Welp, guard is all the way down. We are exclusively dating each other. She just left my place.

Well that escalated quickly......you only known her for what?....3 weeks?

And also let me ask you something: is she blonde, I keep picturing her as a blonde lol. I also pictured B, the 27 year old as a brunette and the 20-year old woman that you thought was a lesbian as a blonde.

A month now. She is brunetter. B was blonde, and 20 year old was redhead.

Well, boyos, cute 31 YO appears to be a flake. She said she wanted to get lunch today and as we were finalizing the time last night she just stopped responding. It's ironic, too, because when we talked about why we are still single I told her that I have been on quite a few dates recently and haven't found a woman worthy of my time. She asked why my time was so valuable and I gave her this long speech as to why... and straight up said, be honest and don't waste my time and I won't waste yours. This was long BEFORE she said she wanted to meet for lunch today.

Haha, ****. I just realized she may have suggested today because I said I probably wouldn't be available and then I said **** it, lets do it. Her angus was not peppered.

I'm going for a run and then hitting the gym, which were my original plans for this morning and afternoon.

But who was work

I can confirm, I was company holiday.

So getting back to my phone after my run, I see she unmatched me on on tinder. Sent her a text, "I appreciate you not wasting my time :P"

She was one of the ones that claimed "I'm fiery, witty, and sarcastic" chicks and one thing that I have learned, is they are the ones that are the least able to keep up with me.

Cliffs of laundry list of requirements

So saw some Instagram pics of Tinder chick on Tinder, I think she's somewhat on the heavy side judging by her not having alot of full body pictures, FUK. I should have asked for a current full body picture before scheduling a date. Granted she's not obese but still...

Fellas the thirst is winning and forcing me to want to go out and approach but I already know how the game is gonna go


Had a weird experience. Currently I have a trash schedule so Im off during the middle of the week. I posted online "whats the move today guys?" and a girl I never talk to hits me up and says she is down to grab a drink. Naturally I'm skeptical hippo but I say sure "Im at x bar so swing by". We chat for awhile and she starts asking why I dont have a gf, when was the last time I had one, and why its been so long since I've had one. This came up maybe 3 more times over the course of about 2 hours and finally she said "I have a friend she wants me to meet and that Im 100% her type"

So either this girl herself likedme , but couldnt do anything since is she *drumroll* married. We will see what the friend says.


Tune in later for more adventures in the life of otaku.

Got yo ass boi lmao.

Lol granted she's not obese but she does look chunky. Now I know how you feel like lolololol

Better buy a Captain Ahab costume and a harpoon.

Wear that to your date with her and tell her that you are a whaler who despises "dishonest landlubbers who have whale-like characteristics."

If she doesn't get the message, you know what to tell her boyo.

Inb4 her friend is a fat ass bitch.
Inb4 you gotta buy your harpoon and Captain Ahab costume.

Lol and tbh I might still actually go. She ain't some 300 lbs cow I give her that. She's chunky though. This tells me I gotta keep looking for more chicks in real life and Tinder, the last time I asked out a chick in real life was last Saturday.

If you are not 100% attracted to her, I would not bother going.

It's your call man.

Getting catfished left n right. American obesity is only increasing my friend. Every single day there are less and less date-able women.
Funny thing is I believe I know the girl she is talking about. If so I've already lost because she tried to get at a boy of mine like 2 years back and was vocal about not being into black dudes.

Mine or hers?

After downloading bumble/tinder again with better pics, going on my third date tonight this week.

Girl 1:
met a 36 year old on tuesday as a spontaneous date. normally don't go for women that much older than me but she had a certain charm in the way she texted and she looked very cute for her age etc. one thing I noticed is that women >28 are so much better at communicating.

ended up grabbing drinks at her place, she is very cute, looks probably 30/31. we immediately vibe. I was feeling confident as phuck that night, probably because I had several other girls I had already been talking too from online. escalated no problem. ended up getting a ride back to her place. while we are talking she tells me she is corporate lawyer, go back to her place and its this 4,500 sq foot house that looks like it is straight out of home and garden magazine or something. phukking insane kitchen/deck/bar etc. looked it up on zillow and its 750K. she was more feminine and submissive /etc than typical "power" women I have met and had a great sense of class/culture.

ended up smashing like 4 times that night, got barely any sleep at all. Pretty much sure she wanted a young guy to phuck that night. have plans to meet again next week. she texts me almost every other day. I'm keeping it more chill now, per the advice from people on this forum.

Girl 2:
25 year old I met yesterday, immediately had an off-putting vibe to her. kept complaining about men on the date, crossed her arms. I left after 1 hour into it.

Girl 3:meeting another girl tonight, into working out a ton, dat ass. going to check out a place a few miles fromy place. literally set up a date after 2ish hours of texting.

Girl 4:suppose to meet next week sometime, she is an odd one because I get the impression she is pursuing me (gave me her number and winked), then tells me she thinks I'm very attractive (what the hell) and keeps texting me every other day. Yet, she seems to evade the meetup question in a weird way (said she was busy this week...then next week she said she will get back to me..but hasn't in over a day).

Girl 5: supposed to grab drinks next friday. been texting occasionally. she is more a "girl next door type". way more classy vibe. she is very busy with end of tax season work. it's too far away to tell if she will pull through, but I don't care because I have other options.


holy chit this is what it feels like to have options.

think I'm going to finally make it. Literally all I changed was my pictures.

my one worry is that I make look better in my pictures, and some girls may be off put when they meet me

Interesting. Then why would this other chick wanna set u up with her? Granted, she might not know that her friend is not into black dudes. But if she really is her friend, she probably should know her dating preferences.

Psycho you might might make it. What did you change about your pictures, and are you approaching IRL anymore? Weird how you're getting bumble action and claim you never get irl signals at all.

I have a feeling this girl herself like me, and decided to toss me to her friend since she's married. If thats the case its a shame, because she was damn gorgeous.

Good job mate! U on dat dere "Vick/Nedo/Pondus/other cocksmen here on the MISC" time.

For me it's the opposite, I look better IRL than in pictures.

If I ever get out there in the dating game, I might start off using Tinder. But I won't jump to any conclusions right now.

Gotcha.

If that other chick makes any comment about your race, I would leave the place immediately if I were you. People who are judgmental about race are not worth trying to reason with (99% of the time).

Yeah, I don't really get IRL signals, that has not changed. I'm not saying at all I made it yet - I've only met two girls, one resulted in a lay and the other one a bust.

I basically just added a more recent picture of me, threw a filter on there, made sure it was good. added one more picture of me smiling doing something interesting in a public environment, and one of me playing a guitar. passed it by a few female friends and suggested some tweaking/etc.


I'm not going to try to get ahead of myself though - my main concern is that the interest in my (physical) person when they meet me matches there impression they have of me prior to meeting (aka, based on the pictures). I really tried to optimize my pics, so I am hoping I still look like the same guy in person that they were attracted too. sounds like it happened on the first girl. with the second girl, I can't tell if she just though I was very "meh" in person, or she was an actual stuck up person. I know when girls feels "meh" about guys you can tell, it was like she did not even give me a chance from the very second she saw me. she was probably an 8/10 (srs).

Girl 4 is playing games most likely

Well I wish you luck fam.
Chicks that dont date black men dont go on dates with them and mention their race. I've had one weird white girl I hooked up with then I was 23. She was very vocal about how she had never dated a black guy and I was the only one she ever found attractive....I was like...ok? And she'd randomly call me brown bear. **** was weird and long story short we dont even talk anymore.

Boyos, glad to hear Vic and Ne-bro are finding good chicks, Pondus; keep trucking brah. It always makes me happy when good bros find good women..I don't know, when people I care about or like are happy that makes me happy enough to be happy for myself lol. its weird!

I try not to ask for advice on here, I prefer to just read what others might do and weigh out different ideas. But now I have a question that I would like input on from you guys
My old co-worker (retired guy from my crew) has been harassing me for like 2 years to hook up with his niece..I had always seen pics but wasn't thrilled about how she looked, and apparently she usually dates douches and tries to help them but needs a "good guy now"...well the other day I was hanging out in his garage throwin back some beers and she shows up and is gorgeous as hell! totally blown away, she is either the same height or a little taller than me (I'm 5'9) and just seemed like a total sweetheart. I just essentially introduced myself while him and his wife sat there and talked to her for a bit (she was just there to drop off some stuff so only stayed for about 10 minutes). He is a pretty crude humoured guy so he starts saying I am single, haven't been laid in 6 months (to which I corrected him to 12 months jokingly because what else was I suppose to say). Then she left and he tells me I have no game and that if I had drive to go after a good girl (like the drive I have for work lol) that she could be mine. He thinks I should reach out to her on FB and set up a date. She has told him in the past she would date me apparently, but she also lives about 45 minutes away (like my last two gfs and that blows).

Anyway I am swamped with my full time job and my side gig right now and women and relationships barely have time to enter my brain. At the same time I realize quality women are being scooped up fast at my age if not already taken. Should I be aggressive with this? am I being a pu$$y? I have never chased tail, I usually prefer what comes easy or falls in my lap in a sort of natural organic way.

you guys think I should try to set something up with her? she probably thinks I am a quiet, shy douche after this interaction, but tbh I don't care lol

You can if you want.....if you're attracted to her, just set up a date and rendezvous at a point between you and her and have some fun. If she turns out to be too weird or crazy, just move on. Plus if you haven't been laid in 12 months, just go for it.

awww!!! <3 compassionate & empathetic, love it!

x2 on these good wishes...been MIA and feelin like I missed out on so many happenings but glad to see so many familiar faces <3why not? seems to me the only hinderance is distance, but you have overcome that before...plus toronto is such a huge city, it's not exactly uncommon to be 20-45 minutes apart, even on transit.
you shouldgo.for.it.

Ahh guys, I'm going to DR in 4 days!!!! I CANNOT WAIT!!! Much needed vakay. Work is going so well with so many new developments & it's been such a busy last 2 months....I can't wait to get away to palm trees, sun and beaches.

Feel like I still have so much to catch up on ITT, but happy to see everyone is on the up & up