Lmao... not surprised.

I dunno, bro. I think she was just trying to be playful.

Pretty sure she's just a 19 year old with little life experience regarding just about everything.

She probably didn't know what it was, but she was trying to be playful about it.

I'm not retarded. I can tell when someone's being playful or they're just ignorant of most things.



She also lost it on me again last night, right on cue. I saw her for some work thing I had going on around her area. We hang out, go to dinner, mess around a bit (didn't end up going back to her place) and then went our separate ways. I then get a text saying I'm a dishonest person, how I don't care about her, etc (I just bought her dinner too) and all this ****. I just text back "Ok, I'll see you around" and then she blows up even more. Lmao. I just ignored her after that.


Hmmmm.....

Deal with young women who are retarded
Deal with older women who instantly dislike me because I haven't lived the standard western lifestyle of school/career/house'

So many awesome choices!

You have to stop just saying OK or being quiet when she goes on these little outbursts. Give her an ultimatum; it either stops or you bail. You've smashed her enough times anyway.

She thinks just because she is attractive and lets you smash, she can get away with childish behaviour like this, and you enable it by tolerating it.

Ultimatum doesn't really work in this case, she's 19 and the emotional outbursts will happen regardless because she isn't emotionally mature enough to control herself. Ignoring is the best bet, she'll come back around and he can smash if he wants. If he doesn't want to he can just continue to ignore or straight up tell her his reasoning for no loner wanting to see her.

UPDATE:

-19 year old went right for the jugular.
-Tells me I'm a dishonest person, I don't care about anyone, etc
-I tell her that's not true and she even admitted that much the last time she blew up on me when she said "You deserve better"
-She says this is different, etc

Get this:

-Tells me that she doesn't want to see me anymore and that she's busy now doing something with her life so she doesn't end up 30+ years old and doing what I'm doing

Holy hell. That one actually shocked me. It was a pretty long message too, basically summed up that I'm a piece of **** and going nowhere in life and that everything I've done up to this point is a waste. On top of that, pretty much insulted everyone who works in pre-hospital medicine.

At this point I wanted to write a really long message explaining everything a rational human being in my position would want to explain. Instead, I simply told her that it's a horrible thing to say and that I wish her the best. I then blocked her number.



It's a funny thing too and a lot of it makes sense. I've been dumped before because of my alternative lifestyle. They usually don't admit it's the reason but we both know it is. However, when I'm actually dating them, they ALWAYS want to hear stories of working in Africa, of my time spent fighting in SE Asia, of my time in the military, of my time diving off the coast of Honduras and Belize, of my time working with wildlife, etc. All these things I've done in my life take time and in that time I've managed to graduate from college, serve my country and travel the world. Women who get to know me always tell me I'm interesting and have a lot of experience and a good outlook and then **** like this happens. It's not the first time either. They want this guy who travels the world and does cool **** but they want the guy who makes $$$ and is going to buy them all their shiny toys and take care of them. It's funny how many times I've been told that the reason they like me is because I'm not the standard guy who went to school and then career and then I end up getting dumped for the same reason. Logic, not even once.

In the case of the 19 year old, we weren't dating so I couldn't give 2 fcks but my ego wants me to get her to explain how I can be so interesting and so worthless (apparently) at the same time. And seriously, what a HORRIBLE thing to say to someone. I guess it's the same ol' **** though, you have the biggest cawk when they're with you and then the smallest when they hate you. You're the best they've ever have when they're in love and the worst they've ever had when they're out of love.

Dating sucks yo.

You sound like the bad boy Chad that girls hook up with, and then move on to someone more stable to try build a life to settle down? But at 19yo... huh.

Right? That's something I normally get from 35 year old women, not 19 year old.

I'm just sick of the dishonesty.

And I'd be a bad boy Chad except that I'm not a Chad and I'm not a bad boy. I'm actually a nice guy and every woman I've ever dated has told me that up until the point where they hate me for whatever reason it is. (90% of the time I don't even know such as in this case)

Just throwing out a guess, but I don't think you've heard the last from 19yo. She seems way too unstable to write something line that and then not follow it up with another bawling phone call later.

How are things with 21yo.

How fuucking weird is that...

Damn, brah. What a drag that whole situation was. Looks like we are back to the drawing board.

Ranger, as rude as her comments were you shouldn't even let it bother you..the reason it does is because you are a good person

But the opinion of strangers or people of no value should never matter to you. All she offered was a vagina and an unstable brain attached to a flapping mouth. Your the better without her, shes literally a child in the mental development stage. I feel after this much rejection and bull**** you've gone through its easy to get down on yourself and let words get to you. But regardless of all the advice or criticism you get in here I think you are at a point where you should stop listening to everyone else's opinion and have faith in the way you are. Sooner or later something or someone will come along!

I've never been flaked on, but ghosted on multiple times.
I'm a 25 year old good looking guy. Since my last relationship (7 months ago), I've been on multiple dates with multiple women.
I'm usually able to get 3 or 4 dates out (including smashing, etc..) out of a girl before I get the ghost.
There are some girls, mostly older (27-32), that text me to say that they are ghosting me..."it's not gonna workout with us, you are a fantastic guy, handsome, great head on your shoulders, but I'm just not into it. Our dates have been some of the best dates I've been on, but I'm scared." The girls my age just flat out stop texting/calling me.

Like WTF do I do in this situation? My family thinks I'm a manwhore because I go through girls like it's my job. They dont believe me when I tell them the truth either, that the girls are the ones ending it with me... They think I pump and dump them. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

LOL, 19 year old caught the feels and is raging hard that said feels are not reciprocated. Just because she's an idiot doesn't mean she can't detect emotions or lack of.

I'd bet a decent chunk of coin on hearing from her again.

Ah sorry to hear US_Ranger.

Regarding conventional lifestyle, you DEFINITELY will hit that as a man in your early 30s. You may hit it more because it seems you chose the road less traveled compared to those that have a more conventional, linear path (career, house, car). I get it.

I told you about this but I'll tell the rest of the board. I met this one girl last year that was cute. I met her through a mutual friend and we conversed at this bar. Her BF was there so I didn't push it obviously and I was just being my normal flirty self.

I saw her a few days ago because my friend invited me out and we hit it off. She's single now. We danced and made out. She just graduated and is 24 and is going to move to California for a new opportunity. As I was going to her place to drop her off she asked me:

Why are you 33 and not married yet?

Wow. I explained it to her. I moved to a city where I felt very uncomfortable and didn't forsee myself settling down at. I was in serious relationships and they didn't transpire into anything. I have moved around a lot growing up so I tend to have a very 'transient' lifestyle and me finding a place to call "home" was one of the main things I focused on before having a family, also I am very career driven.

Well long story short she ended up sleeping with me. She told me her ex was 36 an a "professional bartender". smh. It was certainly resistance to determine "what is wrong with this guy".

I understand being in your 30s and single. My ex still tries to give me **** about certain things in my life and says "you're almost 35 grow up" lol

Because I'm a man with rising sexual market value and don't have the same biological clock as a woman.

UPDATE:

-19 year old called my phone and left numerous voicemails from unknown phone numbers
-SHE CALLS A MUTUAL FRIEND AT SCHOOL JUST NOW AND TELLS HIM TO PUT ME ON THE PHONE
-Holy hell, I make "no no no" motions and my dumb ass friend doesn't catch the hint because he doesn't get social cues so I'm raging pretty hard as I'm trying to tell him to hang up
-I lose my temper a bit in front of the instructor and a few other people that I'd rather not lose my temper around
-Her voicemail said something about how PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE hear her out, etc, she understands I'm upset, blah blah blah, didn't listen past that


So she's calling me from unknown numbers, leaving voicemails, calling mutual friend at school while I'm in goddamn class and wants to talk to me. I've blocked her on everything.

It's funny how patterns repeat. This chick is actually VERY similar to someone that posts here and I'm disappointed in myself for even so much as speaking to her but I guess sometimes it's a tough lesson to learn. Background on her:

-Comes from a rich family
-Never had to work a day in her life
-Interests include rich girl stuff like shopping, fashion, etc
-The second you tell her she's wrong about anything she absolutely loses her mind
-Family is EVERYTHING to her, it really bothered her that I came from a broken environment growing up (got kicked out at 14, etc)
-When upset, she sends personal insults that are beyond the standard "I hate you" crap and into the realm of vicious and almost evil


In her quest to insult me before I stopped talking to her, she insulted everyone who works in my field and says that because I'm not 30+ and a doctor, PA, etc that I'm a worthless piece of crap who's not going anywhere. I could have come back with how I just quit a job making really, really good money because I wasn't happy but that's not the point. The point is that when you come from a rich family and your life is laid out before you with whatever you want, you don't understand that everyone else has to struggle a bit to get where they want to go in life. It's not a part of her DNA to even understand such a thing. All she's doing is looking for a mate who comes from the perfect family, has the perfect job, and will drink martinis with her when they're on the slopes of their favorite ski resort.

Man, I hate stereotyping like this but this has happened a few times in my life now. I should know better. I wasn't even upset about this dumb bitch until she called my friend in class. That's crossing the line in multiple ways. Hopefully Captain Save-a-ho (my friend) gets the fcking hint.




UPDATE 2:

-21 year old told me she wants to be around me all the time and how I'm unlike anyone she's ever met
-She loves that I actually listen to what she has to say and cares about the things she's passionate about

-I get the feeling I'm about 2-3 dates away from the L word or something of that nature. I need to scale back and I feel bad because I don't see a future with this woman. She keeps telling me stories about how she used to hop from guy to guy when she was bored and all sorts of other things that are a major turn off for a relationship. It might be about time to cut this one off, not sure how to go about doing it though.

Ha, and you were right (see update)Indeed we are. I'm pretty much in the same boat as you now, think I might just lay low and avoid approaching unless it's thrown in my lap. At the same time, I want to approach and find someone decent. I'm just sick of the fcking game.Thanks for the positive insight brah. I don't value her opinion but I was shocked that she would insult everyone in a medical field that's low pay, high stress and involves someone's life literally being in your hands. To insult that sort of thing is beyond my comprehension as a man. That's like insulting someone in the military for not making a lot of money. No one joins the military to make a lot of money. It's the same as the field I'm in now, people who work 60+ hours a week, save lives and get nothing in return for it except a low wage. I thought that was respectable? I guess not according to some people.Also right. Lol.How does it feel to be put into a category as "Something is wrong with you" when you don't fit a certain stereotype? Don't you just love it?

First of all, I apologize for entering your thread but I am mad just reading at what she did to you. She is a complete freaking psycho. She will never understand the struggles people have to go through who grew up in less fortunate environment. Your field is very respectable. Keep doing what you love to do. Ok.. I'll leave your thread now.

ROFL 19 year old is fkn crazy. No wonder she's mad, you have the temerity to not fall in love with her when she's clearly so much better than you! Her tiny little mind just can't compute what's going on...I guess no-one ever told her spoiled ass 'no' before.

Wait, did you take the call in class? Or just get pissed at your buddy. It's not a great either way, but I hope you didn't have to sit through an earful of that BS in the middle of class.

And just fukkin lol at 19yo. The scary thing is I imagine she's going to end up with that rich kid one day if she's hot enough, because that's just how things work. I guess that'll be someone else's problem to deal with - hopefully she's done with you.

I didn't answer the call in class. I blocked her number. She called my friend who (like an idiot) came up to me with the phone outstretched. I was cleaning up some medical equipment and putting my stuff away, completely caught me off guard. I didn't answer it and I started to get pissed as my dumb friend didn't seem to get the hint that I wasn't talking to her.

And yes, this chick will marry a rich kid one day. She's hot, she's spoiled, she has a **** attitude and life is on easy mode for her. It's happened to me before. A wretched bitch who insulted my entire family lineage and blamed them for genocide (srs) while insulting everything that I stood for. But hey, she's rich and spoiled so she'll marry into money and life will be easy. Funny how that works.

Also happened another with this rich chick who has a disorder where she steals everything. Literally everything. She was caught stealing all her roommates stuff and it finally involved the police so her family took her out of school and moved her to England. She's back and forth from England 1-2 times a month and spends her days drinking wine and dating this rich dude from London.

Rich women are by far the worst ones to date in my opinion.

5 voicemails from this chick in the last 10 minutes.

On the phone with tech support to figure out how to stop this.

Just deadbolted the door and closed all the blinds. (srs)

Fck my life.

And a loaded gun under your pillow. Amiright?

without reading anything i just want to say everyone should be aware at this point american women are ruined

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You only dating; just tell her you working on things with ex and how she is an amazing person, etc lol

Def don't sound like relationship material as you pointed out. Their need for abundance usually resurrects at some point.

She's really showing her true colors, huh. Fuuuck that.

Yeah. Major dad issues with this one. These are the types that are always attracted to me. I fcking hate it.14 missed calls last night from unknown numbers.