Real friends are really, really hard to find. When I was in college, and ******** was a college thing, I had a huge friends list. I was always getting tagged in pictures, wall full of messages etc. After a psycho ex girlfriend forced me to cut off all social media and leave the state, only 2 people bothered to reach out to me. I speak to them about once a year now. Once I was out of the loop (aka not useful to get people into clubs/get people into parties), that was it for my big social circle.

As you get older, life really does take over. Now my time is eaten up by work, my family (wife and a troublemaking toddler), etc.I only have one actual friend, and he's been my best friend since I was a kid. I consider having even one friend to be something to feel lucky about.

To me it sounds you have a lot going on already. How come you need more? Just curious.

Maybe I am getting too old.

I will be your friend. Srs.

I think you're probably one of like two people on this forum I feel comfortable PMing just to chat. I don't know how I can help with the real life friends situation. Move to CA? I'll harass you nonstop and make you do everything with me!

"You could literally reply in the time it takes for you to take a chit"??? That sounds clingy af. People do get busy and sometimes forget you sent them a text, when they have time a few hours later.

I understand what you're saying, really. This is not what I'm saying about myself though this is what a LOT of people have told me.

Stuff like "omg you're so funny!" "You are really nice/fun to be around" "you're the only person I can talk to that won't run their mouth"..stuff like that.

The clinginess part yes, I'll admit in the past I have called People once a week or texted them 1x a week and then not reply back and I'd get hurt and say something when they never replied...now I just stop and delete them from my phone if I haven't heard from someone in quite awhile after I've made the effort.

Lmao..but what's really pathetic (and I know misc will rip me one for saying this) is that a lot of you I really do like talking to and joking back and forth with . I just wish I had friends like y'all in real life...and not just "internet friends"

You being one of them elcaballo , I'd friend you irl

I will be your friend. Srs.

I think you're probably one of like two people on this forum I feel comfortable PMing just to chat. I don't know how I can help with the real life friends situation. Move to CA? I'll harass you nonstop and make you do everything with me!

I love my husband to death.kids too, but I am one if those who needs friends to talk to as well. We have no couple friends that have time to go do things..but I don't care what anyone says, you MAKE time for the people that are important to you

"im wondering why acquaintances never turn into friends"

Because friendship takes time, effort, and trust to be created

most people after highschool/college usually lack time, and with the lack of time they put in less effort cuz they want that time for themselves, and without that time and effort you can't cultivate real trust.

This is why most people who are friends in adulthood are either carried over from younger years, or share the same hobbies or interest because they normally set aside time and effort for the hobby they just add a person into the mix

I do this sometimes. Ill read it and respond a few hours later or a day or two later if I was really busy. The thing is 3 months is no exception, you would think if you sent a text you'd check to see if they replied sometime within a few days at most

Lol that pm earlier made me feel good

And....do everything??

that's just how life is. I lost all my friends the end of senior year of HS. They all enjoyed me saying I was the life of the party etc. They would rarely invite me out places, so I'd have to always ask. I got tired of asking and said **** it not gonna initate first. Then it was basically radio silence from them unless it was school related or something. I remember one of my best friends in HS threw 2 parties and had a list of who could go. He posted it on snap and I wasn't added so I asked if I could go and he said "yea you're fine to come" yet he had ppl added on there that he barely even talked to.

tldr; it happened to me also and I stopped initiating. Now I only hang out with chicks if not I just focus on myself or things I like to do.

Brb replying to PM before I get added to the list of people who don't respond.

And yes, everything. Paddle boarding. Braid each other's hair (I'll just put bows in yours). Get our nails done together. Go to the gym. Take boxing lessons. Troll miscers together after splitting a bottle of wine.

I'm done fantasizing about girls night in with you now.

Brb replying to PM before I get added to the list of people who don't respond.

And yes, everything. Paddle boarding. Braid each other's hair (I'll just put bows in yours). Get our nails done together. Go to the gym. Take boxing lessons. Troll miscers together after splitting a bottle of wine.

I'm done fantasizing about girls night in with you now.

Aawww troll miscers together.

That's real friendship right there.

I love my husband to death.kids too, but I am one if those who needs friends to talk to as well. We have no couple friends that have time to go do things..but I don't care what anyone says, you MAKE time for the people that are important to you

Ughhh completely my situation.

The only slutty acquaintance/friend I have that I've gone dancing with said " we'll just text me sometime and we can hang out" yet I texted her quite a bit and asked if we could go to the club I wanted to go to for over a year (it's an edm club) and she always would say "yeah sure!!" Then every time I'd ask the weekend before she'd always have an excuse.

She only wants to party way too hard (alcohol) and grind up on men all night ...while I just wanna go hang out with some girls and dance to techno.

I've gone out with her and her slutty friends 3 x and hated it trying to do what they wanted, but yet they can't take one night off from being sloots to dance to EDM? Sigh

Calm down Frank you can bottom me out later, waitwot?


Did you get mod negged for PMing them a pic of your swollen penor and shiny bean?

Aawww troll miscers together.

That's real friendship right there.

Gaww that sounds like so much fun. I hope one day I can find some friends like that.

I wish they had online friend sites like they do for dating lol

I've had friendships that required little to no effort. Those have been few and far between. Effort, in a large way, is what defines a friendship. Having a real friend means when you break down on the side of the road at midnight an hour away and your friend is about to smash some sloot but gets a call from you needing him to drive 2 hours round trip...he not only answers the call, he comes to get you immediately without question (clearly that's a real story).

"Oh, I texted so and so" is not the basis for a friendship. I text people all the time that I wouldn't consider "friends." In fact, I text people in an effort to not have to act like a friend or give any effort towards the "friendship." I had a friend that called me last night but I missed it. If he wasn't really a friend, I would have ignored it completely or texted him back at best. But he is a friend, so I called him back today. I even put my earbuds in, because I had every intention of having a long conversation with him. Yesterday I called another friend...CALLED. We'd been texting for too long IMO, so I actually called him so we could talk.

don't be so catty to people who don't hit you up all the time.

The other I replied back with the Savage "who is this?"
She goes "its Laura, ...dang"

I replied back with "well I didn't know since I haven't heard anything from you in about 3 months and the only other person that has talked to me in the group is Amanda .I I get kind of salty when people drop off the "friend planet"

****Dear diary. Read while pooping. VERY LONG*****


-I am a genuinely nice person and treat everyone with respect.

-I text people every once in awhile to see how they are doing if I haven't heard from them.same with family from out of state.

-Will help anyone (if a friend's car is broke down I will come pick them up, have helped people move, babysat people's kids expecting nothing in return etc)

-I am usually available to go do stuff if people give me a little advance notice (so it's not like people are inviting and I'm turning them down over and over)

-People that I meet say I'm fun to be around and I have a great personality.



SO...im wondering why acquaintances never turn into friends. I literally have 4 friends but only regularly talk to 2 of them. Their choice not mine.
I'm not going to keep texting people if after the third time no reply. Not gonna be a needy little bitch texting people constantly when they don't reciprocate.


I feel due to all this, and what I feel like is getting screwed over, I have become a little bit bitter and slowly stopped trying to make friends (I figure they can call me instead of me always being the one to initiate)


Example- two people just this week that haven't talked to me in over 3 months have the audacity to text me. One asking what we needed to read for micro, and another asking me if we can meet up and study for anatomy
(in b4 5 hrs of studying lol...yes I overestimated because I timed it the other night and it's actually only about 2 hrs if constant study)



One person I completely ignored both of their texts.

The other I replied back with the Savage "who is this?"
She goes "its Laura, ...dang"

I replied back with "well I didn't know since I haven't heard anything from you in about 3 months and the only other person that has talked to me in the group is Amanda .I I get kind of salty when people drop off the "friend planet"

She replied back "i just got busy with life. ...can we study today or tomorrow"

I said "it only takes a few seconds to send someone a text and see how they're doing" "you could literally text me in the time it takes for you to take a chit"

Didn't reply after that cause i am not even gonna attempt to be someones friend that doesn't have time to cultivate a friendship.

Keep in mind she went NC for 3 fukking months but then ALL OF A SUDDEN has time again for me ..just in time for test #1 (suprise!)


Other friends either act like they don't have time, or don't invite me places unless I text them first. It's like I'm an afterthought.

Yet, these are the same people that go on and on to their other friends saying how funny I am and how fun I am to be around and that all their friends will just love me when we DO go somewhere and Im introduced.

And for anyone who hasn't caught n yet, I totally do use the misc to feel like I have somewhat of a life other than family, and school.


Cliffs..if you've made it this far
*op is a Very loyal friend
*people say op is Fun to be around
*Only has 4 friends
*2 of which talk to on the regular/do stuff with
*op is starting to get the attitude of "fuk everyone" bc hardly any friends


Just tired of people atm. I can see how genuinely weird and socially awkward girls don't have friends but I'm really not that way. I'm weird but not in a scary or off-putting way..and no I'm not super sexual to everyone irl lol