Oh chit man sorry to hear. Weren't you making good money? Losing work sucks. What are you planning to do now?

IIRC, your boss was looking for reasons to get rid of you several months ago. Getting fired blows but I think you've ultimately just got yourself out of a ****ty work environment.

You've probably socked some cash away, just chill on that and get ready for school.

I guess finish my degree and find something to pay my room mate for rent and car insurance. Yeah my job was pretty legit.
Already enrolled cuz.

And dat dere GI bill comes with a living stipend, right?

I knw dis feel I was let go (officially i was just laid off but lettuce be reality i was fired for fighting with people in the company and being a **** lol) in Jan 2015 and I've been out of work ever since.

Keep your head up brother. Life throws us many swerve balls, it's how we bounce back that defines us.

That's tough, I don't blame you for indulging so early. It sucks, I'm mindblown that you were let go after your tenure there. IIRC your field is govt or military related so I guess they do things differently. At least you have a solid plan/money put aside, software development will definitely pay the bills.

That sucks man. I wish you luck. I'm assuming you're gonna start finding a new job?

Poster is 34, not 48 as profile states (not sure how to change it).

2017 was a pretty ****ed up year for me. In July I caught my wife cheating on me and I had to bring the marriage to an end. We got together in 2004 and married in 2011 and we have a 3 year old child together. She had cheated on me before we had our son and I stupidly took her back. But after cheating for the second time I had no choice to end it.

I have no family locally, my family live about 4 hours away, so I decided to stand my ground and not move out of the house. My wife and son moved in with her parents which live round the corner.

We have had a house and mortgage together for 5 years. I went into the bank at the end of July to start proceedings to buy out my wife from the mortgage. I was declined and told I needed to check my credit score online. I was shocked as I have always kept up payments on all bills and don't have any debts. To my shock I found out I have arrears of £15,000 debt in my name. Recently found out that a family a family member had ran up this debt in my name. It's a long story and I did protest it with the lender the debt is with but basically was told I'm responsible for this debt. My credit rating was "very poor" at this point. I had to take control of this debt and setup a repayment plan, I'm recovering this cost from my uncle each month. It's a 5 year plan and basically there's no guarantee my uncle will give me this money every month, although he has since July.

So basically within the space of a few weeks, I found out my wife had cheated on my (again), I'm £15,000 in debt and Im unable to raise any money to pay my wife off the house. I'm not going to lie, depression set in, I was in the house, feeling very alone and could not see any light at the end of the tunnel. I turned to heavy drinking. Luckily I have good friends around me which helped me greatly.

For the sake of my son I remained amicable with my wife, despite hating her guts. I have my son stay over with me 2-3 nights a week. I always want to be involved in his life, my dad had left when I was 2 and lacked a father figure in my upbringing.

A friend suggested I get on tinder and have a little fun, which his advice I took. In the October I hooked up with this girl, we got on really well and things were great in the beginning. But my beta behaviour diffused the relationship and she went cold on me. I'm still hung up on this girl despite it was me who ended it. I have since gone NC. I created a post on here about this relationship, but it won't let me link it.

Fast forward to today, almost 6 month from when I found my wife had cheated. I have since found this forum and have been totally enlightened. I'm Learning to discover and improve myself and I'm feeling much more confident. I've been working out and starting to feel better about myself, especially when I get comments from friends. I do have low moments but compare where I was 6 months ago, I've come a long way.

I'm hoping 2018 is going to be a better year. I'm going back into my bank at the end of the month, hopefully the bank will give me funds to pay my wife off my house, so she and my son can have a deposit to get a home of their own. Then I will start divorce proceedings, which will be another financial burden!

I work as a electrical engineer, currently looking for another company to work for, which pays more, as my personal, circumstances have changed. Only one income coming into the house now.

Sorry for the long read.

Has anyone ever went through this ? Man....like I know I'll be fine but I'm sick of everything I try to do not working for me. Im just done and tired of it all. Like whats the point ?

You're a ball of cells undergoing a myriad of chemical reactions sitting on one of trillions of random rocks floating in space.

There is no point. The universe not only doesn't give a fukk about you, it doesn't even know you exist.

Whew boy. You just watch Fight Club for the 100th time?

Hugs Otaku.
Got fired 2 years ago because I didn't pass a test. Did the Uber driving thing while looking for jobs. I found a job eventually. Left that one after dealing with chitty people. Got the job I'm currently at making more and happier.
Look at the positive side to this, you're in school and you don't have to deal with those people anymore. Keep your head UP!

For the most part I didn't mind the guys I worked with but Im taking a major pay cut for a bit. It is what it is. Just got to grind and try to land a web dev/front end dev job.

What does your gf think of this? Is she sad and being supportive?

Haven't spoken to her about it. However I sent her a message earlier, she read it, and then posted social media messages after she read it.

Inb4

EDIT: GF finally hit me up. Actually seemed like she cared. Her and like 5 male bros actually reached out to me.

facts

Good. I've lost plenty of jobs and it was the perfect way to kickstart me into other things I liked more. That's how I got into medicine in the first place. You already have other things you're passionate about (software dev + military) and I'm assuming you have GI bill? As long as you are breaking even in terms of pay, you're not falling behind. Time to get back up and move forward. This is probably going to be a huge blessing in disguise. You'll see.

The thing is man is man is a particular three letter agency ****ed me I may not be able to be support to Special Forces anymore....

I spoke to my recruiter and told him what happened. If the Army helps me out then Im good. If not maybe I'll go commo or try to go to Selection or Get an option 40. idk man.

You're damn near 27 year old and you wanna go with Option 40??? That's old to be a Ranger.....

Not srs.

How long you're gonna be in the Army if you get in?

Kudos on knowing what option 40 is. I've met plenty of people that made it through Ranger or SF selection in their late 20s. That said man if I can't get a job back with the government I'm 27 with a highschool diploma. My resume now means nothing. If I get in I'll work out hard as ****, work on land navigation, and try for selection and just not quit I guess. If that doesnt work out Ill finish my degree and get out.

As far as time we will see how the guard works. I need a credential for the job Im signing for and that may have gotten ****ed on the civillian side via losing my job. If not? I'll be support to SF, Volunteer for deployments/training and finish my degree on the side.

If I cannot maintain that job? I'll go active as something. Probably Commo, work out, try some cool guy stuff, and see how that works. However being 26 with essentially a High Diploma and a blank resume right now is ****ing not the business.

didn't even think polys were that reliable. that sounds shady af. What did they ask?

Google Counter Intelligence Polygraph and Life Style Polygraph.

They arent reliable. Hence why spies keep spying and damaging national security.

Personally, I think losing ones job is a good thing for 99% of people (especially males) who have minimal responsibilities... maybe not right when it happens, but in the long run it's almost ALWAYS a good thing.

You'll be fine brah.

EDIT: In fact, now that I think about it, it's similar to dating - I don't think any miscers would argue that when a bish breaks up with your ass it's always good in the long run.

That's life son.

Such thoughts are common when the wound is fresh. It's like when you go out on a bender and the following morning you think, "fuk... i'm never EVER drinking again", and in that moment you really believe that chit, but before you know it time passes and you're down for getting chit faced again.

There's definitely something wrong with them and I can't figure out why employers base major decisions off of such a faulty product. My brother also lost a solid job offer because of a polygraph.

They say polygraphs take natural human nerves into account but it sure doesn't seem like it.

Don't go option 40. That's for younger guys who feel like breaking their body. 18 series is the way for us older folk. You're not old at all but even at 27 you'd be older than most of the dudes in ranger bat. I'm telling you, that **** WRECKS your body. And you're right about older dudes doing well in the SF community, that's why the recruiter is talking to me at 36 years old.

Go for the support role asap. Worst case scenario is you do support for a year until you figure something else out. If you can work on your degree it doesn't look bad on your resume either. Just word it that you went back to school to use your GI bill money. Knock out the BS classes while you're waiting around this spring. It's not too late to get your general ed signed up (online) for spring semester. Keep moving forward, don't sit too long.

You made like $70K a year, right? Unless you were doing G4P, I don't see how you make that kind of income withoutsomeapplicable skill.

Anyway, you've got lots of time on your hands now. If you want to knock out credits fukkin FAST, take CLEP tests. 90 minute tests, all multiple choice, for college credit. If you study I'd say 3 hours a day, you could pass a test every 2-4 weeks. Get a prep book, work through it and you'll be golden.

Already enrolled in WGUs Software Dev course. Im probably gonna look for a job around town.
I have a credential that needs to be renewed. The Army or Government will do it. It'll be easier for the Army.

I'm curious which 3 letter fcked you over. It happens a lot and I think I have an idea.