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What’s it mean?
If dudes say “we should go get coffee sometime?” This must be a thing now because it’s the third man to request coffee. It just seems too loose to me. Like how long does a coffee take?
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it's inexpensive and can be over with in 30 minutes if you don't click
men have woken up to taking women out to an expensive first dinner only to be hit with the "i had a great time, Mike! I just didn't feel the spark that i'm searching for. take care and good luck!"
take it or leave it sugar tits
men have woken up to taking women out to an expensive first dinner only to be hit with the "i had a great time, Mike! I just didn't feel the spark that i'm searching for. take care and good luck!"
take it or leave it sugar tits
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iced coffee?
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It means they have been fkd over so many times that's all they are willing to invest at the moment
I wont even drive over 20 minutes anymore and there was a time I'd drive 1.5 hours
I wont even drive over 20 minutes anymore and there was a time I'd drive 1.5 hours
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it's a neutral way to gauge your crazy levels without spending $$$. if u are single at 40 it usually means some form of crazy or attachment issues (or both). learned this the hard way so don't take it personally.
Originally Posted By DrugsToGetBig⏩
yeah also thisit's inexpensive and can be over with in 30 minutes if you don't click
men have woken up to taking women out to an expensive first dinner only to be hit with the "i had a great time, Mike! I just didn't feel the spark that i'm searching for. take care and good luck!"
take it or leave it sugar tits
men have woken up to taking women out to an expensive first dinner only to be hit with the "i had a great time, Mike! I just didn't feel the spark that i'm searching for. take care and good luck!"
take it or leave it sugar tits
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He just wants to take his turn with you. Sorry.
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So if I say yes or go - it’s a date? I don’t mind chilling for coffee but I don’t think I want to date. Plus it’s weird when it’s people that i barely talk to- like there’s no level of comfort for me so it’s a very awkward thing to go into.
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Coffee is cheap and quick. It's to make sure you are who you say you are.
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Originally Posted By LAHipster1⏩
It’s fine lol I’ve been diagnosed with BPD - massive attachment issues. I haven’t been in a relationship for 6 years so maybe it could be different but I really don’t know. My crazy seems to be triggered by relationships. I don’t pick great people though neither. So it’s probably a mixture of two toxic people not working together.it's a neutral way to gauge your crazy levels without spending $$$. if u are single at 40 it usually means some form of crazy or attachment issues (or both). learned this the hard way so don't take it personally.
Originally Posted By DrugsToGetBig⏩
yeah also thisit's inexpensive and can be over with in 30 minutes if you don't click
men have woken up to taking women out to an expensive first dinner only to be hit with the "i had a great time, Mike! I just didn't feel the spark that i'm searching for. take care and good luck!"
take it or leave it sugar tits
men have woken up to taking women out to an expensive first dinner only to be hit with the "i had a great time, Mike! I just didn't feel the spark that i'm searching for. take care and good luck!"
take it or leave it sugar tits
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Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
I semi know them irl- i don’t feel like I look my best lately so it’s odd if it’s a date thing. Maybe they are just asking as a friend.Coffee is cheap and quick. It's to make sure you are who you say you are.
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Originally Posted By MichelleLnne⏩
yes, the guy would consider it a date
So if I say yes or go - it’s a date? I don’t mind chilling for coffee but I don’t think I want to date. Plus it’s weird when it’s people that i barely talk to- like there’s no level of comfort for me so it’s a very awkward thing to go into.
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Originally Posted By MichelleLnne⏩
Yes, it's a date. Used to be drinks, but suggesting alcohol now implies date rape is intended.So if I say yes or go - it’s a date? I don’t mind chilling for coffee but I don’t think I want to date. Plus it’s weird when it’s people that i barely talk to- like there’s no level of comfort for me so it’s a very awkward thing to go into.
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Originally Posted By MichelleLnne⏩
Just tell him Netflix and chill instead
So if I say yes or go - it’s a date? I don’t mind chilling for coffee but I don’t think I want to date. Plus it’s weird when it’s people that i barely talk to- like there’s no level of comfort for me so it’s a very awkward thing to go into.
Show him your oh face
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Originally Posted By wasp9166⏩
Show him your oh face
Originally Posted By MichelleLnne⏩
Just tell him Netflix and chill instead
So if I say yes or go - it’s a date? I don’t mind chilling for coffee but I don’t think I want to date. Plus it’s weird when it’s people that i barely talk to- like there’s no level of comfort for me so it’s a very awkward thing to go into.
Show him your oh face

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Counter offer and ask if he wants to get ice coffee.
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Originally Posted By MichelleLnne⏩
typical 40yo lost girl. such a shame.
It’s fine lol I’ve been diagnosed with BPD - massive attachment issues. I haven’t been in a relationship for 6 years so maybe it could be different but I really don’t know. My crazy seems to be triggered by relationships. I don’t pick great people though neither. So it’s probably a mixture of two toxic people not working together.
also wtf 6 years? don't forget to flush out the spider webs first
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Originally Posted By MichelleLnne⏩
That's exactly it. You'll show up mid winter bulk, he'll bail, the coffee will have done it's intended job.
Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
I semi know them irl- i don’t feel like I look my best lately so it’s odd if it’s a date thing. Maybe they are just asking as a friend.Coffee is cheap and quick. It's to make sure you are who you say you are.
BTW guy friends aren't a thing. He wants to be more than friends.
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Originally Posted By MichelleLnne⏩
What's important – seeing if there is any chemistry etc can be done just the same over coffee, if not better since less formal/potentially less nerves - knowing it's casual and not locked down for 2 hrs. No need to give a label such as date – who cares what it's called? Either you click or you don't.If dudes say “we should go get coffee sometime?” This must be a thing now because it’s the third man to request coffee. It just seems too loose to me. Like how long does a coffee take?
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Originally Posted By DrugsToGetBig⏩
don't go and waste his time if you aren't in the same boat
this, the guy may not think it's a date, but it's a precurser to a date 100%Originally Posted By MichelleLnne⏩
yes, the guy would consider it a date
So if I say yes or go - it’s a date? I don’t mind chilling for coffee but I don’t think I want to date. Plus it’s weird when it’s people that i barely talk to- like there’s no level of comfort for me so it’s a very awkward thing to go into.
don't go and waste his time if you aren't in the same boat
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Originally Posted By Fang2⏩
Hooters! Hope it's still there - brought my mom and sister there when they came for my 97 florida graduation. A place all must go.I’d rather go for some wings instead
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Nothing like a first date at Hooters. If she's up for it she's a keeper LOL! :)
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