and starvation in unthinkably difficult times. And here you are OP in the most peaceful and comfortable era of all time and you are going to end the bloodline just because you've met some beta who's already continued his own bloodline with some other sloot.

Just fukin lol at all the cucks in the history of your family who went through hell just for a sloot to end it all for nothing.
Was wondering when someone was going to cut through the bull****.
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Originally Posted By cookiefiend⏩
If your husband adopts will you do it with him or leave?
id never leave him, id support him, I don’t take death to us part lightly. I stood by him through custody battles and cancer.... almost through his chemo now, last session is tomorrow, hence thinking about the future and I saw my gyno on Monday
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