UPDATE 11/10/16

-Was studying on the local campus and decided to hit up a friend of mine (woman) and her friend (cute bartender) to go out and get some food
-Meet them downtown, they have another coworker (male) with them
-Bartender instantly starts bitching about anything/everything (I've been talking to this chick for a month now)
-She gets drunk within an hour (whole group does minus me)
-She starts saying how good she's getting fcked by this friend of hers
-Keeps getting into more and more detail while I'm just chilling there
-She says she can't believe how nice he is too because he brought her coffee at work today, she says no guys ever do anything nice to her like that, other friend of mine (woman) agrees and says no one ever does that for her either. She says "You're ok though Ranger, it's fine you don't do it."

*side note*

Last week, while they were having a rough day, I walked 3 miles roundtrip while downtown to get them Thai food. I got them their favorite order, walked it all the way back and didn't accept any money they offered me for it because they were having a legitimately rough day (personal stuff I won't share here) and I wanted to show them kindness

-As they say all this, I just sit there and say nothing
-Bartender goes back into how good she's getting fcked by her friend
-I leave
-I text my other friend (woman) and tell her I don't expect much except to not get **** on by people after I do nice things for them
-She offers extremely lame apology
-I delete both their numbers

I go out of my way to do nice things. I expect zero thanks for it. I don't ask for anything in return. I don't remind people I do nice things for them in order to get praise or attention or anything. And then when I'm out being my normal quiet self, I get absolutely **** on by them.

Really put me in a bad mood.....

I was trying (just a bit) to put myself back out there and maybe talk to this cute bartender chick and see if it would go anywhere and this happens. It's like the universe is telling me to fck off with anything dating/woman related right now.



On that note, I'm working on an ambulance tomorrow in Oakland because of the riots. I volunteered my little free time (Veterans day) to help out and hopefully stop any bleeding from whoever gets shot/stabbed during the protests/riots. Wish me luck ladies and gents. Hopefully see you guys here Saturday. Have a good Veterans day!

**** those chicks man. Thank you for your service and volunteering to clean up after the filth rolls through Oakland. You are gonna look back and laugh at 2016 not long from now. You live in the absolute worst state in the country for meeting down to earth, dateable chicks, but they do exist. Good luck tomorrow.

Don't worry about it Ranger, I'm in that same boat when it comes down to doing nice things for women. I've learned that sometimes they won't acknowledge or be grateful with what you do unless you throw it in their face and be like "HEY I GOT THIS FOR YOU, I WALKED THREE FUUCKING MILES, BUT I FELT LIKE YOU WERE HAVING A BAD DAY AND THOUGHT IT WOULD BE NICE." I don't know what it is, but whenever certain girls don't notice those things, it just means they're so used to be spoiled that they won't notice those things from you unless you're the person of their interest.

Anyways, have fun on that ambulance and making a difference bro. Godspeed!








(PS: I think that's the first time I've ever used "Godspeed")

Wut? If your time is that stretched why are you even dating? I'd be limiting myself purely to girls that fell into my lap at that point - no effort expended. Not worth the scheduling stress


And you can tear strips off female bosses too. They seem to take it better than male bosses if you stand up to them. Every time I've ever thought 'OK, this time I've done it...' I've ended up being my manageress's new favourite

edit: you're surprised that a barmaid is a dumb, worthless cumdump? C'mon Ranger.... I'm starting to worry over here

Three mile walk for a colleague's lunch? Phucking hell...

I know it goes against every empathetic urge in your body, but when you see someone stuck with no-one else to call on, there's a strong, strong chance that that person is there because they never put the effort into cultivating strong friendships with people who would be there for them in crisis time. You can't expect people like that to notice (or even really care) when you do something nice for them

I can count the people who would be there for me like that (and vice versa) on one hand. That's plenty. And none of them seem to ever need help because I only tend to get close with people who have their chit largely together

Man you sound like you are a little TOO nice my man. I used to be chivalrous with every woman, treat them like WOMEN, you know the way your raised to.

After many failures and times women laughing in my face for being a gentleman I soon realized, EVERY woman will have to EARN that from me....I think you need to let these women PROVE their worth to you before you go doing things for em'. Not saying to not be nice, but you can bet your a$$ I ain't walking 3 miles to get food for two chicks that sound and seem like shallow trash.

I know what we take from your stories through a keyboard probably makes you say to yourself "they aren't like that" , but if they talk like that even once you should be able to sense the trashy sluttery from a mile away brah.

At least thats my 2 cents...I've trained myself to sense it from a mile away and I purposely hold back all but the most basic gentlemenly qualities until I get a feel that she is gonna actually appreciate those things

Stay safe out there working the Box brother!!!!

Thanks for the support guys. I appreciate it. Working in Oakland last night was....different. Nothing too crazy though, just weird being in the ghetto again. It's been awhile. No one tried to shoot me so that's good.

You guys are right too. I shouldn't do nice things for people who don't deserve it, etc etc. But, at the end of the day, I don't bend my standards because I'm taking some L's in the dating world. If you were rejected by 20 decently attractive women in a row, would you date someone who's obese just because you were desperate? I hope not. You should uphold your standard. I feel the same way about how I approach multiple facets of dating. If I'm a nice guy and some bitch throws it in my face then I'll just cut her out and move on like I've been doing. I should be more selective but I'm not going to change my core values because 2016 seems to be the turning point where a large majority of women (the ones I meet at least) are worthless. I've met good ones before and I imagine there are a few more out there somewhere.

Oh, Jizzler, to answer why I'm even trying dating when I'm so busy, well because I'd like to actually meet someone who's worth a ****? I haven't had a lot of time in my adult life to date and have good relationships. Going to Africa, Middle East, etc doesn't allow for quality relationship time. I'd like to meet someone here and give the whole civilian/normal life a chance at least. It's not looking good and I'll probably end up back in in the military when it's all said and done but I'd like to at least try. One solid chance at least. It just seems that I can't meet people without substance abuse or psychotic issues lately. It's disheartening.

Thank you for your service Ranger.

I've done well in Sacramento after I have combed through the BS.

Can't give up on civilian life just because of some dregs. Keep on at school, get the job, get your feet under the table and see if the quality of women in your social circle skyrockets

Right now it's just a stop-gap. Trying to find a great relationship during a phase like that is like trying to find a gourmet meal at a truckstop (worked two years on effectively minimum wage once whilst getting my **** together... believe me)

UPDATE 11/13/16

-Cut out a few people from my life that were just crappy (like the people from the last update and a few more)
-Decided to contact a couple people that ghosted me awhile ago
-No response

-Went to a work training function today
-Was going to try and hit on the 4-5 extremely attractive women there
-Was cockblocked the entire time, won't go into details but it was enough that I didn't get a chance to approach anyone

-Woman that is recently out of 10 year relationship hit me up again today, I rarely talk to her
-She's damaged and really wants to hang out and I feel like **** about it because I know for a fact she's already in love with me because I'm nice to her
-Now I need to cut her off or it's going to be bad but she's going through some stuff so I can't just add misery to her life


There's a cute Asian chick at the gas station near campus. I'm going to cold approach her the next time I see her there. Excited for it, we'll see how it goes!

Ranger: have you tried paid dating sites?

Currently seeing a girl from there and they seem more serious, educated/good career, have better personalities and they actually talk lol. We had our second date on saturday and still no kiss even which is certainly a first for me. I am kind of rustled actually but extremely turned on at the same time. Girl is reserved as fuk/shy/slightly awkward and not giving any vibes that she wants to be kissed, yet seems interested. Her history suggests good girl but possibility of sl00t in disguise to sink her claws into a good catch is also possible (no e-brag). Time will tell I suppose. She actually beat me in bowling but redemption was had at the bball arcade game as I set the record on the machine and could tell she was shook. Don't think she was expecting that and she seemed impressed, fukin love that game. Will be going for kiss on date 3 and move on if she rejects me.

I'm so disgusted with dating sites that I haven't even thought about it to be honest. I mean, if you have a suggestion, maybe I'll make something during Christmas time when I get 3 seconds to breathe but as of now I've just been approaching girls in person rarely and trying to connect with former ghosts (so no response obviously) and that's about it.

I was in the gym today and I'm not going to sit here and brag but I'm in really good shape and not a bad looking guy. I made eye contact with 15 different women and as I moved around the gym (to actually lift, not flirt), they'd look away every single time I'd look their direction. Maybe it was insecurity on their part of maybe I'm just Sloth from Goonies after all. Regardless, I'm having zero luck over here.

PS - I will not put homo pics on a dating site (shirtless mirror selfies, basically any selfie, or anything that is borderline zyzz aka homo) so if that's the method, just let me know now so I can avoid it.

Free dating sites and paid is a huuuge difference man. You see the quality change even in the profiles, nevermind when you start talking to them. I would also recommend Match over E-harmony as Match allows you to search everyone that is on there, whereas E-harmony is based on matches only. I do believe opposites can attract as well.

Being good looking and especially jacked intimidates women more. If you are tall, then even more so. Only older more confident women actually hold eye contact with me (35-40+). The younger ones seldom do but they do repeatedly look, so I look for this and so do you by the sounds of it. Next time just hold eye contact until they look at you again then smile or even wink so they know you caught them looking. Then ask them why they being so shy to break the ice.

In terms of your pics, it sounds like you do all kinds of fun chit so I am sure you have good pics. Just post those. More the merrier, just pick the ones you look best in. The right woman/woman you want is turned off by shirtless selfie's as some think you just want to smash. It's all about the cut off sleeve t-shirt/basketball jersey pics which show her that you are jacked but not really bragging about it/trying hard.

Ranger, I was raging at your top story, like 'wtf is he doing listening to some bishes talk about f-ing some guy?' Glad you deleted their numbers. I'd seriously reconsider your nice guy thing you got going on esp walking to bring them food. Looks mega needy/pathetic. I know its a 'good/considerate' thing but modern girls are worthless sloots that look down on that hard.

I used to be a mega nice guy to, and it did nothing for me. Girls would come talk to me about how their bfs are so mean, but they'd be fukiing them 2 days later.

What sort of trash are you dating dude? Come on, make better choices.

Seems like you have a method down. I'm going to browse the free section on Match and see if I find anyone I know on there. I think I have an ex that uses it. I thought it was free though?Well, women don't know what they want. It's true and people can call me a misogynist, etc but repeating patterns speak for themselves. The "nice guys finish last" mantra is there for a reason. Stereotypes exist for a reason. Guys that act like *******s always clean up and that's fine. I don't go for quantity anyway, I'm all about quality. It's just funny that I've met sooooooo many women over the last couple months and not a single fcking one has been quality. The one that I had hope for (nurse) ended up ghosting me after her Halloween party so that was that.

And no, I'm not going to change who I am. My hope is that I'll eventually meet someone who appreciates it when someone does things for them and it doesn't scare them away or make them feel insecure or whatever other subconscious thought process is going on.

I remember my ex (one who's dog I saved) had a moment with me where she said she wasn't as nice as me and she never would be. It almost sounded like an insecurity rant. I told her it's not a big deal and that I wouldn't want someone who acted like me (who wants someone exactly like themselves?) but maybe it was a tipping point for her and she wanted the more "I don't give a fck if you're having an issue with your car, I'll let it break down and not do anything about it to help you" type. I never understood it and I always thought that it would be appreciated when you do things to help someone out but that's only been true in very, very, very, very rare cases.That's like saying "jump higher" or something like that. Sometimes you have to see people when their guard is down to know they're trash. The alcohol was definitely a catalyst for this particular event. Seeing people drunk is an eye opener to their real personalities. It's happened like that numerous times in my life.

Match is only free for first week I believe. Don't restrict yourself to someone you know, give whoever you attracted to a shot. Remember, they are paying to be on here, chances are they should be more serious.

Some will say that even your own family cannot be trusted in today's society so it should be no different for some woman you meet. Trust and respect is earned, not given.

I've been called misogynist for not being okay with guy friends, all inclusive girls only trips and regular outings to the bar lol. Surprise, surprise she was also a gutter sl00t in disguise. Know that there are women who know how to respect a relationship and don't have these needs or desires (which is exactly what I told her in response). These are the ones we need to be securing brahs so know your worth!

I realized I sounded a bit judgemental there - I meant that you're better than women like her. If there are absolutely no signs that's fine.

What's wrong with someone out of a 10 year relationship? At least that shows she can be in a long-term relationship and she wasn't riding the cawk carousel.

The keyword there is "recently," deadliftbrah.

girls like that are why god invented fleshlightshttp://guysnightlife.com/hottest-fleshlight-girls-porn/

we don't want fleshlights you fuuckin' weirdo.

UPDATE 11/17/16

-Had to do some training today for medical stuff, saw a REALLY cute woman there
-Approached, she told me she had a boyfriend
-Saw another really cute woman there
-Approached, she was already talking about her boyfriend with someone else lol

-Went to the gym, saw a really, really, really cute girl there
-As I was contemplating approaching her, she goes and hugs her boyfriend who's a legit 3/10
*take no FA's, even 3/10 dudes can land some hot women*

-Go to mma gym to do my daily training and keep on top of my game
-Last round, last 20 sounds of last round....
-Broken nose
-Bleeding all over the mat, I walk off, ask the front desk if they have a first aid kit, hot woman at the desk says: "You're bleeding....."
-I say: "Really?" (who says that........you're bleeding, wtf)



So now my nose is busted. I did my best to break it back into place but it's still crooked and swollen. I'll have 1-2 black eyes tomorrow. Great. Third broken nose in about 15 months. Not to sound like a vain douchebag either but I'm batting 0-20 right now with the dating (not that I've been talking to anyone recently as evident by my absent dating log) but this sure as **** isn't going to help. As I said, I did my best to rebreak my nose into place but everyone at the mma gym was borderline retarded about what to do so I only had the mirror to go off of. Now it's the "What happened to you" speech that's going to happen 500+ times over the next couple weeks.

too phucking badass for regular people ranger

and thats the bottome line playa

Lol, sure buddy.



UPDATE 11/18/16

-Approached a girl on campus today
-She looks at me and says: "Hahaha, your nose!"
-I walk away

I thought I straightened it pretty well, did the best I could in the mirror. I asked the people at the boxing gym if it was straight and they just all looked at me like I was retarded. I went back in there today because I left my water bottle after yesterday and it was still there so a small victory at least. Hit the bag for a half hour, I think people were weirded out that I was back in there instead of home with an ice pack? Whatever. Not sure what to do about cold approaching with my fcked up face now but such is life.

Go to the doc if your nose is crooked, especially if you're always breaking it. Get a hematoma in there and you'll be in a lot more trouble than having a black eye and a conversation starter



Why did you snap at the receptionist? And that girl on campus was probably hitting on you... walking away will have come off as butthurt

I didn't snap at the receptionist. It was more like:

*I walk up with a newspaper under my nose to catch the blood*

Me: Do you have a first aid kit with some gauze?
Her: <pause while we stares at me> You're bleeding!
Me: <sarcastic tone> Really?
Me: First aid kit?
Her: We don't have one.

Anyone with brain cells would have a simple first aid kit at a big mma gym. Whatevs.

No point in getting my nose fixed while I'm still boxing. I'll fix it when I'm done one day. Plus I'm in the middle of a program where I can't be taking time off to get surgery done.

Girl on campus was definitely not hitting on me. She actually started laughing at my face. I didn't just turn around and walk away either, that was me cliffs'ing the story. I walked away about 20 seconds later after I realized she was going to keep laughing.

Nose looks better today though so that's good.

It's tough when you are older in college.

I was working on my Masters when I was 33 and I felt like out of it around the undergrads.

Sounds like you would do better in a more metropolitan area like San Francisco.

UPDATE 11/19/16

-Talking to a girl for the last few days
-She starts telling me about some really personal things, says only 5 people in her entire life know about it, says she trusts me
-We keep talking
-Today she tells me she's been asked out by someone else, says she sees potential with him, says it in a way to sort of rub it in
-Don't really know what to make of it, kind of bummed me out a bit tonight, especially after she tells me things that are super personal

Yet another one where I thought I had a connection of some sort only to get sidelined quick, fast and in a hurry. Welp, back to studying I go.

in lol

good luck

UPDATE AGAIN

Wow. Just wow.

So she says this guy asked her out. I tell her ok, hope it works out, etc etc. She says she hasn't accepted yet and that she likes me more. I tell her I'm not into the game playing/chasing thing. She says she's not about that either. I quote her own words and how she says it to show her that it's exactly what she's doing.

So in a few texts I get:

"He may have potential haha"
"I like you more"
"I haven't accepted yet"
"I told him no"

And then she tells me she's not about game playing. I sent her a long text saying how it sounds from my end, how I wish her luck, all the standard stuff and then she just sent me a text saying she's sorry and she didn't mean it like that, etc. Already deleted number.

There goes another one. Lol. What is it with people and their game playing. In before "Dude, you gotta play the game!!!!!11@@1"

Nope.