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06-26-2018, 01:17 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Right. If she is into you, she isn’t going to risk you going someone else. She doesn’t want to win back your attention, if she likes you she wants to keep it on her.Ye, it's the obvious change in pattern. I guess there's literally nothing you can do in that situation other than just stop responding and let her go, even though the instinct is to chase and try win back the attention.
06-26-2018, 01:19 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
I have zero instinct to chase. I never have. And I also don't make women chase me. Mutual or nothing. That is the key baseline to determine interest level.Ye, it's the obvious change in pattern. I guess there's literally nothing you can do in that situation other than just stop responding and let her go, even though the instinct is to chase and try win back the attention.
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06-26-2018, 01:32 PM
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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
I've had the instinct when I really liked a girl and she just got distant. Looking back, idk why I was even really into her.I have zero instinct to chase. I never have. And I also don't make women chase me. Mutual or nothing. That is the key baseline to determine interest level.
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06-26-2018, 02:06 PM
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Originally Posted By AlexNYC7⏩
Another thing to watch for is if you suddenly lose priority. If a girl likes you she will drop whatever to make time for you. The last girl I was seeing maintained her quick text response time, but it was getting a lot harder to get together.Yup, the very first thing that happens before a girl checks out is her texting patterns change.
You start seeing later and later responses, or none at all.
Then you get the bullchit excuses that she was so swamped at work and couldn’t answer your texts. Yeah, like typing up 2 sentences while at lunch or in the bathroom is totally impossible.
The people they want to be with aren’t treated like that. That’s a fact.
You start seeing later and later responses, or none at all.
Then you get the bullchit excuses that she was so swamped at work and couldn’t answer your texts. Yeah, like typing up 2 sentences while at lunch or in the bathroom is totally impossible.
The people they want to be with aren’t treated like that. That’s a fact.
"Oh I'm hanging with XYZ that night."
"Eh tonight's not good, got plans."
She'd be too tired to come over after her plans where as before she'd break her original plans or come over after to spend the night.
Biggest thing is to trust your gut. Your brain will try to rationalize a woman's behavior, but if your gut senses something is off, trust it.
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06-26-2018, 02:26 PM
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Originally Posted By AlexNYC7⏩
Yup, the very first thing that happens before a girl checks out is her texting patterns change.
You start seeing later and later responses, or none at all.
Then you get the bullchit excuses that she was so swamped at work and couldn’t answer your texts. Yeah, like typing up 2 sentences while at lunch or in the bathroom is totally impossible.
The people they want to be with aren’t treated like that. That’s a fact.
You start seeing later and later responses, or none at all.
Then you get the bullchit excuses that she was so swamped at work and couldn’t answer your texts. Yeah, like typing up 2 sentences while at lunch or in the bathroom is totally impossible.
The people they want to be with aren’t treated like that. That’s a fact.
Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Ye, it's the obvious change in pattern. I guess there's literally nothing you can do in that situation other than just stop responding and let her go, even though the instinct is to chase and try win back the attention.
Originally Posted By AlexNYC7⏩
Right. If she is into you, she isn’t going to risk you going someone else. She doesn’t want to win back your attention, if she likes you she wants to keep it on her.
Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
I have zero instinct to chase. I never have. And I also don't make women chase me. Mutual or nothing. That is the key baseline to determine interest level.
Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
I've had the instinct when I really liked a girl and she just got distant. Looking back, idk why I was even really into her.
Originally Posted By GhenghisPWN⏩
too real brothers! Like I said, I knew what was happening. I've been through this a million times. Old Jlick would have reached out too many times to try and see what was going on, but this time I just let it go. I was already talking to some girls when the old girl text me and said that she met another guy. The worst thing about it is is the slight ego bruise- like damn who was this other guy who she liked more than me? I'm not going to think about it too much. hit the gym pretty hard last night and will most likely be going back tonight. or maybe just go play some soccer.Another thing to watch for is if you suddenly lose priority. If a girl likes you she will drop whatever to make time for you. The last girl I was seeing maintained her quick text response time, but it was getting a lot harder to get together.
"Oh I'm hanging with XYZ that night."
"Eh tonight's not good, got plans."
She'd be too tired to come over after her plans where as before she'd break her original plans or come over after to spend the night.
Biggest thing is to trust your gut. Your brain will try to rationalize a woman's behavior, but if your gut senses something is off, trust it.
"Oh I'm hanging with XYZ that night."
"Eh tonight's not good, got plans."
She'd be too tired to come over after her plans where as before she'd break her original plans or come over after to spend the night.
Biggest thing is to trust your gut. Your brain will try to rationalize a woman's behavior, but if your gut senses something is off, trust it.
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06-26-2018, 02:35 PM
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Originally Posted By jlick⏩
Your job is not to worry about the past, your job is to find the girl that causes her to send the “I found a guy” to the other men because you won her over.too real brothers! Like I said, I knew what was happening. I've been through this a million times. Old Jlick would have reached out too many times to try and see what was going on, but this time I just let it go. I was already talking to some girls when the old girl text me and said that she met another guy. The worst thing about it is is the slight ego bruise- like damn who was this other guy who she liked more than me? I'm not going to think about it too much. hit the gym pretty hard last night and will most likely be going back tonight. or maybe just go play some soccer.
06-26-2018, 02:41 PM
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Originally Posted By AlexNYC7⏩
At this point i'm so used to moving on lol. I was going to ask Pondo how he deals with dating multiple women. Usually i like to only date one woman at a time (had a bad experience of two sorority sisters finding out i was sleeping with both of them and had a pack of 160 sorority girls all hating me for a year, lol) but maybe i should just let it happen. Ive got three pretty cute matches right now.Your job is not to worry about the past, your job is to find the girl that causes her to send the “I found a guy” to the other men because you won her over.
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06-26-2018, 03:04 PM
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Originally Posted By jlick⏩
Up until you commit to one seriously (or at least have been seeing one for a little while and things are going well), you almost have to have multiples on the go because it seems like things can die at any time, for any reason. Much easier to deal with that if you're already talking to/dating others.At this point i'm so used to moving on lol. I was going to ask Pondo how he deals with dating multiple women. Usually i like to only date one woman at a time (had a bad experience of two sorority sisters finding out i was sleeping with both of them and had a pack of 160 sorority girls all hating me for a year, lol) but maybe i should just let it happen. Ive got three pretty cute matches right now.
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06-26-2018, 03:36 PM
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Originally Posted By mr2spool⏩
This. To be honest I find it odd that I have a few friends who jump from one LTR to the next. It's like, how the hell do you guys never have a string of 3-4 failed month long flings? How does every girl you date turn into a multi-year relationship?Up until you commit to one seriously (or at least have been seeing one for a little while and things are going well), you almost have to have multiples on the go because it seems like things can die at any time, for any reason. Much easier to deal with that if you're already talking to/dating others.
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06-26-2018, 03:51 PM
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Originally Posted By mr2spool⏩
sadly, this is so true lol. don't you worry about the one you commit to seriously finding out about you dating other women? It looks like pondo is straight up and tells the chicks he is dating that he is actively dating other women. i feel like this might turn off some women....the kind of women that could be keepers. what do you think?Up until you commit to one seriously (or at least have been seeing one for a little while and things are going well),you almost have to have multiples on the go because it seems like things can die at any time, for any reason.Much easier to deal with that if you're already talking to/dating others.
Originally Posted By GhenghisPWN⏩
my life is a serious of 1-4 month long failed dating flings lol. some by my own choice, others not of my own decision.This. To be honest I find it odd that I have a few friends who jump from one LTR to the next. It's like, how the hell do you guys never have a string of 3-4 failed month long flings? How does every girl you date turn into a multi-year relationship?
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06-26-2018, 05:36 PM
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Originally Posted By jlick⏩
I don't make a point of telling them, and for me anyways, it hasn't come up at all yet. I get your point though, it definitely might turn off some quality girls and make them think you're just trying to dick a bunch of sloots. Depends on how charismatic you are, I guess.sadly, this is so true lol. don't you worry about the one you commit to seriously finding out about you dating other women? It looks like pondo is straight up and tells the chicks he is dating that he is actively dating other women. i feel like this might turn off some women....the kind of women that could be keepers. what do you think?
Oh also nedo,2nd date with that girl tonight.lmao figures, sheflakedgot called in to work and now we're both busy until next week fffuuuuu.
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06-27-2018, 06:19 AM
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Originally Posted By jlick⏩
It does, but only with the rare good girls. The best balance that drives them the most crazy is subtle hints which MAY suggest you seeing someone else. When they don't know for sure=all they think about=subconscious attraction. IME, this is more effective than them knowing because a woman just HAS to knowi feel like this might turn off some women....the kind of women that could be keepers. what do you think?
06-27-2018, 08:05 AM
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Originally Posted By GhenghisPWN⏩
Neither of them have standards. Only logical conclusion.This. To be honest I find it odd that I have a few friends who jump from one LTR to the next. It's like, how the hell do you guys never have a string of 3-4 failed month long flings? How does every girl you date turn into a multi-year relationship?
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06-27-2018, 08:23 AM
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06-27-2018, 09:37 AM
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Originally Posted By Nedo⏩
this seems like playing a bit of games lol. i would rather be my charming self, but I get the point you are making. you have build up and maintain that attraction. It's weird how the human mind works. I've dated women and been really into them, but as soon as we had sex, i would instantly lose my attraction to some of them.It does, but only with the rare good girls. The best balance that drives them the most crazy issubtle hints which MAY suggest you seeing someone else.When they don't know for sure=all they think about=subconscious attraction. IME, this is more effective than them knowing because a woman just HAS to know
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06-27-2018, 10:44 AM
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Originally Posted By jlick⏩
Ah so you’re that type of guy. I’ve always been curious:this seems like playing a bit of games lol. i would rather be my charming self, but I get the point you are making. you have build up and maintain that attraction. It's weird how the human mind works. I've dated women and been really into them, but as soon as we had sex, i would instantly lose my attraction to some of them.
1. Were you genuinely into the women (like really thought there was some real connection), until you had sex and then dumped them?
2. Were you intentionally leading them on in order to get sex, and then once you got it, you bailed.
3. You really felt like you were genuinely into them (aside from just chemistry), but in reality it was just your dik/test attempting to get laid.
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06-27-2018, 12:28 PM
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[QUOTE=Luc1fer post_id=1554832181]Ah so you’re that type of guy. I’ve always been curious:
1. Were you genuinely into the women (like really thought there was some real connection), until you had sex and then dumped them?[b]yes, especially the chick that i was going to raves and concerts with. I remember telling my friends even after the first date that I was really into this chick. And with this particular chick, i even stayed dating her for a couple months even though I lost my attraction to her because I was still feeling our "connection" and similar interests. [/b]
2. Were you intentionally leading them on in order to get sex, and then once you got it, you bailed.[b]not my proudest moments, but I will admit that I led a few chicks on in college, but that is not what I am talking about. I am talking about chicks that I really was attracted to before I had sex with them, and then nearly instantly lost attraction to them after I had sex with them. I will admit that I have some commitment issues, so i think this might be a factor[/b]
3. You really felt like you were genuinely into them (aside from just chemistry), but in reality it was just your dik/test attempting to get laid.[b]I think a little bit of this.....I have thought with my dik way too many times lol.[/QUOTE]Either way, I wouldn't say I am "that type of guy" lol. Ive been with nearly 30 women....and I didnt lose attraction to all of them once i slept with them. Maybe only 3 or 4.....lol.......
1. Were you genuinely into the women (like really thought there was some real connection), until you had sex and then dumped them?[b]yes, especially the chick that i was going to raves and concerts with. I remember telling my friends even after the first date that I was really into this chick. And with this particular chick, i even stayed dating her for a couple months even though I lost my attraction to her because I was still feeling our "connection" and similar interests. [/b]
2. Were you intentionally leading them on in order to get sex, and then once you got it, you bailed.[b]not my proudest moments, but I will admit that I led a few chicks on in college, but that is not what I am talking about. I am talking about chicks that I really was attracted to before I had sex with them, and then nearly instantly lost attraction to them after I had sex with them. I will admit that I have some commitment issues, so i think this might be a factor[/b]
3. You really felt like you were genuinely into them (aside from just chemistry), but in reality it was just your dik/test attempting to get laid.[b]I think a little bit of this.....I have thought with my dik way too many times lol.[/QUOTE]Either way, I wouldn't say I am "that type of guy" lol. Ive been with nearly 30 women....and I didnt lose attraction to all of them once i slept with them. Maybe only 3 or 4.....lol.......
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06-27-2018, 12:55 PM
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Originally Posted By jlick⏩
Not trying to shame you or anything (even though I'm sure you know it's pretty damaging to women), I really wanted to understand the psychology. It's kinda fascinating for the (1) case.Either way, I wouldn't say I am "that type of guy" lol. Ive been with nearly 30 women....and I didnt lose attraction to all of them once i slept with them. Maybe only 3 or 4.....lol.......
My ex used to tell me stories that almost exactly fit that description, that these guys would chase her for months and put in effort way beyond what would make sense for 'just sex'. And I told her she was just tricked/played and they never had real interest in her and just wanted sex. I couldn't understand how she could get tricked a few times and never learn. Sheinsistedthat the guys genuinely seemed into her, and there was no way to tell them apart from a guy who wouldn't just bail/lose interest after sex.
So basically I was trying to figure out if it was (1) or (2).
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Originally Posted By Nedo⏩
I highly doubt it. I screen everyone and I have yet to be in another LTR. You can look good on paper, but it means nothing until you meet and have chemistry. Yet all these people are finding one LTR after another? Nah, fam. They have no standards and are just going with the flow until that doesn't work anymore, setting themselves up for a highly toxic relationship that won't last.Or they are screening properly before getting involved, as they should be.
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06-27-2018, 01:59 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
I didnt feel shamed by you haha. I enjoy reflecting on my life, so i don't mind sharing my own insights. I am well aware that if you stop seeing a girl right after you sleep with her that it is damaging so i really try to avoid that. Like I said, with the one girl who i really thought I was into, i kept seeing her and sleeping with her even though that same attraction from before just wasn't there. After we slept together, I began to notice little things about her that I never noticed before and they were turning me off. honestly it was kind of petty now that I think about it, but you are attracted to what you are attracted to. You can't will your mind to be attracted to something that it is not attracted to, even if at one point it was attracted to that same thing.Not trying to shame you or anything (even though I'm sure you know it's pretty damaging to women), I really wanted to understand the psychology. It's kinda fascinating for the (1) case.
My ex used to tell me stories that almost exactly fit that description, that these guys would chase her for months and put in effort way beyond what would make sense for 'just sex'. And I told her she was just tricked/played and they never had real interest in her and just wanted sex. I couldn't understand how she could get tricked a few times and never learn. Sheinsistedthat the guys genuinely seemed into her, and there was no way to tell them apart from a guy who wouldn't just bail/lose interest after sex.
So basically I was trying to figure out if it was (1) or (2).
My ex used to tell me stories that almost exactly fit that description, that these guys would chase her for months and put in effort way beyond what would make sense for 'just sex'. And I told her she was just tricked/played and they never had real interest in her and just wanted sex. I couldn't understand how she could get tricked a few times and never learn. Sheinsistedthat the guys genuinely seemed into her, and there was no way to tell them apart from a guy who wouldn't just bail/lose interest after sex.
So basically I was trying to figure out if it was (1) or (2).
In my case, I would say that it was 1 & 3 with these particular women.
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06-27-2018, 02:04 PM
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Originally Posted By jlick⏩
Ye, it's just fascinating. I reckon the build-up and sexual tension clouds, and probably induces emotions, that you conflate with deeper connection.I didnt feel shamed by you haha. I enjoy reflecting on my life, so i don't mind sharing my own insights. I am well aware that if you stop seeing a girl right after you sleep with her that it is damaging so i really try to avoid that. Like I said, with the one girl who i really thought I was into, i kept seeing her and sleeping with her even though that same attraction from before just wasn't there. After we slept together, I began to notice little things about her that I never noticed before and they were turning me off. honestly it was kind of petty now that I think about it, but you are attracted to what you are attracted to. You can't will your mind to be attracted to something that it is not attracted to, even if at one point it was attracted to that same thing.
In my case, I would say that it was 1 & 3 with these particular women.
In my case, I would say that it was 1 & 3 with these particular women.
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so idk how, but ive got a first date scheduled with this chick this weekend. met her last weekend at the bar (yea i know LOL) but she was asking me questions and the convo was good, wasnt one word answers or anything
thing is shes at least a 9, and im a 7.5 on a good day and idk it just feels weird, kinda like a "pity" date. its half the reason i stick to trying to date girls around 7 where i get the vibe i can do whatever i want and theyll still be interested, where i doubt i can do that with her
fuking LOL. miscer gonna miscer
thing is shes at least a 9, and im a 7.5 on a good day and idk it just feels weird, kinda like a "pity" date. its half the reason i stick to trying to date girls around 7 where i get the vibe i can do whatever i want and theyll still be interested, where i doubt i can do that with her
fuking LOL. miscer gonna miscer
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06-27-2018, 02:45 PM
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Originally Posted By HockeyBacon18⏩
Cmon, man. She is a girl you barely know and already you have her on a pedestal and are burying yourself. I’m surprised you haven’t called her her highness yet.so idk how, but ive got a first date scheduled with this chick this weekend. met her last weekend at the bar (yea i know LOL) but she was asking me questions and the convo was good, wasnt one word answers or anything
thing is shes at least a 9, and im a 7.5 on a good day and idk it just feels weird, kinda like a "pity" date. its half the reason i stick to trying to date girls around 7 where i get the vibe i can do whatever i want and theyll still be interested, where i doubt i can do that with her
fuking LOL. miscer gonna miscer
thing is shes at least a 9, and im a 7.5 on a good day and idk it just feels weird, kinda like a "pity" date. its half the reason i stick to trying to date girls around 7 where i get the vibe i can do whatever i want and theyll still be interested, where i doubt i can do that with her
fuking LOL. miscer gonna miscer
She has already made you feel like a piece of chit. Fuk off making it sound like she is doing you a favor. You are doing her a favor.
Smarten up. If you go in this date all psyched out, there won’t be a second and your defeatest attitude will become a self fulfilling prophecy.
06-27-2018, 04:12 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
I also think you assume that if you sleep with a woman she is automatically emotionally attached to you, and you take on that responsibility. I got some bad news, women don't get attached over sex like that, and if she does it's not your responsibility, it's hers, but she's probably too emotionally immature to deal with it, so it's also a red flag.Ye, it's just fascinating. I reckon the build-up and sexual tension clouds, and probably induces emotions, that you conflate with deeper connection.
You need to stop using your ex as a baseline.
Originally Posted By HockeyBacon18⏩
Treat her like a human being, not a number, and you'll be fine. She's no more special that you are. She doesn't have more value, her money isn't worth more than yours, and neither is her time.so idk how, but ive got a first date scheduled with this chick this weekend. met her last weekend at the bar (yea i know LOL) but she was asking me questions and the convo was good, wasnt one word answers or anything
thing is shes at least a 9, and im a 7.5 on a good day and idk it just feels weird, kinda like a "pity" date. its half the reason i stick to trying to date girls around 7 where i get the vibe i can do whatever i want and theyll still be interested, where i doubt i can do that with her
fuking LOL. miscer gonna miscer
thing is shes at least a 9, and im a 7.5 on a good day and idk it just feels weird, kinda like a "pity" date. its half the reason i stick to trying to date girls around 7 where i get the vibe i can do whatever i want and theyll still be interested, where i doubt i can do that with her
fuking LOL. miscer gonna miscer
Also, women love it when you push boundaries, but back off out of respect. It's no different with a 7 or a 9.
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06-27-2018, 04:17 PM
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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
That isn't what I said. I was talking about leading on a woman saying you have a deep connection, you are interested in a longer term thing etc. and then you sleep with her and almost instantly become disinterested.I also think you assume that if you sleep with a woman she is automatically emotionally attached to you, and you take on that responsibility.
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06-27-2018, 04:18 PM
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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
People need to realize this; women in 2018 are more like men in this way.I also think you assume that if you sleep with a woman she is automatically emotionally attached to you, and you take on that responsibility. I got some bad news, women don't get attached over sex like that, and if she does it's not your responsibility, it's hers, but she's probably too emotionally immature to deal with it, so it's also a red flag.
You need to stop using your ex as a baseline.
You need to stop using your ex as a baseline.
They like one night stands as well.
I think a lot of people are handicapped because they think women are these super nice and moral girls that don’t have sex and are always good and nice and never would lie or scheme.
How many times do you read “but she is different,” or “not that kind of girl?”
Everybody, male and female, are looking out for their own interests.
06-27-2018, 04:26 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
I quoted the wrong post.That isn't what I said. I was talking about leading on a woman saying you have a deep connection, you are interested in a longer term thing etc. and then you sleep with her and almost instantly become disinterested.
Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
In your mind, she's the victim and it's the man's responsibility. It's not that she was tricked. She allowed it to happen... for whatever reason. She, and only she, is the keeper of her pussy.My ex used to tell me stories that almost exactly fit that description, that these guys would chase her for months and put in effort way beyond what would make sense for 'just sex'. And I told her she was just tricked/played and they never had real interest in her and just wanted sex. I couldn't understand how she could get tricked a few times and never learn. Sheinsistedthat the guys genuinely seemed into her, and there was no way to tell them apart from a guy who wouldn't just bail/lose interest after sex. .
She was an attractive woman, who probably only dated attractive men, who probably had other attractive women on rotation. It's her responsibility to navigate that.
I wonder if I've matched with her on tinder. PM me her name so I can unmatch her.
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06-28-2018, 03:26 PM
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Originally Posted By AlexNYC7⏩
well, woke up this morning to notifications that she liked an old IG pic of mine, which i took to mean text her *shrug*Cmon, man. She is a girl you barely know and already you have her on a pedestal and are burying yourself. I’m surprised you haven’t called her her highness yet.
She has already made you feel like a piece of chit. Fuk off making it sound like she is doing you a favor. You are doing her a favor.
Smarten up. If you go in this date all psyched out, there won’t be a second and your defeatest attitude will become a self fulfilling prophecy.
She has already made you feel like a piece of chit. Fuk off making it sound like she is doing you a favor. You are doing her a favor.
Smarten up. If you go in this date all psyched out, there won’t be a second and your defeatest attitude will become a self fulfilling prophecy.
maybe it wont go so bad
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06-28-2018, 03:36 PM
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Originally Posted By HockeyBacon18⏩
Stop treating this like you are in debt to her because she will go out with you.well, woke up this morning to notifications that she liked an old IG pic of mine, which i took to mean text her *shrug*
maybe it wont go so bad
maybe it wont go so bad
Stop with the low self esteem (which is a killer for keeping girls; if you think you are beneath her, why should she be with someone inferior? Get up to her level).
Stop doing this on her terms.
Date actively. See if she is a good fit for you. Don’t just be a passenger here.
Don’t cede all the power to her just because she is a pretty face. She could be a bitch, and not worthy of YOUR time.
06-28-2018, 10:47 PM
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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
Maybe you were the guy she rebounded to.I wonder if I've matched with her on tinder. PM me her name so I can unmatch her.
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