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Originally Posted By leoslayer1⏩
Who were toddlers?Um because if you raise them right they behave.
They aren't loud or all over the place. You tell them to go sit down and they do.
It's really pretty simple.
They can be happy go lucky all they want but a simple change of tone in your voice and they will snap back and be alert ( for example a shady person is walking towards you. A simple boys, with the right tone and they are listening, alert and ready to respond to what you say.)
I've only had one minor difficult moment in public raising three sons.
If you're a good parent you'll have good children.
They aren't loud or all over the place. You tell them to go sit down and they do.
It's really pretty simple.
They can be happy go lucky all they want but a simple change of tone in your voice and they will snap back and be alert ( for example a shady person is walking towards you. A simple boys, with the right tone and they are listening, alert and ready to respond to what you say.)
I've only had one minor difficult moment in public raising three sons.
If you're a good parent you'll have good children.
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12-23-2017, 01:15 PM
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I just had the epiphany last week that I was officially "ready" to have a family should I ever meet the right woman.
I broke up with my ex 2 years ago and 100% indulged in me and me only. Talking to as many women as I wanted, going where I wanted when I wanted. It has been the most awesome time. Last week I treated myself to a nice hotel, and for shts and giggles I ran myself a bubble bath with a bunch of craft imperial stouts and porters.
20 minutes into the bath (and 3 beers in) I just started lol'ing outloud by myself, I was like "what the fuk am I even doing with my life?". Fuking Christmas season and I'm getting hammered alone in a bubble bath in Paris.
Granted, I did actively think of the many couples I see regularly miserable with their screaming kids vs that care free moment I was living but I'm ready to take that on I think. What else am I gonna do? I've banged blondes, brunettes, short, tall, big ass, pancake ass, juicy teds, no ted having women multiple times over in multiple countries with various accents.
I'll be 31 next summer so I think I'm in the GOAT window to find a wife where I'm still young enough and attractive enough to find something prime but not so young where I feel I've "cut my fun off too early". This is not coming from a "I'm 30 and everyone else is doing it" place. It's coming from a place of genuinely not liking clubs anymore, not enjoying being around a new girl every week, and wanting a new challenge/story for my life.
40+ years old and still running tinder, pub, random pickup game? hard pass.
I broke up with my ex 2 years ago and 100% indulged in me and me only. Talking to as many women as I wanted, going where I wanted when I wanted. It has been the most awesome time. Last week I treated myself to a nice hotel, and for shts and giggles I ran myself a bubble bath with a bunch of craft imperial stouts and porters.
20 minutes into the bath (and 3 beers in) I just started lol'ing outloud by myself, I was like "what the fuk am I even doing with my life?". Fuking Christmas season and I'm getting hammered alone in a bubble bath in Paris.
Granted, I did actively think of the many couples I see regularly miserable with their screaming kids vs that care free moment I was living but I'm ready to take that on I think. What else am I gonna do? I've banged blondes, brunettes, short, tall, big ass, pancake ass, juicy teds, no ted having women multiple times over in multiple countries with various accents.
I'll be 31 next summer so I think I'm in the GOAT window to find a wife where I'm still young enough and attractive enough to find something prime but not so young where I feel I've "cut my fun off too early". This is not coming from a "I'm 30 and everyone else is doing it" place. It's coming from a place of genuinely not liking clubs anymore, not enjoying being around a new girl every week, and wanting a new challenge/story for my life.
40+ years old and still running tinder, pub, random pickup game? hard pass.
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12-23-2017, 01:16 PM
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Originally Posted By Muzzlrpress⏩
I'm talking about my toddlers.Who were toddlers?
Well when they were toddlers.
They're teens now.
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12-23-2017, 01:17 PM
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Originally Posted By redraider86⏩
lol whatsup red.Been waiting with bated breath for you to show up.
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These threads always bring the lols as the parents crew tries to convince us otherwise. I wonder why 90% of parents try to convince others to have kids while most of no kids crew doesn't feel the need to do so? Just food for thought.
Tbh I feel like I get like 50% of the parenting experience at work anyway, namely spending most of the day handholding helpless retards who could not survive another week without my constant effort and attention.
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12-23-2017, 01:18 PM
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Originally Posted By leoslayer1⏩
So your toddlers were born speaking english, never made loud noises in a theater or restaurant, or drove you insane for the first few months of life? You're gonna sit here and say none of that chit was difficult?I'm talking about my toddlers.
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12-23-2017, 01:20 PM
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Originally Posted By Muzzlrpress⏩
<----- also calling bullsht on perfectly behaved kids between 2 and 5 years old.So your toddlers were born speaking english, never made loud noises in a theater or restaurant, or drove you insane for the first few months of life? You're gonna sit here and say none of that chit was difficult?
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12-23-2017, 01:24 PM
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just lol if you aren't child free in 2018, we talking child support payments right?
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12-23-2017, 01:27 PM
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Originally Posted By Muzzlrpress⏩
No my boys were pretty easy. Everywhere we went people would come up to me and say you have the most well behaved children.So your toddlers were born speaking english, never made loud noises in a theater or restaurant, or drove you insane for the first few months of life? You're gonna sit here and say none of that chit was difficult?
No tantrums in stores. I would allow them to act as wild as they want outside or most times at home.
But when we went somewhere I would tell then we can't do that in a store. People are working and trying to make money.
They just listened.
Actually only two instances in public with three children. I had forgotten one.
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12-23-2017, 01:29 PM
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Originally Posted By TommyRO⏩
That's also something I don't understand. Why do people worry about child support?just lol if you aren't child free in 2018, we talking child support payments right?
They're my kids. Why wouldn't I want to support them? I don't begrudge my ex money.
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12-23-2017, 01:31 PM
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Not only do I not want kids personally, but I am an anti-natalist, I view reproduction as an ethical and moral wrong.
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i have a 2 year old nephew, he is a handful, and that is a enough kids in my life srs
i wouldn't want kids of my own, they're too hard to take care of
i'd rather be stress free than deal with a kid constantly
i wouldn't want kids of my own, they're too hard to take care of
i'd rather be stress free than deal with a kid constantly
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Originally Posted By leoslayer1⏩
I'm not talking about when they know what you say, I am specifically talking about before they could understand you.No my boys were pretty easy. Everywhere we went people would come up to me and say you have the most well behaved children.
No tantrums in stores. I would allow them to act as wild as they want outside or most times at home.
But when we went somewhere I would tell then we can't do that in a store. People are working and trying to make money.
They just listened.
Actually only two instances in public with three children. I had forgotten one.
No tantrums in stores. I would allow them to act as wild as they want outside or most times at home.
But when we went somewhere I would tell then we can't do that in a store. People are working and trying to make money.
They just listened.
Actually only two instances in public with three children. I had forgotten one.
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12-23-2017, 01:40 PM
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Originally Posted By NeednOut⏩
Nothing better then having kids. Makes life much more enjoyableHow many of you are going for a childfree way of life ?
My ex had a bby a couple of months ago and she contacted me saying how she now realizes why i never wanted kids ....lol at her retarded ass.
Personally i don't see any benefit in having kids in this day in age, they seem like nothing more than a financial burden as well as a waste of a good life
My ex had a bby a couple of months ago and she contacted me saying how she now realizes why i never wanted kids ....lol at her retarded ass.
Personally i don't see any benefit in having kids in this day in age, they seem like nothing more than a financial burden as well as a waste of a good life
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"I've never regretted not having children. My mindset in that regard has been constant. I objected to being born, and I refuse to impose life on someone else. Living, it's awful for me. I can't on one hand argue the futility of life and the pointlessness of existence and have a family. It doesn't sit comfortably." - Robert Smith, from The Cure
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Originally Posted By ItsOverBoyos⏩
Not only do I not want kids personally, but I am an anti-natalist, I view reproduction as an ethical and moral wrong.
Originally Posted By ItsOverBoyos⏩
we get it already"I've never regretted not having children. My mindset in that regard has been constant. I objected to being born, and I refuse to impose life on someone else. Living, it's awful for me. I can't on one hand argue the futility of life and the pointlessness of existence and have a family. It doesn't sit comfortably." - Robert Smith, from The Cure
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12-23-2017, 01:45 PM
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Originally Posted By Muzzlrpress⏩
Maybe it's because they never had to go to daycare?I'm not talking about when they know what you say, I am specifically talking about before they could understand you.
I don't know. Sure some sleepless nights when they were newborns.
There were medical crises but that wasn't because of their behavior.
We never gave them a bedtime before school age.
When they were tired they would sleep.
The only thing I personally didn't like is my ex wanted the babies in the bed and not a crib.
She was worried about SIDS.
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Haha, OP has never watched someones kids for the weekend and picked up chicks.
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I'll likely live a generally angry, stressful, and miserable life with some bright moments here and there but it's whatever. We all die one day, and I'd rather die young anyways.
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I'll likely live a generally angry, stressful, and miserable life with some bright moments here and there but it's whatever. We all die one day, and I'd rather die young anyways.
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Im mid 30's. I love kids and have 2 nieces and one nephew who are awesome but would never have kids of my own. Between work/business and relaxation time, there's not much room for anything else really. Last thing I want to do when I come home is feed an open mouth and wipe the ass of a toddler. I enjoy the peacefulness when I come home and if the gf wants to go out that night I can just pick up and go -- not take 1 hr to get kids ready like my sister. No thanks, Geoffrey.
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Originally Posted By ItsOverBoyos⏩
Robert Smith sounds like a whiney little bitch. He might want to get a grip and man up."I've never regretted not having children. My mindset in that regard has been constant. I objected to being born, and I refuse to impose life on someone else. Living, it's awful for me. I can't on one hand argue the futility of life and the pointlessness of existence and have a family. It doesn't sit comfortably." - Robert Smith, from The Cure
12-23-2017, 02:22 PM
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No desire to persuade anyone to have kids if they don't want to.
But if you are under 35 or so I think there is a good chance you will change your mind.
Some people probably shouldn't do it anyway. AFAIK personality disorders are all based in some part on childhood trauma and patterns tend to repeat in families. Even read a theory that all personality disorders are adaptations to complex PTSD from repeated childhood trauma.
Most of us muddle along and do the best we can.
And then some people are just awesome parents...love doing it and are good at it too.
Also don't buy that parenting is easy if you just apply yourself.
Awesome if it goes that way, but sometimes children have physical/mental problems that are challenging. My daughter had plenty of public meltdowns and taking her along to do things wasn't just as easy as going alone. She was diagnosed with sensory processing disorder...not her fault and not our fault either. Not much of an issue now; awful when she was a toddler.
IMO people that are able to maintain a healthy committed relationship, are financially stable, and don't have serious physical/mental health issues should at least have one child.
Because as already mentioned a lot of children are born to people that aren't fit or able to raise them well. See Idiocracy...
But if you are under 35 or so I think there is a good chance you will change your mind.
Some people probably shouldn't do it anyway. AFAIK personality disorders are all based in some part on childhood trauma and patterns tend to repeat in families. Even read a theory that all personality disorders are adaptations to complex PTSD from repeated childhood trauma.
Most of us muddle along and do the best we can.
And then some people are just awesome parents...love doing it and are good at it too.
Also don't buy that parenting is easy if you just apply yourself.
Awesome if it goes that way, but sometimes children have physical/mental problems that are challenging. My daughter had plenty of public meltdowns and taking her along to do things wasn't just as easy as going alone. She was diagnosed with sensory processing disorder...not her fault and not our fault either. Not much of an issue now; awful when she was a toddler.
IMO people that are able to maintain a healthy committed relationship, are financially stable, and don't have serious physical/mental health issues should at least have one child.
Because as already mentioned a lot of children are born to people that aren't fit or able to raise them well. See Idiocracy...
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Originally Posted By katya422⏩
You mad Komo styling on you?No desire to persuade anyone to have kids if they don't want to.
But if you are under 35 or so I think there is a good chance you will change your mind.
Some people probably shouldn't do it anyway. AFAIK personality disorders are all based in some part on childhood trauma and patterns tend to repeat in families. Even read a theory that all personality disorders are adaptations to complex PTSD from repeated childhood trauma.
Most of us muddle along and do the best we can.
And then some people are just awesome parents...love doing it and are good at it too.
Also don't buy that parenting is easy if you just apply yourself.
Awesome if it goes that way, but sometimes children have physical/mental problems that are challenging. My daughter had plenty of public meltdowns and taking her along to do things wasn't just as easy as going alone. She was diagnosed with sensory processing disorder...not her fault and not our fault either. Not much of an issue now; awful when she was a toddler.
IMO people that are able to maintain a healthy committed relationship, are financially stable, and don't have serious physical/mental health issues should at least have one child.
Because as already mentioned a lot of children are born to people that aren't fit or able to raise them well. See Idiocracy...
But if you are under 35 or so I think there is a good chance you will change your mind.
Some people probably shouldn't do it anyway. AFAIK personality disorders are all based in some part on childhood trauma and patterns tend to repeat in families. Even read a theory that all personality disorders are adaptations to complex PTSD from repeated childhood trauma.
Most of us muddle along and do the best we can.
And then some people are just awesome parents...love doing it and are good at it too.
Also don't buy that parenting is easy if you just apply yourself.
Awesome if it goes that way, but sometimes children have physical/mental problems that are challenging. My daughter had plenty of public meltdowns and taking her along to do things wasn't just as easy as going alone. She was diagnosed with sensory processing disorder...not her fault and not our fault either. Not much of an issue now; awful when she was a toddler.
IMO people that are able to maintain a healthy committed relationship, are financially stable, and don't have serious physical/mental health issues should at least have one child.
Because as already mentioned a lot of children are born to people that aren't fit or able to raise them well. See Idiocracy...
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Originally Posted By DrFeeIGood⏩
lol at thinking your work actually adds value to the world. we all gonna die anyway bro!30 here, child/divorce free! Feels good brahs, make close to $200k, out-work out-hustle all the "dads" out there. Don't have time for kids, need to add real value to this world.
Maybe when I'm 40 and have a 25 yr old wife and big goals accomplished/millions in the bank.
lol @ peasants and losers having all the kids (srs)
Maybe when I'm 40 and have a 25 yr old wife and big goals accomplished/millions in the bank.
lol @ peasants and losers having all the kids (srs)
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Originally Posted By SasquatchHunter⏩
hate this fukking argument. If you need children to see life in a way that is bigger than yourself then you're doing it wrong. Kids are not the be all, end all of enlightenment. In fact, they're often the scapegoat.Ahhhh nothing like the misc to bring about the nihilist point of views. Who was family? What is making life bigger than your own? Let me tell you from person experience being a father is hard. Being a husband is possibly more difficult. The rewards of family and a generation you create... Das it. Das it. There is more to the world than you. If banging 10/10HBB is all there is to life... I've go bad news.
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I was waiting for a train a couple weeks ago and there was a baby who wouldn't stop crying and I honestly felt like I was goingmadand in that moment I was angrily thinking to myself that I'm never having kids lol. I can understand a little why people wouldn't want them, the thought of not being able to just up and leave the house whenever the hell I want is quite off putting.
Having said all that I still definitely would love to be a mother, and it's a deal breaker for me if a guy says he doesn't want kids. I absolutely adore babies and there is nothing purer, cuter or more innocent than a baby.
With all the downsides to having kids there are many more upsides and I truly believe there's nothing else that would give me as much sense of purpose in life as being a mother would. (not right now though, hopefully in about 10 years time lol)
Having said all that I still definitely would love to be a mother, and it's a deal breaker for me if a guy says he doesn't want kids. I absolutely adore babies and there is nothing purer, cuter or more innocent than a baby.
With all the downsides to having kids there are many more upsides and I truly believe there's nothing else that would give me as much sense of purpose in life as being a mother would. (not right now though, hopefully in about 10 years time lol)
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Originally Posted By ****liGirl⏩
Didnt read chit but pm ya digitsI was waiting for a train a couple weeks ago and there was a baby who wouldn't stop crying and I honestly felt like I was goingmadand in that moment I was angrily thinking to myself that I'm never having kids lol. I can understand a little why people wouldn't want them, the thought of not being able to just up and leave the house whenever the hell I want is quite off putting.
Having said all that I still definitely would love to be a mother, and it's a deal breaker for me if a guy says he doesn't want kids. I absolutely adore babies and there is nothing purer, cuter or more innocent than a baby.
With all the downsides to having kids there are many more upsides and I truly believe there's nothing else that would give me as much sense of purpose in life as being a mother would. (not right now though, hopefully in about 10 years time lol)
Having said all that I still definitely would love to be a mother, and it's a deal breaker for me if a guy says he doesn't want kids. I absolutely adore babies and there is nothing purer, cuter or more innocent than a baby.
With all the downsides to having kids there are many more upsides and I truly believe there's nothing else that would give me as much sense of purpose in life as being a mother would. (not right now though, hopefully in about 10 years time lol)
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For a long time I was convinced I wouldn't have kids but now I start to reconsider and would like to have some around 29-30. I feel like every 20 something goes through the "I'll just save money and travel" phase but to some end that feels vapid and short-sighted.
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Originally Posted By ItsOverBoyos⏩
Not only do I not want kids personally, but I am an anti-natalist, I view reproduction as an ethical and moral wrong.
Originally Posted By ItsOverBoyos⏩
"I've never regretted not having children. My mindset in that regard has been constant. I objected to being born, and I refuse to impose life on someone else. Living, it's awful for me. I can't on one hand argue the futility of life and the pointlessness of existence and have a family. It doesn't sit comfortably." - Robert Smith, from The Cure
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