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post 1450867123 07-03-2016, 01:32 AM
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I never liked approaching in the gym. Clubs and bars is always easiest. Beach too.

Just came with age tbh. And internet helped too with the "fuk it" mentality.

I'm an 8/10 on a good day so usually I wait for them to show interest. I never cold approach.
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Originally Posted By SpectreX⏩
You just walk up to them and say hi, easy as that. If they're already mirin the door is open. Just keep it simple, throw in some sarcasm and ask for a number. Chit is not rocket science.
You: hi
Girl: hi

(5 second pause of awkward silence, then looks at you like this)

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post 1450867903 07-03-2016, 01:42 AM
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Originally Posted By amenccm⏩
You: hi
Girl: hi

(5 second pause of awkward silence, then looks at you like this)

lol this.

my problem is.. what the hell do u say after that?
Am i supposed to pretend im not just talkin to u for sex?
thats too hard srs
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post 1450868133 07-03-2016, 01:45 AM
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Originally Posted By Nicklol⏩
lol this.

my problem is.. what the hell do u say after that?
Am i supposed to pretend im not just talkin to u for sex?
thats too hard srs
The thing is that even when I'm just trying to make a friend, people look at me like that. Male or female. Only the 40+ people seem interested, but it would be really weird to be friends with someone twice your age.
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In these cases where the girl shows interest, you can simply say "Hi" and she'll respond positively.
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Originally Posted By amenccm⏩
You: hi
Girl: hi

(5 second pause of awkward silence, then looks at you like this)

Never happened to me, but somehow this hit me in the feels.
Originally Posted By GenghisBro⏩
In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power.Then when you get the power, then you get the women.

Would you kiss me if I wear the hat?
Guess I gotta fake it, till I make it brah

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post 1450916153 07-03-2016, 12:43 PM
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Originally Posted By kalvinmc⏩


No, but really you gotta



Do you want to be some old **** sitting on your porch, on your 8th beer, thinking what if you talked to that sloot? No. Approaching women is a no risk high reward situation. If she tells you no then you go on your way and never talk to her again, you didn't lose anything. If she says yes...I know this might sound ****gy but what if she's the girl of your dreams? You'll never know if you don't do it.
Missed this somehow. Great advice and motivation thanks!
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post 1450917173 07-03-2016, 12:51 PM
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The #1 reason why guys dont approach is they fear getting their ego hurt via rejection

When in reality, the thing that hurts the ego the most is not approaching at all. When you get rejected generally it turns into a good story and a laugh with the boys, but when you dont approach at all the boyos begin to think theres something wrong or werid about you
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Originally Posted By TugOfPeace⏩
You dont go up to anybody and just say hi or hows it going...

You have to start a conversation about something situational (dont say the fukin weather ffs)

For example the other day I walked into an elevator in my condo building and this girl walked in, kind of cute

I saw her press the button for PH (penthouse) and just started talking about that.. "Penthouse huh? I've never been up there, always thought it was meant for CEOs.. You a CEO?"

Just started talking from there and it was natural conversation


Don't be the autist in that situation who says "How's it going" or "It's so nice out today, weathers great!"..


When you ask situational questions like this it really gets the other person thinking about the question and less about the approach and any awkwardness that might be there. Whereas if you say "hi" or something like that, it puts them in an awkward position too because it's almost as if you're setting them up to start a conversation
100% This... Talking about the environment instead of "hi" is the best thing and feels natural

Op just practice talking to any girl, even the ones you don't find attractive, to build up confidence, then it becomes natural and you don't have to think what to say
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post 1450922433 07-03-2016, 01:35 PM
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I usually feel more confident if I've had recent success in life, whether it be a good workout, doing well at work, reaching a goal etc. Feed off of the highs of success. Also what a miscer said the other day has genuinely made me stop being nervous towards girls and was able to get a few numbers yesterday alone without even being intimidated by these girls.

"Once you realize that most girls are losers/don't do anything outside of social media/partying, you start to realize how little their value is".

Think about it man: most women don't have the willpower to take cold showers or constantly push themselves at the gym or resist the urge to get wasted every night etc etc. Don't let the # of their instagram followers or social status deceive you: their value is often not rooted in anything substantial.
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Originally Posted By Flexium⏩
I usually feel more confident if I've had recent success in life, whether it be a good workout, doing well at work, reaching a goal etc. Feed off of the highs of success. Also what a miscer said the other day has genuinely made me stop being nervous towards girls and was able to get a few numbers yesterday alone without even being intimidated by these girls.

"Once you realize that most girls are losers/don't do anything outside of social media/partying, you start to realize how little their value is".

Think about it man: most women don't have the willpower to take cold showers or constantly push themselves at the gym or resist the urge to get wasted every night etc etc. Don't let the # of their instagram followers or social status deceive you: their value is often not rooted in anything substantial.
For the most part this is correct, women really have no interests besides social events and selfies. Problem is, even though they are tuned this way, if you approach them you are coming from a position of supplication, they know this, and if you don't cut the mustard then you're done!
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Go out and try to get rejected by 100 of girls. You really think you are gonna care about when a girl rejects you when you actually are trying
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Not the best advice to be honest. Why does it have to be situational? What if she wasn't Goin to the penthouse? You wouldn't talk to her then??
Just talk to he,r say hi, how was your day? You'll be surprised how many positive reactions you'll get by just saying that. You don't have to come up with stuff just to talk to a girl.
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i didnt
not yet anyway
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This guy is a 5/10 at best

srs

Look, i know i don't really know you and all, and i know you probably hear this like everyday, but your just so perfect to me. The few hours we talked were really great even if the convo was stale, your really pretty and chill, and your country thats just perfect :'D i really dont know how to explain it, but i think i have feelings for you somehow. i never felt like this with someone i just met, but i felt the need to get it off my chest. sorry for being all weird just idk how to explain it D:
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Originally Posted By TugOfPeace⏩
You dont go up to anybody and just say hi or hows it going...

You have to start a conversation about something situational (dont say the fukin weather ffs)

For example the other day I walked into an elevator in my condo building and this girl walked in, kind of cute

I saw her press the button for PH (penthouse) and just started talking about that.. "Penthouse huh? I've never been up there, always thought it was meant for CEOs.. You a CEO?"

Just started talking from there and it was natural conversation


Don't be the autist in that situation who says "How's it going" or "It's so nice out today, weathers great!"..


When you ask situational questions like this it really gets the other person thinking about the question and less about the approach and any awkwardness that might be there. Whereas if you say "hi" or something like that, it puts them in an awkward position too because it's almost as if you're setting them up to start a conversation
Smooth brah, I like that. Thanks for the advice
Originally Posted By ontclone⏩
Go out and try to get rejected by 100 of girls. You really think you are gonna care about when a girl rejects you when you actually are trying
Thanks for the advice mane, but seems like a waste tbh. I remember PUAs like Tyler RSD (Owen), Mystery, etc used to do this to build up a rejection tolerance, but I always found it to be bit cringy.
Originally Posted By ontclone⏩
Not the best advice to be honest. Why does it have to be situational? What if she wasn't Goin to the penthouse? You wouldn't talk to her then??
Just talk to he,r say hi, how was your day? You'll be surprised how many positive reactions you'll get by just saying that. You don't have to come up with stuff just to talk to a girl.
Dig this better than the rejection advice
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i didnt
not yet anyway
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Originally Posted By HockeyBacon18⏩
The #1 reason why guys dont approach is they fear getting their ego hurt via rejection

When in reality, the thing that hurts the ego the most is not approaching at all. When you get rejected generally it turns into a good story and a laugh with the boys, but when you dont approach at all the boyos begin to think theres something wrong or werid about you
Best post of this thread (srs)

Realized this awhile back, I'd rather be the goofball who gets denied by a few girls every once in awhile to my buddies/guys I'm with than that awkward, in the closet gay dude who never talks to girls and cowers in the background.
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the 100 rejections is real though, you literally stop caring about being rejected. your heart doesn't start racing anymore, you are not nervous to approach, and you stop dwelling on the rejections which will affect you the next time you approach again
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Originally Posted By Flexium⏩
I usually feel more confident if I've had recent success in life, whether it be a good workout, doing well at work, reaching a goal etc. Feed off of the highs of success. Also what a miscer said the other day has genuinely made me stop being nervous towards girls and was able to get a few numbers yesterday alone without even being intimidated by these girls.

"Once you realize that most girls are losers/don't do anything outside of social media/partying, you start to realize how little their value is".

Think about it man: most women don't have the willpower to take cold showers or constantly push themselves at the gym or resist the urge to get wasted every night etc etc. Don't let the # of their instagram followers or social status deceive you: their value is often not rooted in anything substantial.
100% truth right here
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Originally Posted By awwchit2⏩
This guy is a 5/10 at best

srs

Seen this couple of years ago thanks for reminding me of it, big fan of LAHWF.
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Where in GA are you brah. I'll show you how it's done srs
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Originally Posted By awwchit2⏩
This guy is a 5/10 at best

srs

Guy makes prank videos. Chances of this being real is 10%, regardless of what he says.
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Originally Posted By ProRustler⏩
Where in GA are you brah. I'll show you how it's done srs
Yo fam, middle GA. Think I'll be fine tho, just gotta get over that initial fear.
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Originally Posted By heyyouwhome⏩
SUcked on my first titty at 11, first kiss and lost my virgin at 13, literally cannot remember a time in my life when i wasn't sexually active and i'm not even a player (fckboy for the new generation). It's easy to take for granted how this happened but the reality is I would probably be FA like everyone else here were it not for the friends that surrounded me. They all got the girls first and I was sort of the orbiter but I picked up a lot from watching them, and eventually found my own niche type of girl that was into me and vice versa.

That said, in my experience if you're nervous but think you have a shot then just practice small, start by walking past smiling and say hi, you'll see you get the smile back. Then next time add in some small talk, use your surroundings to create some rapport. Build a little on your comfort level each time and go from there. You appear to be a handsome young fellow and you're aesthetic as well, so now that the physical part is good as long as you make them feel comfortable around you you're in like Flynn, it's not all that hard.
At 11 huh? Chicks don't even have tits yet that age.
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Originally Posted By DevonHardy⏩
I was at the gym with uncle tonight and caught two girls staring at me while I lifted, but I didn't say chit. I actually got a little annoyed because it took my focus off my training.

I walk pass them go get some water and one of them turns around and looks at me but I look down to avoid eye contact.

Anyway, my uncle calls me over and says "I think those two girls liked you, they were staring at you working out".

It felt a little good, but I felt bad because I could've said something, but was too scared to.

What made you brahs just says "fuk it" and approach.

Thanks for any advice homies

Edit.Good advice ITT, thanks brahs. Will rep you boyos on r/c
Honestly I talk to them like I talk to my sister. Playful, funny, and literally like I don't give a fuk. It's the easiest way to feel natural. Plus 90% of women can smell you desperate for wanting to bang them. Just talk to them like you would a sister it comes off much more genuine. Then at some point escalate to flirting once you've established them not feeling like you just want to bang.
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