U are a reasonable and good poster Lucifer baby. I got uggs and Ipad for you right here. I can show u the world, bend u over, and show you what a real man can do. I will make you feel sensations that you have never felt before in your life babe. However, your veins are looking kinda flat and I can't see your face. Thus I am going to go out on a limb here and assume that ur facial aesthetics are subpar. I will still **** you until you love me *******. Then I will kick u out of my flat and not call you until next Friday.

Any tips for asking a girl out in a college class? Girl is in my program and in one of my classes. I'm at a commuter school.

We chat a bit just a bit of small talk before and after class, she's cute. Feel like asking her out but have never asked out a girl from class before.

I've just been thinking I'll just straight up ask her after class one day "This is random, but would you want to go out some time?"

Not sure what I could do otherwise, any tips is a ppreciated.

No, don't say "this is random." What does that even mean?

You randomly started talking to her so she knows what the deal is. The only thing left to do now is to just do it. Have a plan in mind and ask her to do it this Friday. HAVE A PLAN and ask her to do it. It's really that simple. You already know each other, so now just confidently ask her to chill. Stop thinking so much. It will be fine.

Yeah totally man. In my book, every regular poster here is gonna get flamed at some point. I can't wait until someone decides to flame me. However, that probably won't be for a while. I do not have dirt that someone could potentially use against me. Or do I?

It's hard to fight back when I have a 16,000 to 22 post advantage on you, but I'll be on the lookout haha.

Yeah I tend to over think ****. Do I actually say let's chill or do I say "want to go out this Friday?"

Tell her you are planning on going somewhere and want her to come with you. Have a plan, dude. Have definitive plans in mind that you wish to include her in.

I don't wanna open a thread but I just wanted to write something here since this thread is frequented by serious and respectful members. It's just sharing some personal thoughts based on personal experience and feelings, I just wanted to write for the sake of getting something out of my chest.

OK, I remember once in this thread or the previous version I discussed with Vick how we tend to blame ourselves whenever a girl sort-of reject us, even if it's not something to do with us. We always ask : why I didn't excel? If I was that great guy, any reason the girl used to reject me wouldn't be valid.

Well, I brought this up because tonight, 3 hours ago, I was in a wedding of a male co-worker.
And a female co-worker who I tried to approach a year ago and rejected me stating that we should stay friends, was there. And damn, she was gorgeous.

I know it's not advised to try to date a co-worker, but I have a principle that I always follow regarding women and dating : If I feel attracted to a girl and start liking her, I say fuk it, and I go for it. If it works, it's good. If it doesn't, it's an experience and a lesson to learn. Just I don't act in a way that would harm my image and self respect.

Let's go back in time a year ago, after she told me we should stay friends, of course I accepted it and told her no problem, and that we're grown ups and that won't affect our professional relationship, and "friendship", I put the word friendship between two quoting marks because I don't think we were really friends, we were colleagues but each one of us considered the other as one of the likeable, good colleagues, you know, the ones you trust, find them kind, and don't have any problems with.
Anyways, I'm mature enough to never try again with a girl who rejected me, I don't do that. I did it once when I was 20, and it was a big lesson with all its negative outcome.
So, I kept my relationship with this girl limited, even less contact than before the rejection, I won't deny that we both somehow feel awkward with each others, despite trying to "normalize" things.

I also won't deny that I still like her, but the good thing is that I'm not thinking about her, I don't feel the need to be with her, and I know damn well that my little bit of feelings for her are based mainly on lust and infatuation, and that's once again something I learned to determine through the experiences and years, I know exactly what my feelings are and I don't build an imaginary image for any girl, it's not love, yes they are feelings, real feelings, but they are feelings for the image I see with my eyes, not the person, because I don't know that much about her. It's mostly about appearance, and that includes of course the way she talks, smiles, etc .... not only her looks.

So, tonight, we met at the wedding, I was the first from my work to be there, as I'm always punctual like a German. I was alone in the table, for 30 minutes, until she came, and damn she was prettier than ever, soft classy make up, nothing over the top, amazing dress.
She came to my table, said hi and had a seat, the thing is, she sat two chairs away from me, I don't know if it's normal or not, but I think it's because of the little awkwardness between us. We had a little chat and then our colleagues started to arrive.

Of course since my "feelings" for her are mainly based on lust, I really felt regret again. You know in these situations when so many thoughts inside you got triggered again, massively and simultaneously. I re-lived those moments of hurt, ego hit in its heart and blaming myself for not being that excellent when approaching her. But I stayed in total control, I kept cool at the wedding. Totally cool.

10 years ago I would text her saying something stupid like "You looked amazing today". But now I can easily resist the temptation. God damn it, I really want to passionately kiss her right now. But don't worry, I will never make the mistake of following my instincts instead of my mind.

And that's a lesson to any one who thinks he loves a girl, you have to acknowledge the real nature of your feelings towards her. Because I see so many guys who think it's love, no, you can't talk about love until you really spend so much time with each others and see every flaw, go through tough moments together, etc ... Many guys are attracted physically to a girl, and think it's love, and then act based on this illusion.

It's not a shame to have that sort of feelings for women, but you have to know their nature, admit it, and then control your actions. We can't control the feelings, any feelings, but we can control how we act when we have those feels, we shouldn't allow ourselves to do something stupid.

Anyways, sorry for the long post, but I found it a way to relieve myself from those feelings I mentioned, and it worked !

And I also think that sharing personal stories and experiences is always useful for each others in some sort. We are always learning in this life, I learn from my own experiences and from others as well, including this forum.

Hey bud, I think you are spot on and have a really health view of the differences between love and lust.

Hi guys how have all of you been?? My dad wants to get my and my brother tickets to Atlanta because there is this Indian matrimonial service thing going on. Basically it's a weekend long event. I want to go just to visit Atlanta lol

[QUOTE=CheekyChris23 post_id=1487775401]Haha have fun with ur liver damage u German/Irish misc female. It is okay though, you will have a legion of white knights at ur service, ready to care for you after you have to get surgery to remove ur liver. Those same beta simp white knights will hold ur hand through the rehabilitation process and buy you "get-better soon"/"I will always be there for u" gifts. However, just like Psychosylocibin always preaches (he is one of my favs), CHAD will sweep u off ur feet and you will be so happy cause he is a hawt, chiseled, charming fella with perfect 5 o'clock shadow, hairline, eyes, and physical dimensions. However he will end up pumping and dumping u anyway (99% probability he does this). Then u will have to settle for a beta white knight, as per life's rules and ur biological clock dictates.
Lastly, on your profile, it says you are a registered hermit. Let me take a gander at what that means. You stay at home and surf Tinder, only selecting the CHADS and then you sit back and get them to come to ur place and service you?[/QUOTE][QUOTE=CheekyChris23;1487777581][QUOTE=deadliftbrah19 post_id=1487708561]I'm Irish
Didn't drink on St. Patrick's Day
You sir are a party pooper
Red


Lmao, while you have been making somewhat of an effort to change urself deadliftwoman, let me remind u who u are exactly. U are a wannabe "female physique competitor" who can't/couldn't get it done cause you have more mental issues than a mental hospital. You are a dirty scumbag cheater who tries to justify her cheating. Newsflash sweetheart, cheating is cheating, if you were unhappy with your husband u should have just divorced him. But u didn't cause "catholics do not believe in divorce." Lol strong catholic values right there, cheating on ur spouse and breaking ur marriage vows (just cause he did it does not mean u have to do it too). U have a preference for young hard-bodied men, that is obvious, but do not act surprised when they won't settle for an old hag like you who brings them back to the house while ur HUSBAND was there.

Lastly, it is great that u are rediscovering your faith apparently (that would have been more useful earlier lol), but do not shove it down everyone's throats, quoting scriptures and ****. At the end of the day u are a "former sloot" and cheater who struggles dealing with life and all its stressful aspects, so you get more medicine prescribed for you than a hardcore junkie (I'm stretching it to make a point here). Newsflash, you don't need all that medication, however, I bet you need it so that you feel less guilty for all the scummy things you have done in your life. I hope your daughter won't have to see any more young CHADS walking around the house nude with cum all over their genitals and her mom laying in bed breathing heavily and telling herself, "Dammit God, I fell into temptation again, please forgive me for banging CHAD while STILL married to my hubby who won't satisfy me."

Cliffs: none.[/QUOTE]Why the fuk is this dude red? lmao

Is it the paint-throwing event? We have quite a large Indian population here, so they are all participating in it.

I love Atlanta! You should go.

There's some Red dude roasting everyone ITT, so beware.

Muahahahahahaha. You're amusing at least. Reps for making me laugh.

FTR, I said I don't need an excuse to drink, not that I'm a raging alcoholic. I may have 1-2 beers per month with a steak or burger, so I think my liver's A-OK. <chuckle> I'm also a geezer, already completed my biological imperative to reproduce, and have absolutely no interest in Tyrone, Chad, or whoever else is floating around misc nowadays. I don't have an account on tinder, match, eharmony, plenty offish, or wherever folks go to get laid because I don't date, much less get serviced by random f*cks. 'sides, I wouldn't be much of a hermit if I allowed others to know where I'm holed away. I enjoy my privacy too darned much, smh.

The color festival thing is Holi lol it's not that. It's basically a weekend long mixer for single Indian people that are looking to get married. I just want to go just to visit Atlanta

Ahh, ok. Why not possibly meet a future Mrs. HoustonMiscer?

HoustonMiscer, go to the event. Push yourself a little bit here. GO TO THE EVENT you dumb fuuck <3.

CheekyChris is that dude.

johnreese, I do think there is a definite shift in your mindset for sure, if I remember out prior conversations correctly. I've had a log up for almost 6 months now between both threads so it's hard to remember, though I do believe we had some intelligent chats. I appreciate your input in this thread and I also do remember a similar paradigm shift, if you will, regarding myself and my interactions with women like you described.

Dirtymanjames, just go for it dude. Again, have a plan in mind and ask her to do just that. On a definite day, at a definite time. DO IT. Stop questioning yourself and just GO.

Update on me: like I said, date on Saturday night was really great. We went to play pool and then went to a pub. We had some fun talks and I let her play her music in my car. So much Bieber, haha. At then end when I dropped her off, we made out in my car for a little bit. It was much more than last time. She texted me after basically telling me that she "sort of" liked me, which is pretty cool. I am planning on just taking her out every weekend until I either get tired of her or we become a couple. She has sky high potential despite being a little bit older than I like to aim for (28.) She is fuucking brilliant and looks like one of my celebrity crushes. No exes in the picture, barely any social media activity, has money and ambition, and knows how to make me laugh. Things are good.

LA in 16 days. Cannot fuucking wait. Might come back from my vacation and pour 80 hours a week into my side business. I see nothing left for me to do at this job if I don't have the backing of leadership to pour more money into areas I know we are in dire need of replenishment, so I am just coasting along and coordinating my plans for when I am ready to make the leap.

Workouts have been awesome lately. My groin feels alright now that it is getting slightly warmer, nutrition has been pretty good (including an avocado every day,) and I am looking pretty good these days. Football season starts in like 3 weeks and I'm pretty excited to start playing again.

Also have a few other Bumble options but none of them are really exciting in any way at all. Maybe 1 or 2 but they are easily forgettable. I like the girl I've been seeing and don't see the need to maintain other options unless they make it super, super fuucking easy for me. At this point I'm too lazy and have too many projects at the house and in life to try to juggle multiple girls, which makes it nice to have a good one currently. Hair is growing and I should be able to bun it by the summer, can't wait for that.

All things considered, life has been pretty good lately.

Good to hear Victorious Vic manana

Also CheekyChris is my new favourite miscer...just gonna sit back and watch him rip everyone to shreds! I agree with his mantra...noone should be safe from the flamings! that's what makes a group bond tighter if anything!

Thanks bass. Toronto in April brah! For a nice smoke n chill session.

We're all dudes here, mostly. I like the whole "rip on each other" dynamic.

How do you find so many women you are both physically and mentally attracted too? I feel like the ones I know who have both are rare and when they do exist, they are either taken or have extremely high standards.

Another interesting thing - noticed that women who are in this camp are starting to behave almost like men. they don't really care about how mentally stimulating a guy is, just as long as he is good looking/right attitude etc. Examples - very attractive women in her late twenties going after guys in their early twenties who are less educated/less intelligent etc. just because they have a certain "look". I'm seeing this a lot lately.


Glad your meetups are going well man

I don't know, maybe I have low standards for mental attraction. As far as physical attraction goes, hot girls are everywhere and I am not shy about starting a conversation to see what's up. Between the internet, real life, the gym, my travels, and just not really being afraid to start a conversation, the stream of women in my life is whatever I'd like it to be. I have the power to meet who I want and talk to who I want. I am in control easily based on the gifts I have of wit and humor, plus not really giving a fuuck what anyone out there says or feels about me.

I am less educated than the girl I am currently seeing, however I look good and I am a lot of fun. I think showing you are fun and at least will achieve some level of success (not necessarily a super high salary or accomplishments in your field) are all you need to get someone's interest. The girl I'm seeing currently never brings up her level of education or anything like that. We are just two people, really. I think things are shifting toward that: just be two people who have fun, like each other and can build experiences. "Credentials" as I see them aren't as important as long as you're doing something you like with your life.

For example, I told her that it's likely I am going to quit my job soon and try to start my own business, which would mean I'd sorta be unemployed yet pouring time into what I like to do. She told me that she wouldn't consider that unemployed at all, but chasing a dream, and commended me for taking that leap. Whether she would stick around for that or not remains to be seen, however those were her current thoughts.

Tempted to neg because I got smashed on St Patty's day. Cheer up *******!

Details pls you arse tickling super ****.

And I agree with da bish that you're taking a commendable leap.

I am trying to start a business in a hobby I enjoy spending time and money studying and working on. That's about all I will say currently. It is a content based business that also specialized in consulting. I am being intentionally vague, and I apologize, but until I am proud of the work I have put into it I am going to keep my mouth shut for now. But it has to do with one of my main hobbies and trying to monetize my knowledge and experience within the realm of said hobby.

I can confirm that Vick has unusually good skill at what he's doing, excited to see how it goes.

Are you planning on doing anything in particular here?I definitely agree with this. I have multiple degrees and licences, etc. But women never ask nor care about them.Hmmm you must have figured out a way to get paid to smoke cigars.

Thanks for the support Bass! You are a good and reasonable poster as well. Exactly, you are spot on.

Thanks man. Definitely excited as well... just need to get to the point at which I am comfortable leaving everything I am currently doing behind to pour a few years into it and slowly build it.Yep! Two Cubs games, against the Diamondbacks and the Nationals. And yeah, that fits with my experience as well. I find that the girls who care about those things have more often than not just purely been looking for a loving relationship and companion. And hah! Exactly! That'd be the dream. Hopefully if I find the great success I am searching for, then one day I can parlay that into a cigar review blog or podcast or something.OH SHIIT GUYS WE'RE TURNIN' HIM

Lol I am not even thinking about that. Honestly, I just want to go to Atlanta. If I meet a few girls then that's an extra

You are right. It is extremely rare to find someone that you are both mentally and physically attracted to, and even more rare for them to feel the same about you. You just have to keep up with the grind. You literally never know when you've hit gold and just have to put up with the bs until you find it. Vick and I have talked to and gone out with a lot of women over the past 6+ months, yet we are both still sitting here, single. Just enjoy the journey as much as you can.I consistently get feedback on how intelligent, expressive, and passionate of a person I am from the women I date. They say it's very rare and they don't see it very often in the men they date, especially the younger women around your age. This is why I say if you can come out of your shell, and at least act more outgoing with women, your competition is practically zero, because you actually have to goods to back it up.

How do you act more outgoing? Let that internal confidence come out. Know that you are a catch and she would be out of her mind to not think the same. Assume she is into you. Assume she is attracted to you. Even if she hasn't shown it yet. I can't emphasis how powerful of a tool that is. Women are SO attracted to confidence.

If a woman is going after younger men, you don't want anything to do with her. That means she is looking for someone that is as mentally and emotional immature as she is. It's a very bad sign. It's not that she feels they are better than men their age or older men, it's that she feels she is not good enough for older men because most are smart enough at that age to see right through her, or the only men she can attracted her age are dead beats anyway, so why not go younger.

I think you should take some psychology classes. All the reasons that you think women do the things that they do are way off base. I don't know how many times I need to drill it into your head, but women do not care about physical attraction as much as you, and most of the FA's, think they do. If you can stimulate them mentally and emotionally, that is 80% of the game.

Nedo the big Serb cocksman shnukums has replied to me! As I already told you previously in another thread, you are a good poster who has insightful advice most of the time. However, your arrogant/narcissistic/"I'm god's gift to women's clits" attitude is pathetically hilarious. I understand, you are a big-framed Serb (were you born over there or in the USA?), who lives a "wild" and "extreme" lifestyle, who is an "expert" in the art of clitoral orgasms lol, and who is a sex-hungry circus monkey (or in ur case a circus bear).

Let me tell you why you do sooo well with females. You stroll into a bar with your fellow Serbs/Eastern European brahs. I'm gonna go on a limb here and assume that you were not born here in the USA and have a reasonably thick accent (that comes out more with ur Eastern European/Serb brahs), correct me if I am wrong, darling. You all start ripping on each other in English but with reasonably thick accents, as the night progresses you all will start speaking in ur native tongues more often. You also order a round of rakijas for your boys (your "wild" and "extreme" lifestyle ensures you have enough funds to spend exorbitant amounts of money at the grocery store and chase more pussy than ur high-test, "women-loving" ass can handle). However as soon as you pound down some rakijas, your Serbian high-test brain is already thinking, "Nedo the Great need pussy now. I hoping the pamphlet on clitoral orgasms that I write will be of great success tonight. Hajde mo!"

I am gonna go out on another limb here and assume that you are the type of arrogant cockhead who hits on every attractive female he sees while out with his buddies. Don't be that guy! If you are gonna go out with ur buds, don't ditch them after 15 min to go chase pussy like a dog in heat. That is a quick way to lose friends, pussy ain't everything miscers.

Back to the story. You see a female that suits your liking. You strut over to her, you are looking great Nedo (previously, you spent hours doing your hair, clipping your nails, getting your third haircut in as many weeks, trimming your pubes, shaving your ballsack, and getting one of your mates to trim your taint and bumhole for you). You start speaking to this chick, but she is having a hard time understanding what your drunk ass is saying. Your Serb accent is heavy right now and the only English she hears is, "Nedo here want give you clitoral bomb. Please give me opportunity to service you vagina. Nedo need sex cause he big Serb and Serbs need consistent pussy for health." She finds your big bodied, cocky "no ****s given" attitude alluring and decides you are sufficient for a one-night stand.

In summation, you take her back to ur flat, play some Klopka Za Pionira and Repetitor (cause you need Serbian rock music in the background while eating vag), review your guide to clitoral bombs really quick, give her a "mind-bending" orgasm (according to you lmao), and your work is complete. Rinse, wash, repeat. Oh yeah, one more thing, you will make sure to go a few days without checking in on her cause sending one text or checking her snap story is "desperate as ****" and will "destroy" any shot at giving her another clitoral bomb.