You're right I should stop associating with losers.

I had high hopes because we have a lot in common. You're right I should stop associating with losers.

That's a bit drastic... there's no need to quit the misc over one bad date.

That's a bit drastic... there's no need to quit the misc over one bad date.

That's a bit drastic... there's no need to quit the misc over one bad date.

I had high hopes because we have a lot in common. You're right I should stop associating with losers.

He definitely sounds like a loser from your description. He only has 1 card? He could have just went to the bank to get cash. Excuses.. excuses.. He can buy cigs but not pay the bill. Lame...

It's not the end of the world if you don't go out with this one. You are doing yourself a favor again by not going out with him again. You are still young.

Danielle you need to stop making excuses for this guy and just move on srs

He doesn't even sound like a catch so why are you so on his ass?

I not making excuses, just venting. I'm just going to keep my head up in this weird dating game. I'm going to music trivia tomorrow downtown just for fun, then on Sunday I plan on watching the Final at a sports bar. Doing all of this alone so, I am putting myself out there.

We're in the same boat. I consistently lose the desire to even message women tbh. I can message them (which feels like work to me), set up a date, and then 95% chance I won't want a second date. I'm considering just bailing from this chit completely until I leave the city.

I got lucky with my ex; people on this forum don't understand why I was so hesitant to leave her, given her personality issues, but they don't get that I really don't click with many women. Some people click with a higher percentage of people; like some of my friends will find a new girlfriend pretty quickly. Yes, I'm picky I guess, can't help it. If I'm not attracted, I'm not attracted - and my pool is just rarer.

It just sucks because I feel like I have a lot to offer the type of woman I want. Those fukkin women just don't seem to exist around here - deluded idiots think they have all the time in the world at age 29 to have a family etc. So I'm working against a pack of brainwashed feminist sheep.



Btw: people think I'm too serious sometimes, I'm smiling as I post that GIF. Frustrations are still there though.

I wanna be married,but I don't want kids (sorry and not a feminist just not motherly), but finding a someone to settle down with is not getting any easier. I don't even have height requirements. Just don't be massively overweight.

Really, what age are you? I never believe women when they say this, because I've seen a bunch change their minds approaching 35 when the biological clockreallykicks in.

28, I've been like this since I was a teenager. Lots of people say that I will change, I wont. Even when I babysit kids, I just don't want my own kids. After 2 hours of bring your kid to work day I was internally frustrated.

You might not. Just saying don't completely rule it out.

Getting preggo means getting fat and your body completely changes.

A girl I dated said something similar, it was over the SECOND she said that. So many red flags in one sentence.

To you that's a red flag, but to others it's a relief. My ex didn't want kids either.

Fair enough, to me it is a major incompatibly plus a narcissist flag. Don't you think it's weird that you were born from an unbroken line of ancestry since the first self-replicator, you have a womb, eggs and feel like you're the end of the line? I mean surely at some level that's railing against deep biological instincts. IDK, I should create a new thread.Although I guess there may be some genetic variants that aren't driven as much to reproduce (like homosexual genes).

Fair enough, to me it is a major incompatibly plus a narcissist flag. Don't you think it's weird that you were born from an unbroken line of ancestry since the first self-replicator, you have a womb, eggs and feel like you're the end of the line? I mean surely at some level that's railing against deep biological instincts. IDK, I should create a new thread. Although I guess there may be some genetic variants that aren't driven as much to reproduce (like homosexual genes).

Damn!! I'm gonna bet that you get butterflies thinking about her huh? Keep it up.

Date last night was mehh, I give it 6.5/10.

Yesterday he asked if I could get the tix to the show because his card got hacked, I didn't mind those things happen. He said he would get drinks before. In fairness it equaled out. The conversation was going well. We geeked out on military history, southern things, travelling, etc. But when it came time for the check his card decline. Now I don't mean to judge, but a grown man should have at least 1 credit card and 1 debit card on him. Earlier he was talking about investing in private equity and I gave him some advice on that since I work in that industry. I had the assumption since he is in the software development field he could pay for it. I grabbed the check and said you can get it next time. I found myself internally confused about it. Maybe he was playing chit game, IDK.

We got to show and the conversation was still going OK, but I kept comparing him to my ex. He is a smoker and I find that very unattractive. It's not a deal breaker, but I don't really like it. If can afford a pack of Marlboro reds, you can afford a $40 drink tab, IMO. He got up a few times to smoke and I was turned off, but I kept smiling though. We ended up leaving after a few songs cause it was getting late and he had to be at work early. We did hug 2x and he wanted to see Ant Man next week. He also mentioned that he was going to pay me for the tickets (which I highly doubt) through Venmo. I texted him when I got home, no response since then.
To me the guy is attractive, but he's pretty fat. He clearly used old photos. I honestly would go out with him again, cause we do have a lot of similarities. I just feel like there wasn't spark like my 1st date with my ex. Our 1st date we made out for a long time. This one I didn't really want to.

We're in the same boat. I consistently lose the desire to even message women tbh. I can message them (which feels like work to me), set up a date, and then 95% chance I won't want a second date. I'm considering just bailing from this chit completely until I leave the city.

I got lucky with my ex; people on this forum don't understand why I was so hesitant to leave her, given her personality issues, but they don't get that I really don't click with many women. Some people click with a higher percentage of people; like some of my friends will find a new girlfriend pretty quickly. Yes, I'm picky I guess, can't help it. If I'm not attracted, I'm not attracted - and my pool is just rarer.

It just sucks because I feel like I have a lot to offer the type of woman I want. Those fukkin women just don't seem to exist around here - deluded idiots think they have all the time in the world at age 29 to have a family etc. So I'm working against a pack of brainwashed feminist sheep.



Btw: people think I'm too serious sometimes, I'm smiling as I post that GIF. Frustrations are still there though.

I'm baffled by people that can stay on online dating sites/apps for years. The last couple times I tried, I lasted maybe 5 days and had to delete my profile. It's just such a joke. Looking for someone who wants real, that you're attracted to and click with in person, is like looking for a needle in a haystack. It exhausting.

deluded idiots think they have all the time in the world at age 29 to have a family etc.

Fair enough, to me it is a major incompatibly plus a narcissist flag. Don't you think it's weird that you were born from an unbroken line of ancestry since the first self-replicator, you have a womb, eggs and feel like you're the end of the line? I mean surely at some level that's railing against deep biological instincts. IDK, I should create a new thread. Although I guess there may be some genetic variants that aren't driven as much to reproduce (like homosexual genes).

Please tell me you're joking about being willing to see him again?!!!! This guy basically dined (concerted) and dashed you! F that shizz, you deserver much better!



I'm baffled by people that can stay on online dating sites/apps for years. The last couple times I tried, I lasted maybe 5 days and had to delete my profile. It's just such a joke. Looking for someone who wants real, that you're attracted to and click with in person, is like looking for a needle in a haystack. It exhausting.

Marriage and kids used to be the only way to be accepted in society. Now, neither is required, that’s why there’s less marriage and kids. I don’t want either personally, and I think that a lot of men in the past didn’t either, however, it was their ticket to “normal.”

Men don’t want kids. It’s not in our nature to want to nurture them. Most are born out of an accident or at the woman’s insistence. I don’t know many dudes who want them, ever.

Spends 5 days looking for a needle in a haystack and then gives up. Such sense...

Obviously if you are looking for a needle in a haystack it's going to take longer than 5 days and dating apps are an advantage because you are provided so much more information up front.

He did send me money yesterday. I won't see him again. Tomorrow I'm going to a world cup watch party, I plan on turning off my phone and just having fun. Yeah online/app dating is hard. I'm with you that it's tiring. There are many annoyances with it. No responses, blank profiles, creepy photos, SELFIES, lairs, etc. I deleted bumble after a week. 80% of the guys I message didn't respond.

Marriage and kids used to be the only way to be accepted in society. Now, neither is required, that’s why there’s less marriage and kids. I don’t want either personally, and I think that a lot of men in the past didn’t either, however, it was their ticket to “normal.”

Men don’t want kids. It’s not in our nature to want to nurture them. Most are born out of an accident or at the woman’s insistence. I don’t know many dudes who want them, ever.

I'm with you right here. Most men unless they are super religious does not want kids. That's just nature.

I'm with you right here. Most men unless they are super religious does not want kids. That's just nature.