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Originally Posted By mar_angry⏩
I know you didn't read the thread, but she's not banging dudes. According to her Catholic beliefs, sex is sacred and sex outside of marriage is a sin. However, she "sinned for me" because she thought we were going to get married soon, so it was morally acceptable to her. I took her virginity and she offered her body to me at any time; she submitted herself to me. However, as soon as she figured out that we weren't getting married, that was the end of that and she refused to have sex anymore.In what world do you think "I really really like this person. I don't mind letting her go bang some dudes for a year and assume it'll all be ok in the end". I don't mean to rub salt into the wound, but even if she didn't marry this guy... how can you be ok to decide to let her live a life with another person while basically you were together? Sounds completely cuck tbh
If she's banging the Russian guy, which I doubt, it's only because she's planning to marry him.
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
lol'dI know you didn't read the thread, but she's not banging dudes. According to her Catholic beliefs, sex is sacred and sex outside of marriage is a sin. However, she "sinned for me" because she thought we were going to get married soon, so it was morally acceptable to her. I took her virginity and she offered her body to me at any time; she submitted herself to me. However, as soon as she figured out that we weren't getting married, that was the end of that and she refused to have sex anymore.
If she's banging the Russian guy, which I doubt, it's only because she's planning to marry him.
If she's banging the Russian guy, which I doubt, it's only because she's planning to marry him.
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Jesuschrist OP, you are extremely deluded right now, but I get it, I've been there.
Just delete this thread and let life happen, but don't just passively see it happen, improve yourself in every area man, forget about women for a while
She is definitely getting fuked up the ass by this guy btw, she set aside her "beliefs" for an immature cuck like you, what makes you thing she didn't do it for the MAN that actually wanted to marry her?
She realized long ago that you weren't that special, and she wasted her fukin time, in comparison to the Russian dude, you are a mistake she made, its time to face it bro and let her live a happy life
Just delete this thread and let life happen, but don't just passively see it happen, improve yourself in every area man, forget about women for a while
She is definitely getting fuked up the ass by this guy btw, she set aside her "beliefs" for an immature cuck like you, what makes you thing she didn't do it for the MAN that actually wanted to marry her?
She realized long ago that you weren't that special, and she wasted her fukin time, in comparison to the Russian dude, you are a mistake she made, its time to face it bro and let her live a happy life
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Originally Posted By Ken-O⏩
Lol. I'm not saying you're wrong bro, but didn't you just make a couple of posts saying you went through the same thing I did? And felt all the same exact things? The only difference is that you got your girl back in the end.Jesuschrist OP, you are extremely deluded right now, but I get it, I've been there.
Just delete this thread and let life happen, but don't just passively see it happen, improve yourself in every area man, forget about women for a while
Just delete this thread and let life happen, but don't just passively see it happen, improve yourself in every area man, forget about women for a while
And you're right, I'm working on self-improvement. Just got back from the gym. Feeling a little better and stronger each and every day. Met a smoking hot Ukrainian chick on PoF and we've been going on a few dates.
The ironic thing? She speaks Russian.
Not gonna lie though, I posted our pic on Instagram and hoped my ex saw it (she blocked me from Fbook and Gmail, but still follows me on IG for some reason). Petty I know, but still felt good.
Originally Posted By Ken-O⏩
You might be right, man. I think she would wait until marriage this time, but maybe I'm just deluded. And honest question brah, not saying you're wrong, but weren't you also an immature cuck with your gf? Clearly she still came back to you.She is definitely getting fuked up the ass by this guy btw, she set aside her "beliefs" for an immature cuck like you, what makes you thing she didn't do it for the MAN that actually wanted to marry her?
Originally Posted By Ken-O⏩
She realized long ago that you weren't that special
She knows I'm special. Don't give me any of that cockadoodle bullchit.
Originally Posted By Ken-O⏩
She will always miss me. I don't give a damn what she says or does from now on. I DON'T GIVE A DAMN. She will always miss me, and that's a fact. Nobody made her laugh like I did. She even admitted that on the phone. She's just going with the safe choice now becuz I didn't step up to the plate. Whatever bro. I don't wish her unhappiness, but I hope she always regrets her mistakes. I hope it's always in the back of her mind. I will always regret my mistakes too. It's just the way it is. We both fukked up in our own ways.and she wasted her fukin time, in comparison to the Russian dude, you are a mistake she made, its time to face it bro and let her live a happy life
AND ONCE AGAIN, YOUR GIRL CAME BACK TO YOU
We're all immature cucks at some point in our life, brah. Happens to be a fact of life. Everybody has moments of weakness.
02-18-2018, 04:40 PM
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You're still holding on.Not gonna lie though, I posted our pic on Instagram and hoped my ex saw it (she blocked me from Fbook and Gmail, but still follows me on IG for some reason). Petty I know, but still felt good.
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
Thanks brah... it really does.you'll get there brah...time heals all wounds
well...the ones that don't kill you or leave permanent damage anyway lulz
well...the ones that don't kill you or leave permanent damage anyway lulz
Getting a little better and stronger each day.
Can't let sloots destroy us, brah.
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
Yeah i already told you, almost the same exact thing happened to me, thats how i know how you are feeling. Quit being passive agressive man i was the first to tell you that exactly a year ago, i was twice or 5x as cuck and pussy as you are being right now, theres no shame on it brah, hell i watched the twilight movies man just because i never wanted to watch them with her lmao.Lol. I'm not saying you're wrong bro, but didn't you just make a couple of posts saying you went through the same thing I did? And felt all the same exact things? The only difference is that you got your girl back in the end.
And you're right, I'm working on self-improvement. Just got back from the gym. Feeling a little better and stronger each and every day. Met a smoking hot Ukrainian chick on PoF and we've been going on a few dates.
The ironic thing? She speaks Russian.
Not gonna lie though, I posted our pic on Instagram and hoped my ex saw it (she blocked me from Fbook and Gmail, but still follows me on IG for some reason). Petty I know, but still felt good.
You might be right, man. I think she would wait until marriage this time, but maybe I'm just deluded. And honest question brah, not saying you're wrong, but weren't you also an immature cuck with your gf? Clearly she still came back to you.
She knows I'm special. Don't give me any of that cockadoodle bullchit.
She will always miss me. I don't give a damn what she says or does from now on. I DON'T GIVE A DAMN. She will always miss me, and that's a fact. Nobody made her laugh like I did. She even admitted that on the phone. She's just going with the safe choice now becuz I didn't step up to the plate. Whatever bro. I don't wish her unhappiness, but I hope she always regrets her mistakes. I hope it's always in the back of her mind. I will always regret my mistakes too. It's just the way it is. We both fukked up in our own ways.
AND ONCE AGAIN, YOUR GIRL CAME BACK TO YOU
We're all immature cucks at some point in our life, brah. Happens to be a fact of life. Everybody has moments of weakness.
And you're right, I'm working on self-improvement. Just got back from the gym. Feeling a little better and stronger each and every day. Met a smoking hot Ukrainian chick on PoF and we've been going on a few dates.
The ironic thing? She speaks Russian.
Not gonna lie though, I posted our pic on Instagram and hoped my ex saw it (she blocked me from Fbook and Gmail, but still follows me on IG for some reason). Petty I know, but still felt good.
You might be right, man. I think she would wait until marriage this time, but maybe I'm just deluded. And honest question brah, not saying you're wrong, but weren't you also an immature cuck with your gf? Clearly she still came back to you.
She knows I'm special. Don't give me any of that cockadoodle bullchit.
She will always miss me. I don't give a damn what she says or does from now on. I DON'T GIVE A DAMN. She will always miss me, and that's a fact. Nobody made her laugh like I did. She even admitted that on the phone. She's just going with the safe choice now becuz I didn't step up to the plate. Whatever bro. I don't wish her unhappiness, but I hope she always regrets her mistakes. I hope it's always in the back of her mind. I will always regret my mistakes too. It's just the way it is. We both fukked up in our own ways.
AND ONCE AGAIN, YOUR GIRL CAME BACK TO YOU
We're all immature cucks at some point in our life, brah. Happens to be a fact of life. Everybody has moments of weakness.
I knew she would come back, or at least regret it one day, maybe a month later, or in 20 years, but she would eventually want me. While we were on NC, you dont know the amount of times that i pictured how it would go if we met each other and how would i reply to every single thing she could say. I had every scenario perfectly pictured in my mind so i could say or react exactly the way that she would want to.
It worked PERFECTLY, one day she was uploading pictures of her perfect life and perfect soulmate (in her own words), and the next day she came to a place she knew id be there, and immediately i was back in the game, and replaced the new guy out of her mind. She lied to him on the phone while she was in front of me and i was romantically kissing her naked back. I felt like the boss.
Looking back at everything, i handled things horribly with this woman, and i hurt myself and her way more than neccesary, but thats life and everything falls into place eventually. We are about to break up again, and begin a new life. But now i know how to detect a relationship that wont go anywhere since day 1, because i know every single red flag there can be lmao.
Anyway, yeah brah i was th biggest cuck there can be last year, and i too was heartbroken and thought i had lost the angel of my life. Now im convinced that angel and me wont last even a year living together lol, we are just too fukin different and the only similar thing we have is our huge codependency to the other one.
Im pretty good at figuring out how will the future go, i knew my ex would eventually want to come back to me but didnt know if it would be after she married someone or before. After reading your entire thread i dont think your girl will ever come back bro im sorry. You were even a bigger dick than i was before she left me. Mine had second thoughts as soon as she found out her new guy wasnt all that, yours has already decided to marry the russian dude and your girl seems kind of smart so im guessing the dude is worth it.
Sorry brah gotta mve on
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Originally Posted By Ken-O⏩
Lol, I didn't think I was being passive aggressive bro. Just calling you out a bit and you took it like a man. Lmao @ you watching the Twilight movies. I didn't do that, but I did pull out a long love letter that she wrote me before we even started dating. It was basically a testament of her undying love and dedication to me. I read it over and over again. Then I wrote my own love letter, except it was like 5x as long. The thing was almost 10 pages before I finally quit. I was writing poetry and quoting scripture and weeping like a Cuckmaster 3000. I never sent the letter and looking back that's probably a good thing.Yeah i already told you, almost the same exact thing happened to me, thats how i know how you are feeling. Quit being passive agressive man i was the first to tell you that exactly a year ago, i was twice or 5x as cuck and pussy as you are being right now, theres no shame on it brah, hell i watched the twilight movies man just because i never wanted to watch them with her lmao.
I knew she would come back, or at least regret it one day, maybe a month later, or in 20 years, but she would eventually want me. While we were on NC, you dont know the amount of times that i pictured how it would go if we met each other and how would i reply to every single thing she could say. I had every scenario perfectly pictured in my mind so i could say or react exactly the way that she would want to.
It worked PERFECTLY, one day she was uploading pictures of her perfect life and perfect soulmate (in her own words), and the next day she came to a place she knew id be there, and immediately i was back in the game, and replaced the new guy out of her mind. She lied to him on the phone while she was in front of me and i was romantically kissing her naked back. I felt like the boss.
Looking back at everything, i handled things horribly with this woman, and i hurt myself and her way more than neccesary, but thats life and everything falls into place eventually. We are about to break up again, and begin a new life. But now i know how to detect a relationship that wont go anywhere since day 1, because i know every single red flag there can be lmao.
Anyway, yeah brah i was th biggest cuck there can be last year, and i too was heartbroken and thought i had lost the angel of my life. Now im convinced that angel and me wont last even a year living together lol, we are just too fukin different and the only similar thing we have is our huge codependency to the other one.
Im pretty good at figuring out how will the future go, i knew my ex would eventually want to come back to me but didnt know if it would be after she married someone or before. After reading your entire thread i dont think your girl will ever come back bro im sorry. You were even a bigger dick than i was before she left me. Mine had second thoughts as soon as she found out her new guy wasnt all that, yours has already decided to marry the russian dude and your girl seems kind of smart so im guessing the dude is worth it.
Sorry brah gotta mve on
I knew she would come back, or at least regret it one day, maybe a month later, or in 20 years, but she would eventually want me. While we were on NC, you dont know the amount of times that i pictured how it would go if we met each other and how would i reply to every single thing she could say. I had every scenario perfectly pictured in my mind so i could say or react exactly the way that she would want to.
It worked PERFECTLY, one day she was uploading pictures of her perfect life and perfect soulmate (in her own words), and the next day she came to a place she knew id be there, and immediately i was back in the game, and replaced the new guy out of her mind. She lied to him on the phone while she was in front of me and i was romantically kissing her naked back. I felt like the boss.
Looking back at everything, i handled things horribly with this woman, and i hurt myself and her way more than neccesary, but thats life and everything falls into place eventually. We are about to break up again, and begin a new life. But now i know how to detect a relationship that wont go anywhere since day 1, because i know every single red flag there can be lmao.
Anyway, yeah brah i was th biggest cuck there can be last year, and i too was heartbroken and thought i had lost the angel of my life. Now im convinced that angel and me wont last even a year living together lol, we are just too fukin different and the only similar thing we have is our huge codependency to the other one.
Im pretty good at figuring out how will the future go, i knew my ex would eventually want to come back to me but didnt know if it would be after she married someone or before. After reading your entire thread i dont think your girl will ever come back bro im sorry. You were even a bigger dick than i was before she left me. Mine had second thoughts as soon as she found out her new guy wasnt all that, yours has already decided to marry the russian dude and your girl seems kind of smart so im guessing the dude is worth it.
Sorry brah gotta mve on
I went the opposite of NC, brah. I went full cucktard. You never go full cucktard. Live and learn, I guess.
Ha I'm the same way, I still think my girl will regret it some day. Like you said, whether it takes a month or 20 years. I don't know if she'll ever come back, though. She's stubborn as a mule, so once she makes up her mind on something, it's a lost cause. You'd be better off trying to squeeze blood from a rock.
Damn, that's an crazy story bro. I bet you felt like you were king of the world. Everything worked according to plan. Everything was right in the world. Your future was happy and secure. The universe was as it should be. My how quickly times change lmao.
Every single red flag. You're right bro, I've learned a lot too. The problem is that I think this has lifted my standards so high that I'll never meet a woman that meets all my checkboxes, but has none of the dealbreakers. I dunno man, maybe I'll never get married after all. Maybe this girl was my only chance and I blew it.
Yeah, I think you're right brah. I don't think she's ever coming back. The situation just blew up too badly. She didn't delete me on Fbook or IG... I'm restricted from her Fbook updates and blocked from Messenger, but we're still technically "friends" .... so my guess is she'll extend an olive branch at some point, maybe 6 months or a year from now. But she'll just want to be friends. And I will hopefully tell her to stuff it where the sun don't shine.
Anger is settling in. Anger is good. Anger is motivation.
You're right, time to move on brah. I'm already in the process. With the new girl now, she's a total babe, packing double Ds, super sweet, etc.... but....and I'm not going to lie... she has enough baggage to fill a Boeing 747. I don't think she has much long term potential, but she's got great short term potential, so why not? Just time to move on, get stronger, and enjoy life. The ex can bite me.
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
Bro i went full cucktard too, surprised her at her work twice BEGGING for her to come back. I wasnt Denzel Washington on that breakup not even close lol. When i went NC is when i had absolutely no moves or options now, i had to play the waiting time. I was nearly hopeless but i still kept tht 1% faith, that little bit of faith kept me from moving on, i was waiting for that window of opportunity tht would eventually come, and it came right when i was least expecting it, i had just seen her ******** FULL of pictures of the two of them together, it crushed me to bits you have no idea, and when 3 days after that we were naked in bed... that kind of experience change you man,it truly does. Most bittersweet moment of my life, and most confusing one too.Lol, I didn't think I was being passive aggressive bro. Just calling you out a bit and you took it like a man. Lmao @ you watching the Twilight movies. I didn't do that, but I did pull out a long love letter that she wrote me before we even started dating. It was basically a testament of her undying love and dedication to me. I read it over and over again. Then I wrote my own love letter, except it was like 5x as long. The thing was almost 10 pages before I finally quit. I was writing poetry and quoting scripture and weeping like a Cuckmaster 3000. I never sent the letter and looking back that's probably a good thing.
I went the opposite of NC, brah. I went full cucktard. You never go full cucktard. Live and learn, I guess.
Ha I'm the same way, I still think my girl will regret it some day. Like you said, whether it takes a month or 20 years. I don't know if she'll ever come back, though. She's stubborn as a mule, so once she makes up her mind on something, it's a lost cause. You'd be better off trying to squeeze blood from a rock.
Damn, that's an crazy story bro. I bet you felt like you were king of the world. Everything worked according to plan. Everything was right in the world. Your future was happy and secure. The universe was as it should be. My how quickly times change lmao.
Every single red flag. You're right bro, I've learned a lot too. The problem is that I think this has lifted my standards so high that I'll never meet a woman that meets all my checkboxes, but has none of the dealbreakers. I dunno man, maybe I'll never get married after all. Maybe this girl was my only chance and I blew it.
Yeah, I think you're right brah. I don't think she's ever coming back. The situation just blew up too badly. She didn't delete me on Fbook or IG... I'm restricted from her Fbook updates and blocked from Messenger, but we're still technically "friends" .... so my guess is she'll extend an olive branch at some point, maybe 6 months or a year from now. But she'll just want to be friends. And I will hopefully tell her to stuff it where the sun don't shine.
Anger is settling in. Anger is good. Anger is motivation.
You're right, time to move on brah. I'm already in the process. With the new girl now, she's a total babe, packing double Ds, super sweet, etc.... but....and I'm not going to lie... she has enough baggage to fill a Boeing 747. I don't think she has much long term potential, but she's got great short term potential, so why not? Just time to move on, get stronger, and enjoy life. The ex can bite me.
I went the opposite of NC, brah. I went full cucktard. You never go full cucktard. Live and learn, I guess.
Ha I'm the same way, I still think my girl will regret it some day. Like you said, whether it takes a month or 20 years. I don't know if she'll ever come back, though. She's stubborn as a mule, so once she makes up her mind on something, it's a lost cause. You'd be better off trying to squeeze blood from a rock.
Damn, that's an crazy story bro. I bet you felt like you were king of the world. Everything worked according to plan. Everything was right in the world. Your future was happy and secure. The universe was as it should be. My how quickly times change lmao.
Every single red flag. You're right bro, I've learned a lot too. The problem is that I think this has lifted my standards so high that I'll never meet a woman that meets all my checkboxes, but has none of the dealbreakers. I dunno man, maybe I'll never get married after all. Maybe this girl was my only chance and I blew it.
Yeah, I think you're right brah. I don't think she's ever coming back. The situation just blew up too badly. She didn't delete me on Fbook or IG... I'm restricted from her Fbook updates and blocked from Messenger, but we're still technically "friends" .... so my guess is she'll extend an olive branch at some point, maybe 6 months or a year from now. But she'll just want to be friends. And I will hopefully tell her to stuff it where the sun don't shine.
Anger is settling in. Anger is good. Anger is motivation.
You're right, time to move on brah. I'm already in the process. With the new girl now, she's a total babe, packing double Ds, super sweet, etc.... but....and I'm not going to lie... she has enough baggage to fill a Boeing 747. I don't think she has much long term potential, but she's got great short term potential, so why not? Just time to move on, get stronger, and enjoy life. The ex can bite me.
I regret taking her back and im sure as hell she regrets coming back to me. We wasted an entire year clinging to a codependant relationship that was heading for darkness, i just stopped us from getting deeper.
I broke up with her today, it killed her and it hurt me too. I know what she is going trough, i went trough that a year ago and the feelings are still fresh. I was afraid of silence and darkness, and days seemed twice as long. Im sure you know what i talking about.
She was a mess today, she went from hating me to understanding me to telling me it was her fault to hating me again like 5 times in the hour we talked. Shes deeply hurt man, my immature psycho ass hurt her, the person ive cared the most in pain because of me, on top of that i have to deal with my own pain of losing my best friend as well.
What is done is done. I just hope i dont regret it later, like i have before.
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brothoven, would you wait a year for her? say if a year from now she came back and said she wanted to be with you, would you be with her or do you feel you would be over her a year from now?
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Originally Posted By Ken-O⏩
I see, brah. So basically you were in a similar situation as I am now, except it didn't end as ugly. But there were no other options except NC. I still check my ex's ******** page every day, both hers and Vladicuck's. It's pretty sad, but it is what it is. At the same time, I think about her less and less every day, so that's the good news. Luckily, I can't see most of the happy pictures of them together anymore, like the one's you describe. But when I was seeing that crap, each time I saw a new photo or update, it was like a dagger straight into the heart, and a little piece of me died. Was definitely toxic and I'm glad to be getting away from it now. You're right, the days seemed twice as long and there wasn't a moment I wasn't thinking about her until recently.Bro i went full cucktard too, surprised her at her work twice BEGGING for her to come back. I wasnt Denzel Washington on that breakup not even close lol. When i went NC is when i had absolutely no moves or options now, i had to play the waiting time. I was nearly hopeless but i still kept tht 1% faith, that little bit of faith kept me from moving on, i was waiting for that window of opportunity tht would eventually come, and it came right when i was least expecting it, i had just seen her ******** FULL of pictures of the two of them together, it crushed me to bits you have no idea, and when 3 days after that we were naked in bed... that kind of experience change you man,it truly does. Most bittersweet moment of my life, and most confusing one too.
I regret taking her back and im sure as hell she regrets coming back to me. We wasted an entire year clinging to a codependant relationship that was heading for darkness, i just stopped us from getting deeper.
I broke up with her today, it killed her and it hurt me too. I know what she is going trough, i went trough that a year ago and the feelings are still fresh. I was afraid of silence and darkness, and days seemed twice as long. Im sure you know what i talking about.
She was a mess today, she went from hating me to understanding me to telling me it was her fault to hating me again like 5 times in the hour we talked. Shes deeply hurt man, my immature psycho ass hurt her, the person ive cared the most in pain because of me, on top of that i have to deal with my own pain of losing my best friend as well.
What is done is done. I just hope i dont regret it later, like i have before.
I regret taking her back and im sure as hell she regrets coming back to me. We wasted an entire year clinging to a codependant relationship that was heading for darkness, i just stopped us from getting deeper.
I broke up with her today, it killed her and it hurt me too. I know what she is going trough, i went trough that a year ago and the feelings are still fresh. I was afraid of silence and darkness, and days seemed twice as long. Im sure you know what i talking about.
She was a mess today, she went from hating me to understanding me to telling me it was her fault to hating me again like 5 times in the hour we talked. Shes deeply hurt man, my immature psycho ass hurt her, the person ive cared the most in pain because of me, on top of that i have to deal with my own pain of losing my best friend as well.
What is done is done. I just hope i dont regret it later, like i have before.
You finally did it, brah? Well congrats bro for stepping up, being a man, and doing what's right. You know what they say, it's never too late to correct a mistake. You did what you had to do. And surprisingly enough, it sounds like she took it rather well. The fact that she understood and blamed herself, if only for a moment, shows a rare self-reflective moment for a woman in an emotional state of rage. Those should not be taken for granted lol.
Do you think you two will be able to emerge from this heartbreak as friends? It definitely could've been a lot worse. But still, she might never want to talk to you again. Sorry about that bro, I know that's gotta kill you inside. Even if it's for the best. Perhaps losing my girl was for the best too. We brought a lot of joy to each other's lives, but we were also constantly hurting each other. For me, the pain was worth the joy, but I guess it wasn't for her. I don't know who is right, but I'm a nostalgic person who doesn't let go easily, so I would never have made the decisions that she did. I'm actually friends with all of my LTR's on ******** to this day, and I still think fondly of them, each in their own ways. That being said, I rarely talk to any of them. That is their choice, not mine. I've made more of an effort to keep the line of communication open, but they prefer to let it die. It's the female way.
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
Dude i made that social media mistake ONCE, and ill never do it again. It hurts way more than anything ive felt before, seeing someone you love being happy with somebody else, your mind is blown at the fact that the person you love doesnt even think about you anymore.I see, brah. So basically you were in a similar situation as I am now, except it didn't end as ugly. But there were no other options except NC. I still check my ex's ******** page every day, both hers and Vladicuck's. It's pretty sad, but it is what it is. At the same time, I think about her less and less every day, so that's the good news. Luckily, I can't see most of the happy pictures of them together anymore, like the one's you describe. But when I was seeing that crap, each time I saw a new photo or update, it was like a dagger straight into the heart, and a little piece of me died. Was definitely toxic and I'm glad to be getting away from it now. You're right, the days seemed twice as long and there wasn't a moment I wasn't thinking about her until recently.
You finally did it, brah? Well congrats bro for stepping up, being a man, and doing what's right. You know what they say, it's never too late to correct a mistake. You did what you had to do. And surprisingly enough, it sounds like she took it rather well. The fact that she understood and blamed herself, if only for a moment, shows a rare self-reflective moment for a woman in an emotional state of rage. Those should not be taken for granted lol.
Do you think you two will be able to emerge from this heartbreak as friends? It definitely could've been a lot worse. But still, she might never want to talk to you again. Sorry about that bro, I know that's gotta kill you inside. Even if it's for the best. Perhaps losing my girl was for the best too. We brought a lot of joy to each other's lives, but we were also constantly hurting each other. For me, the pain was worth the joy, but I guess it wasn't for her. I don't know who is right, but I'm a nostalgic person who doesn't let go easily, so I would never have made the decisions that she did. I'm actually friends with all of my LTR's on ******** to this day, and I still think fondly of them, each in their own ways. That being said, I rarely talk to any of them. That is their choice, not mine. I've made more of an effort to keep the line of communication open, but they prefer to let it die. It's the female way.
You finally did it, brah? Well congrats bro for stepping up, being a man, and doing what's right. You know what they say, it's never too late to correct a mistake. You did what you had to do. And surprisingly enough, it sounds like she took it rather well. The fact that she understood and blamed herself, if only for a moment, shows a rare self-reflective moment for a woman in an emotional state of rage. Those should not be taken for granted lol.
Do you think you two will be able to emerge from this heartbreak as friends? It definitely could've been a lot worse. But still, she might never want to talk to you again. Sorry about that bro, I know that's gotta kill you inside. Even if it's for the best. Perhaps losing my girl was for the best too. We brought a lot of joy to each other's lives, but we were also constantly hurting each other. For me, the pain was worth the joy, but I guess it wasn't for her. I don't know who is right, but I'm a nostalgic person who doesn't let go easily, so I would never have made the decisions that she did. I'm actually friends with all of my LTR's on ******** to this day, and I still think fondly of them, each in their own ways. That being said, I rarely talk to any of them. That is their choice, not mine. I've made more of an effort to keep the line of communication open, but they prefer to let it die. It's the female way.
Yeah man it happened on monday, but im already having second thoughts lol. I knew it would happen though, i always think the grass is greener, if im with her i want to be single and if im single i want to be with her. I think i may be codependant or bipolar or something, i dont know. I wont bother her again though, but it is hard. She was the most important person to me for almost 5 years, its hard as fuk to be the one to break things up, you have to deal with your own loss and with knowing that you broke a person's heart that you care alot about too.
She didnt take it well man, she went trough every stage of grief like 5x times while we were talking, she went from hating me to wishing me the best like 10 times. I left her crying after a long hug, man i was crying too. And now im wondering if she is ever going to contact me or not, for her own sake i hope she doesnt.
Then again, shes the most beautiful woman ive ever known, with the body of a goddess (i have posted a few pics on the misc lol), that plus the fact that i know that she cant be by her own tells me that she will be dating someone in the SHORT future, and with that i mean that right now she could be probably talking to somebody... it would kill me if she moved on that fast but i guess that makes me a selfish dick for thinking that right?
And dont know if we could be friends bro, i cant be friends of someone i want to fuk all the time lol. She will want to be friends in the future though thats for sure, just dont know if that will be a good idea.
Seems like you are reaching the acceptance stage bro. You will go back to sadness and anger im sorry to say, but it still is a sign that you are healing and making progress. Lets support each other bro PM whenever you need to talk, ive been on the same exact road you are on.
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
"Yet I didn't actually want to marry and have kids." - Very important statement in your whole text. You shouldn't make any sacrifice regarding marriage and kids. These are much too important decisions in life in order for you to "sacrifice" / "compromise" and by that hijacking her real, potential happiness from her with another truely fitting man.So I had an amazing relationship with a girl, and for three years it was perfect. The honeymoon phase went on for years. She was completely dedicated to me. The only problem was that she wanted to get married and have kids, and I didn't. I mentioned my feelings a few times, but we usually didn't talk about it and just enjoyed each other's company. We never fought and almost never argued.
Things started to sour in the fourth year, and she became more and more distant. Yet she rarely talked about her feelings. I couldn't seem to fix things. Then, after she graduated from college, she decided to study abroad for a year and get her Masters. I was very surprised by her decision. Due to the circumstances, we decided to go on a break, create a little space, casually date other people, and then get back together when she returned. You can see where this is going. Well, instead she met some Russian cuck that worshiped the ground she walked on. He was ready to marry her on day one. In fact, he was already divorced and had 2 kids back in Russia. She casually dated him for a year, delaying her return to the US because she had a teaching job there and she was busy applying to grad schools for her PhD. She always insisted that her relationship with this guy wasn't serious, and she was still affectionate to me.
To make a long story short, she finally came home for Christmas after 1.5 years of being my lovey-dovey best friend. But then, out of the blue, she refused to talk to me or see me. Finally allowed me one phone call and said it was over, she was marrying the Russian guy, and we were done. She insisted the decision was final, and she couldn't talk to me anymore. Completely blindsided me. Afterwards, I told her I needed to talk about things more, but she ignored all my calls and messages.
So I ended up losing the love of my life. Once the initial shock settled and the crippling realization set in, I freaked out and tried to propose. I told her she meant everything to me, that we could get married and work out all our problems. And I meant it. But that only seemed to make her angrier and she has blocked me on all social media since.
In the end, I am absolutely devastated, and losing her made me realize how much I truly did love her. It is the biggest kick in the balls one can imagine. I am completely filled with regret. I feel like I let "The One" get away. Yet I didn't actually want to marry and have kids. I was willing to make the sacrifice in the end, but I still felt unsure about signing my life away to fatherhood. On the other hand, given the choice of losing her forever or compromising, I was more than willing to compromise. But sadly, it was too little, too late.
So Misc, did I dun goof, or did I dodge a bullet in the end?
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-Dated girlfriend for 4 years
-She wanted to marry and have kids, I didn't
-She went to study abroad for one year
-We went on break but planned to get back together
-She met somebody else, casually dated, said it wouldn't last
-She came home for Xmas, I expected to see her
-Without warning, she tore my heart out and set it on fire
Can't post pics, please don't neg a bro when he's down. Thanks bruhs
Things started to sour in the fourth year, and she became more and more distant. Yet she rarely talked about her feelings. I couldn't seem to fix things. Then, after she graduated from college, she decided to study abroad for a year and get her Masters. I was very surprised by her decision. Due to the circumstances, we decided to go on a break, create a little space, casually date other people, and then get back together when she returned. You can see where this is going. Well, instead she met some Russian cuck that worshiped the ground she walked on. He was ready to marry her on day one. In fact, he was already divorced and had 2 kids back in Russia. She casually dated him for a year, delaying her return to the US because she had a teaching job there and she was busy applying to grad schools for her PhD. She always insisted that her relationship with this guy wasn't serious, and she was still affectionate to me.
To make a long story short, she finally came home for Christmas after 1.5 years of being my lovey-dovey best friend. But then, out of the blue, she refused to talk to me or see me. Finally allowed me one phone call and said it was over, she was marrying the Russian guy, and we were done. She insisted the decision was final, and she couldn't talk to me anymore. Completely blindsided me. Afterwards, I told her I needed to talk about things more, but she ignored all my calls and messages.
So I ended up losing the love of my life. Once the initial shock settled and the crippling realization set in, I freaked out and tried to propose. I told her she meant everything to me, that we could get married and work out all our problems. And I meant it. But that only seemed to make her angrier and she has blocked me on all social media since.
In the end, I am absolutely devastated, and losing her made me realize how much I truly did love her. It is the biggest kick in the balls one can imagine. I am completely filled with regret. I feel like I let "The One" get away. Yet I didn't actually want to marry and have kids. I was willing to make the sacrifice in the end, but I still felt unsure about signing my life away to fatherhood. On the other hand, given the choice of losing her forever or compromising, I was more than willing to compromise. But sadly, it was too little, too late.
So Misc, did I dun goof, or did I dodge a bullet in the end?
CLIFFS
-Dated girlfriend for 4 years
-She wanted to marry and have kids, I didn't
-She went to study abroad for one year
-We went on break but planned to get back together
-She met somebody else, casually dated, said it wouldn't last
-She came home for Xmas, I expected to see her
-Without warning, she tore my heart out and set it on fire
Can't post pics, please don't neg a bro when he's down. Thanks bruhs
It doesn't mean that there's no possibility that you would have liked it in the end to be married and a father - but still, one doesn't gamble with those big, important life decisions. When you don't feel those things, rather don't do it.
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Originally Posted By JtotheIzzo⏩
It wasn't just a year in silence, bro. We remained close, talked at least once a week, and at certain points, every day. She said she would always love me and would periodically talk about getting back together. She would sometimes send me messages saying that she had dreamt about me. When I tried to cut contact shortly after she left, she begged for me to take her back, and said she couldn't handle not being able to talk to me, and that she would always need me in her life. Etc. etc.brothoven, would you wait a year for her? say if a year from now she came back and said she wanted to be with you, would you be with her or do you feel you would be over her a year from now?
I think she meant all these things for a while. But after that, it just turned into monkeybranching. Once she started to move on, she kept me around as long as she needed me, and as soon as she felt completely secure with another guy, she kicked my ass to the curb.
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Originally Posted By ectobruh⏩
Do you even plateau?fukk it. she had dudes in her back pocket.ur not missing sh*t.
all marriage is a crutch for people still coping for some bullchit" etheric bond"
all marriage is a crutch for people still coping for some bullchit" etheric bond"
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
Classic monkeybranchingI think she meant all these things for a while. But after that, it just turned into monkeybranching. Once she started to move on, she kept me around as long as she needed me, and as soon as she felt completely secure with another guy, she kicked my ass to the curb.
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You fked up from the moment you were there taking her phone calls for 1.5 years while she was banging a Russian stallion. You gave her the comfort and security of knowing she could always fall back on you if things between her and Makrov didnโt work out.
Sucks bro. But honestly there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Live and learn.
Sucks bro. But honestly there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Live and learn.
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Wouldnt say thats classic monkeybranching lol, OP should had seen it coming from miles aways, his ex pretty much made everything obvious for him, alarms should have went off months before it happened.Classic monkeybranching
Im guessing OP felt way too confident of himself and the love his ex felt for him. Been there done that. Never again will i assume i cant be replaced, and ill never doubt how cold can a girls heart get when she decides it. That **** reaches absolute zero temperatures man, men cant do that IMO, being completely ruthless.
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Originally Posted By MeFromG⏩
That's exactly how I felt."Yet I didn't actually want to marry and have kids." - Very important statement in your whole text. You shouldn't make any sacrifice regarding marriage and kids. These are much too important decisions in life in order for you to "sacrifice" / "compromise" and by that hijacking her real, potential happiness from her with another truely fitting man.
It doesn't mean that there's no possibility that you would have liked it in the end to be married and a father - but still, one doesn't gamble with those big, important life decisions. When you don't feel those things, rather don't do it.
It doesn't mean that there's no possibility that you would have liked it in the end to be married and a father - but still, one doesn't gamble with those big, important life decisions. When you don't feel those things, rather don't do it.
...until I lost her.
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Originally Posted By Details8⏩
Pretty much this. Mostly ******** chat rather than phone calls, but you're right.You fked up from the moment you were there taking her phone calls for 1.5 years while she was banging a Russian stallion.
Originally Posted By Details8⏩
You gave her the comfort and security of knowing she could always fall back on you if things between her and Makrov didnโt work out.
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Originally Posted By Ken-O⏩
Did she now? Not really IMO. She got a little more distant before going NC, but it was the end of semester and she told me she was swamped with work. I was expecting to see her over Xmas break.his ex pretty much made everything obvious for him
Originally Posted By Ken-O⏩
You nailed it there. I was completely overconfident because she was head over heels for me for years. For a long time, I could do no wrong. I thought she would always love me, and I never thought she would want to leave me or replace me.Im guessing OP felt way too confident of himself and the love his ex felt for him. Been there done that. Never again will i assume i cant be replaced, and ill never doubt how cold can a girls heart get when she decides it. That **** reaches absolute zero temperatures man, men cant do that IMO, being completely ruthless.
Seems sad now, but that's what years of a girl worshiping you can do to your head. I'm very disappointed in myself. Pride comes before the fall.
And damn you're right, she was downright surgical when it came to cutting me out of her life in the end. Absolute zero. No fuks given.
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Gave her three months of silence. Waited patiently, but heard nothing. Then to extend just the slightest olive branch, I re-followed her on Instagram.
She instantly blocked me.
Looks like the tour is over, boyos.
She instantly blocked me.
Looks like the tour is over, boyos.
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Originally Posted By brothoven⏩
no point to life anymoreGave her three months of silence. Waited patiently, but heard nothing. Then to extend just the slightest olive branch, I re-followed her on Instagram.
She instantly blocked me.
Looks like the tour is over, boyos.
She instantly blocked me.
Looks like the tour is over, boyos.
end it
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