Luckily no fusion. Just laminectomy and discectomy. I sent a PM to you if you change your mind.

brb catching cross country flight

Yeah but you guys already have a bit in common. You both are looking for quality (and seem to be quality), into health & fitness, post here etc. Now it's just a matter of where you two are located in Cali. No pressure though.The hopeless romantic in me loves these type of things. I thought sure I had killed that part of me off but I guess not.
Thanks, that is me in the avi. I guess that's why growing up all the women use to pinch my jaws and kiss me on the cheek. Lulz.

Well heres a story that started a win but also a loss I learned from. Went to a bar, not my scene at all typically, pretty introverted. I had this older milf dancing near me and smiling/giggling. I have a hard time talking to people in bars. Anyway I was outside, her group was there, and I just go up and start talking, it goes good. Some other guy tries to come in, I just look to her 'want to go sit down over there?' and isolate her.

We are talking, shes being all touchy, 'i'm really good with my hands'/'let me get your number'/'my phone wants to show you something heehee!'. She drops a few lines about 'you ever have a relationship with someone with a kid?' but at this point I only want to bang and considering fake number. I ask if she wants to go to my truck. She says she wants to dance some more, but just wait because she wants my number and wants to speed time with me.

At this point I KNEW in my heart to abort, it wasn't looking good now for a ONS and I didn't want her #. But, I go back inside, hang around a bit, she is coy, starts flirting with another guy, takes him out to dance floor. Then she walks around, and he follows so I know shes playing games. I leave.

So the real lesson for me here was strike while iron is hot which I did at first, went for it, when she said no to leaving I KNEW in my heart to eject, but stuck around and wasted like 30 min. Well, live and learn

Well, it's a bar. That's like the real life version of tinder, the same rules apply. You chat for a second (you did), isolate (you did), escalate (you did) and then leave with her (didn't work out) so it basically went the same way a lot of tinder options go. It's a numbers game in the bar too. If you get an "off" feeling for even a second, just abort (like you knew you should) and move on. On tinder, if you go for the number (instead of leaving with someone) and there's an off issue about it, abort and move on.

You did fine for the most part. Just remember that sooooo many women now get off on the idea that men want them. They aren't really interested in necessarily hooking up, they just want that feeling of power and control. (source: I worked as a bouncer and listened to groups of women joke about rejecting guys nightly)

I'm just going to do this week or we'd be here for awhile

10/24/16
I meet this girl at a bar givin me those eyes. I go up cold approach and ask if she wants to go to my place cuz i got a cool ass cut out of leonardo dicaprio (she told me she loves him). the ride there was kind of weird and awkward so about 10 minutes of silence, I pull over on the shoulder of the road and take my shirt off. I start flexing my delts and biceps to break up the silence. she tells me she was ovulating and we smash.

10/26/16
i was running the other day (i know, cardio killz gainz) for just a mile to get my heart rate up. I see a hot 8/10 running with a beta indian (dot indian) who probably weighed 120 soaking wet. i asked her if i knew her from some where becuase she seems very familiar. she tells me no but i insist that i had class with her back in 2014. i ask for her number in front of her ***got boyfriend and have been texting to meet up wit her for halloween.

What costume should i wear to the halloween party my miscers?

You always need to ask then what the problem was specifically. If she avoids speaking to you, you tell her that 'you won't say anything back, you'd just like to hear what has been the real problems (no matter if she tells you or writes you some lines), so you might be able to learn and develop at least in future' (in case you agree).

Not every person will tell and reveal to you their issues, but I have no doubt that the majority will though, especially when you encourage them to do so and you promise not to come back at them (even better, say you'll only reply when you'll want to go into some more details afterwards; if not, you'll stay mute), in case you don't like what they share with you.

PS: Btw you might even start in this forum. I know at least one female user whom you've treated badly, terrorizing / harassing her and who might give you some perspective, so you could change and better yourself.

wtf. This is so fkn weird it has to be true.
(Hope you used protection btw).

1) You're wrong

2) You're wrong about your PS **** as well.

3) Your feminism clouds your judgement to the point where you use cognitive dissonance instead of actually looking at anything objectively.

Going back to point 1, you're so out of control wrong that I don't even know what to say. I ask every girl that it doesn't work out with all sorts of questions as I'm a firm believer in self-improvement but very rarely, VERY RARELY, do you get any sort of answer.He's trolling. Ignore him.

UPDATE (no dates)

-Stripper chick hit me up out of nowhere to help her move a dresser
-I ask her the details
-She says her two male roommates (loooool) can't help her move it because they're too weak

^-----You can't make this **** up. Fck this earth.


UPDATE 2

-Hit up this mom I only texted with a few times
-She'd like to meet up this week so it looks like I have another facepalm situation in the making. Nah, I'll give it a positive chance


UPDATE 3

-Met up with this bartender girl
-We chat for a bit, she's not very interesting but nice enough
-She goes outside 3 separate times to smoke (disgusting)
-She still talks to her ex boyfriend
-She still talks to her ex boyfriend's roommate (he's super into her)
-She doesn't understand why she's not meeting anyone decent

^---If I actually go on a date with this one (1% probability) then I'll be sure to actually do what females never do for me (which is be honest) and tell her that certain behaviors rule her out of girlfriend material status




So we'll see how it goes this week. Big test tomorrow, worked all weekend in the bay area. What a **** show. Went to a rode too, watched a guy get KO'd by a bull 2 feet away from me. That was fun. Still can't believe that stripper chick honestly thought I was going to help her move her **** when her two weak ass roommates (who I 100% guarantee she's banging because she's not paying rent) won't even help.

This is literally the worst advice. Asking for someone to tear you down after they already decide they don't like you is useless and likely to compound lack of confidence..

I have a question for YOU: do you realize nearly everyone here dislikes you and thinks your advice is complete trash?

Funny/awkward one for you miscers:

So there's this quiet lady whose girl friend aweired me that she likes me. I'm on a caffeine binge and run out of filters. Go hit up quiet lady for filters to keep my late-night caffeine infusions going. Quiet lady invites me in, I get a bunch of filters and she even offers me some coffee beans (score). She starts the conversation, keeps it going and we're bertstaring each other the whole time. I excuse myself and thank her for the goods.

Rate me on a scale of 0 - miscer

Sounds like something I'd do.

Not sure why you're even giving those 3 chicks the time of day. I guess the mom could be charming but the other two I wouldn't touch with a 10ft pole.

You're either very patient/trusting... or a masochist.

The first girl I haven't talked to since an earlier post in the thread where she came over and went full retard.

The mom might be nice but I don't want to deal with someone's kid. In my experience, single moms are always looking for $$$ too because they want to be taken care of. Still, we'll see how that one goes.

The last girl, eh, I just need to get better at getting up and walking away. It wasn't a date, there were people around but I felt like it would be rude to just get up and leave when she was talking to me.

I laughed so hard when I read that Stripper comment. She's a stripper so she should have enough money to hire some movers for her. She is useless.

As for the single mom, do you know for sure that she wants your $$$? I know a couple of single moms at my company (directors) that are pretty rich.

As for the bartender girl, definitely smoking is a bad habit. Hope she listens to you and quit.

The bold gave me the biggest laugh. I'd be "too weak" if I had a stripper living with me too. My sack would be drained ALL the time. Lulz.

She's right about the PS (not that I'd use the word terrorise tho!); you did neg the chit outta me, Cheers00, and Miss****lia before you went on vacay.

Your neg comment was "I'm a woman lol" .. which I'd just said to the OP so at least knew he was conversing with a female (thought it was clear from what I'd said in the thread but he hadn't realised and had called me 'man'). He actually apologised & gave me reps to try to compensate when I said I'd just been negged.
2 mins after that Miss****lia posted 'thanks US_Ranger for ruining my reputation for no reason" and when I saw Cheers00 red shortly after that I guessed you'd negged her too and was correct.
By that point it did feel like you were harassing female posters (tho Miss****lia may be trans?)

Still scratch my head as to what that was about; esp since up til that point thought you were one of the most sensible posters on rh & gave poverty reps more than once.
Aw no, wish that was true, the leonardo di caprio cut-out part made me lmao.
The 'asking for feedback' thing is flawed, yes; because most people find it beyond cringeworthy to criticise someone about very personal things to their face or say they're not attracted
... or say "you don't make enough money, you don't have enough assets, you don't seem like you have your chit together as a provider (or will have soon enough for me)"
.. .that's what 'I don't see a future with you' usually means coming from a woman.

However if someone can be honest; you can get useful feedback or at the v least get some closure & understanding as to why they didn't want to take things further.

I didn't tell bartender girl to quit. Not my place to tell people about their habits when first meeting them.

Stripper chick made 1100 dollars on a Saturday night a couple weeks ago. 1100 dollars.... So yeah, she can afford whatever she wants. She's just used to guys giving her what she wants. Weird dynamic when women like that are so open about how much control they have over weak men.

As far as single moms, the last 3 I've been our with grilled me about career, future, and one even directly asked about money and was blown away when I said I quit a high paying job because it made me unhappy. Maybe the single moms you know aren't online looking for papa money bags?

No **** that's what it means. It's a generic load of crap too but in seemingly good relationships, a normal person would expect a little more feedback than a generic load of crap answer.

I'm not sure how's alt account belongs to who but when I see Oct 2016 join dates make troll threads, they can generally expect a neg. People should just stick to their original accounts instead of being autistic. As far as who she's specifically referring to, I know who it is and its not a troll account. We had it out in public here and true colors and issues were definitely on display for many of the regular users to see.

Not many people are gonna say straight to anyone's face; you aren't earning enough for me to settle with and start a family now (and I worry you won't be in the near future either) .. of course that's just my interpretation of what she said, could be wrong. Only way you're gonna know is to ask her exactly why she didn't see a future with you, but human nature says she'll evade.She's referring to me in this instance, I don't have any alt accounts, and I'd been a member for months when you negged me while I was trying to advise the OP in his thread.
Unaware of all ^^ chit.

I saw the bay area comment bro. Where do you live in Cali?
I'm in Sac and could help a fellow Bro out.

-Met a mom
-Was supposed to go to lunch with her today
-She's super busy, said we could meet for coffee during her lunch break
-I tell her I'll work around her schedule and meet up, just give me a time
-Never heard from her. Lmao.
-Second time she's done this. Aaaaand on to the next.

Location: Chico, CA

So where do you really live brah?

I'm in the Sacramento area.

Update us on any new news, Ranger.

Small one:

Took out 21 year old, game of ping pong and a meal afterwards as we were both hungry.
Night went well, kissed goodbye, asked to see her again, to which she already has plans on the day so no biggie, actually like this one. Would like to see how it pans out.

Come on Ranger! I'm ready to hear a success story. Update us.

Sounds like a non-psychotic first date. If you get to 2nd and 3rd date then you might be good. Keep us updated.Eh. Ghosted by the last couple girls. I have a party to hit up tomorrow, I know 2 single girls in the group that are attractive. One is young and in a sorority so I'm guessing it's a 0.0001% chance that'll work but the other one might pan out. We'll see how it goes. I'm DD since I don't drink so I'll have to put in work early as to avoid being the sober creeper who's hitting on drunk girls. I'll update tomorrow for the lulz.

After the 20 or so dates that were absolute **** I kind of reeled back from the complete exhaustion of trying to deal with it. Plus I'm in a very hard program at school so I've been putting in a lot of work with that.

Hoping you land a girlfriend or FWB ranger. Mind blown we have to burn through rejections yet other guys just stand there and they magically get girls. Even some ugly or fat guys I know.

Do you think you know why you are constantly getting rejected and ghosted? Aiming too high? Not matching their cultural expectations? etc?

your problem is easy. you are not a chad.

If you are not a chad, no coping of career, steroids, game, style will be able to fully overcome your genetic flaws.(not strictly appearence either)

if you are not a Chad you will have to settle for a not so fairy tale ending in regards to women.

Chads are born. Not made.

As I've said numerous times in the thread, I've dated some extremely attractive women, ones which some guys in here would consider 9.5/10 material. Aiming too high shouldn't be the issue. Most of the time I even go for what most would consider 6-7/10 types. I've noticed that they offer more in the personality department and usually have things like a sense of humor too. They also have hobbies that aren't shopping, instagram and some other non-hobby **** that women always want to claim. It's been the same thing with them.

I've traveled more than 99% of the people I know and I realize that's changed my personality, expectations and perspective as a human being. Still, I go into every possible "date" with an open mind and give whoever it is a chance. I don't hold it for/against anyone if they don't have the same mindset as me and I understand that my lifestyle is a deal breaker right off the bat to some people because I quit a high paying job in order to do something that makes me happy. That's a death sentence with many women my age because it means no house in the burbs and whatever other things they want for whatever reason it is that they're driven to that lifestyle. Other than those situations, I'm not sure what the deal is.

Lol.

Join date: Oct 2016

The trolls don't even try anymore. That being said, other than the fact that I'm not 6'2, I'm a good looking guy. I'm muscular. I have hobbies. I have random skills in random things. I can cook. I keep my place clean. I'm interested in damn near every subject-matter out there other than crap related to television. I can carry a conversation. I'm a gentleman on dates. An actual gentleman, not the fake kind that a lot of betas in here try to be in order to get laid.

Someone else said in the thread earlier that maybe the insecurity in a lot of women scares them away from me. Maybe. I like the sound of that because it shifts the blame to others instead of myself (lol) but I'm still the common denominator. Still, I've dated some great women before so there's always these shining examples of success in the failures, it's just interesting that it's been so many shots to the chin lately.

My deal breakers are simple. Decently attractive, decently interesting, not retarded and no alcohol/drug issues. Other than that I can work with damn near anything. We'll see.....