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post 1484594061 02-22-2017, 11:10 AM
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Not having Kids?

Anyone else here strongly considering not having children?
My wife and I will be married 5 years in July. I'm 30 and she's 29. Neither of us ever truly wanted them, and as the years go by we are getting closer to officially making the decision to get my nuts clipped. Not 100% yet. Still thinking we'll give it a few years before we make it official.

The truth is we love our life. We love being free to do whatever we want and the thought of being tied down by a child at this moment doesn't outweigh the benefits of having a Kid. We still have so much we want to accomplish and things we want to experience.
I'm not saying people with children aren't happy or don't get to enjoy their life. That's just crazy. What I am saying is that for what we want out of life, children just get in the way of that for us.

I know what society says about how people should live and the natural life cycle but frankly, we don't care. As selfish as this sounds we just want to make ourselves happy, not our parents or siblings.

Another part is I'm kind of scared to be a father. I know I'd do my best to be a great father but having a child that turns out to be a scumbag would suck. Or a Whore for a daughter.

Sure we'll miss out on some cool things in life, taking kids trick or treating, reading books to them, watching them play sports, but for us, those things don't overcome the joy we get from being free from that massive responsibility.

Any other young married couples out there on the same page as us??
post 1484594231 02-22-2017, 11:11 AM
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post 1484594541 02-22-2017, 11:13 AM
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It's written in every human's DNA to have children. You can either accept and embrace it or see it as a challenge to overcome.
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post 1484594661 02-22-2017, 11:15 AM
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post 1484594751 02-22-2017, 11:15 AM
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post 1484595431 02-22-2017, 11:19 AM
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post 1484595791 02-22-2017, 11:21 AM
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Biologically, most people have the desire to have kids. However, if we were completely rational beings, human procreation would be a much more rare occurrence in my opinion. Point is, If you don't want kids, there's no reason to have them, just because everyone else is having them.
post 1484595991 02-22-2017, 11:22 AM
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Been with girlfriend for 7 years. She wants kids, but I don't. Both know it's a deal breaker but we just can't end it with each other.

Hurts my feels that the decision not to have kids will break us up. Would happily spend rest of my life with her but just can't get over the kids thing.
post 1484596051 02-22-2017, 11:23 AM
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having kids sounds terrible
i think i would like to get married and just save my money and vacation 2-3 times a year instead of paying for a child.
having kids is such a burden and it's a huge investment, i don't see the point in having kids when the world is already over populated...
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post 1484596071 02-22-2017, 11:23 AM
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post 1484596171 02-22-2017, 11:23 AM
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I'm 34. Wife is 33. Been together for almost 11 years now

We have no plans to have children but we agreed that we would not turn away from it if she got pregnant

I love spoiling my nephews and my cousin's kids but that's enough for me. We're flying 2 of our nephews down and taking them to Universal for spring break in a few weeks. I think I'm more excited than they are
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post 1484596211 02-22-2017, 11:24 AM
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Single and no kids crew checking in

Disposable income, free time, great social life. Don't need kids to "complete life".

I understand everyone is wired differently and some of those NEED to have children to feel complete. I just don't see it in my future. I'm perfectly content with how things are.
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post 1484596321 02-22-2017, 11:25 AM
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you are only 30 and 29. I don't understand why there is so much pressure on having kids that young. Wait until like 40 to decide in my opinion. By then you guys should have accomplished everything you want and have a ton of money saved up to provide the kid whatever they want.
post 1484596381 02-22-2017, 11:25 AM
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I have two sons, it's pretty rad and isn't too expensive brah

Sure you can't always go out and do chit but have two little brahs is the coolest chit in the world imo.
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post 1484596571 02-22-2017, 11:26 AM
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Originally Posted By jimberee⏩
nuts clipped, wife leaves then what
never has to worry about babynames.com

The world isn't overpopulated, but if you want to use that as an excuse, go for it.
post 1484596611 02-22-2017, 11:27 AM
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Originally Posted By SmokeyNYY⏩
Wait until like 40 to decide in my opinion
That's a good idea if you want a retard attached to your hip for the rest of your life
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post 1484596741 02-22-2017, 11:28 AM
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Originally Posted By arn710⏩
I'm 34. Wife is 33. Been together for almost 11 years now

We have no plans to have children but we agreed that we would not turn away from it if she got pregnant

I love spoiling my nephews and my cousin's kids but that's enough for me. We're flying 2 of our nephews down and taking them to Universal for spring break in a few weeks. I think I'm more excited than they are
I'm your age and my gf is almost 9 years younger. We'd both prefer to not have kids. We obviously wouldn't turn away if she got prego. I have a niece and nephew that I spoil the **** out of though.
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post 1484596811 02-22-2017, 11:29 AM
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I wanted children but as I get older I'm like No Thanks Jeff. Most people with kids look miserable and stressed out. But who's going to love you? My parents and siblings. Maybe you needed kids to help you around the farm but today it's a burden.
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post 1484597451 02-22-2017, 11:34 AM
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lol @ the bizarro world where not having kids makes you selfish

not sure if

you would have been really set if you did no marriage and no pillow though
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post 1484597721 02-22-2017, 11:35 AM
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Kids are the only reason we're here.

Feel sorry for people who will never know that.
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post 1484598301 02-22-2017, 11:41 AM
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I've never met a child that I liked. they are all greedy self centered *******s that spit, piss and chit on you. 25, with my gf for like 4 years and never having kids. 7.5b people in the world why should I add to that ridiculous number.
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post 1484598551 02-22-2017, 11:43 AM
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Nah bro I'm sweet, I prefer freedom and no financial stress
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Originally Posted By gixxer0.6g⏩
Kids are the only reason we're here.

Feel sorry for people who will never know that.
there's no reason we're here, briuseppe
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post 1484598821 02-22-2017, 11:45 AM
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Have 2 boys under 3 and my wife wants another one. Shiits brutal. Daycare cost like 500 bucks a week. Totally understand people not wanting kids and mine are aesthetics as fuk. You've willingly brought something into existence you'd gladly kill and die for. Its a trip though.
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Originally Posted By gixxer0.6g⏩
Kids are the only reason we're here.

Feel sorry for people who will never know that.
You feel sorry for people that weren't born? Not sure if that's what you meant, but I think that's impossible. Life is cool and all, but so is never being born. "People" never born, have no awareness to even know that they've missed out on the cool, bad, painful, and fun parts of life.
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Originally Posted By SteadyWayfarer⏩
You feel sorry for people that weren't born? Not sure if that's what you meant, but I think that's impossible. Life is cool and all, but so is never being born. "People" never born, have no awareness to even know that they've missed out on the cool, bad, painful, and fun parts of life.
Feel sorry for people who will never know that level of love. You think finding your soulmate is love? It doesn't even scrape the surface compared to having a kid.
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no chance I will have kids
post 1484599501 02-22-2017, 11:51 AM
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Originally Posted By gixxer0.6g⏩
Feel sorry for people who will never know that level of love. You think finding your soulmate is love? It doesn't even scrape the surface compared to having a kid.
Oh, i understand what you mean now brah. Yeah i imagine it's a great feeling, just maybe not worth the investment for me at this stage in my life.
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Careful opie. Theres a lot of retards on the misc that think not having kids makes you a failure as a human being. Srs.

I was in another thread simply arguing that "Children/marriage works for some people, but doesn't necessarily have to work for EVERYONE. Different strokes for different folks." And had a metric **** ton of users trying to call me out/retarded.

Doesn't make sense to me at all. Want kids? Great bro, go for it. Dont want kids? Doesn't affect me at all.

These morons literally equate success by the amount kids you have instead of personal accomplishments. I even listed some of the most brilliant people in the past who didn't have a wife/kids, and they just ignored the point completely.
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