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post 1550223871 04-27-2018, 05:20 PM
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Originally Posted By bradlehman⏩
Maybe your standards are unreasonably high then. There are some disgusting pig men with no teeth living in poverty who have managed to have 5+ kids. You're either a complete mutant that isn't recognizable as a human male (unlikely) or you're not going after women you can reasonably expect to see results with. I was semi-aesthetic early on in college but hadn't developed good social skills yet, and I was often amazed at the DYEL twinks and obese neckbeards in my dorm who had girlfriends spending the night in their rooms regularly. The most autistic, fedora-wearing nerd weirdo I encountered lived in my dorm and regularly had super loud sex with girls in his room such that the RAs had to knock and ask them to please stop screaming and rattling the bed. If that guy can do it, anyone can.
I don't think I'm disfigured and only obese and old women hit on me. I don't get tinder matches, or POF/OKCupid responses. 5/10s dont even give me the time of the day.

I see many guys like this in real life and the misc. Alot of us arent like....completely busted but just get low to non existent amounts of attention.
post 1550224291 04-27-2018, 05:28 PM
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Had a chance to read the rest and just have to say I'm in total agreement with bradlehman, PisseninMisc and ANumber1.
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post 1550228421 04-27-2018, 06:30 PM
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Walked in to wincel's thread, expected incel self-defeatist attitude... But to think about it, there is a grain of truth to it.

Like, look around you, how many people who are regarded as "charismatic" or "leaders" who are absolute abominations? I don't think I know one. How many U.S. presidents are there who are ugly? The past 5 are obviously not model tier but look very presentable. Even Hillary Clinton was an HBB when she was 20 lol. So yeah, there is some truth to it...

That said, make do of what you've got. Accept the ugly truth of our society, but also constantly work to improve yourself.
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
Had a chance to read the rest and just have to say I'm in total agreement with bradlehman, PisseninMisc and ANumber1.
Thank you for the feetz picz. I am not into that but it was still thoughtful.

(Don't tell Wincel, he'll rent a van.)
Nah, fukk that. I’m not doing that.
post 1550228951 04-27-2018, 06:39 PM
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Last time i went out was New years 2014 and i was at a bar with my GF's friends. I just sat there awkwardly the entire time sober while everyone else was drinking/smoking and telling boring jokes. I ended up getting mad and left.
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post 1550230271 04-27-2018, 06:56 PM
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Your problem is evident just from the very first sentence. Lol at "out conversing" anyone. A conversation isn't a competition. It's about connection, and connection is more than just words coming out of your mouth, although that's a part of it. Take a joke from someone like Eddie Murphy. Try the same joke. Not only will it be not nearly as funny, it might even come out as blatantly offensive.

Anyways, part of the problem is that you're looking for some technical definition of "social skills" when of course none exists. It's one of those vague things that are difficult to understand unless you experience it, and you have very little experience for someone your age. If you want to actually understand it, then you need to put yourself out there, but of course you won't.
Originally Posted By wincel⏩
Confidence comes from success though. So it is really all a giant catch 22. It amounts to being born in a happy family, being attractive, and perpetuating that happiness.Basically it means have nothing bad ever happen to you. Fukking lol.
No, it means not being weak. Countless people all over the world are living hard lives. Not all of them are whining about it.
post 1550231621 04-27-2018, 07:22 PM
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Originally Posted By ANumber1⏩
Thank you for the feetz picz. I am not into that but it was still thoughtful.

(Don't tell Wincel, he'll rent a van.)
lol Fibs!
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post 1550232511 04-27-2018, 07:40 PM
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
Right. But then this is mostly fake emotional manipulation, and you are just basically being a useful source of pleasure for the person. Also, if you're not desirable and you constantly say things in efforts to try to make people feel better, you will be labeled a "suck up" and a "nice guy."
You're 30 years old. You're way too old for this Holden Caulfield, "everyone is fake besides me" nonsense. It's as if you stopped emotionally developing at around 20.
post 1550232811 04-27-2018, 07:46 PM
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damn

with that thread title and 5 pages i expected a good ass thread

fukn lol @ me
post 1550233251 04-27-2018, 07:54 PM
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Social skills rely heavily on being able to "take the hint".

A socially skilled person is able to socialize better because they can take the hint i.e. "what I'm talking about is boring this person, maybe I'll change the subject, or ask them a question" etc.

Whereas a person who's less socially skilled may not get the hint and keep talking while not worrying about engaging the person they're talking to.

It's almost like in regards to socialization the way people behave is supposed to prompt "proper" response from you.

People with poor social skills are generally too preoccupied with something other than who they're trying to engage.
The billionaire and the beggar both have 24 hours in a day.

That's why grandma's apple pie rocks and yours sucks.
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At least it will thunderstorm tonight, and we know how they feel about water. :)
^^^Racist police officer who also cries about how racism doesn't exist, also cries reverse racism and typifies the stupidity of the racist right, referring to black people as "they" and regurgitating racist stereotypes.
post 1550233321 04-27-2018, 07:56 PM
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Prepare for everyone's super unique, special snowflake definition of "social skills". Watch them be different af cuz ain't nobody ITT a sociology god like ya boy RB.

Social skills are the keen observation of socially constructed social norms. They differ from society to society, from social group to social group.
post 1550233571 04-27-2018, 08:00 PM
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Originally Posted By MBisonSon⏩
Social skills rely heavily on being able to "take the hint".

A socially skilled person is able to socialize better because they can take the hint i.e. "what I'm talking about is boring this person, maybe I'll change the subject, or ask them a question" etc.

Whereas a person who's less socially skilled may not get the hint and keep talking while not worrying about engaging the person they're talking to.

It's almost like in regards to socialization the way people behave is supposed to prompt "proper" response from you.

People with poor social skills are generally too preoccupied with something other than who they're trying to engage.
This is all good stuff.
Nah, fukk that. I’m not doing that.
post 1550233711 04-27-2018, 08:02 PM
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Originally Posted By ANumber1⏩
This is all good stuff.
If by "stuff", you mean "cope", then you're right.

That's nothing but a poor attempt at justifying social awkwardness.

Contrary to popular belief, you can be preoccupied with many things, and have good social skills.
post 1550233851 04-27-2018, 08:04 PM
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Originally Posted By RainingBlood⏩
Contrary to popular belief, you can be preoccupied with many things, and have good social skills.
But you still have to be attentive to some degree on who you're engaging.
The billionaire and the beggar both have 24 hours in a day.

That's why grandma's apple pie rocks and yours sucks.
Originally Posted By Dave22reborn
At least it will thunderstorm tonight, and we know how they feel about water. :)
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post 1550236021 04-27-2018, 08:44 PM
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it's easier to list the negatives, lack of social skills to me means:

- not being able to read non verbal communication (you're talking to someone and they keep looking away = not interested in talking anymore, only reply in short responses and don't keep the conversation going = not interested in talking anymore)

- not being able to read facial expressions like people being uncomfortable, unhappy, irritated

- bringing up inappropriate topics (ranting about politics/religion with a group of people you just met)

- lack of self awareness like talking endlessly about things other people in the conversation don't care about
post 1550236051 04-27-2018, 08:44 PM
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Originally Posted By RainingBlood⏩
Contrary to popular belief, you can be preoccupied with many things, and have good social skills.
Not if the main thing you're preoccupied with is trying to prove how much smarter you are than the person you're attempting to "out converse".
post 1550236481 04-27-2018, 08:51 PM
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Originally Posted By SportCoat⏩
it's easier to list the negatives, lack of social skills to me means:

- not being able to read non verbal communication (you're talking to someone and they keep looking away = not interested in talking anymore, only reply in short responses and don't keep the conversation going = not interested in talking anymore)

- not being able to read facial expressions like people being uncomfortable, unhappy, irritated

- bringing up inappropriate topics (ranting about politics/religion with a group of people you just met)

- lack of self awareness like talking endlessly about things other people in the conversation don't care about
- being told these things and denying it like somebody just told you Darth Vader is your father, blaming it on looks instead
Nah, fukk that. I’m not doing that.
post 1550236571 04-27-2018, 08:52 PM
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It’s when you’re causing awkward moments... can’t carry convos... are a slob ect. You need to know your audience to know how to act
post 1550244771 04-27-2018, 11:58 PM
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
Just do me a favor and remember these words when you are 90, and ask yourself if you feel the same way. Every track ends the same way.
I can't believe you fell for a copypasta. All credibility has been lost.
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lmao, asking social skills on misc
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Originally Posted By MBisonSon⏩
Social skills rely heavily on being able to "take the hint".

A socially skilled person is able to socialize better because they can take the hint i.e. "what I'm talking about is boring this person, maybe I'll change the subject, or ask them a question" etc.

Whereas a person who's less socially skilled may not get the hint and keep talking while not worrying about engaging the person they're talking to.

It's almost like in regards to socialization the way people behave is supposed to prompt "proper" response from you.

People with poor social skills are generally too preoccupied with something other than who they're trying to engage.
This dude gets it.

I know a few real life autists. They have a complete inability to get social clues when talking to people and they don't get "hints" when in conversation.
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Social skills is basically being able to have a converse with people. When you speak the way you do in the thread title this is a clear sign that you are either mentally ill or have autism. Your cynicism is to high leading you to being paranoid, and fearful of everything. Not trying to be mean but you will never make it big, or make a ton of money. Success and happiness stems from the willingness to learn and improve everyday. If you think being happy and optimistic is fake then you are retarded and will never be happy or be successful.
I just want to share the knowledge I have obtained throughout my life and hopefully change someone's life.
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
I can out converse just about anyone on this planet. I'd like to know what bad "social skills" are because I always see this meme plastered everywhere. People always say "oh yeah you should work on your social skills" to other people on here. As if somehow their personalities are defective and they are unable to discuss topics, and that's why they aren't good with women. I find that a bit ridiculous. In fact, a lot of people with supposedly "bad" social skills are just ugly and people act bored and uninterested around them because they do not find those people attractive. I've also noticed a lot of classically attractive people behave extremely erratically and do and say awful things and are given a free pass. Do they have "good social skills?"

What about this kunt? Does she have "good social skills"?



A lot of people will reference "game" and say you have to have "game." However, I can show you tons of examples of "game" that is pretty pathetic and unsophisticated which sloots still responded positively to when the guy was attractive to them so I think that's pretty much a load of horsechit. I think "social skills" is pretty much a euphemism for being attractive, barring extreme cases of autism where some dude can't pick up on social cues or is literally too shy to talk.

Can you *******s show me an example of someone with "good" social skills? Also, show me someone with "good social skills" who isn't considered hot.

Also a lot of "social skills" seems to be feigning happiness and enthusiasm in everything. The people best at this are seasoned narcissists and psychopaths who are extremely good at manipulating others. It reminds me of the faux enthusiasm you see in media people during interviews. Are these examples of "good social skills" or is this just being an emotionally manipulative, fake twat?
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Originally Posted By WhirlwindTobias⏩
I can't believe you fell for a copypasta. All credibility has been lost.
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why are you always sound so whiny wincel
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Originally Posted By ManletSayian3⏩
why are you always sound so whiny wincel
Because he has bad social skills.
Nah, fukk that. I’m not doing that.
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You social experts seem to like to bicker a lot. :/
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Originally Posted By JaymzJ⏩
You social experts seem to like to bicker a lot. :/
I'm not seeing any "bickering", more like healthy debate except OP isn't budging from his POV.
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