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Thread: Is it really possible for men and women to be just friends?

post 1546195291 03-12-2018, 04:28 AM
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Originally Posted By katya422⏩
At least it likely starts out that way.

- school
- work
- relative or S/O of a friend that you are around when you spend time with your friend

Someone could still get feels, but those kinds of situations provide exposure for a male and female that are not attracted at all to find some other common ground.
See, for me, if I got to know her through work or a friend of a friend. And we hit it off as friends and got to know each other. I would probably start to like her more. Like, this chick is cute. But also, actually really cool. I’d look past SOME physical attributes that aren’t my favorite. If she was legit ugly and fat it could be possible I’d want to be friends and nothing more. But it hasn’t happened yet at 32yo.
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Originally Posted By RihanM⏩
Only a soyboy would want to have a platonic relationship with an attractive female...and he'd have to be drenched in soy at that.
Does this apply to happily married men, who are married to an attractive woman? Are they also 'soy boys' for enjoying the company of attractive, intelligent, driven and ambitious women? Or are we living in an era where genders aren't allowed to mix for fear that these oh-so uncontrollable urges will force us to cheat on our loved ones?
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Do girls seriously get pissed off when you tell them early on that I am interested in more than "just friends"? I've have three different girls get angry at me because of this. It's not even like I said "I just wanna fuk" straight up rude to them. I just mentioned something along the lines of I don't think it will work out because I like you more than a friend, etc, but they weren't having that. If I am interested, I make it known early on because I dislike being shady about it. I've been rejected several times early on, and I've rejected others too, but I'm not sure why they would get angry about it. I assumed that it saves the trouble for both parties.
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Originally Posted By Maylie⏩
That's super depressing tbh. I genuinely like hanging out with certain guys, just don't want to sleep with them. Even if they are good looking, for whatever reason, it's just not like that.

Guess I have to be suspicious of all my male friends now.
I have a buddy who has female friends he doesn’t want to sleep with. But he hasn’t slept with anyone (has had opportunities). He isn’t physically attracted to girls or boys. So that’s a possibility. I’ve heard some guys say it. Speaking for myself it hasn’t happened yet.
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Originally Posted By Aristotelian⏩
Does this apply to happily married men, who are married to an attractive woman? Are they also 'soy boys' for enjoying the company of attractive, intelligent, driven and ambitious women? Or are we living in an era where genders aren't allowed to mix for fear that these oh-so uncontrollable urges will force us to cheat on our loved ones?
If you don't feel the urge to bang a hot chick ur a soyboy. simple as that
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Originally Posted By SomeGuyHear⏩
Do girls seriously get pissed off when you tell them early on that I am interested in more than "just friends"? I've have three different girls get angry at me because of this. It's not even like I said "I just wanna fuk" straight up rude to them. I just mentioned something along the lines of I don't think it will work out because I like you more than a friend, etc, but they weren't having that. If I am interested, I make it known early on because I dislike being shady about it. I've been rejected several times early on, and I've rejected others too, but I'm not sure why they would get angry about it. I assumed that it saves the trouble for both parties.
Some girls never grow up..lol she probably gossiped with her friends on how creepy you were, but yet they want a confident guy lmao. Unless you're 6'2 215 lbs alot of girls won't look at you, but go home and complain after the club/bar that a bunch of guys were hitting on her.
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Originally Posted By xtrah⏩
dont think i've ever hung out 1 on 1 with a girl i wasn't fukcing or trying to fukc

in my social circle there are girls who I value their non-sexual company though
This is the most accurate post ITT IMO.

I have never put myself in a 1 on 1 situation with a girl I did not want to smash. I never had a 1 on 1 with a girl I wasn't attracted to either.

A few instances I ended up meeting a girl who was pretty cool, and became friends however if the chance to smash came up, I would do it 100%.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
If they get angry it's probably because they want the benefits of your interest in them without any expectation on them of reciprocity. They would still like your attention, validation, companionship, practical favors etc even though they are not attracted to you.

They get angry because it's more beneficial to them if your attraction remains unspoken, so they can pretend it's just a mutual friendship and they're not using you, while that's probably the real dynamic.

If they truly cared about you as a friend then they would let you go after they reject you because unrequited attraction is not a good or fair situation for you. Hopefully you yourself broke off the "friendship" after the rejection.
This, they are happy living in the world where you are just a 'really good friend' when the reality is you are a beta orbiter hoping to slip in once the stars align. Admitting attraction reveals the lie.

I had girls that a treated as 'friend' IE girlfriends bffs etc that I would go out with as a group. Even as just friendsthere was always a flirting dynamic despite s/o's being around with the underlying implications that we'd smash if the scenario were to allow.
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The only female friends I have are ones I've fukked in the past, am currently fukking or are the gf of a male friend.
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1) **** you

2) the guy you describe as a douche is completely correct and just goes to show women can't handle their on reality they've created

3) I also feel bad for your friendzoned friend. comes round to fix your sink? lmfao would he do that for his guy friends? no he's doing it for you because he wants to put his u bend in your pussy you retard

ask him to come round for Netflix at 11pm and see if he does. doing that with a girl who I have no attraction to would be awkward as fuk so i would say no.

not to mention i ain't going out at 11pm for no one unless I like them more than friends
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Well I think it's a pretty common life choice to start or keep a relationship with someone you're not attracted to for other benefits of the relationship,and I don't want to end up like that.
Good that you don't want to end up like that - I recall you expressing your conscious decision about this a while ago on the Misc. But I wonder where you live in this world that you think starting or keeping a relationship "with someone you're not attracted to" is normal for anyone aside for gold diggers, etc. Do you really think the average person has relationships with someone s/he is not attracted to?
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Originally Posted By swoleyo⏩
I ****ed almost every female friend I ever had but I'm a fiend so..
I've only ever had 4 girls in my life who weren't serious girlfriends.

2 were lesbians who were chill
1 i wanted to smash but my game was too weak so she triee to friendzone me and i cut off contact. still texts me to this day. I reply when I can be bothered
1 turned into a 3 month fwb best sex ever

otherwise I don't bother making an effort with females who I'm not into. and they ones where it isn't reciprocated I go nc on. otherwise they'll use you

men and women cannot be friends unless one or both of them are gay or one is a legit 1/10
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depends on the situation, if you guys are hanging out only in social meetups with other friends then yeah, but if its 1v1, id say no
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Up until I was about 28 years old...it was impossible for me to be "just friends" with a girl. Somewhere around 28-30 it changed for me. Now I definitely can. But any girl who is "just my friend" needs to realize she's always at the back of the line in terms of priority. If you ain't putting out and that's not something we are doing, the girls who ARE doing that will be ahead in the line.

I think that's where a lot of girls get things mixed up in their heads. They are so used to being made to feel like they are a priority, that they think they can go to the head of the line even when they aren't giving anything in return other than friendship.
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Originally Posted By wesleysh21⏩
Up until I was about 28 years old...it was impossible for me to be "just friends" with a girl. Somewhere around 28-30 it changed for me. Now I definitely can. But any girl who is "just my friend" needs to realize she's always at the back of the line in terms of priority. If you ain't putting out and that's not something we are doing, the girls who ARE doing that will be ahead in the line.

I think that's where a lot of girls get things mixed up in their heads. They are so used to being made to feel like they are a priority, that they think they can go to the head of the line even when they aren't giving anything in return other than friendship.
this is somewhat how I feel

I mean I could be friends with girls, but under the normal definition of true friendship I would be an awful friend. like I would put very little effort into the friendship, barely call or text etc


because there would be girls who want to smash who I'm also talking to. Inherently that makes them worth my time
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Originally Posted By Griffindinho⏩
depends on the situation, if you guys are hanging out only in social meetups with other friends then yeah, but if its 1v1, id say no
There is a difference between friends and acquaintances. Acquaintances are people you know from work or your social circles. You never hang out with them 1v1. Friends hang out 1v1. Those relationships are almost never fully platonic. One or both people deep down feel some amount of attraction, they just don't act on it. If that attraction disappears, usually so does the friendship. It's just how both sexes are wired.
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No way... I have tried to smash or at least fapped to almost every single girl in my life that is not related to me... If she's at least a 8/10 the fap is usually within the same week, if she's 6-7/10 it'll happen sooner or later lol... If she's below 6/10 then yeah we can be friends I guess but don't contact me
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
If they get angry it's probably because they want the benefits of your interest in them without any expectation on them of reciprocity. They would still like your attention, validation, companionship, practical favors etc even though they are not attracted to you.

They get angry because it's more beneficial to them if your attraction remains unspoken, so they can pretend it's just a mutual friendship and they're not using you, while that's probably the real dynamic.

If they truly cared about you as a friend then they would let you go after they reject you because unrequited attraction is not a good or fair situation for you. Hopefully you yourself broke off the "friendship" after the rejection.
So true and always hilarious when after rejection you try to move on and they bring in even more heat for more attention or get upset or some chit.

But I still think the having only friends your attracted to us ridiculous and not wanting to fall for guys you don't find attractive. You know even the most attractive people turn unattractive when relationships get sucky.
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yes I think it's very common. Not just for money but for other things like commitment, stability, kids, fear of being alone etc.

And I think there are lots of marriages and long term relationships where one or both partners are emotionally or sexually checked out, but they won't leave because of convenience or kids or financial reasons or social status or general inertia etc.
Like I said above even 2 people who were very attracted to eachother can begin to hate a relationship and attraction will fade. There is a reason most relationships don't last
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friends as in get to have sex with them and or fool around with them? sure.
otherwise.. no.
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I mean what would we classify as "friends" between male and female?

Females like to talk about feelings while males like do chit.

I would think if you could get a female the latter portion of that, it might be better. Otherwise im not sure there aregenerallythe same mutual interests.

I knew of an extremely hot girl that was more tomboyish - her dad was military and she was into cars and stuff. I would assume if i had asked her to hang at least one of us wanted to bang, though.

I used to hangout with this one chick. I genuinely thought we were just friends. We didnt hangout too much, but she would always be around me. Kind of a loud mouth chick thst was friends with everybody. Looking back she was super infatuated with me

I also dont know for certain if you leave male and female alone together in a room enough, theyd 100% bang

Im guessing more often than not, they would, but im not sure its inherent
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I’m confused, this is the misc. Do you guys only have female friends to smash or are you FA *******s whom don’t smash anything. Pretty sure its the latter.
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Originally Posted By swoleyo⏩
I ****ed almost every female friend I ever had but I'm a fiend so..
That's the whole point. Those girls weren't really your friends then.
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Very rarely is friendship the only thing that one party has intentions. Not saying that a man that wants to sleep with a very attractive friend is being deceptive. He's not. He probably likes the company of the girl and actually enjoys her company outside of anything romantic, but yes would certainly sleep with them.

For a man that's tough and may be emotionally draining when the woman discusses other men or if the girl is in a relationship.

Most my female friends are gfs/wives of my guy friends. I have some female friends that I know from college or I used to work with and we're cool and I'm not interested in these female friends romantically. On average tho I probably wouldn't befriend any new female friends because frankly I'd only be into meeting future females for sex and romance.
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If he doesn't have a girlfriend/isn't dating anyone and you're not ugly, the next time you have drinks try to kiss him. Obviously it shouldn't be quick and sudden, but like you would if you dated a guy.

If he rejects you, he's only a friend. Easy test.
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