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post 1456255883 08-05-2016, 12:50 PM
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
"Shy" Coworker UPDATE

So yesterday we were both working, so I said fuk it, and was just gonna flat out ask her out. Knees weak, arms were heavy, there was vommit on my sweater already etc... When I found her, before I could even speak, she invited me out for drinks that night after work (wot m8?). We had a GOOD night, and vibed really well, but now I'm realizing that she may not be as shy as I thought. She claims to be, but I'm just not buying it anymore. Anyway, we both agreed not to let our business spread at work, and we are gonna go to dinner sometime this week.
now i find out that she's been with women. wtf
post 1456266913 08-05-2016, 02:13 PM
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Talking to women (or people in general) becomes much easier when you realize how weird and flawed human beings are.
post 1456267003 08-05-2016, 02:14 PM
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
now i find out that she's been with women. wtf
just invite this sloor over then. Don't be paying for meals cuz
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post 1456267643 08-05-2016, 02:19 PM
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lol @ asking a girl out thru social media

only asked my previous gfs out in person
post 1456269163 08-05-2016, 02:30 PM
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Originally Posted By Shortstop36⏩
just invite this sloor over then. Don't be paying for meals cuz
i still don't think she's an easy smash
Originally Posted By XXLAFLAME⏩
lol @ asking a girl out thru social media

only asked my previous gfs out in person
gjdm, you're probably better for it
post 1456269213 08-05-2016, 02:31 PM
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Yes, but then again I live in NY where you get catcalls/cold approaches, because its so densely populated.


Nevertheless, the guys I ended up being into are shy asf.
Had to make the moves on my bf.
I want to forget mistakes they've helped me make
It's better to be broken than to break
post 1456269363 08-05-2016, 02:32 PM
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I do approaching from time to time and I don't see other guys doing it often

Maybe once every 50 times I go out I see someone trying to spit game (outside parties/clubs/bars)

I don't like pure cold approaching. I prefer seeing signs first before approaching, but the less aesthetic you are the less signs you're going to get.
post 1456272773 08-05-2016, 02:58 PM
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Originally Posted By Azmine⏩
Yes, but then again I live in NY where you get catcalls/cold approaches, because its so densely populated.


Nevertheless, the guys I ended up being into are shy asf.
Had to make the moves on my bf.
shy men? do you feel in control in the majority of your relationships?
post 1456275963 08-05-2016, 03:20 PM
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
shy men? do you feel in control in the majority of your relationships?
This was recent, I think my past relationship made me feel that way.

Also, alot of my interests etc are usually very male oriented and more "outgoing" males want a woman who is ..more dainty I guess?

idk I've had men tell me that in the past so. *shrug*
I want to forget mistakes they've helped me make
It's better to be broken than to break
post 1456276273 08-05-2016, 03:22 PM
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
i still don't think she's an easy smash


gjdm, you're probably better for it
Breh she's a freak, hit her up and tell her instead of going out to come over and you'll cook her something, have her sipping on some henny & just go to pound town

I just saved u a 100 bucks, God bless
post 1456809173 08-09-2016, 12:19 PM
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Originally Posted By kratosbrah⏩
Breh she's a freak, hit her up and tell her instead of going out to come over and you'll cook her something, have her sipping on some henny & just go to pound town

I just saved u a 100 bucks, God bless
As of right now, I'm not treating her like a sloot, and our dating has been pretty ideal. Feels like I'm dating a best friend (no homo)
post 1458254013 08-18-2016, 05:22 PM
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^welp she's my girlfriend now.
post 1458255273 08-18-2016, 05:32 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Pretty women get asked out all the time, srs. Grocery store, gym, appointments, in work...
True but most guys that hit on them are on that beta time, they don't get hit on by cool dudes often
post 1458260293 08-18-2016, 06:08 PM
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Originally Posted By Kabamaro⏩
True but most guys that hit on them are on that beta time,they don't get hit on by cool dudes often
i dont know man, it takes balls
post 1458264763 08-18-2016, 06:44 PM
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
i dont know man, it takes balls
Usually when I ask women out in person, which I will admit is not often. Usually they agree and flake on me the day of the "date", more than once I've gone to the designated place and been stood up. They act like nothin even happened and some have even have the gull to ask me "when are we hanging out"
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post 1523898911 10-26-2017, 02:50 AM
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
^welp she's my girlfriend now.
this chick made me her complete bitch; LMAO never google your username misc.
post 1523899101 10-26-2017, 02:57 AM
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
this chick made me her complete bitch; LMAO never google your username misc.
lol my top result is this thread:https://forum.obnoxiousbrutes.com/showt...hp?t=174616871
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post 1523899381 10-26-2017, 03:06 AM
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
lol my top result is this thread:https://forum.obnoxiousbrutes.com/showt...hp?t=174616871
lmao @ your response.
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Old thread but good topic worth continuing.

Since I've been single I've only been asked out once in person, and twice over text by irl connections set up by mutual friends. And then online a lot of course but that's different.
I do think that this is worth continuing. The "major apps" have completely changed everything I'd say. It's too convenient, but the men that aren't favored on the apps are rotting instead of taking advantage of the lack of approaching going on these days.
post 1523899651 10-26-2017, 03:16 AM
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I don't think they do. I think ppl just meet as coworkers or mutual friends and then they just agree to hang out. I don't think ppl really just go up to ppl they don't know well and ask them out. Ppl these days are way too closed off these days. And men's confidence is at an all time low these days.
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post 1523899781 10-26-2017, 03:19 AM
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
this chick made me her complete bitch; LMAO never google your username misc.
Storytime?
post 1523899831 10-26-2017, 03:20 AM
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
I don't think they do. I think ppl just meet as coworkers or mutual friends and then they just agree to hang out. I don't think ppl really just go up to ppl they don't know well and ask them out. Ppl these days are way too closed off these days. And men's confidence is at an all time low these days.
I hear ya, but in the event that you're also speaking for yourself; think of how much you stand out for asking women out in person. Even if you are faking your confidence, that's a huge leap ahead of other guys relying on tinder.
post 1523900121 10-26-2017, 03:27 AM
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
Storytime?
Not much to it.

- We fell for each other pretty hard and fast, I put her on a large pedastool & ignored things that bothered me because I didn't want to further complicate her life; due to how much sexual trauma and family issues she had. I went full beta (I saw her as this weak little thing; big mistake) for most of the relationship til she lost interest.
- She says things like I don't see you long term, but this is fun. Which hurt my feelings.
- I tell her I finally had enough of her ****, and we break up.
- She tells me she only wants to be FWBs (hurts my feelings again lol)
- I agree, life is good, she starts getting feelings and breaks it off
Drama & back & forth

An Opportunity arises at the best time, so I move to a different state which helped me get out of that mess.

Now she is dating a girl

https://forum.obnoxiousbrutes.com/showt...hp?t=174004701

^about same girl
post 1523901591 10-26-2017, 04:12 AM
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
Not much to it.

- We fell for each other pretty hard and fast, I put her on a large pedastool & ignored things that bothered me because I didn't want to further complicate her life; due to how much sexual trauma and family issues she had. I went full beta (I saw her as this weak little thing; big mistake) for most of the relationship til she lost interest.
- She says things like I don't see you long term, but this is fun. Which hurt my feelings.
- I tell her I finally had enough of her ****, and we break up.
- She tells me she only wants to be FWBs (hurts my feelings again lol)
- I agree, life is good, she starts getting feelings and breaks it off
Drama & back & forth

An Opportunity arises at the best time, so I move to a different state which helped me get out of that mess.

Now she is dating a girl

https://forum.obnoxiousbrutes.com/showt...hp?t=174004701

^about same girl
Jesus... sounds like unnecessary drama you don't need in your life. I hope you feel like you are better off without that one--from my perspective I think so. There's other women who know what they want and won't play games.

My personal experience: my boyfriend was the one who asked me out through text. I met him once at school and then he detectived my school email and sent a message the next day. Not going to lie--was a bit suspicious at first.

I think that was the only time I've been asked directly on a date.
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post 1523902011 10-26-2017, 04:24 AM
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Originally Posted By Eggiesinabasket⏩
Jesus... sounds like unnecessary drama you don't need in your life. I hope you feel like you are better off without that one--from my perspective I think so. There's other women who know what they want and won't play games.

My personal experience: my boyfriend was the one who asked me out through text. I met him once at school and then he detectived my school email and sent a message the next day. Not going to lie--was a bit suspicious at first.

I think that was the only time I've been asked directly on a date.
I'm definitely good now. Everyone that knew both of us kept telling me to GTFO, but I was blinded by emotion and how physically attracted to her I was. Now I want to slap myself for putting up with it.

As for your situation, I'm a little surprised that the detective thing didn't turn you off completely lol. That's impressive stuff, and I'm happy its working out so far. I feel like other miscers need to see that a lot of men aren't asking women out like they think. Even the "chads"
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I can't read the whole thread cause no time, but OP you're doing it right! To me, a real man approaches in person. It shows confidence.

For all the guys that are scared, so what if she says no? As long as she's polite about it, it shouldn't make you feel bad. So what if she says she has a boyfriend? She just may, and if she's fibbing at least she's not being a jerk about it by acting like a B. Just freaking do it if you want to. I'm not online and I don't really do social media so I'm not getting asked out online, for me it's great when a guy asks me out in person. Even if I'm not interested, I am always polite and never mean to them.

Oh sheesh! Didn't know this was an old thread that just got bumped. lol
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Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
I hear ya, but in the event that you're also speaking for yourself; think of how much you stand out for asking women out in person. Even if you are faking your confidence, that's a huge leap ahead of other guys relying on tinder.
This! This! This!!!!!!!!!!!! Guys! He's so right!
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Originally Posted By belleosent⏩
brb you: date = lets hang out with no real plans... This is how some men steal your girls. for real
^ded srs. gotta plan them dates, bitches love that chit
Originally Posted By XXLAFLAME⏩
lol @ asking a girl out thru social media

only asked my previous gfs out in person
lol @ gfs in 2017
Originally Posted By drvillain⏩
I was blinded by emotion and how physically attracted to her I was.
so homie... now that she gon, where them pics @

and lol @ the updates ITT. funny how this chit plays out over time hey, looking back
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Originally Posted By Brozart⏩
so homie... now that she gon, where them pics @
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