Well 18 Orgasm Guy is messaging me so that is good.

What about the seizures?

I mean that isn't a mental illness, but it can cause one to be hesitant about meeting new people, for obvious reasons.

The police came for domestic violence. What a horrible night.

Ohhhh my

GEAH boiiiii!!!

No feedback on the experience with the "assistance", whats this? lol

I got a drinks date with an online girl on friday brahs. She messaged me first, seems really interested (said she was "stressing for me"), 36, blonde, actually talks, funny and we have a few things in common. Even though she has been behaving, my gut tells me she is a huuuge pig and as we know, I got probs so this is good. She is all into this whole "pheromones" thing and is telling me not to wear strong cologne and only 2 sprays, wtf lol. She claims she will be able to smell my pheromones over my cologne. Not sure what to expect with this? She going to start attacking me if my "shexx pheromones" are on point?? I'm scurrrred, haaaalp

The assistance was outfuuckingstanding. I felt it almost immediately and it carried through the night. I feel like I could have fuucked until the next morning. That shiit was wild and now I don't think it'll happen again the way it did the first time.

Gal sounds like a nut. Does she also believe in astrological compatibility?

She sounds super cray....

Update:

Yesterday's lunch date with 27YO, let's just call her L now, was great. She's a great communicator, very responsible, and dependable. We had originally planned to meet at a BBQ restaurant near her work for lunch, but she was worried about how much time she had. It sounded like she really wanted to be able to spend as much time with me as possible, so she asked if I could get there early and pre-order. I asked if there was a place by her office that we could sit and eat and I would just order take out and bring it to her. We met outside her office and kissed hello. The table she had in mind was taken, so we walked a bit and ended up finding an open table under a huge oak tree a few buildings down. It was a very nice setting. Kind of romantic, even. I can tell she is still a bit nervous about being around me, but there was no shortage of things to talk about. She asked about our kiss on our first date and asked if I meant to kiss her or if was I just going in for a hug and kissed her because she didn't turn her head away, basically asking if she kissed me or if I kissed her. I told her it was mutual and she seemed a bit relieved by that. She walked back with me to my car and I asked if she wanted to do this again and she was very enthusiastic about seeing me again. Had a much longer, more passionate kiss good-bye this time.

At this point the age difference doesn't worry me at all. Pretty much blows me away with how mature she is for her age (especially with how hot she is). Now it's just down to what she expects going forward. I'm pretty sure I would be her rebound relationship and then, of course, there's the topic of kids. She doesn't seem to mind that I have kids and she hasn't asked if I want more kids yet. There are two theories here: She just wants to be in a relationship, but not really thinking serious relationship, or she hasn't decided if she even wants kids yet. But like I said, she hot AF. She can have any guy she wants, but I think she's has realized how much more mature she is than guys her age and she really just wants to be appreciated and be with someone that has his **** together.

I also want to point out something to the more inexperienced guys. (Good) Women really appreciate the small things you do for them. When I saw how hard she was trying to work out her timing to get the most time together, is when I offered to bring lunch to her. She said that was an amazing gesture and something no guy has ever done for her before. She said she thought about asking, but figured I would say no. Now here's the caveat, I never would have offered if I did not see how hard she was trying. Offering to bring her lunch up front, without her earning it, would have been supplication and would have lowered value. Offering it at the right time raised my value.

The woman I was supposed to go out to lunch with today said she would followup up with me on Monday. She never did and I didn't bother to contact her. I don't have time for women that do not follow through with their word.

Getting coffee with the woman I mentioned previously tomorrow morning. Other than that, I have nothing else lined up and I have not had any further contact with the the woman from Friday or Monday.

quick surgeries, and you either sulk about your injury or you press on and work around your injury(ies) and don't let them hold you back, basically boils down to how bad do you want to keep doing what you're doing; this applies to anything in life I live by the quote someone always has it worse so quit being a b*tch.

No I was medically retired, but with contracting if you pass their tests, have certain qualifications and perform to the level they need then you're good to go.

L asked me to spend her lunch break with her again tomorrow. I was going to let her reach out to me first this time, since I initiated our first two dates, but I wasn't expecting it so soon.

EDIT: I should add, she doesn't want me to bring lunch, she just thought it would be nice to sit and talk with me more.

Didn't you go on a date with her today? That's alot of contact with someone you don't know that well.

We had lunch together yesterday.

We didn't have lunch? LOL at pondus making up stories online for the lulz.

Not you, the young hottie I'm dating. :P

The "stressing for you" part I would chalk up to my charm, good nature, high value and her being honest and open as she has been throughout, no games. Some may not believe me but my text game does really amp up the attraction and her liking me before we even meet (pondus, you know what I mean by this). The whole pheromone thing is odd but isn't a big deal to me in the context of things and I am capable of respecting ones beliefs. Am I missing something here guys?

There's not a lot of good looking 73 year old women....let's be real now and LOL at you getting banned.

I'm in LA. Things are good.

lol at dlb getting banned.

LOL what did she do this time?

So just got done getting coffee with "S." I think I talked to much. She got me started on running and coaching baseball and I can talk forever on those topics. Oh well. I've kind of noticed the more dates I go on, the more talking I do. I'm going to have to start being more conscious of that.

This morning "L" Asked to reschedule getting together at lunch today because she didn't get into work early enough to get a full hour break, plus it's raining and we were just going to go back to the picnic tables to chill. Teased her about flaking and told her to let me know when she's free again, so we shall see.

I think I am going to text the 27yo hottie that sent me the selfie and see what she is up to and also the woman I went to lunch with on Monday.

nice brother! enjoy it! live it up!

I thought u were "turned off" by the 27 year old "hottie" that sent u the suggestive selfie. Guess u couldn't resist her lol.

I'm not surprised actually. U, like many other high-test aggressive pussy hunters, can't help yourselves. The urge is too strong for y'all.

No, I said it has a negative affect and I was putting her on the back burner, meaning she's not a priority and I'm not going to take her serious unless she proves otherwise. I never said I was going to NC her.

Anyhow, she did msg me back and hinted at a Sunday meetup and I am getting lunch again tomorrow with the woman from Monday, but this time I told it's dollar menu. LOL.

Anyways guys time for office romance tips lol. Previously mentioned in this thread but I need some advice. So there is this girl that I flirt with all the time and I think she likes me. But it is a little different because there is a major culture barrier there and I don't feel I can go about dating her the same way as normal white girls. Anyways maybe it's me just making it complicated but how do I transition from just flirting with this girl to getting her to go on a date with me.

Followed your advice vick. Took me like like 2 weeks to muster up the courage and actually get the chance, but once I had it I made it count. Asked her to hangout sometime , she said yes.

She's definitely shy though, it's hard to responses out of her in general but she's such a cutie and fun once the banter gets going. Can't go out for atleast the next week or so since we're super busy with exams. Any tips on what to do in the mean time? Just light texting here and there?

ask her to study in the library?

or make a joke through text saying "im studying in the library in x spot, you should bring me a coffee and keep me company " or something cheeky like that. I had a gf the 4 years I was in uni so my university pickup/school pickup game is weak as most of the dudes deadlifts on this forum

accidentally showed some weakness to a girl im interested in.


We've been talking for about or month now on & off. F***ed twice (last time was one week ago). She see's me in the gym everyday (I always catch her glancing at me n chit) and we do homework together as well (we go to the same university). When we talk she's always shows pretty positive signs of interest IMO like touching my arm when she's laughing and little stuff like that.


On friday she texted me asking where I was going to workout during the summer (we both live in the same place) so I'm assuming she wants to hang out during the summer. We talked about where we'll work out for the summer and chit then I asked if my friend and I could come over and drink that night (because we usually always go to her place during the weekends) but she said "no haha sorry" and I for some stupid ass reason shot off a text without even thinking saying "wait what, is it because of kyle?" (kyle is my friend). And she just read receipted it.
I haven't talked to her since, we've just been looking at each others snapchat stories and chit. Instead of going to her place I just went out to a bunch of parties while she stayed at her house and drank with her best friends.

side note about friday night:
last night one of her friends texted my friend Kyle saying the reason why we couldn't go over there on friday night was because they were just ignoring us to get back at us for fun because my friends were being a bunch of *******s and ignoring them earlier this past week because of some group drama.

Update on date from Friday: went for drinks with POF girl who messaged me; 36 year old, 7.5 blonde, good job, chatty, confident, good personality with a sense of humor. Showed up to date and she looks even better than her pics and staying out of the sun really shows too as she looks like she is late 20's. Might start staying out of the sun myself, geez lol. However, her porcelain skin pride turned into a problem though when I became cheeky and made the claim of having smoother skin than her. She got offended to the point where we were both legit about to leave. I calmly explained that I was just having fun with her and how we can go our separate ways if need be. She insisted we stay, we changed subjects and got on well, just like prior to our collision. It still threw me off though as I was rattled that she couldn't take the obvious joke so I didn't bust on her as much as I normally would after that. Aside from this incident, she seems like a good girl and we share many of the same interests and relationship morals. She messaged me both saturday/sunday (is a texter) and asked when she will see me again. I expressed Tuesday was good for me, she suggested dinner and I replied how I just had my cheat meal on the weekend. She said "let's do coffee then on Tuesday and I will treat you to dinner on the weekend". I thought it was cute that she copies me with my own style of "lets do_____" and books the next TWO dates with me lol. Quite the turn of events as I wasn't even expecting her to wake me with her text on Saturday morning.

I don't like giving advice I don't support (since you are involved with co-worker) but since you asked; if you guys are getting on well then you should just ask her out. "We should get together sometime" or "we should grab a coffee/drink sometime" and then see what she says.

Now, think long and hard about this. If things go to chit, will your work life be awkward? Don't do it if so. The only way I would do this is if I or her was temporary or if it wasn't my career job.

Good stuffs. It's a bit annoying when women take light teasing personally. It's like, "I know I can recover, but do I really want to?" I would have taken the same approach of, "love it or leave it."

I stopped msging all my contacts this weekend with the exception of the 34yo, (let's call her L2) I went to lunch with on Monday and Friday and none of them have msged me so... :shrug:

L2 and I went to lunch on Friday at a really nice authentic Italian restaurant. Same deal, no shortage of conversation (and wine LOL). We had agreed to keep it to an hour this time because we both had things to do, but we ended up staying for 3 hours, just like Monday. She is a stylist at a luxury salon and had a client to get to and she also has a 14yo son that she said she has to give a ride to. She ended up getting her son an uber and rescheduling her client for later to spend more time with me. I didn't have anything scheduled I just wanted to get back to work and get some things done, so no big deal. Anyhow, we got all the talk about our ex's out of the way on our first date so this time we were able to just get to know each other better. At one point she took too big of a bite and said something along the lines of, "Oops I stuffed to much into my mouth and didn't fit," and I couldn't resist and said, "That's what you'll be saying later." LOL. At first she was like, "Too much, I'm a prude. You can't talk like that," and I just said, "I'll help you fix that." She does have a sense of humor, though, so it wasn't a big deal anything, but sexual talk and PDA def. makes her uncomfortable.

When the check came the waiter wasn't sure if he should hand it to me or set it down and I motioned for him just to set it down. This prompted a conversation about splitting the bill because she wasn't sure if she should offer to split again, as if I wanted to show how interested I was in her by paying for the whole thing... She told me her thoughts and I told her why we should split it. It was actually a really good conversation and I felt really good about standing my ground and she seemed to really respect that. I told her I was glad that we were able to get this(lunch) in before she went to Europe for 10 days and she immediate asked what I was doing Sat night. We agreed to meet up Sat night, too.

She texted me about 1PM and asked if I still wanted to get together. I went over to her apartment later that evening after she got off work and we drank some wine as she changed and got cleaned up. Then she said she was hungry, so we went and got some sushi and a couple of drinks(I paid for dinner this time because she opened a really expensive bottle of wine), and then back to her apartment. Ended up in her bed making out and cuddling, but she said no sex, and I told her I don't sleep with women outside of a committed relationship anyway. We are laying there and she asks to add me to her ********, which I really don't like, but W/E, I hardly ever use it. I let her add me and I immediately unfollow her, so I don't see her posts.

One thing I found out was that she smokes, though she'd said she wants to quit. I have a really sensitive nose, so I was surprised I didn't notice it. She's a little taller and heavier than what I am used to, but there is something about her face that I just am supper attracted to. She's works out a lot and is trying to lose weight, though. I checked out her IG and I've seen pics of her from a few years ago when she was thinner and she was smokin' hot. I also saw pics of her ex B/F and OMG, such a mismatch. She is legit 4 points better looking than him. The guy is 10 years older than her not even average looking IMO. She was definitely a prize piece to him. Rich elitist / narcissist(psychopath, even?) from what she has told me. I have no idea how he hooked her other than he "saved" her from a ****ty situation early when they were dating and maybe she felt obligated at first and then got sucked into his lifestyle and he definitely fed of her insecurities.

Anyhow, She's gone for 10 days now, so we'll see what happens.

Did u and L2 get to know each on the first date as well or did y'all only talk about exes on the first date (that better have not been the case)?

Obviously one cannot get to know someone fully after just a few dates. The process is much, much longer. Hell, 99.999% of the time u will never know a person fully! That is unless that person tells u absolutely EVERYTHING about them.

Personally, I would never date a girl who cannot have a laugh at perverted ****/sexual jokes. I also would never date a smoker.

Ultimately the decision is up to you if u wanna keep investing time/money with this chick but I have a feeling that u will ultimately not go down that path.

No, of course we didn't spend the whole 3 hours talking about our exes. It was more like, "This is where we have been, this is how/why we are meeting right now, and this is where we want to be." She did talk too much about him and her experience, but we were also drinking a lot and I have just naturally give off an "I'm a safe person to talk to" vibe. She said a few times she had no idea why she "was telling me all this." Women open up to me really easily. It's always been that way.

There's definitely the "unexplainable" chemistry between us. I'm not thinking I'm going to drop any other prospects for her anytime soon, but I'm also totally burned out right now. I don't feel like texting any of them and they are not texting me. I think I'm just going to lay low and relax this week.

i'm back boys

things were amazing and I feel like a new man

heading to my girl's house tonight, she said she missed me a day before I got back and since then it seems as if she has been opening up more to me

life is good

i'll update tomorrow in full and catch up on advice