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post 1478452171 01-10-2017, 08:54 AM
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Had to push back because we had one friend who had last minute meeting in city too late.

We're taking him out tonight for some burgers n watch basketball

Nervous but in truth is good my friends would tell me if I was in such situation. Such a good guy and we always knew she was a rat chit person but it's time w the evidence we have to at least give him a reason to walk

Nervermind the way she degrades him in public and dropped him off at a bar and never came back.
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post 1478453691 01-10-2017, 09:07 AM
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with the push back...I think we need pics of said intervention in progress
post 1478454631 01-10-2017, 09:14 AM
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Originally Posted By dabbe⏩
with the push back...I think we need pics of said intervention in progress
Agreed, the suspense is killing me. I hope it works out for you though man
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post 1478455231 01-10-2017, 09:18 AM
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post 1478456691 01-10-2017, 09:30 AM
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Alot of these guys saying don't meddle in his business, leave it alone and sht... dude FCK that. If any of our girlfriends were on tinder looking for "the perfect man" while DATING us!?!?! We DESERVE to know. It genuinely pains my heart watching people get played who are in relationships...
You're doing the right thing OP. If he stays with her even after this convincing evidence, he is a cuck and deserves his misery. Hopefully this is how he starts fresh though.
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Lots of people saying "don't do it". Do it, OP. Even if it ruins your friendship. That is what a real friend does, brah.

Friends sacrifice for each other, even if it may be that very friendship that demands a sacrifice. If he turns on you, at least you had integrity and you can enjoy your own closure. When it comes to situations like this, if you are not in harm's way, you are not in a position to help. It sucks, but that is life.
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post 1478460231 01-10-2017, 09:58 AM
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damn u brahs wouldn't tell your friends? thats fked up lol.

i've tried to save my brah from getting cucked into marriage, intervention and everything.

she was in charge of wedding invites.

i didn't get one..

she also is chillin with a 30k ring that he is still doing payments on cause it was the "one" she kept hinting her mom to hint to him.

saw me a few months later and she said "we were goin to invite you but we didn't know your address.". (i moved to texas but they could've asked? lol) i think she just hates me lmfao

never talked to em again
post 1478460601 01-10-2017, 10:01 AM
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Good on you. Can't let a friend drive their life off a cliff and not try to help them.
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Would do the same if in op shoes. But if he goes into full denial angry mode, I'd cut him off as a friend, can't be friends with a beta of that degree
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post 1478461881 01-10-2017, 10:12 AM
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Originally Posted By MyGhettoFantasy⏩
Lots of people saying "don't do it". Do it, OP. Even if it ruins your friendship. That is what a real friend does, brah.

Friends sacrifice for each other, even if it may be that very friendship that demands a sacrifice. If he turns on you, at least you had integrity and you can enjoy your own closure. When it comes to situations like this, if you are not in harm's way, you are not in a position to help. It sucks, but that is life.
exactly, thanks.

I told my one friend who's going what is worse? Him finding out now or her doing something like leaving him.

No ones nhappy about it but it's not friggin fair a good man is in this situation. And I'd not be a true friend if I didn't at least let him know what his chitty gf is doing behind his back while he works his ass off.
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post 1478462121 01-10-2017, 10:14 AM
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Originally Posted By GreenWave1⏩
Good on you. Can't let a friend drive their life off a cliff and not try to help them.
yep. If the roles were reversed I'd hope my friends would let me know; it's about caring for your friend. Instead of throwing my hands up saying "welp! None of my business."

That's wrong. Specially when there are decent women out there who would love to date him and treat him with respect.
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post 1478462721 01-10-2017, 10:18 AM
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Originally Posted By Foxmulder0⏩
yep. If the roles were reversed I'd hope my friends would let me know; it's about caring for your friend. Instead of throwing my hands up saying "welp! None of my business."

That's wrong. Specially when there are decent women out there who would love to date him and treat him with respect.
srsly repped for being a good brah. idk why other people are telling u not to aware lol. i rather be told i'm being cuck and then if i realized im being cucked, i'd thank you for being my best brah. rather than be cucked and you knew the whole time and didnt say chit
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Originally Posted By Foxmulder0⏩
yep. If the roles were reversed I'd hope my friends would let me know; it's about caring for your friend. Instead of throwing my hands up saying "welp! None of my business."

That's wrong. Specially when there are decent women out there who would love to date him and treat him with respect.
Did the same deal to a bro last night about his wife.

He cried got drunk thanked all of us. Bro hugged it out.

He was happy and didn't shoot the messenger. We had picture proof so it was hard to not accept.
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post 1478462901 01-10-2017, 10:19 AM
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post 1478462921 01-10-2017, 10:20 AM
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Originally Posted By eltoro24⏩
Did the same deal to a bro last night about his wife.

He cried got drunk thanked all of us. Bro hugged it out.

He was happy and didn't shoot the messenger. We had picture proof so it was hard to not accept.
wow. Really sorry to hear that. What was the proof and what was she doing?

What a piece of chit too. Wife.. smh
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post 1478463591 01-10-2017, 10:25 AM
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Originally Posted By Foxmulder0⏩
wow. Really sorry to hear that. What was the proof and what was she doing?

What a piece of chit too. Wife.. smh
She quit her job and has been on a find myself tour out of town for 6 months while he foot the bill.

She deleted her ******** and made a new one in her maiden name. No Ring in any of the pictures and a dude on the new page has In a complicated relationship with her name.

********. lol
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The problem isn't your friends girlfriend... it is your friend. He is insecure as hell and feels like this girl is the answer to those insecurities and not himself. You're about to try and take the bone away from the dog (good luck with that), when what you really need to do is to get him to realize he doesn't need the bone.

I tried to help a buddy once and failed. The 2nd time (different buddy) it failed... but then i had an opportunity to prove to him in person with the chick right there that she didn't give a fuk about him. That actually worked as he felt betrayed by her ... he almost instantly turned 100% hateful towards her hah. It's always funny how obsession/love can quickly turn to hate.

I posted this quote in another thread:

"You can't change emotion with logic. You can only change it with action."

Trying to "explain" chit to him isn't going to work (just look at how many responses in this thread there are of people saying, "I tried totellhim". If I were you, I'd go on a bro's only trip for like 3 days... go skydiving, go skiing, go to a strip club, go party, go to some place outdoors and just chill. Get him physically, mentally, and emotionally away from that witch and show him what really matters ... his friends. Make sure he understands that you all took time out of your lives to hang with him because you care, and youallthink he's being used. Explain to him that its pretty unlikely that ALL OF YOU are wrong about this witch. Maybe even get him to see that it is he who is broken and is using this girls affection to cope.

If that doesn't work... fuk him. Let reality smack him in the face, that is, if he doesn't have blinders on and can see it.
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If a close friend told you a gf was being a sketchball, You would be insane not to investigate. If he came to me with evidence, it's that much easier.

How are people expecting this guy to get mad?

If a close brah told me this on the verge of engagement, that brah would never have to pay for a drink in my presence again.
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Originally Posted By gharlow⏩
If a close friend told you a gf was being a sketchball, You would be insane not to investigate. If he came to me with evidence, it's that much easier.

How are people expecting this guy to get mad?

If a close brah told me this on the verge of engagement, that brah would never have to pay for a drink in my presence again.
People you let into your lives are a reflection of yourself... especially people you fuk and intend to marry. When someone questions the quality of that person what they are really doing is putting into question their bro's self-esteem, beliefs, and life purpose. Very few people take that well. Most aren't going to get angry at their bro's ... but they will act really annoyed and start distancing themselves.
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post 1478477621 01-10-2017, 12:23 PM
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Originally Posted By faxanadu⏩
The problem isn't your friends girlfriend... it is your friend. He is insecure as hell and feels like this girl is the answer to those insecurities and not himself. You're about to try and take the bone away from the dog (good luck with that), when what you really need to do is to get him to realize he doesn't need the bone.

I tried to help a buddy once and failed. The 2nd time (different buddy) it failed... but then i had an opportunity to prove to him in person with the chick right there that she didn't give a fuk about him. That actually worked as he felt betrayed by her ... he almost instantly turned 100% hateful towards her hah. It's always funny how obsession/love can quickly turn to hate.

I posted this quote in another thread:

"You can't change emotion with logic. You can only change it with action."

Trying to "explain" chit to him isn't going to work (just look at how many responses in this thread there are of people saying, "I tried totellhim". If I were you, I'd go on a bro's only trip for like 3 days... go skydiving, go skiing, go to a strip club, go party, go to some place outdoors and just chill. Get him physically, mentally, and emotionally away from that witch and show him what really matters ... his friends. Make sure he understands that you all took time out of your lives to hang with him because you care, and youallthink he's being used. Explain to him that its pretty unlikely that ALL OF YOU are wrong about this witch. Maybe even get him to see that it is he who is broken and is using this girls affection to cope.

If that doesn't work... fuk him. Let reality smack him in the face, that is, if he doesn't have blinders on and can see it.
I get what you are saying and we plan to take him out of state to snowboard.

But we have proof, clear as day. It's her information, her dog and cat with names, her profession, her saying "looking for the perfect man".

If we lose a friendship fine, but I tell you I'll sleep okay at night instead of letting this **** grow while he gets ready to propose.

None of us are looking forward to the conversation, but I'm glad he has the condo in his name and everyThing else so that piece of slime can be cut the fuk off and kicked to the curb.

She's called me 11 times in row before and 2 voicemails because she stormed out of a bar and left him stranded and we took him in(my gf and I). He gave her my number one time when his phone died to get in touch and the nutjob wouldn't stop calling .

She's literally mentally ill or something.
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Originally Posted By Foxmulder0⏩
I get what you are saying and we plan to take him out of state to snowboard.

But we have proof, clear as day. It's her information, her dog and cat with names, her profession, her saying "looking for the perfect man".

If we lose a friendship fine, but I tell you I'll sleep okay at night instead of letting this **** grow while he gets ready to propose.

None of us are looking forward to the conversation, but I'm glad he has the condo in his name and everyThing else so that piece of slime can be cut the fuk off and kicked to the curb.

She's called me 11 times in row before and 2 voicemails because she stormed out of a bar and left him stranded and we took him in(my gf and I). He gave her my number one time when his phone died to get in touch and the nutjob wouldn't stop calling .

She's literally mentally ill or something.
do it. you simply have to as a friend. and fuk that bitsh.
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Originally Posted By godownfighting⏩
probably just making guy friends on tinder my gf does it all the time
lol..can confirm, I swiped right on your girl. Now we're pen pals.
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