this is true brah. iv'e been stating this entire thread.

approaching=chasing - depending on the situation.

that's sounds like a chitty deal, i know itll pay off later but still. school blows.

thats like the classic way for guys to look at it but honestly if you go after girls you're seriously interested in and just enjoy the experience of being man enough to go for them, thats actually rewarding. Worst case scenario you end up with some cool stories. I've even told people story after story of me getting rejected and they'll listen for hours. People, women in particular, love listening to any story that involves dating/socializing and experiencing new things. and with the failures comes success

honestly my biggest wish for all miscers would be to just get out and experience life. Stop hiding behind your stereotypes and categorizing people. Put yourself in scary situations so that your life is actually interesting and worth talking about. It's crazy the moments and experiences you'll go through

Chasing girls isn't worth it. As we all know, girls are ultimately the CHOOSERS in male-female relationships. They choose the men who they will or will not have sex with. You as a man merely must comply with her choice.

If she doesn't approach you or at minimum give off signals inviting you for a warm approach, the ROI on a cold-approach for non-chads is low enough to make it not worth it for all but the men with the strongest resolve.

im always going to close on a bitch i want to get to know. whether it's 1 2nd date, im fuk closing. but just random women man? seems chorish. i have a pretty low kill count because of it. granted, i don't fuk with bars, clubs, or anything. i haven't even went to one this year. i'm a straight up hermit.

i work from home, and i just go to stores all the time. that's the most excite my week will be. it's reclusive but fuk it. i enjoy my company, but i do want hoes eventually, and i don't want to settle on trash.

the problem is that im a jamal, or tyrone. but i'm introverted, and i don't go out some. it's hindering, but still feel like it's time wasting..

Always hated it, such a pain in the ass.

Excuses excuses excuses. ..

PUA are a different kind of *******, but chasing bitches is a must unless you a legitimate boss making millions, jacked, confident af

You either let em know and get their number or it's your hand

The fact of the matter is, if you have to do any chasing then that woman isn't worth your time, or vice versa.

Age
20

ill give you another 4-5 years to wake up.

Cold approaching women gives me that weird feeling deep in my gut, like when you kind of have to poop.

I've learned to just man up by telling myself: you lose 100% of the poops you don't take.

it's an desparate action cold approaching girls to get their number and fuk. there's no other way to do it besides having a social circle. then you keep your respect, humility, and pride.

Big dogs gotta eat feel me

yep same here. that same feel sucks.

i feel u it is what it is. either do it or not. still can't get pass the humiliation and lost pride doe.

Seriously though, chasing is a waste of time and call for desperation. No years of experience can solve or change that. I mean if another person similar with lesser experience but more time of life said something familiar I would laugh and know that life is dynamic. You think in black or white; or approach or not approach. The thing is that is very wrong and there are a million events occurring which lead to more.

Tbh I've done cold approaches or just meet them through social circle. You don't need to pursue someone who shows no interest. I'd never keep asking for dates and such to someone who isn't interested. Chasing isn't worth it but approaching is lol. Most girls will never approach even if they are extremely into you

i do not chase girls, but they run a mile for me

there ways around approaching that can seize interest and that's related to social status/circle which is the best way instead of spamming.

playing the numbers game can work but be ready for devalue. just gets worse and worse.

Thats what the MGTOW **** got right. Men should focus on internal happiness and success. Women are a by product of that and shouldn't be a mans main focus. The whole mgtow things rapidly devolved into some feel sorry FA **** though.


These days I'm more focused on career advancement because that will yield the best results for my standard of living.

I'm confused are you scared of rejection or what?

OP, you live in vegas. A cold approacher's paradise.

You could be sexing international sloots and getting yoru numbers up. You're in a unique opportunity, bitches want to fuk every night.

i would kill for the opportunity to live in vegas lol....

Yeah i guess i was wrong, maybe the approaching does work, but it's not for the light hearted or fragile ego. I use to be overweight at one point ( went on some stupid bulk where i tried to get fat lol ). Although i was only 17 at the time I went from being very attractive to looking like a chubby creep. Not to mention a lot of girls at that age are super picky and have the mind of a sociopath, my self esteem went from high to low. Getting fat over that summer vacation was the worst thing i did to myself. It took me about a year and a half of horrible dieting and cardio to lose the weight until I finally started getting back to somewhat of my old leanness. Even now i am still recovering from the huge amount of fat gained to look like the person i did before except a little bit older lol.

When you experience two different worlds i guess it makes you more cautious. At least for me it made me a hell of a lot more hesistant with the way i talked to people and carried myself. Going from very attractive to ugly to decent looking is a weird road because at such a young age where looks have a huge effect, there are also internal effects from external events. I dont know much about you, but you do have certainly more experience and I admit that it makes you significantly more wiser. You've been through lows too, no doubt about that as every living person has their lows. So I guess my lows have changed my mindset a lot as I still have that lingering voice in the back of my mind. The depression I had for 3 years still hasn't full subsided, but the habits I have developed certainly make it a lot better.

Sorry for rambling, it's a bad habit, but my point is that making bold moves takes baby steps. A guy such as me with a fragile self esteem can't simply jump into a marathon without training. Things take time, so alternatives are very valuable to get momentum going. Besides, looking at cold app now it seems very shallow and just...wrong. I can't really explain it it just seems unnatural. A genuine relationship should happen within the flow of events. Anyways I am going to stop before this post turns into an essay, but please do keep my point in mind.

Hell yea I am. I'm scared of humiliation like a fuker man. i don't know what to do, im not ugly but i'm not facially dimed out either, not that it matters, but i just started getting money so im getting acclimated to this women thing in the adult world.

i know it'll be a piece of cake but rejection is always something to think about/ to get over.

lol I'm sure you are thinking only about the strip and glamour.

i dont understand what it means to chase a girl TBH. the only women i date are ones that look decent and can communicate well + have a good education. usually nothing weird about dating normal women. i guess i dont date sloots who play games and chit for fun. only date women who are too busy with their careers to fuk around with men.

Well yes, you show interest in them, get their number but if they don't reciprocate just cut them off and let them go. No point in chasing them

yea it's cool ass chit. i went out tonite just driving around and gawd pussy everywhere. next summer it's a wrap ill be ready financially mentally physically to start wrapping up.

i see losers w/ dope looking sloots, but i want to do it the right way, and command authority so one bitch isn't much of a loss when there's another in your contacts.

player chit, it money and i just started making decent money this year and some of last so i'm kinda still new to this dating stuff i guess you know.

so much self=peserverance/improvement that i jsut become kinda like a hermit. i gotta get out there sooner than later, but when i do, it's gonna be over.

im 6'3 210. not to belittle you, and your height in which i know your comfortable with yourself, it's just easier at 6'3, and iv'e been dying to get a taste of that.