cliffs:

*Around 25 years on both
*Friend and GF been together 5 years+
*The have an apartment together and thinking of buying a house
*They have been talking about getting kids lately

*GF goes to South Africa as an exchange student for 6 months.
*Acts weird when she comes home
*Admits she got feeling for another guy down there (she meet him last month there)
*Breaks up, 5 years for nothing

*Girls comes from a 100% pure swedish conservative/churchills home.
*He is planning to come and visit her.
*They had sex already (obviously) without protection lel


Should we let our girlfriends go outside the door or chain them?
Discuss

Seems normal. They're different people at 25 than when they started dating at 20. What's his reason for not putting a ring on it after 5 years?

cliffs:

*Around 25 years on both
*Friend and GF been together 5 years+
*The have an apartment together and thinking of buying a house
*They have been talking about getting kids lately

*GF goes to South Africa as an exchange student for 6 months.
*Acts weird when she comes home
*Admits she got feeling for another guy down there (she meet him last month there)
*Breaks up, 5 years for nothing

*Girls comes from a 100% pure swedish conservative/churchills home.
*He is planning to come and visit her.
*They had sex already (obviously) without protection lel


Should we let our girlfriends go outside the door or chain them?
Discuss

Seems normal. They're different people at 25 than when they started dating at 20. What's his reason for not putting a ring on it after 5 years?

man lands on moon

1+1 = 2

Lmfao different people. BS.

Shes a WH-RE. Very very good riddance.

Lold at 6month exchange, knew what was up instantly

Met a guy this happend to yesterday... you from ny?

You mean she got plowed by some Afrikaner Chad. Good riddance.

This will 100% happen. People in general around her age have no idea what they want. They go get this feeling that reminds them of their whole honeymoon phase with their original BF/GF, and they miss it. For some reason they think that phase is now sustainable with this person they just met. She will realize after a couple of months that the phase was just that, a phase, and she should have never jumped ship like that. Everyone misses that initial excitement, but people are too stupid to realize when they have something that is a good thing. It's the whole "grass is greener" scenario.

That's why serious relationships @ 20 are retarded. No one wants to settle down and give up on new experiences for the rest of their life @ 20. And they won't. Which is why the relationship will fail.

On the other hand, if you don't go into those relationships, you won't have experience and won't be able to form relationships when you're older. So, I guess heart ache is just part of being human.

sorry brah ,she said she was single

If you are in a relationship and you don't want another dude to stick his disgusting unkempt dink in your girlfriends mouth, vagina, and *******, then don't for the love of god let her go overseas without you. Especially not for 6 months.

I agree with most of your posts in this thread, but I'm inclined to side with the other guy in this case. While I do agree that generally they will fall in line without being prompted to do so, I think there is a place for "active" control in relationships; its viability hinges greatly on the dynamic, as in, it won't work without a strong dominant male/naturally submissive female pairing. It's also very dependent on the context of said control - establishing an initial boundary by putting your foot down decisively and firmly, if framed and delivered properly, won't be taken as insecurity in my opinion. Whereas if you have a history of showing insecurity in situations that pertain to your woman being around other men, it's nigh impossible to frame it in a way that won't be taken as a further projection of your insecurity.

I can only draw from my own experience, but a girlfriend of mine, who had a history of traveling abroad for 4-6 weeks at a time with her friends prior to us dating, brought up that she was planning another trip to southeast Asia for the following spring. I immediately put my foot down and established a boundary in what was previously uncharted territory. I explained that the trip would come at the cost of our relationship, as I didn't emotionally invest myself in people who deemed it appropriate to be absent from their partner for extended periods. I was very calm and collected; businesslike, but completely unyielding and firm. It was actually very well received. I didn't explicitly tell her to cancel her trip, just indirectly reminded her that she was essentially replaceable and I wouldn't hesitate to do so if she violated what I felt were the terms of our relationship. She cancelled it without question and never attempted to cross the boundary again. There was no lasting resentment of any kind, she just became more attracted and attached to me. Maybe that's a rare example, so your mileage may vary, but I think the logic is generally sound as long as it meets the criteria I mentioned above (proper dynamic, proper context, etc.).

Lmao, she only mentioned one of us?







































Thats not how it works down here, nomsayen.

Tell your friend we are all sorry bro.

cliffs:

*Around 25 years on both
*Friend and GF been together 5 years+
*The have an apartment together and thinking of buying a house
*They have been talking about getting kids lately

*GF goes to South Africa as an exchange student for 6 months.

fuuck.. my gf is planning to go 2-3 months abroad since she's got holidays for the next half year..

how ****ed am I? Been together for over a year and she's 100% faithful and very serious about it.

This **** makes me scared.

They were both naive about the situation.

6 months in a foreign country, everyone is going to sleep with a local. If it was switched around, your boy would have slept with someone.